How to hint to a man about sympathy: verbal and non-verbal methods

In what cases should you hint to a guy that you like him?

Not every girl will dare to tell a guy about her crush. Many people are waiting for the first step from a man. The reasons why this does not happen may be:

• he is shy;
• not sure of his feelings;
• afraid of rejection;
• does not want to reveal his soul;
• afraid to put the girl in an awkward position.

Having decided to be the first to declare her sympathy, the lady assesses the situation. You need to be confident in yourself, your feelings, that you like him, the desire to develop a relationship with your gentleman, see him more often and communicate. In addition, you need to make sure whether he is currently in a relationship with another woman. Perhaps there is strong love between them. Or maybe, on the contrary, he recently broke up with his companion and wants to be alone for now.

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If he is free, but you understand that he likes you, it means he is shy or afraid. By the following criteria you can understand his sympathy for the lady:

• stays nearby longer;
• accidentally touches;
• gets lost when he catches a girl's gaze on him;
• remains alone with her.

If such behavior is noticed, then you should dare and approach him first. There is nothing shameful, humiliating or vulgar in this, if the feelings are sincere, the guy is free, he does not show negative emotions and irritation.

Cases when hints are inappropriate

In some cases, hints about liking a guy will be inappropriate. If he has a relationship with another girl, everything is going well for them, then he should refuse confessions. He will find himself in an awkward position and will not reciprocate, and if he does, the young lady will become a homewrecker, which will not have the best effect on her reputation.

Another reason why you should avoid hints about liking a man is his indifference and disinterest. This is understood by his behavior: he is irritated, aggressive, looks the other way, stops conversations, avoids meetings. Perhaps the girl he is in love with is not his type, he does not want a relationship, or he likes another woman.

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Motivation for expressing feelings

If a girl finds herself in a situation where an acquaintance with whom it is pleasant to communicate does not show the proper initiative in transferring the relationship to another level, it is necessary to take control of the situation into her own hands. To show sympathy and push a man to take active action, it is necessary to study the existing motivations of the stronger sex for showing romantic feelings.

The desire to be needed

In the patriarchal society of the past, men naturally occupied a leading position, which explains their belligerence and desire for decision-making and dominance. The age of technological progress has arrived, women function in society on an equal basis with the stronger sex. The latter lose their dominant position, which affects the psychological state of some men. While seemingly strong and firm, they experience extreme stress when they realize their own uselessness.

Showing sympathy for a man and trying to move the acquaintance into a romantic relationship, it is necessary to give the man a sense of importance. This does not mean that you need to overwhelm him with a huge number of requests, but he will be happy to complete a couple of tasks that are truly impossible for a woman to handle. The main thing is to sincerely thank the man for the work done and note that without him nothing would have happened.

Expression of gratitude

Fulfilling a girl’s requests should not turn into something reminiscent of a “servant-mistress” relationship. A man needs to receive the girl’s gratitude so that their relationship strengthens and gradually moves to the next stage. A simple “thank you” is no longer enough; kisses and hugs should be saved for now.

The best way to express gratitude is homemade baking. For example, a pie with lemon filling or hot pancakes with condensed milk. This will be a good step towards the object of sympathy and an excellent opportunity to demonstrate your culinary abilities.

You shouldn’t skimp on words either; you need to put aside embarrassment. In gratitude, you can gracefully insert a compliment. For example, praise a guy’s physical strength or his talent for repairing equipment. It’s worth choosing based on what the request was. You need to speak with special charm: tilt your head to the side, make your voice quieter and lower. This way the words will hook the guy and not go past his ears.

Sincere laughter

A girl's contagious laughter at jokes will definitely be regarded by a guy as a signal of sympathy. But sincerity is extremely important here, so you should laugh only if your partner has the talent of a comedian.

By squeezing out a laugh at jokes that offend the girl, she risks getting a toxic fan who will mistakenly perceive her laughter as a guide to action and begin to seek communication with her in any way.

