A complicated story
The main character of this story celebrated a lavish wedding just 7 months ago. Saying "Yes!" To her chosen one, the girl thought that they would live happily together for the rest of their lives. Recently, her husband suggested that she have a serious conversation. He said he wanted a divorce. A man feels that he cannot completely get rid of feelings for his ex-girlfriend. He does not want to deceive his wife and believes that their relationship should be completed.
These words deeply hurt the girl, because she loves her husband very much. She turned to a psychologist for help. What to do in such a situation? Is it worth trying to save a marriage or is it better to let your loved one go?
How to get your ex-wife back after a divorce from her lover or new husband
Getting your beloved wife back after a divorce, especially if she left for her lover or has already married someone else, is not an easy matter. However, nothing is impossible in our world; divorce is not the end. The main thing is not to sit idly by, hoping for a miracle. It’s just that your energy needs to be directed not at getting your ex-wife back, but at self-development.
So, how to get your ex-wife or girlfriend back, where to start? The less effort you put into getting your relationship back, the higher the chances of success, this is the first rule. And secondly, you must direct all your efforts to develop, increase your social status, develop a strong, sociable and successful man. Then your ex-wife will whine and seriously regret filing for divorce. At night, she will only think about how to regain your trust and win your affection towards her. And she will send her lover, if she has one, to hell.
A wife takes a lover and files for divorce only if she has become uninterested in you, or if you are significantly worse than other options, that is, men. And it doesn’t matter that a year or two ago, your beloved looked at you with loving eyes and, batting her eyelashes, promised to love you always. It doesn’t matter that she swore an oath in front of the church to love you in sorrow and in joy. In reality, life is quite harsh and such vows are ineffective. In sadness and sadness, our wives stop loving us, after which it is quite problematic to return feelings back and instill love in their hearts. If a serious quarrel occurs and there is a good man nearby who will lend her his shoulder at the right moment, rest assured that betrayal is guaranteed. After cheating, the relationship will not last long.
You can restore your relationship with your ex-wife only if you are morally stronger than her. Remember, no one likes wimps or romantics. And if he loves you, it’s for a fairly short period of time, because it becomes boring with such people. The more instinctively you behave, the better. Real males are respected and loved madly. The more animalistic you are, the greater the chances of successfully returning your wife and your previous relationship.
You can’t give gifts and show concern, you can’t give compliments and worry about losing her. In this case, the wife will see you as a strong man and will return back, leaving her lover. Using the links above and below, you can read additional material, it describes in detail why the less we love, the more and more girls love us.
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For guys, there is an effective strategy for getting a girl back that works flawlessly.
Calmness and acceptance of the situation
The psychologist began his consultation with advice to accept the situation. It is impossible to be indifferent to what happened. The normal reaction of a person’s consciousness to such an unexpected recognition is deep shock. The words spoken are so contrary to the picture of a happy family and all the vows made during the wedding that you simply don’t want to believe in them.
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There is no point in denying reality. It is worth trying to feel gratitude to your spouse for his honesty. By sharing his feelings and thoughts, he acted nobly and correctly. The best thing to do after such a conversation is to comprehend what you heard. You should not make a decision based on emotions. It is equally pointless to try to persuade your partner to change his mind or agree to his proposal if it is unpleasant. It is best to offer to return to discuss the problem later. The main character needs time to calm down, restore her spiritual strength and decide exactly how she wants to act next.
I didn't take your husband away from you. You yourself got rid of it, like things. She warmed her on her snake chest. Lover, a little older than your daughter. She brought her into the house and put her next to her. And the ex-husband... Where could he go? I stayed to live with you in the same apartment. You and your boyfriend. And the ex is in the other room with the children. Your little one sat on your neck. More precisely, the neck of your husband, no longer yours. He teased your children. And he terrorized his ex-husband. When this brat mocked your mother, you laughed heartily with him. When I met your husband in my life, he took out my number, began to have fun, and wrote nonsense. I didn't know about you at that time. And I couldn’t guess what kind of person you are. But your ex-husband told a lot. I will never forget his story.
“I had my first abortion at the age of 16. Since then you have been in demand among men. In a family marriage for seventeen years, the Spouse has made you a cuckold more than once. Do you remember the meeting of your classmates? Do you remember your husband's friend? And it’s unlikely that you forgot those two big guys with whom you slept at a time while your husband was in the hospital. She did not cover her walks with anything. Your husband gradually lost interest in you. You got him with sex at any time of the day. “Thank you” for dinner flowed into bed. You asked for love from your ex-husband. I haven’t learned to give love at all. In the end, you made him feel guilty. And you weren’t smart enough to think. He was finally fed up with your sexiness. Your husband is tired of counting your betrayals. Then, as luck would have it, your friend saw that you were allegedly hugging a girl on the train. She reported all this to you with embellishment. This is where you got annoyed: “How could he?” Who doesn’t let you have sex at home?’ But it’s not your place to throw your brain.”
