Women take care of their appearance, dress beautifully, maintain their figure in order to attract the attention of the opposite sex. However, what men like is not always what ladies like. Sometimes a man's point of view does not coincide with a woman's opinion, because of this there are incidents. The girl tries to attract her partner, but with her appearance and behavior, on the contrary, she repels him. Psychologists advise studying the psychology of the stronger half of humanity so as not to make common mistakes.
What men don't like about women
Now, briefly about how you should not behave, what you should not do in order to win the heart of your chosen one. Taboos in relationships:
- frivolity, superficial attitude to serious problems;
- the desire to blindly follow social patterns;
- natural stupidity;
- obsessive behavior;
- questions about children: how many he wants, whom;
- capriciousness - the girl behaves as if she were a princess, demands excessive attention;
- imposing your own worldview, your own rules;
- criticism and teaching;
- talking about health problems;
- statements about former partners;
- bright makeup;
- provocative outfit;
- skirt below the knees (looks unsexy);
- unkempt hair and skin.
The list goes on, but these are the main points that irritate and repel men.
A woman's appearance forms a man's first impression
But it cannot be said that a lady’s exterior means nothing to an ordinary ordinary male. On the contrary, if a girl is ugly, then she is “rejected” at the first stage of interaction with the object (sorry, women). Figuratively speaking, if the door is expensive and beautiful, then there is a temptation to look at what is there in the apartment (or in the house). When the door is shabby and covered with chalk, you don’t want to knock.
True, sometimes there are cases of great deception: behind a poor door there are hidden countless treasures, like Scrooge McDuck, and behind a luxurious castle there is hidden old furniture and a cramped room.
But the vast majority of men really rely on their eyes at the first meeting. If you don’t like a girl or woman outwardly, then, as a rule, there is no desire to go further, even if she is a needlewoman at least three times, an excellent cook, and at night an original philosopher who publishes in the West under a male pseudonym - all this is bypassed. A disappointing answer to the question, do men really love with their eyes and that’s all? Ladies, keep calm and move on.
What provokes betrayal
There are actually not many reasons for infidelity. But in order to avoid unpleasant moments, you need to understand what the chosen one wants. If a person gets what he needs, he will never look around and will not go to cheat. Of course, there are exceptions to the rules when a partner is psychologically ill and cannot experience satisfaction with one constant companion. The most common reasons for cheating:
- Untidy appearance. The woman has become overly “domesticated”, wears the same clothes or chooses outfits that can hardly be called attractive.
- Everyday problems. From time to time you need to take a break from problems and responsibilities, arrange fasting days, and pay attention to each other. If this is not the case, quarrels arise, the situation worsens, and the man wants to get away from all this.
- Sexual dissatisfaction. A person feels happy when he receives complete satisfaction during intimacy. If the chosen one cannot give what a man wants, he will go looking for a suitable woman on the side. To find out the secret desires of your loved one, you can come up with a game, ask him to write frank dreams on a piece of paper or in a message, or send a picture of the poses that you like.
- Small children. Everyone eagerly awaits the birth of a child. But the first year of life with a baby becomes a real test for spouses. Mothers get tired, pay attention to the child, forgetting about their loved one. At the same time, the man feels superfluous, deprived, offended, and sexually unsatisfied. Psychologists advise involving the father in the process of caring for the baby and periodically dedicating time for sexual games.
- Resentment. If a woman constantly humiliates her partner or has seriously offended him once or touched his manhood, he will begin to rebel. Perhaps he won’t have an affair on the side, but he will definitely cheat on you a couple of times in revenge.
- Long life together. When spouses get used to each other, they live like brother and sister. On the one hand, this is good, since certain habits and trust arise, but on the other hand, it is bad, since there is no sharpness of sensations. You need to do everything to keep your sex life varied. Sometimes you can make your chosen one jealous to renew feelings. Sometimes you need to be away for a while. Business trips are a good thing.
If a man is adequate, voluntarily enters into marriage, respects family values and loves his wife, he will not cheat without good reason.