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If a man is adequate, but humor is not his strong point, the insincere behavior of his companion will push him away, because he will consider it an attempt to manipulate his feelings. It is necessary to show only emotions that really exist, and not imitate laughter to please a potential gentleman.

Women's self-worth

It is believed that a real girl should be inaccessible to men. They say that only in this case the relationship develops in the right way. However, people often misunderstand the word “unavailable”. Thus, some girls, trying to live up to the ideal of nobility, withdraw into themselves and completely suppress emotions. The result is nervous diseases and depression.

Others become "princesses in the tower." Such beauties need to be wooed; the first 10 times they can easily turn off their boyfriend, waiting for further attempts on his part.

It is more correct to talk not about inaccessibility in the general sense, but about self-esteem. Such a girl is not available sexually on first dates or before marriage (depending on ethical and religious views), and does not allow a man to manipulate her and use violence. This should not be confused with arrogance and arrogance.

Hint options

There are many ways to show a guy you like him.

Psychologists identify the main signs of caring for a lover:

• nonverbal gestures;
• sight;
• touching;
• correspondence on social networks.

Brave girls will say directly about their sympathy; they will not subtly lead the young man to this idea. He will be glad to hear recognition if he has mutual feelings. But if the guy refuses, you can turn everything into a joke or accept his refusal with dignity.

Look and gestures

When a girl shows sympathy with gestures, she continually leans closer to her chosen one and turns to face him. The lady casually touches the guy. Here you should observe moderation, do not hang on your neck, and avoid touching intimate places. Stroking the shoulders and massaging them is also an overt cheeky hint. It is allowed to touch his hands or take him by the arm, hug him lightly, kiss him on the cheek, shake a hair or speck from his jacket, touch his palm or elbow during a conversation.

The look of a girl in love will be clear to a guy if she looks at him, then lowers her eyes and slowly turns them back to him. Such embarrassed actions indicate sympathy and feelings for the chosen one.

With the help of mutual friends

In the company of mutual acquaintances, friends may make fun of the couple. They will directly talk about the girl’s sympathy for the guy and laugh at her. All this is not done out of malice and helps the shy young lady tell the boy about her feelings. He will guess that she has sympathy for him, if her friends have not joked about her in this way before.

Ambiguous gifts for the holidays

He will be surprised when he receives a gift with a hint from a girl. It could be a photo of him with a caption saying he has a great figure. You can say that he dresses stylishly, he has good taste, such a guy needs a corresponding girl.

A song with a hint of feelings for a man is suitable for a gift; a lady can show her love for him through it. You can attach a moderately intimate photograph to the composition, which will not leave him indifferent. It's a good idea to write a poem especially for him and send a box of chocolates along with a card with it written on it.

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Women's tricks

Some girls are particularly cunning. If they cannot tell the guy about their feelings themselves, they will ask a friend to help. Her mission will be to tell the boy that her friend likes him. This method is more suitable for girls who are 12 years old.

They set it up as if the friend accidentally let the boy know that she liked him. It is important to observe his reaction here. It will depend on his feelings. If he feels reciprocity, his face will break into a smile, he will answer that he likes her too. If the guy is confused, blushes, and begins to look for excuses, it means that he does not feel reciprocity. In this case, you can turn everything into a joke.

Original options

Creative individuals do not like platitudes. They go to great lengths and come up with original ways to express sympathy. The following non-standard hints are known:

• performance of the song;
• preparing food;
• message on live radio broadcast;
• quest;
• a voice message.

In a karaoke bar, a girl can sing a song in which tender words will tell about her feelings. Not everyone can sing, and many are shy. You can change the song to a recitation of a love poem by a classic or your own composition.

A surprise in the form of a treat prepared with your own hands will work effectively. Everyone has long known what the way to the heart of male representatives is through. They love to eat delicious food. What to cook depends on the girl’s imagination. This could be a cake with a confession inscription or cutlets in the shape of hearts.

