Relationship. What to do if a girl leaves for her best friend

If you are a player, that is, you practice pickup, then sooner or later you meet a girl who you really like and is satisfied with everything, so you enter into a relationship, but nothing lasts forever, so you break up, the end of your fairy tale, and you break up.

How does a guy feel when he leaves a girl... many have thought about this, but I want to describe the harsh reality of what actually happens to a guy after breaking up with a girl.

The first is that the guy regrets that he lost the girl, yes, he felt good with the girl, they felt good, but nothing lasts forever and everything has the ability to end.

Is it even possible to return a girl who left for someone else?

Of course, we want to believe that true love must overcome all obstacles, and there are enough strong feelings on your part for the girl to realize everything and return from her rival to you again.

Alas, sometimes circumstances work against some kind of union, and the men themselves make a number of mistakes that interfere with the restoration of relationships.

Mistakes that guys make when their girlfriend has left for someone else

Couples don't just break up. There is always a reason, but many guys prefer not to look for this very reason, while pretending that the girl left for someone else just like that.

1. This is where the first serious mistake lies, because by understanding why they left you, you can quickly correct the situation in order to prove to your girlfriend: you are the best.
2. The second mistake is ignoring the opponent and incorrectly assessing him. You must clearly understand: the girl left for a reason, she exchanged you for another guy, which means she currently considers him the best.

Your job is to prove her wrong. And this cannot be done without a real assessment of the opponent’s strengths and weaknesses.

Other common mistakes guys make when trying to get a girl back include:

1. The period of preparation for specific actions is too long. Remember, the longer your ex is with someone else, the stronger their relationship is.
2. Excessive aggressiveness and persistence. In no case should you resemble a maniac who is stalking the victim.
3. Any threats. Be it: “Will you be with me or with no one” or: “If you don’t come back to me, I’ll kill myself”
4. Humiliation on your part. If you crawl on your knees in front of her, begging her to come back, you will lose her forever. Women need a strong man, not a slug.
5. Stupid actions, in the style of an early song by Alla Pugacheva. You shouldn't rob a bank or sell your house to buy a girl a million red roses. You have one life, but there can be many girls.

There are other mistakes, but try to avoid at least these.

Under what conditions can you return a girl who has left for someone else?

It is only in fairy tales that true love overcomes all obstacles and a couple made in heaven always stays together, even if they temporarily break up.

In real life, everything turns out not so rosy, and how can one measure the authenticity of that very love?

Get ready for the fact that you will not always be able to return a girl who has left for someone else, but only if certain conditions are met:

• A short period after separation. If your couple broke up several years ago, and then suddenly you saw a young lady with someone else and were inflamed with feelings for her, then there is very little chance of a happy ending with her. It’s a completely different matter if you’ve just broken up.
• The presence of love in your couple. You dated for a long time and truly loved each other? Then the possibility of reunion is great. We weren't together for long and you know that she didn't love you? It's hard to hope for anything.
• The girl's lack of love for another. If she went to a young man because she fell in love with him, then she is unlikely to have any reason to rush into your arms again.
• Your attractiveness. Moreover, in all respects. Agree, it’s hard to compete with a beefy, handsome guy with an academic degree and a decent salary, if you yourself are a washed-up janitor who graduated from only 9 grades.
• The presence of shared pleasant memories. Only the girl who was happy in her relationship with you can come back. If you offended her, humiliated her, never pampered her, then why should she come back?

Analyze impartially what your union was like and what kind of relationship connects your beloved girl with the man to whom she decided to leave.

Is the comparison not in your favor? It will be difficult to implement your plans. But, if you correct all your mistakes that you made while you were with her, you can achieve what you want.

What not to do?

Do you want to get your ex back if she fell in love with someone else, but don’t know how to do it? And this is where you start messing up. You listen to advice from your cunt friends, losers from forums, and acquaintances who consider themselves relationship gurus. And everything goes to hell.

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Get drunk and everything will pass . Listen, alcohol has never helped anyone get their girlfriend back. Quite the contrary. Only you think that you are cool when you are drunk; in fact, a drunk man looks pathetic. And if she meets you with a fume that kills flies within a radius of five meters, in clothes that you fought to win from a homeless person, this is a hard minus in your karma. Because the girl will think: “I did the right thing by leaving this freak” and you will never get her back.

Pressure on pity . Noah, call her, like her photos on social networks, beg her to come back. And to finally show what a rag you are, cry some more. You can pity such men, but you cannot respect them. And yes, you shouldn’t run after her with flowers and gifts either - you will fall even more in her eyes.

Take revenge on your opponent . Come on, gather a brigade of friends and teach the asshole a good lesson. Avenge the kick to your pride. And the girl, of course, will appreciate your strength and determination and will return. Nevermind. Because you won’t solve the problem by fighting. But you will ruin the relationship completely.

Become her friend . And from the friend zone to move into her bed again. Seriously? Like you’re “just friends”, liking each other’s photos and drinking coffee on Thursdays? And then one day - and you’re a couple again? What will you do if she starts telling you in a friendly way how she fucks someone else? In a girl’s concept, a “friend” is a guy without a penis, just free ears. Do you like this role?

