Have you noticed that your husband has become a stranger, cold, has stopped giving compliments and is constantly irritated with or without reason? Or does he directly say that he doesn’t love you anymore? It's annoying, unpleasant, painful... But we have a solution to the problem. You will find out why this could happen, whether it is worth saving the family, what you can and cannot do for this, how to let go of a man and live after a breakup. Here are the psychologist's answers to all your pressing questions. Our advice will help you get out of the situation gracefully and, if necessary, stop loving you in return.
Lack of body contact
The young man stopped touching you, giving you his hand, holding you by the elbow, kissing you, hugging you. It may also be accompanied by a lack of intimacy due to “fatigue” or “illness.” And when you try to kiss or hug, he pulls away and makes it clear that this is unpleasant and does not like you. This is another sign that he has cooled down or he has another girl who satisfies him in every sense of the word and he has ceased to need your affection.
Why did my husband stop loving
An unhappy woman asks this question several times a day, looking for reasons in herself, in those around her, or in her husband himself. They often say that someone else’s soul is in darkness, and this is true: there can be a lot of subjective reasons. But there are only five main ones:
- Another woman . In 90% of cases, this is the first thought that occurs to the wife. And this is often what happens. But it’s rare for men to leave their families to swim freely.
- The passion is over . In men, lust often borders on love, and if a wife ceases to be desired, then feelings for her fade away.
- Decreased self-esteem . A man likes to be obviously stronger, and morally too. And if the wife removes all responsibilities from him and takes responsibility for the relationship, then the husband feels inferior and his love evaporates. You can't go too far. A helpless wife who considers herself stupid and ugly will quickly become unnecessary. Well, how can you love someone like that?
- Excessive intrusiveness . A man is a hunter, and he must maintain the alpha male brand towards his wife throughout his married life. If the wife makes it clear that she is not going anywhere, the husband becomes uninterested.
Dryness in communication
He became no longer interested in communicating with you. Meetings are accompanied by banal conversations, which he tries to end as quickly as possible, finding a bunch of reasons for this. If this is not related to a recent quarrel (after which the guy harbored a grudge), this is a reason to be wary. Try to find out how much free time he has, and then see if he spends it with you. If not, then most likely he is avoiding you and waiting for you to understand this.
What signs indicate that a husband has stopped loving his wife?
First of all, pay attention to how your spouse began to talk to you. After all, communication is the basis of any relationship.
“Madam, I don’t know the words of love”
His friends used to make fun of him that he forgot his wife's name. Apart from “zai”, “sunny” and “busechka” you have not heard any other addresses addressed to you. Now he more often addresses you by name, or even by the dry “wife.” And you won’t even remember the last time you heard “I love you.” One could attribute everything to the psychology of men who stop lisping with age. But this is also one of the first signs that your husband has stopped loving you.
“And mine again...”
Your parents and his friends regularly began to hear your husband complain that you were “not the same as before.” You again chose the wrong tie for his shirt. You were late again after work. You again spent the whole evening chatting with your girlfriend on the phone... These dissatisfaction begins to go beyond the scope of his inner “ego”. And these are clear signs that a man has fallen out of love.
“I asked for borscht!”
He makes comments with or without reason. Moreover, they concern all spheres of life. Why a husband can criticize his wife:
- Tasteless dinner. Although he used to like the way you cook.
- Domestic issues. For example, crumbs in bed, although he himself likes to have a snack in the evening in front of the TV.
- Parenting. He attributes all the child’s failures—a bad grade at school, a fight with a friend in the yard—to gaps in his wife’s upbringing.
Against the backdrop of these minor grievances, protracted family conflicts often arise, which further aggravate the situation. Reluctance to somehow smooth out quarrels and give in to the wife are clear signs that the husband has fallen out of love.
"Let everyone know what you are like..."
The problem is aggravated even more if your spouse expresses all his criticism of you in front of strangers. If he, even jokingly, in the presence of your friend, says that in your new dress you look like a cow, you have reason to think. It’s even worse if he allows himself to swear at you and humiliate you in front of strangers.
“I’ll pretend I didn’t notice anything.”