The next method also requires courage and self-confidence. You need to call a live radio broadcast. You just need to tell the guy to turn on the radio. The young lady will say hello to him and casually say a few words about her sympathy for him.

The quest is a non-standard way of confessing your sympathy. A 13-year-old girl can easily organize this form to hint to a boy that she likes him. Modern phones have many interesting features, one of which is voice message recording. For a shy girl, this option is most suitable. She can erase and write down new messages until she finds the right words that she wanted to say to the young man.

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Direct confession

But what to do if you come across a unique “instance” that does not understand the hints at all? Or one who skillfully pretends to do so. Although, most likely, he really doesn’t understand. In this case, we tell him about our feelings directly.

This will help you not to drag out a losing relationship in advance and switch in time to another, more pliable object. Yes, you can muster up the courage and tell him about your feelings directly - guys respect direct speech very much and understand it much faster than some hints.

But keep this trap in mind: most guys find it very, very difficult to directly refuse a girl and say to her the following words: “I’m sorry, dear, but it definitely won’t work out between us.” And if the guy is still quite young, he often simply cannot say this. It’s easier for them to mumble something, which can be regarded as yes and no at the same time, and then avoid your company with all their might. And think about what he meant there. Therefore, demand a direct answer - yes or no. Believe me, he already knows this answer for sure.

Suitable Occasion

It is important to choose a favorable time and place for such a conversation. It is important that no one bothers you while doing this. Get rid of him and your friends and your girlfriends for this time. We need you to be face to face.

At the same time, it is important to have enough time in reserve; you should not confess to a boy if you only have half an hour, and then you have to run away - he simply will not have time to digest everything and react adequately.

Soft eyeliner

Not everyone will dare to say words about their love directly to the forehead either. So start somewhere distant and slowly move towards the final goal.

But at the same time, don’t confuse him completely - men get confused in women’s reasoning very quickly and literally after 10-15 minutes of a woman’s monologue they are already “drowning” and they need a lifeline, in the form of an urgently formed case.

Hints during correspondence on VK and other social networks

The Internet will come to the aid of shy girls. They will write about their sympathy in a message. The disadvantage of this method of hinting is that there is no eye contact. Having chosen this method, you need to be aware of where to start the correspondence, what to write about, and what will scare your lover.

Where to start a virtual dialogue

In order to hint to a man that you really like him, you need to think through the dialogue in advance. You can start it by asking about your plans for the weekend or evening. The answer should be detailed. If the young man answers in monosyllables, then you need to ask him several leading questions.

During the correspondence, the conversation will come up about hobbies, perhaps they will coincide. Then it is advisable to spend the weekend together, taking up a common hobby. If he has a free evening, he should suggest going to the cinema or park together. It usually happens like this: a friend and her boyfriend go to the theater, but you have no one to go with. Then you invite him to join you. If communication goes smoothly, it is worth hinting about sympathy.

What to write about

Girls are wondering how to attract attention through correspondence on VKontakte or another social network. Light coquetry is allowed to impress a young man. This is done through compliments. Yes, guys love them too. The compliment should be light; the young man will not take eloquent expressions and metaphors seriously. You can praise his biceps, beautiful smile and other external advantages.

If a guy posted photos from a trip, you should ask him how it went, what interesting places he visited. It’s a good idea to talk about his dog, cat, how he takes care of them, whether they are friendly. Topics such as books, sports, films, music, cars are also suitable for discussion.

What can scare a guy away?

Guys do not tolerate intrusive, hysterical young ladies. You should not overwhelm your chosen one with messages asking why he does not respond. You should wait for him to answer. If after a few days the silence continues, you can try writing a greeting again. But if after that there is silence in response, then it is better to abandon the idea of ​​​​corresponding with this person.

If the correspondence is a success, you don’t need to immediately write him a love message and reveal all your feelings towards him. The guy, having received such a letter, will withdraw, become silent, and begin to avoid meetings. It’s better to like his photo, post, send a postcard with congratulations, share music.

