How would your ideal date end? I think you know it yourself, without any hints. But how to achieve the desired result and spend as few resources as possible? For a beginner this is not an easy task. First of all, there are several different ways to have the perfect date with a girl. It is impossible to single out just one of them. Everything is strictly individual, and people succeed in each method with varying degrees of success. It is important for you to find yours in order to achieve results over and over again.
How to ask a girl out on a date
Many young people cannot start a relationship with the person they like simply because they do not know how to ask a girl or guy out on a date. Some are afraid of doing something wrong and getting rejected. Others don't know how to continue communication after this. Still others simply do not understand how to organize a date and where to go and are afraid that their chosen ones will not like the date. Our magazine will help you figure it out!
This procedure is not complicated, and a guy, when communicating with his classmate or work colleague, says, for example, that he has two tickets to a concert or to the theater. Knowing about the preferences of his chosen one, he can invite her to visit a dog show or a zoo with him. A girl who loves animals is unlikely to refuse such an offer. You can invite a lady for a walk in the park, to a coffee shop or restaurant. In any case, the young man should emphasize that communication with this girl will be very pleasant for him.
Steps to a successful first date:
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First of all, it is worth saying that all responsibility for the date falls on the initiator, that is, the man. When inviting a girl, you can’t mumble, offering to meet where she wants and when she wants. Most likely, the response to such an offer will be refusal.
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Before you go on a first date with a girl, you should choose a place in advance. It is most optimal if there are two options: the first is outdoor recreation (picnic, walk in the park), the second is in case of bad weather (exhibition, cinema, cafe).
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If the young man does not plan to pick up the girl in a personal car or taxi, it is worth discussing a meeting place. It should be: firstly, well-known (for example, some kind of monument), secondly, easily accessible (think about whether it will be convenient for the lady to get there).
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Before the call, you need to formulate and say to yourself the text of the invitation several times. It is advisable that it take no more than 30 seconds, since longer verbal messages are tiring. When preparing an offer, you need to make it enticing, like an advertising video, as if the date is an object that they are trying to sell.
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After everything is ready, you need to immediately dial your beloved’s number. After greetings and a one-minute “how are you”, you can move on to the essence of the matter.
If a girl refuses, citing some business, do not despair, it is quite possible that she is really busy. You can try to find out how long to reschedule an already planned date or simply call back in a week. If failure occurs a second time, then it is worth choosing another object of application of force.
It is always necessary to remember that a negative result is not only a result, but also an invaluable experience that will certainly serve you well next time and help you be more relaxed and confident.
Gifts for the perfect date
On the first date, gifts (except flowers) are inappropriate. However, if you have already met several times and know each other's preferences, you can prepare a surprise. A young man with the gift of a poet can read his poems to a girl or use the works of classics. Choose your bouquet carefully. It should not be too big, but also not look cheap.
A girl can give her photo in a frame. There is no doubt that the young man will put it on his bedside table and will fall asleep and wake up with your image.
First date with a girl: tips for guys
It is difficult to give ideal advice that works in all cases. All situations are purely individual and depend on many factors - the girl and the guy themselves, the environment, the degree of acquaintance, etc. But there are several general rules of conduct on a first date with both a girl and a guy. Let's talk about them.
If you like a girl and want to make a stunning impression on her on a first date, then there are many ways to do this. It's good when you can afford a fairly large amount of money for this. Then the question: where to go on a first date disappears by itself. Now there are many different companies that provide such services. It’s bad when there are few or none of them. In this case, you need to use your mind and all the imagination that you have.
Your future relationship will depend on your first date with a girl. And how you organize it will be your merit. So let's use our imagination together and think about how to surprise a girl on the first date.
How to behave on a first date with a girl
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Under no circumstances should you criticize your partner, her appearance, or her manner of dressing. It doesn’t matter what kind of date this is - the first or the tenth, it is doomed to be the last.
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On the first date, you should not bring up complex, technical topics, talk about computers, cars, etc. The exception would be if the girl herself is well versed in the subject of the conversation.
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When communicating with a girl, you must avoid obscene and slang language, because the reaction of any normal girl will be negative. If such a style of communication is dictated by the lifestyle of a young man, then he should choose a girl to match himself.
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Naturalness and sincerity should be the basis of relationships with a female representative, and at the same time you should not decorate yourself with the halo of a hero by talking about a rescued kitten, or about protecting a girl from bullies. Let your chosen one make sure for herself that she has a faithful and reliable person next to her.
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In a conversation on a first date, you should not touch on topics of religion and politics, which most often cause diverse opinions and can provoke a quarrel.
When you go on a first date with a girl, you shouldn’t talk about your illnesses, lack of money, problems at work or at college (who needs a poor, sick, unemployed groom with an incomplete higher education?).