One of the first signs that your husband has stopped loving you is his silence. He does not respond in any way to your requests to discuss the conflict and find a solution. He doesn't care that you cried. He doesn't even try to find out the reason for your tears. It’s easier for him to leave the room and wait “until you get mad.”
Flirting with other girls
How a guy behaves with other people can tell what place you occupy in his life. Watch how he interacts with other girls. If you notice that he uses the same script in communication as with you, this indicates that he does not distinguish you from others. He shows interest in other girls even though you are around. Or you notice frequent calls from other girls that he doesn’t even hide. This suggests that he is indifferent to you or that this is normal for him (in the future this will lead to betrayal and hassle). Are you ready to continue the relationship, knowing about this character of your loved one? Are you ready to forgive constant betrayals? Think about why this is needed.
What to do if your husband loves someone else
The first rule is to get rid of panic and not cling to your husband like a straw. He should see you as cool, calm, and reasonable. Talk to him politely, without shouting. Say: “Dear, perhaps I did something wrong that made you fall in love with someone else, but what happened cannot be avoided. I wish you happiness, and if you find it with someone else, I suggest you part as friends.” Believe me, your husband does not expect such words from his wife, and this will shock him, maybe even make him feel guilty.
If a husband has fallen in love with another woman and says that he wants to leave for her, the best solution is to let him go. Because keeping a man in love is difficult, and in trying to do this, you may fall in his eyes.
Try to save face and don't try to stop him from leaving. Don’t cry in front of him, don’t break the dishes, don’t say: “I gave you the best years of my life.” This is disgusting, because he also gave you a lot.
How can you tell if a man has lost his temper?
If a man has lost interest, it does not mean he has stopped loving. But sometimes there is only one step before the final break in the relationship. Often a woman does not know how to understand that a man is cooling off. And when he realizes it, it’s already too late - the man has found another object for love.
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To make sure for sure whether a man has lost interest or is now going through such a difficult period in his life that he has no time left for you, you need to carefully watch him.
- The first sign of cooling is his eyes. They no longer have any interest in you. He politely remains silent when you share with him your experiences or grievances, joys or sorrows. He doesn't care, but he doesn't talk about it. Maybe you haven’t decided yet what kind of relationship awaits you in the future. Remember how he looked at you before and how he looks now - everything will immediately become clear to you.
- The second sign is changes in joint plans. His plans have changed, but you don’t know about it yet. If you used to plan a trip to the cinema next weekend or choose beautiful places for a joint vacation, now he refuses to plan anything in advance. And if he agrees with you, he does so very sluggishly, constantly referring to the unknown and instability in the future. In this way, he hedges his bets so that he has the opportunity to say “I warned you, you shouldn’t have guessed.” This suggests that he initially does not plan to spend weekends or vacations with you.
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- The third sign of how to understand that a man has lost interest in you is intolerance towards you. No, he may not use harsh language. But this is not necessary to show you that your jokes seem stupid to him. What used to admire him about you now irritates him. Where before he would have remained silent, now he directly expresses everything to your face. He does not want and does not try to restrain himself in his directness. This offends you, but a man does not react to such insults.
- The fourth sign is the lack of sex between you. It seems that he is avoiding you in bed: he goes to bed late, turns away from you. At the same time, the man either “doesn’t notice” all your attempts to “attract” him, or finds various excuses. A man who has feelings for a woman will always find time for “bed games” with his beloved.
- The fifth sign of cooling in a relationship is that the man does not remember you during the day. It seems that he doesn’t care what happens to you at all. But this is only if you previously had a habit of calling or texting during the day. Remember the moment when it stopped. Perhaps then it will be easier for you to understand the reasons for what is happening.
- The sixth sign is that he is happy to use his time off with you for get-togethers with friends. With all his might he avoids joint walks and trips and tries to minimize your time together.
- Another sign of how to understand that a man has cooled down is that he has stopped “looking back” at you. That is, he doesn’t care how you react to his actions. If earlier he went to your parents to please you, now he does not try to please you. If before he didn't do something that annoyed you - like throwing things around or having a weekly bachelor party - now, it's like he's testing your patience. He doesn’t care that there will be a quarrel or discontent in the family, he doesn’t take your feelings to heart.