It is clear that the first time will be difficult. You will freeze, be sad, and quietly look through her photos. But it is very important that your ex and her friends do not see this - they will definitely tell you how you are suffering without her.

Read also: Where do antlers grow from? How to understand that a girl is lying to you?

How to get a girl back who left for someone else: advice from a psychologist

Young men who are familiar with the science of psychology rarely suffer from a broken heart. They understand girls and know exactly what and how to do so that their sweetheart does not go to another.

Do you want to become a conqueror of women's hearts? Read a couple of psychological works to better understand the fair sex.

To get your girl back, you can start with these:

Of course, it is difficult to read all the books in a short time if you have a permanent job. These are more like benefits for the future.

Here are 7 tips from psychologists that will help you get your loved one back after she left for someone else:

• Become a model. Remember what shortcomings the girl pointed out to you before she left. They all need to be fixed, at least for a while. Consult with your female friends how they see an ideal man and try to get closer to this ideal.
• Be friends with your ex. No quarrels, insults or scandals. You should remain friends and see each other as often as possible. From friendship to love - one step. And the other one will be jealous, which means he will start to blow her mind, which no girl will like and it will be easier to get her back.
• Make her jealous. Has he left? Okay, you're not suffering much. What a beauty he managed to pick up. The main thing is that the girl you spend time with is better than your ex in all respects. You can even hire someone to play the role of a flawless lady passionately in love with you.
• Prove that you are better. Another boyfriend refuses to go to the movies to see melodramas? You, as a friend, are, of course, ready to keep her company. Is he unable to help with something because he is busy at work? You'll help the girl out, no problem. Does he allow himself to criticize her, and in public? You and your girlfriend are politeness itself, etc.
• Take good care. Flowers, sweets, small gifts, romantic surprises, “snotty” letters asking you to return - all this works if your ex-girlfriend’s feelings for you have not faded away. The main thing is not to overdo it, so that your romantic impulses do not look like persecution and do not look pathetic.
• Give her some serious help. If your ex finds herself in a difficult situation, drop everything and run to her aid. For girls, a feeling of gratitude quickly develops into falling in love. She will feel responsible for saving you, which means she is unlikely to refuse when you ask her to return.
• Make her cherished dream come true. If you can make her most cherished dream come true, she will definitely return to you. No girl can resist such a man. The main thing is not to miscalculate your dream, and for this you had to listen to what she was telling you about while you were dating.

You are not made for each other

This is imposed on us by culture: cinema, television, literature and education. Like, each of us somewhere has a “half” that suits us perfectly. And if you find it, this is real happiness. No. There are no “halves”, people brought together by fate itself - and that’s it. No one will make you happy if not yourself. You cannot find a person who would be comfortable in everything. It is a myth.

Besides, we are not all that special, no matter how harsh it may sound. Some modern girls, just like modern guys, cannot be distinguished from each other. We were raised the same, consume the same content, strive to be like the same screen stars. The boundaries have been erased. If earlier people from different cities were really different, now we exchange information so quickly that distances do not matter.

The guys got smaller. There are plenty of people around who are not responsible for their own destiny, much less for anyone else. And a real man is not afraid of loneliness, he is popular with girls. So, purely statistically, you can always find a more beautiful, more understanding, smarter and sexier girl than the one who left you. Or at least in no way inferior to the one that was. Yes, it sounds cynical, but by and large it is true.

In principle, this statement could have ended the conversation, but we are not looking for easy ways. So let's continue.

How to get your ex-girlfriend back who left for someone else with the help of higher powers

Methods for returning a girl who has run away to someone else are not limited to psychology alone.

Yes, you need to listen to the advice of pundits, but the help of higher powers will definitely not hurt you.

How to get your ex-girlfriend back who left for someone else with the help of prayers

If you are a believer, go to church to beg God to return your beloved to you.

Your prayer will be sincere, and the Lord will definitely not refuse you love for a real lady, because he is always on the side of loving hearts.

At the same time, it won’t hurt to lead a righteous lifestyle, attend divine services, confess your sins, take communion - in general, a full package of church services, but without pretense, but at the behest of your heart.

It is not necessary to attend church every time to pray. This can be done at home in front of the icon of Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, your divine patron or saint from whom you are asking for help.

Do not pray in haste, but by concentrating on what you are doing and throwing away other thoughts.

You can turn to God with a request to return the girl in your own words, or you can use special prayers.

For example:

Don't rush results. Don’t expect that you prayed in the evening, and in the morning the girl is already waiting for you at the doorstep and asks you to take her back. It doesn't happen like that!

The Lord has His own plans for everyone and He provides help in due time.

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If a girl decides to leave you , this means that she has already made her conclusions about you.

Over time , she saw through you and realized that you were not who you said you were.

When you first met, you were interesting, unpredictable and decisive , but some time passed and all this disappeared somewhere, now you are an ordinary guy, hundreds of whom walk around the city, who is absolutely nothing.