The most important taboo is talking about your ex-girlfriends. It is worth saying that if the partner is not devoid of a sense of tact, then she will not ask such a question. And if, nevertheless, she asked, it is worth answering something vague about the fact that all this is the past.
In order to get to know your interlocutor better, on the first date you can ask the girl questions regarding her childhood and hobbies. You can also ask about the significant shortcomings that, from her point of view, most men have, and how she imagines an ideal representative of the stronger sex. At the same time, a young man should not adapt to the image drawn by a girl, because we are always loved for who we are.
Igor Posypaiko, TV presenter, producer
ELLE: What do you expect from a girl on a first date?
Igor Posypayko: I don’t think there are any rules here, but, of course, you have to be ungodly beautiful and hellishly cheerful - that’s quite enough. And of course, if the primary signs of intelligence did not shine in the girl’s eyes, then no one would invite her on a first date. And then you just need to justify these primary signs, and this is not so difficult.
ELLE: Are there things you pay attention to?
I.P.: The most important thing is to be natural and easy.
ELLE: Have you ever had a bad date?
I.P.: As you understand, I don’t really make acquaintances blindly. In principle, I don’t ask the first girl I like to date me. Therefore, this is a question of many introductory questions. And before we find ourselves alone, quite a significant amount of time passes, but for the most part these are acquaintances of acquaintances.
ELLE: What is your idea of an ideal date?
I.P .: I am very active in life, and for the most part, if a girl is interesting to me, I make an effort to make it something unusual. Just drinking coffee and having dinner is less interesting to me than going out for an hour on a sailing yacht or riding on a motor yacht or on a wakeboard. Therefore, my task as a guy is to surprise the girl, ideally, to put her in an unusual situation. And often it is still a motorcycle. But it’s not always suitable either, because if I’m planning something beautiful. For example, I love opera and, of course, I am happy to invite girls to my favorite opera performances, but you can’t go there on a motorcycle. Also, you know, if a girl is closed and afraid of everything, then this is not my format at all, because I love open, cheerful girls, ready for provocations.
ELLE: What topics are taboo for you on a first date?
I.P .: We can discuss anything. But I believe that, in principle, you should not get involved in political topics, because, in principle, if a girl does not touch upon any topic, then there is no point in talking to her about it, so as not to be disappointed. After all, I want it to be interesting to me for longer than 15 minutes.
ELLE: Do you have a girl’s preference in clothing style?
I.P .: Well, the main thing is that her image matches what we are going to do. For example, I really love wearing butterflies and look for any occasion to wear them. But you know, I don't remember just going out to dinner with a girl. Usually this is either some kind of party, or a premiere, or a ball, or a reception. What's the story? In principle, I rarely like anyone. Because there are only a few cool girls, and that’s a fact. And that’s why I rarely ask anyone out on a date, but if I do, it’s always something unusual that should surprise the girl. What's the point of going on dates if you don't charm a girl almost immediately?
ELLE: Your task is to charm?
I.P .: I would say that my task on a date is to be completely different from the men she went on dates with before.
ELLE: A girl who can win your heart.
I.P .: It is almost impossible to win my heart. And it is possible to please. I have a very high bar. At 35 years old, I am in love for the third time in my life. And, of course, here we can talk about some components, how and what, but it is clear that it should be unusual beauty, an active life position, a thunderous intellect, and of course, she should travel a lot around the world, be interested in many things, be able to do a lot , to know a lot, but with all these introductory notes, it essentially doesn’t matter, because the main thing is that there is this click, chemistry that is inexplicable. This is either your person and he's right for you, or he's not.
ELLE: Remember your unusual date.
I.P .: Sometimes I like to just fly somewhere for the weekend. Of course, most girls are not prepared for this, and it's terrible. A girl without a Schengen card immediately “goes to the garden.” But this is nonsense. Because with Schengen we can fly to Prague, Budapest, and, in the end, to the same Venice, if suddenly someone loves it. My girlfriend and I recently flew to London for the weekend for our first date and it was amazing!
How to surprise a girl on the first date
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A simpler and more effective option that will require a minimum of material costs from you is a romantic evening on the roof of the house. Just everything needs to be done in advance. Choose a roof that has a fence along the edge. Also make sure that the door is not locked at night. If you feel that the evening will be cool, immediately worry about a blanket and hot coffee in a thermos. Stock up on candles and a flashlight. And feel free to ask the girl out on a date;
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If you are afraid of heights, then there is a completely different option. This is an escape into nature. Well, here you need to consider a lot: weather, terrain, tent, food. If you are planning to have a first date with a girl outdoors, barbecue - don’t forget firewood, barbecue, and meat. Also don't forget about alcohol. Just don't take strong drinks with you. Wine or champagne is the best option. So think through everything to the smallest detail. The only downside is that you will need to warn the girl in advance so that she can dress accordingly;
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Where to go on a first date in winter? At this time of year, it is best to spend your first date at the skating rink, take a walk and build a snowman, you can just sit in a small cafe, but surprise her with flowers that the waiter will bring;
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A very original solution would be to ride in empty public transport. Although this requires money, it will not be as much as you would pay at a restaurant. It's romantic and will be an unforgettable decision. The main thing is to agree with the driver in advance.