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A guy may be intimidated by a girl’s page on a social network, so you need to make sure that there are no repulsive photos or posts on it. It is advisable to give it a beautiful look and upload positive pictures to it. You shouldn’t put pictures with other guys on public display, otherwise your potential lover will decide that the young lady is busy.

Guys don't like it when girls are in a bad mood. It is important for them to see smiles on their faces, sparkling eyes, and a positive attitude. An unkempt appearance, dirty hair and unkempt nails also repel men, so a woman needs to work on her appearance.

If you like it, it’s a colleague at work

In situations with a potential “office romance,” everything is somewhat more complicated. First, many organizations discourage relationships between employees. And even if you want to let the object of your affection know about your feelings, it is better to do it so that other colleagues at work do not notice it.

Secondly, if a man understands your feelings, but they are not mutual, this can complicate your working relationship. So, how to let a man know that you like him at work, without risking ruining the work mood:

1. Carefully use the above methods of wordless sympathy: glances, smiles, and touching with extreme caution.
2. Show attention verbally, without talking about feelings directly.
3. Watch the reaction.

If he responds to your signs of attention, it means there is reciprocal sympathy. In this case, you can talk about feelings directly.

What will help you get a guy's attention?

Trying to attract the attention of the guy they like, girls come up with many ways to achieve this goal. They are ready to follow their lover, wear short skirts, get eyelashes and hair extensions, insert silicone into their breasts, and change their lifestyle. But this will no longer surprise men. There are other worthy ways to attract a guy’s attention: interest in his hobbies, sincerity, optimism, taking his side.

Genuine interest in his hobby

A guy will appreciate it if a girl supports his interest in hockey, football or tennis. If she doesn't understand anything about it, you need to study the topic. To do this, you need to listen to sports news, leaf through thematic magazines, watch programs. A guy will be pleasantly surprised when he hears his girlfriend’s opinion about an athlete or a past match. You can agree to meet together on the tennis court and play, or ask the young man to give her a master class.

If a guy loves fishing, a girl will love it too. You can go with him to a river, lake or pond and learn how to fish. Men appreciate it when women share their passion, because they will have something to talk about.

Sincerity and cheerfulness of the interlocutor

Any person loves to communicate with someone with whom it is easy and pleasant to do so. With a rude, gloomy and sad interlocutor, the desire to talk and be around disappears. Guys especially appreciate it when a girl knows how to listen, understand and support, so she should be positive, sincere and cheerful. Then the man will want to spend more time with her and meet more often.

Appearance

A guy will immediately pay attention to a lady in a skirt or dress, and not in trousers. He will look at a girl in a tight blouse, and not in a loose sweater. But do not confuse vulgarity with femininity. The guy likes to look at the blonde in a translucent shirt with brightly painted lips and high heels. But, most likely, you won’t want to build a serious relationship with her.

Makeup should be discreet, because guys love naturalness. You need to watch your posture and gait. A man will pay attention to a lady with well-groomed hair, clean nails, glowing eyes, and healthy facial skin. You should feel confident about this.

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Self confidence

Confident girls are more likely to attract the attention of men. Even if you fail, you shouldn’t give up, get upset and doubt your success. There are other guys, perhaps even more worthy. As a rule, the likelihood that a man will pay attention becomes higher if a girl loves herself and appreciates her virtues. When a guy sees that a self-sufficient girl is next to him, he will begin to reach out to her.

Always be on his side

When a man feels the support of his woman, he is ready to move mountains and achieve success. His self-esteem increases and he can easily find a way to solve the problem. A girl should believe in a man, his success, admire him and his achievements. Then he will want to set new goals and achieve more. One woman will provide support with encouraging words, another will leave the man alone with his thoughts, the third will listen to him and share his experiences.