Philosophical remarks from a doctor
Another question that worries all men when they see a woman is “Am I right for her?” or in another way: “Is she tough for me?” Here it would not be a crime to turn to the greatest diagnostician of all times (House). He said, using card terminology, that “twos meet twos, jacks meet jacks, aces meet aces.” This idea is also quite sensible.
A woman can deceive a man and pretend to be a higher card, but life will still put everything in its place. Someone will say that a very rationalistic model of love has been revealed to us. Yes, nothing can be done, it is so. But there are fewer secrets in love than is commonly thought. In any case, one of the answer options is ready to the question of why a man loves a woman.
Who are chosen as wives?
In this case, the saying is true: “They date some girls, they marry others!” Sometimes relationships that have lasted for years collapse in an instant, and a former lover leads down the aisle a girl whom he met a month ago. Psychologists tried to figure out what the reason was.
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Advice for those who don’t know what to do if they like a guy, but are afraid to admit it to him
Of course, everyone chooses a woman who matches his inner values and views, that is, in family life she can give him what he dreams of. However, there are common stereotypes. Qualities that a future wife should have:
- affectionate, kind, caring;
- knows how to listen and remain silent when necessary;
- modest, wise, purposeful;
- feminine;
- economic;
- responsible;
- understanding;
- sincere, faithful;
- should not impose itself, try to change the chosen one;
- smart;
- with common interests, views on life;
- must be understood at a glance and at first glance.
Of course, men add: sexy, beautiful, well-groomed, healthy. But this largely depends on the husband, on how much he allows his wife to take care of herself.
A good appetite
The age-old belief that a good appetite is a sign of good health attracts guys to girls who do not sit over a sprig of greens at dinner in a cafe. So, if you want to please your chosen one, you shouldn’t pretend to be a girl with no appetite on the first date. Don’t talk about your constant desire to follow all kinds of diets. This can cause a negative reaction in a man.
What guys value in a relationship
We can talk on this topic endlessly, but the guys always highlight several main points:
- loyalty;
- faith in him;
- confidence;
- personal space;
- acceptance for who he is;
- understanding;
- support;
- surprises, spontaneity;
- ability to carry on a conversation;
- Love.
A man will never leave a woman if she has at least half of the listed qualities.
Dr. House and Hank Moody on gender relations
Once again we turn to the famous cynics of our time. And let's start, perhaps, with the rebel writer. Hank said that in the first five seconds when a girl sees a guy, she decides what exactly she wants from him: marriage, sex, or kill him on the spot. It seems to us that this certainly deep thought can be extended to men. And the first impression is difficult to interrupt later with something else.
In short, a man scans a woman, looking for charm in the depths of her being. Depending on the detection or non-detection of it, he decides whether to get to know the girl better or not. We don’t know, it’s probably a little banal, but beauty without charm can be vile. There is less and less uncertainty about what men like, right?
Preferences based on zodiac sign
Each zodiac sign is suitable for a certain partner. There is a whole system for determining compatibility. Men do not always listen to horoscopes when choosing a spouse, guided by their own feelings and beliefs. Since all zodiac signs have similar traits, when choosing a spouse, you need to consider the following:
- Aries. Living with such a wife is like sitting on a volcano. She instantly sweeps away those who are disobedient in her path and builds her own rules of behavior. Temperamental, with a light sense of humor, cheerful, sociable.
- Calf. Representatives of this sign are calm, reliable, patient, but for the time being. If you anger Taurus, it will be impossible to stop the storm. A woman is terrible in anger - this is exactly the case. But she knows how to turn an average man into a successful businessman.
- Twins. You need to get used to the fact that your wife will always be smarter and more cunning. This lady does not tolerate constancy, loves to learn everything new, and demands excessive attention. You also need to be prepared for the fact that the house will be open to friends, acquaintances and colleagues.
- Cancer. It is considered the most ideal option for family life. Doesn't like to make trouble, smart, patient, reasonable, gentle, attractive, economical. Family values are above all for her, and children are even more important. Cunning, insightful, vengeful. She doesn’t need to be told what or how to do. You will have to prepare for the fact that you will need to become an ideal spouse and father.