I will not describe all cases. You know very well about them yourself. When you suddenly needed something, you called us, asked for help, you bitch. As soon as I got what I wanted, You sent us to... and to... And it all lasted until the next time. And again we followed your lead. You constantly created chaos. Hiding behind good intentions. Your husband is tired of this carousel. But he did everything, remaining without a choice. She took the apartment and didn’t blink an eye. All he had to do was pay the loan for it. He paid regularly for the past three years. Then I decided to hurry him up with his discharge. I’ll keep quiet about how you verbally mocked me. Sprinkling poison at our address. You didn't seem to say anything like that. Only your words are a hundred times sharper than a knife. You took the path that was familiar. And he was a hundred times nicer than others. I found a lover, but the whole absurdity is that you put sex much higher than family. You didn’t hesitate to get a divorce. You wanted to be free right away. At night you went on hikes with your boyfriend. She abandoned her children. What kind of mother are you after this? The legal divorce took place quickly. Your ex-husband soon left me. So your guy didn’t get rid of us. And you got us doubly. You spoiled your husband, he seems like your relatives. But to spoil things for me... You don’t have such a right. When she sent her children to us, I was indignant. You offered to become a floor lamp and remain silent. And your voice is disgusting, monotonous, It still rings in my ears. you like to shit, that's obvious. But you just can’t stand nasty things against yourself. I paid you with your own coin. For which she became known as a schizophrenic. For the sake of the children, I tried to be friendly. But again I suffered from your crap. You pretended to be a good sheep. She let me into her house to drink tea. But here’s a sheep in wolf’s clothing, As it turns out, you’ll burn in hell for everything. You have been divorced for almost four years. I managed to know you, believe me. No man would let such a moral monster through his door. Although... Recently such an eccentric was found. I really want to tell him everything. Let me not delude myself about you. Sent you to Mars or the Moon. But I will not take this sin on my soul. Let him recognize you and understand everything. And we will celebrate the victory of Good over unpunished and disgusting evil. you express yourself in pompous words. But these speeches are not about you at all. You will ruin them with your dirty deeds. And it’s better not to mention God in them anymore. And this is how you need to raise your daughter... She doesn’t know respect for elders. Call your own father a loser, then expect gifts from him for the holiday. The love of money was instilled in her from childhood. You didn't teach her to be grateful. Since she’s calling her father, then it’s about her... After all, her father’s life doesn’t interest her. You are a two-faced nature, I already know that. An open soul and sincerity are not your strong point. You go through life with your nose in the air from arrogance, Pride, meanness and betrayal are all yours. You have been married for seventeen years. But you never recognized your husband. You tried to denigrate him in my eyes so much that you didn’t notice how “black” you yourself had become. By your mercy we passed through the torments of hell. After all, humiliation and pain are so difficult to forget. And now a reward awaits us in life. After all, your ex is loved, and he himself knows how to love. You wanted Him to disappear, degrade or disappear after the divorce. But he did not live up to all your hopes. He created a family for you again. And you, like a cornered horse, change men like gloves. You bite your elbows, you want everything back. No! Will not give it back! Here's my answer! There is only contempt left for you. God forbid we ever meet anyone like him again. And the fact that people have respect for you is because your pool is too quiet. I fly in the clouds just from one thought, That I was able to heal the soul of my husband. Now the fire of hope burns in his soul. We are Happy and we cannot be separated!
Self-care
Severe stress is a blow to our entire body. After experiencing a shock, a person may experience problems sleeping, eating, be in a depressed mood, and even get sick. Whatever happens next, it is important to take timely measures to maintain your health and emotional state.
Each of us must remember that the most important person in our lives is ourselves. Take time for yourself during such a difficult period in life. Try to relax more, find time for your hobby. You can try playing sports or just walking more. Do what you like and don’t be lazy to please yourself with pleasant little things every day.
Solution
You can begin to solve the problem only after you have completely calmed down and found your own inner harmony. You should start with a heart-to-heart conversation. The heroine of the story must ask her husband why he thinks he should act the way he does. It is important to find the root causes of his decision. Perhaps his answer will be unpleasant. It is important to remain calm at this stage. Persuading your partner to try to save the marriage without his desire is an unproductive and pointless activity. It’s even worse to show emotions, speak in a raised voice and blame your spouse for something.
It is very important to try to understand your partner. Perhaps his solution is an attempt to prevent a long-term toxic relationship. If he is sure that he does not have any feelings for his wife, trying to save the family is pointless.
The situation is completely different if a man cannot understand his feelings and speaks honestly about it. With such initial data, it may be worth trying to save the marriage. This is possible provided that the woman has enough love and wisdom. If this is the chosen path, you should start by sincerely forgiving your partner.
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