At first, relationships between lovers are always full of passionate feelings and incredible emotions. But over time, violent passions may subside or even fade away completely. It is becoming increasingly difficult for men to understand their beloved. And the moment comes when he asks the exciting and frightening question “How to understand that a woman has stopped loving?”
Relaxation2
Of course, it is very important to feel comfortable and free next to your companion. But a woman in love always strives to be the best for a man. She diligently takes care of her appearance, happily prepares his favorite dishes and shares his interests.
If stylish dresses have been replaced by oversized pants with a sweatshirt, women's TV series are persistently replacing joint hobbies, and sausages and pasta have been served for dinner for weeks now, then the young man should think twice about it.
Masks
It all starts with getting to know each other. It is at this stage that many women and men make the main mistake - wearing a mask. Of course, we all want to be liked on the first date. Men diligently polish their shoes, spray themselves with their favorite cologne, and shave.
Women, in turn, carefully choose their dress, jewelry, and makeup. But the desire to be liked is not limited to appearance.
The reason for further disagreements is behavior at the first meetings. We bend over backwards to show our best side. The man describes how great he is - he repaired the car, bought a dacha, made a barbecue with his own hands. And the woman is simply smart - yesterday she baked a cupcake, went to the gym...
But in fact, after a month or two it turns out that it was not he who bought the dacha, but his friend or father. He took the car to a service station and simply observed what the technicians were doing to fix it. I bought a used barbecue on an internet site, and before that I just watched a video on YouTube on how to make a barbecue with my own hands. But in fact, about people like him they say “Mom, make me a snowball, Dad throw it for me.”
So it turns out that from the first minutes of a relationship we impose a false version of our behavior on our partner. Simply put, we are lying. And how can we continue to build relationships with this lie? After all, a woman might bake a cupcake herself, but that only happens once a year. And he will take it at face value. Does he go to the gym? So after some time he will see that her entire gym is just for Instagram photos.
We will not be able to live up to the picture we build on our first dates. Isn't it easier to be honest right away? After all, then we will have to admit that in fact we are not such housewives or superheroes.
Temper 4
Do you leave your toothpaste tube closed and forget to put away your clothes? Do you know this because your lady love reminds you of it several times a day? You may start to worry. A woman in love will close her eyes to the minor shortcomings of her chosen one or will tenderly and with a smile remind you of her wishes.
And an angry fury, defiantly picking up socks around the house, hints that the indignation at your untidiness is stronger than the tender feelings of your beloved (or you just really should clean up after yourself at least occasionally).
Girls are hunters too4
In psychology magazines you can often find the following words: “ladies, don’t rush, because men are hunters...”. In fact, girls also love to hunt enviable gentlemen, and when they achieve what they want, they put a tick in their minds “Hurray, I did it.”
Such relationships are doomed from the very beginning, because it is just a game and passion. If a man does not interest a girl so much that she wants to completely surrender to him, interest disappears.
There is only one way out of all situations - do not create unnecessary problems for yourself and do not fantasize. Idealizing a person often leads to sad consequences - in reality, he turns out to be completely different from what he wanted to see next to him, and a beautiful picture collapses like a house of cards slightly touched by a finger.
Lost contact6
Hugs and kisses are the constant attributes of a couple in love. A woman always tries to be as close as possible to the object of her affection. Even before the start of a relationship, girls may inadvertently touch a handsome young man or sit next to him. Body contact helps maintain warmth, tenderness and trust in a relationship, which is very important for emotional and vulnerable girls.
If your beloved is limited to a routine kiss before work, think about the reason for the disappearance of warm hugs from your life together.
Long term relationship
In longer relationships, a girl's loss of interest in her partner is also not uncommon. The question arises again - why? At some point, the couple falls into psychological imbalance. This is a state when one partner wants more, the other less, one gives himself to the union without reserve, the other condescendingly allows himself to be loved. But even such a situation can be properly balanced, and not start a daily fight and not run to get a divorce.
If a man understands that a girl has lost interest in him, has stopped paying attention and fulfilling some of her duties, there is no need to conflict, demand and try by any means to get maximum care from her. He just needs to calmly take care of himself and not touch her. In other words, you need to create a balance - if they turn cold towards you, be indifferent too. It is better for a man to let go of the situation and not decide categorically everything here and now (especially on emotions), because this will only worsen the imbalance. Any pressure on a person who has become cold leads to even greater discomfort. This can only make the situation worse.
Often, loss of feelings occurs due to being together around the clock:
- work at home or in the same office;
- carry out regular joint shopping;
- travel only together, etc.
To prevent feelings from going away, you need to trust each other more. Love really needs air - this is free space in a relationship. If there is nothing to “breathe”, then love will definitely leave.
The loss of feelings also passes along with the candy-bouquet period. Falling in love and the play of hormones are not endless. Sooner or later, a reasonable question arises: what to do next - stay with this person or move away from him? But in any case, you need to be able to clearly answer the questions:
- What can you give to a loved one?
- What can you get from your partner?
If there is a concrete understanding of the future together, you can safely continue the relationship. But you must always remember that feelings have a ripple effect. At first they escalate, and the partners enjoy each other, then satiety sets in, a decline occurs, and the relationship cools down. And that's okay.