Active participation in dialogue

It is necessary to maintain a conversation with a guy. You need to be able to talk on any topic. Even if you don’t understand something, you can find a way to talk, for example, be sincerely interested in the unknown, ask to talk about it, ask leading questions. There is no need to be afraid of seeming like a layman in something, because a man also does not know about everything in the world. He knows about fishing, but you know about writers of the Silver Age.

What to do if a guy doesn't understand hints

Not all guys are able to understand hints. But if the girl has mutual friends with him, then you can ask them for help. When you like someone at school, let your classmates hint to the guy that the girl is not indifferent to him.

Perhaps the guy is shy. Then you should tell him about your sympathy yourself. This option will speed up the development of relationships, but it will be unromantic. Let these be words that the guy is attractive to the girl, interesting, and she wants to talk closer.

A few important rules when communicating with men

Guys are very interesting and unique representatives of humanity. To ensure that communication with them is enjoyable and can lead to more, it is important to follow the following rules:

1. No friendship. If a girl has plans for a young man, then she cannot take the position of a friend. Every effort should be made to avoid talking about other young ladies and not to help in matters of the heart.
2. Touches. During a conversation, it would be a good idea to lightly touch it. And also repeat this when saying goodbye. Such actions will hint to him that the guy is of particular interest.
3. It’s easy and unobtrusive to move closer. The best option is during a conversation. This way the young man will understand that the girl is really listening and is interested.
4. Games with curls. Wrap the ends of your hair around your finger or push it behind your ear. It is considered an elegant gesture to pull your hair back. This movement looks attractive with long hair.

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How to behave correctly

You can also let someone know about your sympathy through behavior. This will not require any effort on the part of the girl.

You just need to follow these recommendations:

1. Cheerful and cheerful attitude. A sincere smile and good-natured banter will not allow him to pass by.
2. Make every effort to share his interests and hobbies. If the guy plays the guitar, ask him to teach him a few lessons. Or invite you to go on rides. A young man should feel a like-minded person in a girl.
3. Openness and sociability. While talking about yourself, in between be interested in his personality. This will let you know that the girl wants to get to know him better.
4. Sincere laughter. Young people love it when people laugh at their jokes. The main thing is not to do it through force: unnaturalness is obvious.
5. Taboo topic. Under no circumstances should you mention previous relationships or ex-boyfriends. And even more so, speak negatively about them.

What to do

A girl should find out how a guy treats her. Ask a question directly, but it is highly unlikely that an honest answer will follow. Or ask a close friend to chat with his friends. If the feedback is positive, then proceed to action. A few modest hints will let him know about the presence of a young lady who sympathizes with him. It would be a good idea to get to know his family and try to form a good opinion of yourself. If a young man listens to the opinions of his family, he will definitely show interest.

What to talk about

Be able to support any topic during communication and be active in the conversation. The only exception is topics in which the girl understands nothing. In this case, attempts to reason will look pathetic.

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The ability to flirt is also not the least important. After all, everyone understands perfectly well that a young lady will not flirt with a guy for whom she does not feel a certain sympathy. Flirting manifests itself not only in laughter and jokes, but also through non-verbal signs of attention - smiling, playing with hair, open posture. The main thing is not to imitate someone and behave naturally.

List of common mistakes

Sometimes girls get excited, hinting at sympathy. This leads to the fact that their movements seem abrupt, and filler words appear in their speech. Such changes do not attract the attention of guys. When a young man does not reciprocate, there is no need to panic, because not all is lost.

Excessive coquetry and vulgarity repel men. Natural behavior should be maintained. A smile is good, it attracts attention, but you should not abuse it. If the smile does not leave your face, it becomes unnatural. In everything it is necessary to observe moderation. In the dialogue too. When a young lady talks non-stop, the guy feels superfluous, unnecessary. Talking about family will scare a man away. He will think that the relationship is developing quickly, so the pleasure from it disappears.

You can hint to a guy about your sympathy in different ways: with gestures, with a glance, in correspondence, with the help of a sincere conversation. At the same time, you need to be confident in yourself, not worry, choose the right words to make a good impression on him.