A girl always looks at how you behave in a difficult life situation and then draws a conclusion.

Now I will describe several life situations , as a result of which a girl can immediately understand who you really are, whether there is something masculine about you or whether you are an ordinary mattress.

These situations will help answer the question “The girl wants to break up, what should I do?”

Situation No. 1

You decided to take a walk with a girl in a very beautiful place, there is a wide river flowing there, there is a place to sit and enjoy nature, you have often been there alone and now you want to show this place to a girl.

You took the car and drove a decent distance. But as soon as you arrive there, you are immediately greeted by a barrier and a security guard who was not there before.

The security guard is a big hog, he comes out and naturally doesn’t let you in, since you don’t have a pass...

And at this very moment the girl looks at you , how you will behave in this situation.

A real man will always fulfill his plans, but a psychologically weak guy will turn around and go back, without ever showing the girl that very beauty...

Why is that?

Because you need courage and balls to properly resolve this situation, but the driven guy doesn’t have it...

Situation No. 2

The girl invited you to her company, you have a lot of things to do tomorrow and naturally for this you need a car, that is, you need to drive. There are a lot of guys and girls in this company and everyone is drinking shamelessly, since it’s one of them’s birthday. And in this company there is a girl who gets everyone drunk , that is, constantly pours a new portion of alcohol.

But you immediately told everyone that you’ll be driving tomorrow , but this girl still persuades you to drink, although you understand that you’ve had enough.

And at this moment your girlfriend is watching you , what will you do in this situation. If you are a real man, you will pour the drink on the ground so that everyone understands that it is better not to pour you more, and if you are a follower, you will continue to drink until you grunt and, of course, tomorrow you will not do your business...

And your girlfriend will understand everything right away.

It’s from these seemingly ordinary situations throughout your relationship that the girl gives you pros or cons, and if the cons go off scale, then the girl leaves you.

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How can I get it back?

Remember that the new guy knows your love much less than you do. But even if her newly minted passion turns out to be an old friend or classmate, he still has never seen this woman in the light in which she manifests herself when in a serious relationship.

You know almost everything about your love: her tastes, interests, hobbies. Therefore, try to give her all this. changes in your character even without constant communication, because in any case you still have mutual friends, or, in extreme cases, social networks.

The main thing to remember is that the main obstacle is not her new chosen one, but your misunderstanding with the woman you love. Try not to clutter your thoughts with an unknown and completely unnecessary person, focus on your own internal and external changes, on how to rekindle love in the heart of YOUR woman. Take up a hobby that has been of interest for a long time, develop in its direction, travel more, improve your professional skills, set new goals for yourself and make every effort to achieve them. Believe me, such a transformation will not only attract the attention of your former passion, but will also help you discover new boundaries in yourself that you may not have even thought about before.

Why does the girl want to break up?

When answering the question why a girl left or broke up with a guy, do not forget that everyone has their own motives for such behavior. However, we can give a list of the most common reasons for a young lady leaving:

1. She fell in love with someone else. Here the separation was not an accident. Most likely, the girl first quarreled very strongly with the guy for some reason, reproaching him for some qualities or actions, and then the scandals stopped (since she found a replacement for her partner). She left because she found a better party for herself.
2. She's tired of the guy. This can also happen when a girl experienced some pressure and dissatisfaction of her desires in a relationship. If the guy did not take into account her opinions, ignored her wishes, and only knew how to order and command the girl, then she simply decided to get rid of such “oppression.”
3. She's tired of enduring it. But girls can endure a lot of things: lack of money, entertainment, love, attention, quality sex, joint recreation, etc. Here, too, quarrels can periodically occur in relationships for certain reasons. If the problem is not solved, then over time the girl simply loses patience and leaves.
4. She doesn't have time for relationships. This can also happen when a girl does not love, does not value relationships, or has great ambitions for career growth or material success. If a girl constantly listens to the indignation of a guy who prevents her from going about her business, then she will break up with him.

How to understand that a girl has fallen out of love - advice for guys

Girls leave having decided not to do this in one day - sometimes they think about it for months. During this period, any more or less attentive guy or man notices that something is wrong with his girlfriend. Suspicions begin and attempts to understand whether her feelings have cooled down, whether she has someone else, and what to do if the girl still falls out of love?

Let's try to answer this question by analyzing a variety of situations from the sphere of personal relationships:

1.

First of all, you should be alarmed by the change in the behavior of your beloved girl. Most likely, there will be a feeling of restraint and coldness in the relationship. In addition, if a girl has fallen out of love, a lack of care and mutual understanding will be felt. Essentially, you will be living your lives separately under one roof.

2.

Frequent quarrels are another sign that old feelings are fading away. Yes, relationships can also be in crisis, and conflicts may not be the main indicator of when you should break up. However, the lack of mutual understanding if previously you always came to a common opinion is another important factor that indicates big problems in the relationship.

3.

Finally, the fact that the girl has other interests, new friends or new fans definitely means that she has stopped loving you.