- The eighth sign is that he is not jealous. Lack of jealousy is a strong blow to the female Ego. For you, this means that as a woman you are no longer interested in him, especially if your man used to resemble Othello. Why isn’t he now interested in who and how you spend your time, who compliments you?
Have you noticed several or even all the signs that a man has lost interest in you? Don't despair and give up! The main thing is to remember: you still have the power to change this situation! How? It’s not enough to understand that a man is growing cold, you need to melt the ice in the relationship.
If you are determined to return a man’s former attitude, if you want him to look at you with loving eyes again, act. A cooling relationship is not a death sentence, it is just a temporary pause. But only if you don’t freeze in place in your grief and sadness, if you don’t constantly make scandals and try to find out why he began to treat you differently. Just act quietly and intelligently as if nothing happened.
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Sometimes it happens that nothing seems to change, but family life ceases to please, and the loved one seems to move away. Such behavior on the part of a partner should be alarming, because if you let things take their course, the relationship may simply end. It is possible to prevent the breakdown of a family if a woman begins to fight for personal happiness.
Signs Your Husband Has Lost Interest
There are clear signs by which every girl can determine that the relationship is not in perfect order. Even if a man doesn't say anything, his behavior will speak for itself:
- he stops paying attention to his chosen one and communicating with her;
- he flirts with strange girls;
- a man prefers to relax alone or in other company;
- he does not react to flirting from the chosen one and is not jealous of her;
- the man ignores phone calls and rarely answers messages;
- is not interested in his chosen one and suppresses intimate relationships.
Reasons for loss of interest
There are many reasons why a man may distance himself from his chosen one. He may feel uncomfortable around her and make her leave or change so that the relationship can resume. There are several main reasons why a man’s behavior changes and he turns from a loving partner into an indifferent stranger.
1. After a long relationship, a woman stops taking care of herself and turns into an unkempt housewife. Men love with their eyes, so they are not at all happy when their chosen ones become sloppy and look unkempt.
2. The woman stops paying attention to her chosen one. It is important for men to be supported, but if a woman stops showing that she cares, preferring to mind her own business, the relationship will become strained over time.
3. Everyday life pulls many into its swamp, so relationships can cool down due to routine, scandals over trifles and growing dissatisfaction with each other. Women who begin to “nag” their chosen ones risk losing the relationship.
4. The lack of common goals also does not have the best effect on relationships. Partners who live only by their own interests move away from each other, not noticing that they are turning from lovers into neighbors in the living space.
5. Lack of variety in intimate life also affects relationships. In this case, interest disappears, and fading passion indicates that the couple may soon break up.
6. The appearance of a mistress can also cause a cooling of feelings. A man, choosing an outside woman, most often is simply looking for an outlet, a way to diversify his life.
7. The reason may also be that the man really fell out of love. In this case, the woman can try to rekindle the passion if she really wants to save the relationship.
How to save a relationship
It is important for women who dream of keeping a man to understand that the problem will not go away on its own. Scandals and reproaches will not help revive love, which means that other measures need to be taken.
1. Changing your image will be a great way to revive your partner's interest. A new hairstyle, makeup and wardrobe will emphasize attractiveness and help a woman become more desirable in the eyes of her lover.
2. Requests for help will also help to resurrect relationships. Women who value their chosen ones will involve them in family life, not forgetting to give them compliments and praise for the work done. Doing things together brings people together, and men who feel important feel much better and try to maintain relationships.
3. The absence of conflicts over trifles will also help strengthen relationships. However, sometimes a couple needs a good scandal to let off steam and understand what needs to be done to save the relationship.
4. Care and attention to a man is the key to joint happiness. It is important to meet your loved one with a smile and show that he is important and needed. Common interests, travel and even simple walks around the evening city bring us closer together.
5. Women should not be embarrassed to try something new in their intimate life, which is an important component of a healthy relationship. Faded passion will return if both partners take the initiative.
Every woman can return love if she sets such a goal. Women's instincts and wisdom will help you choose the right strategy and forget about disagreements in relationships forever.
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20.07.2019 00:29