So young people, everything is in your hands and depends only on you. Use your brains. We pushed you to do great things, and you decide what to choose. Maybe you yourself will come up with something original, and the girl will be pleasantly surprised by your desire and desire to do everything for her.
Rules of communication on the first date with a girl
All girls undoubtedly love attention. On the first date, you must tell the girl that she looks great and this outfit suits her very well. It is worth keeping the conversation in line with her interests - dancing, exhibitions, pets.
If a young man does not know how to communicate with a girl correctly, he needs to remember the basic rule - attentiveness and sincere interest. Never ignore the words of your friend, since everything she says is very important to her. And after listening to some part of the story, you can get into trouble.
All people, without exception, are drawn to open, sociable and erudite interlocutors. At the same time, almost each of us experiences difficulties in communication, which we overcome with more or less success.
In order for your first date with a girl to be interesting and for you to have something to talk about, you need to prepare a small scenario in your head in advance that will help you not get confused at an important moment and always maintain the thread of the conversation. It would be a good idea to find out about some interesting event in advance so that you can discuss the latest news later.
In conclusion, it remains to add that all girls, without exception, love gifts. A flower, a small soft toy or a box of chocolate brought to a meeting costs practically nothing, but it greatly strengthens the relationship and lifts the mood of the partner.
Conversation Topics for the Perfect Date
The main thing in communication on a date is not to impose your own point of view on your partner. Be softer in your statements and reasoning. To defuse the situation, tell funny stories or jokes. They can be taken from the Internet.
Talk about different topics, look for points of common interest. However, it is important for a girl to give the right direction to the conversation. The bored look of a lady will make a guy feel embarrassed and silent. A girl should push the conversation in a direction that interests her, and listen to the young man with a slight smile on her lips.
The girl's ringing laughter especially encourages guys. They feel in the center of attention and try to please their beloved even more.
How to cheer a girl up and lift her spirits
Women's nature is characterized by increased sensitivity, and this contributes to frequent mood swings. Just a few minutes ago, a girl who was in a rosy mood may not only become sad, but also cry. In this situation, the stronger sex is often lost and does not know how to cheer up the girl. And in order to calm down, sometimes it’s enough for her to say just one phrase. But you need to know which one!
To understand what a girl needs in this situation, you need to talk to her, but you shouldn’t expect her to directly tell the guy to calm her down. He will have to understand this from her hints, facial expressions and gestures. What can a guy do who wants to cheer up a sad girl? The following male actions can significantly improve a lady’s mood:
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Sometimes, just a hug is enough to calm her down.
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Treat her to something sweet, because such food, as scientists have established, contains happiness hormones, and although the result will not be immediate, it is very effective.
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A compliment said from the bottom of the heart can calm and cheer a girl up. Because often her bad mood is caused by an inferiority complex, from which even the most beautiful girls suffer. All women want to hear frequent declarations of love and words of admiration for her appearance.
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An unexpected pleasant surprise, which could be a bouquet of flowers, a cup of her favorite tea, watching a comedy together, or a romantic walk in the park.
When thinking about how to cheer up a girl, men often make a number of mistakes that further aggravate her condition.
If you want to calm a girl down, you should not:
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Tell her jokes: a girl in a bad mood reacts very sharply to vulgarity and rudeness, so her reaction may be tears.
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Offering her alcoholic drinks will only contribute to the worsening of the girl’s depressive state.
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Prank her. Females always react negatively to practical jokes, and in this situation, such behavior from a man may seem overly rude and inappropriate to her.
Having in his hands an effective weapon that can defeat a girl’s bad mood, a young man will very quickly be able to cheer up the girl, win her attention, affection and love.
A state of joy and good mood can be quite simply evoked without resorting to all sorts of grief relievers. For example, the essential oil of the citrus family traditionally puts women’s feelings in a positive mood. In their natural form, such essential oils exist in the skins of ripe oranges, lemons, and tangerines.
Your girlfriend is sad and you don’t know how to cheer her up? Quickly hand her the largest and sunniest orange, peel it and see how quickly this simple remedy can work. Just take care to find out in advance whether she is allergic to citrus fruits, otherwise the result may be the opposite of what was expected.
And here is another method recommended by quite a few sources on how to cheer up a girl with the help of chocolate. After all, this delicacy contains special substances that stimulate the production of unique endorphins, the so-called happiness hormones, in the female body.
You just need to take certain nuances into account. After all, your chosen one may currently be following a certain diet, and this method may not live up to expectations. Although you can try to convince her that dark chocolate does not make you gain weight, which is the true truth.