- A lion. She is called the showcase woman. She won't bother with cleaning if a manicured nail breaks during the process. She will not sit at home while her husband is at work. The lioness lives by her own rules and adjusts her partner to them. If you are not happy with something, you can only hint, but not directly express dissatisfaction.
- Virgo. I am convinced that husband and wife are a single whole, so they should look in the same direction, but only in the one that she chooses. It’s interesting that a man always feels like the head of the family, although in fact he is not.
- Scales. Soft, gentle, beautiful, sexy young lady. Many people dream about her. But it doesn’t always happen like this. Most of the time the girl whines, throws hysterics, cries, suffers, and “blews her brains out.”
- Scorpion. Attractive, sexy and femme fatale. Loyal, but only to herself. An excellent hostess if that's what she wants. Caring wife and mother.
- Sagittarius. The representative of this sign loves luxury, so she is looking for a wealthy husband. If her husband suits her, she will become his faithful wife and best friend. This is a hospitable hostess who knows how to make the family nest cozy. But if she gets involved in an adventure, then she will commit many rash actions.
- Capricorn. Practical, prudent, mercantile. She calmly leads the family and her husband (if not directly, then indirectly).
- Aquarius. The girl strives to become the head of the family. He supports his spouse in every possible way, even if he knows that the business is a failure. Aquarians live in their own world, creating a certain reality. If there is a place for the husband in it, then everything will be fine in the family.
- Fish. On the one hand they are submissive, on the other they are capricious. These ladies go with the flow and don’t try to change anything. They are satisfied that their husband decides everything, and they can only reap the benefits.
Experts recommend that girls not be a hypocrite and not play other people’s roles in order to impress their partner. Sooner or later you will get tired of it, your own “I” will appear. You always need to take care of yourself, maintain a normal figure, and remain attractive at any age. Well-mannered, modest and intelligent girls never go out of style.
Every man has his own standard of beauty, the ideal of a wife. But everyone wants to see a pleasant, well-groomed, sexy and understanding woman next to them.
“Ugly, but there is one point...”
Don’t think badly, but there are very few beautiful people, as well as downright ugly ones. Most people are completely ordinary in appearance. Men's predilection for appearance would be terrible if the question of what a man loves had a clear answer - his eyes.
Then most of the fair half of humanity should fly to Mars. But in reality it happens differently. Sympathy is generally a very complex process. It involves a person’s values and priorities. For some, appearance is important, and for others, intelligence and character are important. Someone chooses a mistress, and someone chooses a wife, respectively, the preferred parameters are different each time. Everything is very complicated when it comes to the question of what a man loves, as we see.
If anyone else thinks that love is a mystery, then he is deeply mistaken. A person (both man and woman) is looking for the best option for himself. Another thing is that people are often captive of certain illusions.
For example, a woman believes that her man - a drug addict and alcoholic - will change, and they will live like in a fairy tale. Time passes, nothing changes. The woman is slowly dying, wasting away in an atmosphere of narcotic fumes. People around you will say: “He loves you, that’s why he doesn’t leave you.” Nonsense. He doesn’t leave because he hopes. And according to Nietzsche’s witty remark: “Hope is the greatest evil, since it prolongs our suffering.” Therefore, there is no need to think about what men love. Each of us is trying to choose an ideal partner as an ally in the fight against life.
Outer beauty
Despite the enormous progress in relationships that has been made over the past hundred years, many men are still guided by primal instincts. Beauty is still associated with the ability to bear children and care for children. It is for this reason that men prefer young, healthy girls who take care of their appearance.
Traits of an attractive woman:
- average weight (excessive thinness and fatness are not desirable);
- bright lips;
- long eyelashes;
- shiny hair;
- athletic figure;
- symmetrical facial features;
- wide hips;
- energy.
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The listed traits are considered signs of health. Blonde hair indicates an increased level of the female hormone estrogen, which is why men love blondes so much. The hormone also promotes conception and helps in bearing a child. Men are attracted to women by everything that is as different from them as possible from their body structure.
For this reason, representatives of the stronger sex prefer long-haired girls with pronounced secondary sexual characteristics. Many people protest against short haircuts, which make women look masculine.