Refusal of joint interests8
At the beginning of a relationship, lovers spend their days next to each other. They cook food together, watch movies, meet friends. Over time, the desire to be inseparable 24/7 becomes weaker, and this is normal. Each of you has time for yourself, your hobbies and meetings. But if a woman’s own life becomes so much that her partner no longer fits into the “schedule,” then one day he can completely disappear from her thoughts and environment.
Try to find time for your beloved, arrange romantic dates, snatch her from the routine of everyday affairs. The more time people spend together, talking and listening to each other, the less often they encounter serious problems in their relationships.
We hope that the highlighted signs helped you with the question of how to understand that a woman has fallen out of love. The above points do not always mean that the girl has already stopped loving you; how to understand what a woman loves, read on. But the appearance of similar traits in a woman’s behavior should make a man think and try to prevent problems before they arise and develop into a serious split.
How to understand that a woman has stopped loving you: main signs
The idyll in a relationship does not always last forever. Sometimes it happens that the “boat of love” cracks. A man begins to notice that the relationship with his girlfriend is becoming tense, and intimate life resembles repaying a “debt”, and not a way of showing tenderness. In such cases, the young man begins to think: “Has my woman stopped loving me?” To answer it, you need to carefully analyze your relationship with your beloved. Maybe they haven’t had mutual feelings for a long time.
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The main signs indicating that the girl you love has stopped loving you can come to your aid.
Manifestations in communication
Signs that a woman has become cold towards a man can appear in communication with him.
Among the main “pointers” are:
| Signs | Characteristic |
| Criticism of gifts and surprises | A man tries with all his might to surprise his beloved, but in return he receives only nagging from her. You should be wary, because this is a clear sign that the lady has stopped loving him |
| No desire to compromise | The secret to building strong relationships is the ability to negotiate with your partner. If a woman refuses to compromise and does not want to work on the relationship, perhaps she simply no longer needs it, and she has long stopped loving her partner |
| Ignoring requests | If a man’s words have lost weight in the relationship, and his requests are not fulfilled, then this indicates that the lady has stopped loving him. He stopped being someone important in her life |
| Doubts appear | If a girl increasingly begins to start a conversation on the topics “Are we suitable for each other,” “Are we in a hurry to live together,” it means that she has fallen out of love with the guy and wants to hint to him that she needs a break in the relationship. Such a “respite” will be followed by separation forever |
| Cute nicknames have lost their relevance | The terms “fish”, “bunny” or “sunshine” have disappeared from women’s vocabulary. She insists on being called simply by her name, this is a clear sign of cooling feelings |
| Reluctance to talk (ask) about problems | The beloved has stopped sharing her experiences and no longer needs advice. This also applies to the lack of interest in the affairs and problems of the young man |
| Reluctance to give compliments | If a girl stops admiring the appearance and deeds of her man, and begins to compare him with someone she knows, and not in his favor, then her feelings have cracked |
| A woman is not afraid of losing a man | During quarrels, the girl increasingly begins to show her independence, pride and coldness, shouting to the man “Go away” or “Who needs you.” She stopped loving him, but for some reason she can’t break up with him. |
| Rare meetings and calls | Previously, a woman wanted to spend most of her time with her beloved, but now she rarely writes SMS, is reluctant to answer telephone conversations, and prefers to go for walks in the company of her friends. |
| Lack of sex life | The beloved avoids intimacy under any pretext, citing headaches and fatigue. There is a high probability that the man has ceased to interest her, she no longer loves him |
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Changes in a woman
The fading of tenderness, emotional attachment and passion can manifest itself in a woman’s behavior.
If a girl stops loving a man, a change in her feelings will be indicated by the signs presented in the table:
| Problem | Characteristic |
| Jealousy gone | Previously, the beloved reacted sharply to a man’s delicate conversations with other representatives of the fair sex, but now she pretends as if nothing happened. Perhaps she stopped loving the young man. But we must take into account that the absence of jealousy is not a necessary sign of faded love. You need to pay attention to this sign only in conjunction with other changes. |
| No self-restraint | Previously, a woman always warned about going shopping or going to a club with her friends, but now she does not consider it necessary to do this. You should be especially wary if in entertainment establishments she allows herself to meet and communicate with other representatives of the stronger sex, justifying her action by saying that they are “just acquaintances” |
| Manifestation of greed | If some six months ago a lady was ready to save up a tidy sum for a gift for her boyfriend, and now she feels sorry for money even for socks and shaving foam, it means that she no longer wants to please him with pleasant surprises. You should not take this sign into account if your financial situation leaves much to be desired. |
| Lost interest in one's own appearance | Girls always want to be desired, so they have high demands on their appearance. But if a woman has stopped taking care of herself, it means that she has lost the desire to try for herself and her boyfriend, and this is a clear sign of faded love |
| Dating has lost its status as an important event | Meetings with a man no longer occupy a place of honor in a girl’s life. A person, of course, may have urgent matters that cause the date to be “moved.” But if a lady has fallen out of love, then such situations arise often |
| Lack of care | Washed and ironed shirts, a delicious breakfast and the question “How are you feeling, dear?” replaced by complete indifference |
| Lost trust | A beloved often accuses her husband of insincerity for no reason; it seems to her that he constantly lies and deceives |
| The habits and hobbies of a young man begin to irritate | If before a man’s hobbies or everyday habits did not cause negative emotions, but now they begin to drive a woman crazy, it means that love is gradually being replaced by hatred |
