Is a kiss even necessary?
Stupid question, but very important. On what date should you kiss a girl to get to a certain goal? For men, a kiss is like gratitude from a girl, but the girls themselves put a little more meaning into it.
If you are planning something more serious than sex, you need to wait until your partner is ready for the first kiss. Yes, no one will call her a whore if she accepts your advances on the first date, but will she be comfortable?
Is it worth kissing on the first date if you have more horizontal interest in a girl? Definitely yes. How is she supposed to understand that you want to settle down with her if your desires are a running line in your eyes and that’s it? But more on that in another article.
It is important to be able to read women's signals. Believe me, a girl who is not against a kiss will definitely hint you about it with her eyes and touches. Your task is not to waste the moment when it is ready.
With animals
This date idea requires good preparation, because if one of the partners is allergic to animals, the meeting will be ruined. Where and how to have a date:
- Hippodrome. Here you can not only touch horses, but also get a riding lesson.
- Shelter. Buy a few kilograms of food and go to the shelter. This will demonstrate your generosity.
- Farm. This idea will appeal to lovers of unusual animals. At the farm you can touch and feed the pets, and then take a photo with them.
- Zoo. Some people are skeptical about this type of leisure, because in such places animals are not kept in the best conditions.
How to understand that a girl wants to kiss you? 5 signals to pay attention to
The main mistake that many men make on a first date is looking at their boobs rather than the big picture. Very few girls are ready to say themselves: “That’s it, let’s kiss already!” How long can you wait!” So it is important for guys to pay attention to the actions that their companion takes during a date.
- The girl often tries to penetrate into her personal zone: she comes as close as possible to say something, on the steps she tries to take her by the hand or arm, she sits close.
- Shows interest in the conversation, so listens carefully and asks questions.
- A girl looks a man in the eyes while talking.
- Often glances at your lips. Most often this happens during a conversation.
- He flirts actively: straightens his hair, touches your neck, and maybe casually touches your hand.
It's hard not to feel the girl's readiness. So pay attention to her non-verbal signs intended for you.
What phrases to use
Phrases with which you can invite a guy to take a walk together in the lap of nature (in the park or outside the city) should vary depending on the degree of education and upbringing of the man. It is imperative to maintain this consistency:
- We could take you for a walk in the park.
- Would you like to invite me for a walk along the embankment?
- Friend, let's hang out in the fresh air.
The first phrase is suitable for a romantic young man; it needs to be said with a thoughtful look. The second one is more suitable for a guy who has been interested in a girl for a long time, but has not yet decided to invite her. With the third, it is better to turn to a relaxed man who is happy to use slang. In any case, one of these phrases will solve the question of how to invite a guy for a walk.
Why doesn't a girl want to kiss on the first date?
Yes, this can happen too. You are on fire, but she does not crave your kiss and sneaks a glance at the painted clock. You should kiss a girl only when you are absolutely sure that she wants it too.
So why do girls sometimes not want to kiss their date?
- There are too many people around. For girls this is a real stopper, it seems that everyone will stare. So kissing in public doesn't add romance. Keep this in mind. In this case, the best way to end the first date is with a kiss at the entrance.
- She doesn't want to be slutty. Girls are sure that a kiss on the first date is a sign of availability. To be honest, this fear can be worked through, and the main thing is not to push, do everything gently and carefully.
- A woman is ashamed of something. Gentle natures may simply be shy. There can be many options: the fact that he doesn’t know how to kiss, intimacy with a man in general, acquaintances, bad breath. It doesn't matter. If you feel that it’s a matter of embarrassment, ask directly: “Is something embarrassing you?”
- The girl didn't like you. Yes, man, this happens too. She went on a date with a man whose image was formed in her head, but the reality is different from him. Usually girls are embarrassed to say this directly, but they definitely won’t come to the second date.
In most cases, it is best to ask directly: “What bothers you?”, “Do you want to rush things?” By doing this you will show your gallantry, which will definitely add pluses to your karma.
Avoid cliches
The first point that is worth fixing: get away from the movie cliche that your first kiss should happen strictly after breaking up. Agree, it’s strange - after a good and smooth date, you suddenly for some reason pounce on her and start kissing her furiously. Remember that this game is your rules. The kiss can happen in the middle of the date, at the end, or at any other time. Yes, you can walk her home and kiss her at the door, but remember that this is not at all necessary.
How to kiss a girl on the first date?
You already understand, the girl should be ready for a kiss. Otherwise, she will just slap you in the face and run away. For them, this moment is like sex: a sensual and romantic atmosphere, trust, openness, and then you will definitely get it. Believe me, even a kiss near a shabby entrance can be arranged beautifully.
