The profile should work for you
A page on social networks is the calling card of a modern person. 6 steps that will make your profile interesting and make a guy want to correspond with you.
- Create an attention-grabbing status. The hackneyed expression: “I am difficult to find, but easy to lose” tells about primitive thinking. Choose a quote from a classic that is close to you and paraphrase it in an interesting way.
- Enter winning but truthful information in the “About” field. Tell us about your hobbies. This will help you find a guy with similar interests.
- State what you value in people. There is no need to describe the man of your dreams, endowing him with unique qualities, otherwise you will scare off candidates.
- Place 3–4 current, as natural pictures as possible on your profile. Photos in dynamics - where you dance, ski or do creative work - will tell you about your hobbies better than words.
To prevent a story about yourself from looking like a job application form, use adjectives and comparisons for emotional coloring.
Interesting topics for conversation on social networks
Love
- You can talk about feelings endlessly!
And in prose, and in poetry, and with humor... However, such a chic theme needs to be “diluted” with others to make it more interesting! Talk about love until you put into words what you feel. Tell us about what has accumulated in your heart.
Impression
- Tell us where you were, what you saw!
This will smoothly lead you to discussion, nostalgia. The conversation will be long and exciting if you start it correctly. And you can do it if you really want to.
Basic rules for SMS correspondence
First, determine the purpose for which you want to correspond with a guy. This will help build a constructive dialogue. You should communicate freely and naturally, without making plans for a future together. Even if your goal is to find a husband, under no circumstances bombard your interlocutor with questions about family and children. Most men are afraid of such topics for correspondence. When the “threat of imprisonment” arises, many simply stop corresponding.
When communicating online, it is best to write brief informative messages in 2-3 phrases. Express your thoughts correctly, do not use slang, use punctuation marks correctly. They convey the rhythm of a phrase, break down speech, and give an idea of intelligence. If a person ignores the norms of language in correspondence, then he shows disdain and inattention to the interlocutor. To attract attention, you can use exclamation marks and writing letters in uppercase. But it’s worth doing this infrequently and appropriately.
To inspire trust and interest in yourself, ask tactful and non-repetitive questions, and correctly explain your point of view. Give the guy the opportunity to express his thoughts, do not use a condescending tone, and answer politely. Use more positive expressions: “Nice to meet you,” “It’s interesting to talk with you.” There is no need to interrogate, put ironic emoticons, or use value judgments. Give him the opportunity to direct the conversation in the right direction and show his best side.
Even if you really like a man, you must continue to communicate on a friendly, light wave, without showing your true feelings. You shouldn't be available for communication 24/7. For example, an SMS in the middle of the night should be ignored and not serve as the beginning of a correspondence. Otherwise, the guy will understand that you are always online and available for dialogue, and will not actively look for reasons to chat.
After his SMS, it is correct to pause, making you a little nervous. Wait for a response to the previous message, only then write a new one. Finish writing first. If the interlocutor often ignores questions, delete the contact without regret.
How to start communicating with a guy through online correspondence?
The reason for communication on the Internet is often likes on pictures, detailed comments, and emoticons that convey up to 70% of emotions. Stylized images in the theme help to share the mood, show the interlocutor the location, and invite you to correspond.
If you like the guy, unobtrusively take the initiative. Why spend hours wondering how he will take the message? As long as you doubt, you will be ahead of them. Don’t start communicating with a banal phrase: “Hello, how are you?” Leave a detailed comment, for example, on a photo from a trip. Write about the stunning landscape and ask where you have been. You can start corresponding by asking for advice on choosing the right angle for photography, asking a couple of questions about professional photography. It’s interesting to communicate and it’s easy to find a topic for correspondence by looking at a person’s page.
The initiative should be one-time. If you failed to interest a man, you should not impose yourself by writing SMS. It is better to analyze the possible reasons for failed communication and learn a lesson for the future.
How to continue correspondence on the Internet?
If you met on the Internet and you want to continue communicating, expand the list of topics for discussion. Correspondence about hobbies, attitude to life, occupation or pets will help you learn about the character and life of your interlocutor.
Choose the right topics for communication. By your reaction you will understand your area of interest. To start a conversation, start from afar: “Maybe you know what happened...”. If your new acquaintance is a movie buff or book lover, choose an interesting quote from his favorite work and send it to him. The guy will most likely appreciate the initiative and find a way to show reciprocal attention.
Add intrigue to the conversation: “I read that people born under the sign of Aries are determined and stubborn, but vulnerable inside. Are these qualities really inherent in you?” Ask for advice in correspondence: “I have problems with my car. Could you recommend a good car service?”
If common ground is identified, make your questions more specific. If he is a lawyer by profession, ask why he chose this profile, where he studied, what attracts him? Easily build a dialogue from the answers. If the correspondence interlocutor answers in monosyllables, do not hesitate to ask leading questions.
- I noticed the pictures. Or are you a Photoshop expert, or do you spend your evenings in the gym carrying hardware for hours? I also want to have a pumped up body and such willpower!
- You formulate your thoughts so clearly. Do you read a lot? Can you recommend any books?
- In my “favorites” I saw a selection of old films. Are you conservative by nature or did your parents raise you to have good taste?
How to find common topics for communication?
You should take the content of the dialogue responsibly; you don’t want to appear incompetent or, even worse, make your interlocutor bored. Start by simply finding common interests. Try to talk less about yourself, don’t bother your friend.
