Self-confidence (not to be confused with self-confidence) allows you to live the way you want, do what you want and achieve any goals you set, and if you turned down the road, it means you didn’t really want to. And this is right, because, by and large, you can only count on yourself.
We've rounded up 20 signs of a truly confident woman who's like Batman—cool and fearless—only much better because she exists!
Don't waste time and effort on trifles
The decision-making process is often tedious and drains all your resources. The more you invest, the more empty you feel. So, if you have a big life decision to make, try to spend as little time and effort as possible on everything else.
Don't spend a lot of time thinking about what pillow to buy or what jam to have for dinner. There is no need to waste time and energy on a routine; set yourself a limit of 5 minutes to think about and make decisions related to everyday life.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.
What is self-esteem and self-confidence
Confidence and self-esteem are not the same thing, although they are closely related.
Self-confidence is a concept that is used to describe how you feel about your ability to perform various functions, tasks and roles.
Confident behavior is not about not making mistakes, because they are inevitable, especially if you are doing something new.
Confidence is manifested in self-control and taking purposeful, meaningful actions when various types of errors arise, allowing you to solve problems and make decisions.
Lack of confidence can be the result of many factors:
- Fear of the unknown.
- Criticism.
- Dissatisfaction with your appearance.
- Lack of preparation for the emerging situation.
- Lack of necessary skills.
- Previous failures.
Self-confidence, like self-esteem, is not a static concept, and therefore its level can either increase or decrease. At some points in life we may feel more confident than at others.
Your level of confidence can be expressed in many ways: through your behavior, your body language, what and how you say, etc.
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself, your personality, how you look, what you think, as well as your own beliefs and achievements. This is the final result of the quality of your life at a particular moment in time, which your body gives out in the form of a corresponding emotion.
People with low self-esteem most often suffer from a lack of confidence, but some with high self-esteem may similarly lack confidence.
The opposite situation is also quite likely, when a person with low self-esteem can be very confident in some areas.
Possible reasons for low self-esteem:
- Dismissive attitude and negative environment.
- Childhood experiences and insufficient parental care.
- Bad habits.
- Loss of a job or difficulty finding employment.
- Constant stress.
- Physical illness.
- Difficulties in relationships, separation, divorce.
- Physical or sexual abuse.
- Mental problems, inferiority complex.
How to exude confidence
Even the most confident people sometimes feel nervous, anxious, or insecure. But they know how to deal with it and use this negative energy for their benefit. An aura of confidence can attract positive attention and open up new opportunities. Even if you feel insecure, just the "fake it 'til you make it" approach will do the trick, and then you may be able to gain real confidence. While it's impossible to exude confidence all the time, you can learn techniques to help you turn on your confidence when needed, such as in interviews, presentations, or at a social event. Train your body language, social interactions and lifestyle as a confident person.
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Body Language: How to Show Confidence
1 Imagine what a person who lacks self-confidence looks like.
The head is lowered, the person is slouched, the person moves away from everyone and avoids eye contact. This behavior is associated with submission and anxiety. These actions tell others that you are nervous, afraid, or lack confidence. Change your posture and body language, and then you will change the impression you have on others, their attitude towards you, and ultimately towards yourself. If you don't feel comfortable trying these techniques in public, practice them at home in front of a mirror or film yourself until you feel more comfortable. You can also practice with friends and get feedback from them.
1 Imagine what a person who lacks self-confidence looks like.
The head is lowered, the person is slouched, the person moves away from everyone and avoids eye contact. This behavior is associated with submission and anxiety. These actions tell others that you are nervous, afraid, or lack confidence. Change your posture and body language, and then you will change the impression you have on others, their attitude towards you, and ultimately towards yourself. If you don't feel comfortable trying these techniques in public, practice them at home in front of a mirror or film yourself until you feel more comfortable. You can also practice with friends and get feedback from them.
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Learn to stand still.
Anxious people often sway from one side to the other, fidget, or tap their feet. Stand with your feet hip-width apart and distribute your weight across both feet. This balancing will allow your feet to stay in place and you won't want to move them. Try to do the same even when sitting. You will appear agitated if your feet begin to flicker or tap.
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Take up the space around you.
While sitting in a chair, avoid the urge to lean forward or cross your arms. Instead, be open and take up the space around you. Assume a commanding pose. Research has shown that people who used a power posture before a job interview were more confident in their self-congratulations. Here are some power poses you can try: Sit in a chair and lean back. Place your hands on the armrests, if available. Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart and place your hands on your hips. Lean against the wall, but don't slouch. On a subconscious level, it will look like you own that wall or even the entire room.
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Use touch.
If you need someone's attention, touch them on the shoulder. Assessing the appropriateness of physical contact requires taking into account the current situation and interaction with that person. For example, while you can get someone's attention simply by saying their name, physical contact may be a bit of a daring proposition. But if you are on a noisy and crowded street and trying to get someone's attention, a light touch on the shoulder will be enough. Don't forget to keep your touch light. Pushing too hard instead of showing calm and confidence can be perceived as being too dominant.
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Keep your hands in a confident position.
When you stand or sit, keep your hands at attention. Confident people keep the front of their face and body open and do not hide it from others. Here are some tips: Bring your hands together behind your back or behind your head. Put your hands in your pockets, but leave your thumbs visible. Interlace your fingers and place your elbows on the table. This is a very confident posture that is often used in negotiations, interviews and other business meetings.
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Use gestures with caution.
Depending on your culture, excessive gesticulation on every word may be interpreted as a feeling of anxiety or energy. Your gestures should be restrained and appear only occasionally. Keep your hands at hip level and make most of your gestures here. This will make you more trustworthy. In a social context, your palm should be open and relaxed. A hard palm or fist will seem too aggressive and domineering, which is often used by politicians. Keep your elbows by your sides. Your gestures should be light and flow only in one direction, so as not to cover the body.