- Read the signals your companion gives. Sooner or later you will begin to understand whether you should kiss a girl on the first date at all.
- Try to win the girl over. By the way, have you already trained the most successful smile and look in front of the mirror? Casually hug, straighten your hair, look with your eyes, as if the hero of a romantic film is looking at the mother of his children, smile. A girl should feel calm in your company.
- Choose the best time. You are unlikely to practice this point in front of a mirror. A first date kiss can happen at any time. One of the mistakes is to rely on the scripts of soap films, where the sensual hero communicates with his companion all evening and does not want to fuck her at all, and tenderly kisses her only late at night at the front door.
Look at the situation. A woman may come on a date with the desire to kiss you. So first of all, learn to read girls and their hints.
- The most crucial moment is rapprochement. You feel that she is ready, you are always ready, you need to act. If you attack her like a piece of meat after a week of vegetarianism, the girl will be stupidly scared. So you need to kiss her quite carefully.
First, test the waters: take her hand. Didn't pull it out? Great. Fix your hair and accidentally touch your neck. Did you smile? Super! Now lean towards her ear, as if you are going to say something. She shouldn't pull away. That's it, it's all in the bag.
Tell her in her ear that you really liked her scent. And pull her face towards you, but don't kiss her. Let her get used to the new sensations.
- Touch her lips tenderly and sensually. The very first kiss is like a communication test: “First, first, I’m second!” Do you allow us to get closer? If she answers you, move on. It is advisable to fill the kiss on the first date with romance and not drag it out too much. He should tell the girl: “I really liked you, but I don’t want to rush things.”
- And probably the most important point in all of this: don’t talk nonsense afterwards. Yes, it’s exciting, yes, the penis fills up and the blood leaves the brain. But control yourself, you haven't reached the last base yet.
Five date rule
If you want to charm a man, you can use the five-date rule. Your first task is to please him. Do not kiss under any circumstances: this is a non-binding meeting. It's better to just follow etiquette. During the second one you can sit in a cafe. It will be a friendly lunch or dinner, a conversation over a cup of coffee. Everything should end with just a casual conversation about trifles. Don't even think about complaining to him. Choose light and fun topics to talk about. For the third, a walk around the city or a trip to the park is suitable. Light touches are allowed here, as if by accident. But on the fourth, you can begin to take decisive action. It's good if you find yourself in some romantic place. But don’t let his passion go too far, although it can be very difficult to resist. If after this he gives you a fifth date, you have every chance of building a strong relationship. But still, don’t relax, try to keep your emotions under control. The fifth date does not guarantee a marriage proposal, but it can be the key to a new romance (Fig. 3).
Watching a movie
The second date very often takes place while watching a movie. And men would like, with the help of the place where they and the girl will watch it, to understand how quickly their relationship will develop further. If a couple decides to watch a movie in a cinema, this means that they can continue to move towards intimacy for a long time, while the girl’s consent to come to the guy’s house says the opposite. This does not mean that everything will happen that same evening. But getting an answer to the question of how willing a girl is to be intimate is important for a man going on a second date.
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Why some guys avoid kissing
There are men who don't like to kiss. There are reasons behind every action. What reasons lie behind the attempt to avoid such caresses? Refusal is due to the ban on showing emotions. The reason lies in the upbringing of the young man by harsh parents. Most likely, he did not see sincerity and love in his family, so as an adult it is difficult for him to show his feelings. The parents did not speak tender words to the guy, did not show affection. Such men are stingy, they do not want to give tenderness. Most often, they think only about themselves, and women become only an object of passion for them. Some guys perceive a kiss as a prelude to sex. If a young man is not ready for intimacy, then he will not kiss.
Important questions
After the first date has passed and the man and woman realized that they are pleasant to each other externally, the moment comes when they need to find out how suitable they are for each other internally. And this should happen, according to the guys, on the second date. It is then that they are ready and will ask girls important questions to which they want to receive honest answers.
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The main questions that young people want answered on the second date are goals in life, career aspirations, everything about family and about the latest romantic relationship. This last question is sometimes a little troubling, but it is a valid one. Because, knowing the reason why the girl’s previous relationship was ended, the guy will be able to find out how their romance can develop.
Create an atmosphere
Next you need to think about where this will happen. And the right choice of location will determine success. How to do this - read here “How to choose places for dates”. It happens that you seem to have already become quite close, but you are sitting somewhere in a crowded cafe, and the girl is a little shy, and her attraction does not overcome the feeling of discomfort that arises in her. Therefore, you should make sure that you are in a cafe where the lights are dim, you are sitting next to each other and there are not many prying eyes around. Then the atmosphere itself will allow the girl to allow herself much more.