Communication is the basis of any relationship and it is important in different areas of life.
If you lack the courage to start a conversation, here are some ideas on what topics you can talk about with your guy.
- Latest events and news.
- Any books and films, various sports.
- Entertainment, friends and hobbies.
Politics and personal relationships should not be touched upon. The first is a kind of taboo, the second has many pitfalls and delicate moments.
List of topics for online conversation
If you don’t know what else to talk about in correspondence with a guy, use the cheat sheet. For dialogue, choose a topic that is close to you and ask questions that you can answer yourself without embarrassment.
- What movie do you recommend watching?
- Do you like thrillers or does the genre not matter?
- How do you feel about healthy lifestyle?
- What are you planning to do this weekend?
- Do you like going to the cinema or do you prefer to watch a movie at home?
- What kind of music do you listen to?
- What entertainment do you choose in winter and summer?
- Do you remember childhood hobbies?
- Name fatal mistakes in relationships.
- Voice 3 wishes.
- What would you like to change in your character?
A sincere conversation brings mutual pleasure and opens up new facets of personality. To remove awkwardness, you can correspond in a humorous tone:
- Do you fold your clothes or throw them around the house?
- How do you store your socks?
- Do you wash the dishes right away or wait until the plates are gone?
- Do you like surprises from girls?
- What would you spend your winnings of $1,000,000 on?
However, in order not to offend your interlocutor, you need to joke correctly and appropriately. If a guy talks about his troubles in correspondence, you shouldn’t send funny SMS messages. It is better to support the man, find out what happened and continue to communicate on a neutral topic.
What to ask a guy to diversify communication on VKontakte - examples
The same type of questions “how are you?” and “what are you doing?” can bore even the most persistent interlocutor.
In order not to look boring, it is important to always have a few sure-fire questions in stock that can make a guy think:
- If you had a million dollars, what would you spend it on?
- If you could choose your superpower, what would it be?
- Imagine being able to travel back in time and change history. What would you like to do?
- What kind of vacation will you choose, active and extreme or lazy and measured?
- Imagine that you caught a goldfish: what 3 wishes would you like to make?
- Would you like to become famous? If yes, in what area?
- If you were a writer, what would your books be about?
Try to diversify your questions. Even if you want to know more about his relationships with girls, you shouldn't pay too much attention to it. Dilute fantastic questions with ordinary everyday ones, but do not turn communication into a complete quiz. After his answer, don’t be lazy to answer your own question and compare your thoughts on this matter.
What should you not write about in an SMS to a man?
What is interesting and easy to communicate in correspondence with a guy is to adhere to the following rules:
- do not write meaningless and long SMS;
- give up excessive emotions;
- do not show excessive interest;
- When addressing, avoid lisps and cute nicknames such as “kitten”, “bunny”.
What else should you not talk to a man about? There is no need to correspond with a stranger about the details of your personal life (ex-men, sex) and long-term plans for the future. You should not emphasize your interest in further communication or see your interlocutor as a potential husband. In correspondence, you should not provide personal data or compromising information.
In order for the story to continue, refuse topics that violate the personal boundaries of the interlocutor, humiliating him or your dignity. It is incorrect to touch on the topic of money, to be interested in income, material condition. The guy will accuse you of commercialism and stop communicating. There is no need to make complaints in correspondence, answer rudely, “load” with problems, or discuss personal qualities and character flaws. Phrases: “Where did you go?”, “Why don’t you answer?” unacceptable. Men are afraid of encroachment on freedom and immediately retreat. At this stage, your task is to convince your partner that you are pursuing the same goals and respect his freedom.
Why doesn't a guy always agree to meet and talk on the phone?
If the interlocutor is interesting and you want to communicate further, offer to talk on Skype or WhatsApp. A meeting in video format will help to verify the authenticity of the photograph, and to confirm or refute guesses and suspicions based on their behavior. If a man repeatedly finds reasons for refusing a telephone conversation or a call in the messenger, there is no point in further correspondence.
When a person does not strive to establish a “live” connection, it means that he does not experience attraction. This happens if:
- there is no emotional contact between people;
- you did not inspire confidence;
- the person is not ready for courtship;
- Initially, the guy pretended to be someone else and embellished his appearance.
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How to keep a conversation going
When communicating with a man, not only correctly selected topics for conversation are important, but also a comfortable atmosphere between you.
A pleasant voice and calm intonations are attractive. A young lady who sits with a sour look, or, conversely, is overly emotional, is unlikely to be invited to the next date.
Smile
Demonstration of friendliness and good humor will show a man how much you enjoy his company.
Compliments
Not only women like to hear about their virtues. Compliment the gentleman's appearance, his wit and masculinity. Try to speak sincerely; pretense in your voice will destroy your charm.
Call him by name
And as often as possible. The sound of the name is the most pleasant to the human ear. Don't forget about this little secret.
Listen carefully and do not interrupt. The pause that arises can be filled with questions on the topic of his story and clarification of details.
Naturalness
Live communication requires sincere reactions. Honest answers to questions, without embellishing reality, will help you avoid stupid situations in the future.
Sports tactfully
A categorical statement that a man is wrong on a date will sound rude. It is better to gently hint at the mistake, and be sure to give reasons for your opinion. Men simply need logic and statements like “Well, I just don’t like it” or “It’s bad because I said so” will be completely unfounded.
Phrases to help break awkward silence:
