How can an introvert survive in society and become more sociable?

The modern world is built on communication and interconnection. From early childhood, a person does not have the opportunity to remain alone for a long time. Kindergarten, school, after university and work. How should an introvert behave in a society where everyone strives to communicate as much as possible? Let's first understand what introversion is and how it affects our perception of the world. Our inner comfort and sense of balance depend on this. Understanding what is going on deep inside each of us, it is easier to adapt to life so as not to be branded as an eccentric and a psycho.

Know yourself

Well, after reading this article, you have probably already determined which type you are.
If everything suits you, there are no problems, you are a happy person whose inclinations meet the world around you and the needs. But what to do if not everything in life suits you and you need to adapt to uncomfortable life tasks?

Here I will console you: extroverts do not always need constant communication, and introverts do not always need solitude. Very often we are pushed deeper into a psychotype by a simple inability to behave. And if you master communication skills or learn to occupy yourself without communication, then such a pastime may not be so unpleasant.

Sometimes it is very useful to expand your boundaries by immersing yourself in an unusual atmosphere. This way we will be able to understand other people better, and we will also learn a lot of interesting things about ourselves. So, determining your psychotype is only the first step. Next: master something new - this will expand your own capabilities. This is what those who achieve success do. But we all want to achieve success, right?

So I wish you pleasant communication and comfortable solitude!

Find your corner

You have stocked up on energy, but where is the confidence that it will last for a long time? Alas, you can’t cork it in a bottle and drink it if necessary, and therefore you need to recharge from time to time in a quiet, calm place. You need to find it as soon as you arrive at the party - it could be the kitchen, toilet or even the bathroom.

Many people often go out onto the balcony or go down to their own car, and this is normal - a few minutes of solitude will have a positive effect on your mood. If necessary, you can even read it.

If you're throwing your own party, it's even simpler - set up a special quiet place where any introvert (including you) can relax. Friends who are familiar with a similar problem will definitely appreciate your concern.

One communication. Other analysis

Let's start with the fact that there are no pure psychotypes described by Jung among us. Most people are ambiverts, meaning they have average scores on the introversion/extroversion scale.

“In addition, an effective leader can be both an extrovert and an introvert,” notes Victoria Filippova, partner at the headhunting company Cornerstone. — People change as their personality develops

Even a natural introvert develops communication skills over time, and from the outside, few will see him as a representative of a non-communicative psychotype.” However, while they caution against oversimplifying human nature, experts agree that certain business functions are best suited to outgoing extroverts, while others are better handled by focused introverts.

It is better to use extroverts in the field of communications, as well as for solving problems where you need to negotiate or simplify complex situations. This could be a job that involves training other people or sales. People with pronounced extroverted tendencies are strong in developing client relationships and establishing contacts in HR and GR. Their activity helps to achieve success in launching new projects and bringing the company to new markets.

It is useful to involve introverts (and among world-famous leaders there are 40% of them) in serious analytical work and in-depth study of issues. Such a person is good at scrupulous work: budgeting, planning, writing regulations and developing business processes.

“To put it roughly, we can formulate the following idea: introverts are more effective at planning and control, and in organizing work and motivating employees, which is associated with a large volume of communication, extroverts win,” sums up managing director of Rational Grain Recruitment Agency Olga Stepanova. But both functions are important for successful management. What to do if one person does not combine all the necessary qualities? Stepanova gives the example of a large company that was headed by a director with pronounced introvert qualities. Then they hired a HR director to help him, a strong extrovert whose tasks included compensating for the shortcomings of his unsmiling boss. And overall, the HR director did a good job.

Another company that Stepanova observed while selecting a director for working with key accounts chose two final candidates. Each had impressive experience, but in character they were two typical opposites. As a result, both were invited to work. A bright extroverted communicator became the director of the department. And his deputy was appointed an introverted analyst, an expert with good intuition, reliable and without a love of publicity. The tandem turned out just great!

At the same time, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert lies not only in external behavior, but in how he receives “recharge,” adds Victoria Filippova

For an introvert, it is important to be alone and get your thoughts in order. For an extrovert this is not necessary; he rests when there are a lot of people around

“When communicating with representatives of the sociable psychotype, we try to call more often, find informational topics to discuss, and, of course, get more feedback from them,” says headhunting consultant Anna Grebenkova. — And our introverted customers prefer to communicate by mail: briefly, concisely, to the point. When working with them, we focus on a clear interaction scheme.”

Introvert and extrovert: who are they?

The famous psychiatrist Carl Gustav Jung studied personality types. The 1921 paper “Psychological Types” proposed dividing people into extroverts and introverts.

Introverts put their inner world first. Sometimes it becomes problematic for such people to contact the outside world.

Extroverts, on the contrary, cannot imagine existing without interaction with others. Loneliness has a negative impact on such a person, even to the point of depression.

As for ambiverts, this concept was established later. American psychologist Robert R. McCrae determined that a third of people have traits of both psychological types.

Characteristics of an Introvert

An extrovert will definitely say that an introvert is shy and boring. An open and cheerful person cannot understand how it is possible to communicate with a narrow circle of people, and consider spending time at home as his favorite pastime.

Character traits:

Rarely makes acquaintances, feels uncomfortable in crowded places.
When interviewing for a job, he gets very nervous. Showing your talents requires concentration.
Always loyal to friends, appreciates honesty in people.
Recharges with energy in solitude.
They won’t trust strangers and won’t let them into their personal space. Reveals after a close acquaintance.
Plans and thinks things through in advance.

In every company there is a person who is the first to leave a noisy party, citing being busy and tired. This is true, because social contacts mentally exhaust introverts. A few hours alone with themselves helps them recover.

Such people are good at working where prudence, concentration and patience are required. Therefore, they have a direct path to science and research. The professions of accountant, writer, designer, copywriter, translator, and programmer are also suitable. The beauty of professions is that the work is done remotely; social contacts are “dosed” independently.

With introversion, all human energy is directed inward, but not all representatives of the psychotype are the same. There are several types of introversion:

Social. People with this type open up in the company of people they have known for a long time, with whom they feel comfortable. They work alone and do not suffer from a long absence of communication. But they understand its value and do not avoid it.
Thoughtful. People belonging to this subtype constantly engage in self-analysis. Creative individuals with excellent intuition. Sometimes it is difficult for them to find a job they like.
Anxious. Experience discomfort during social contacts. They prefer clearly regulated communication.
Discreet. Such people are slow, they think and weigh everything, their thoughts are deep. They will make a good match for an extrovert.

Who is an extrovert?

The opposite of an introvert - they draw energy from those around them. Lack of communication is a great stress for this type.

Character:

Loves to talk.
We depend on the opinion of society.
Ambitious, strive to win and achieve your goals.
Freely expresses emotions in public.
Sincere in expressing emotions.
Helps in difficult situations.
Spends a lot of money.
He loves gifts, believing that he receives them for his own merits.
An esthete, she dresses beautifully and combines things wisely.

About 70% of the planet's inhabitants are extroverts. We can say that the world belongs to them. In life they show communication skills and perseverance, make decisions quickly, even in emergency situations. Extrovert Behavior:

Does not like to plan, adapts to people and situations.
Not superficial, but not inclined to spend hours on introspection. Uses internal resources to achieve assigned tasks.
Actively gestures and uses facial expressions. Be sure to talk about joyful events.
Does not understand hints, does not find out the motivations of human actions.
He tries to understand other people, but does not understand himself.
Feels confident in a team. Has many ideas and projects, but cannot stand monotonous work.

A good job would be a teacher, journalist, lawyer, police officer, administrator, guide, etc. An extrovert needs to realize himself where his creative potential is useful.

In introversion there are also several subtypes:

Ethical-sensory - an optimist and an esthete, poorly plans time and does not know how to distribute tasks for the day.
Sensory-logical - does not tolerate criticism, is sensitive to the disruption of plans. Pragmatist and activist.
Intuitive-logical – predicts events and quickly reacts to what is happening. They trust others, but do not spare their feelings. Careerist.
Intuitive-aesthetic – knows how to persuade, hates formalities.

Sources of Introvert Energy

An introvert's energy source is, firstly, time alone. If there is an introvert in the family, the zone into which the person has entered should be highlighted - and this becomes a marker: “don’t pester me.” It’s good if “legislation” is being formed that people should not be touched in this zone.

The next source of an introvert is free space. Very often, even in large apartments, no one has their own place. An introvert needs it. Often such places of solitude become the bathroom or toilet, the only rooms that are closed...

The next source of energy for an introvert is time to think. For example, you need to take an introverted child to the theater, but he doesn’t really like going somewhere. In order to avoid difficulties, you can use a system of step notifications: “You know, there is such an interesting theater in Moscow. In general, the theater is such an interesting place.” Don’t immediately suggest it, but go around in circles, give time to get used to the fact that theater exists, that it has something to do with people, and it can also have something to do with them. Time to comprehend the fact, especially if it is associated with an increase in the number of people or an external event.

By demanding an immediate response from an introvert, you seem to take away his energy. Demanding immediate stories about impressions - too. Very often, failure to take this feature into account in communication is the beginning of a crack and an increase in distance in a marital relationship. An introverted husband comes home from work, his wife: “How are you?” Husband: “Fine.” At 1001 “normal” no more questions arise.

The main thing is that one has the impression that they don’t want to share with him, and the second has the impression that they are shaking him like a stick and want to get something out of him. We need to give our husband time. 40 minutes at the entrance is the golden rule. You can explain to children, even small ones, that dad or mom come home from work tired, they can’t communicate now, you can kiss dad and let him “soak.”

And the last source of energy for an introvert is the ability not to be distracted. Usually, when you have a family and a household, you have to do a lot of things at the same time. And only introverted women understand that it is very tiring to stir soup with one hand, sweep the floor with the other, hold the child with the third, and pick up the telephone with the fourth.

Try saying to an introvert of any gender who is immersed in some activity: “Listen, go turn off the rice!” A normal request, nothing special, but it can lead to disastrous consequences because this interruption returns the introvert to level zero in the activity from which he was torn.

You can give a classic example from school life: high school, the person at the blackboard answers: “This problem can be solved in 6 ways. The first method is like this. The second method, it may be better in this situation - such and such.” “Okay, Ivanov, hurry up already.” Ivanov interrupts. “This problem can be solved in 6 ways. The first method is such and such...” He returned to the zero point. His thoughts are structured, he cannot jump. This is not harmfulness, not pathology, not a mental defect, but a feature of the thinking of a person of this type.

If an introvert speaks, it means he has already built a scheme in his head.

Both the child and the adult need, having realized the typology, to learn to recharge. Learn to see when your strength is running out, and learn, based on the resources that you currently have, to look for new strength. You need to know which situations are most draining of one or another type.

Is socialization the worst thing?

CONTENT:

Although introverts do not need noisy companies and gatherings, this does not mean that they do not need communication at all - without socialization, alas, it is impossible to lead a full life. However, sometimes even from the most terrible situation you can learn something useful, and sometimes it is better to stay at home and once again delve into reading a useful book.

There are several problematic communication situations in which an introvert can find himself. Some will have to be resolved; the absence of others will not play a special role.

An introvert can do without:

Daily meetings with friends in a cafe . There is an opinion that gatherings in public catering establishments help introverts release energy and socialize for years to come, but this is not so. This is also an effort on oneself, in most cases extremely unnecessary.
Parties thrown by people you barely know . If your uncle’s friend, whom you first saw only on a social network, invites you to his wedding, and you really don’t want to go, you don’t need to force yourself. The only exception may be when you are needed as a support group for another introvert - it would be a sin to refuse.
Personal meetings with new acquaintances . When a person realizes his own loneliness and is looking for new acquaintances, this is simply wonderful, but after meeting on the Internet, there is no need to rush into a face-to-face meeting if you still do not feel ready for this.

Even an introvert should not miss:

Corporate parties , meetings and other work events. Although few colleagues will be part of your circle of close friends, you still need to communicate with them, even if they are not the most pleasant person to talk to. Why? Without this, it is difficult to move up the career ladder, and not everyone will be lucky enough to find a job that isolates you from people as much as possible.
Family celebrations . Wedding, anniversary, graduation - some events are necessarily celebrated by the whole family, and if you refuse the invitation, relatives may simply consider it an insult, and you will ruin the mood for both yourself and them.
Your special events . Let's say you decide not to throw a noisy party in honor of your birthday and not invite anyone - but who said that your friends won't think of giving you a surprise? By solving this issue yourself, you at least regulate the scale of the disaster, and this is already a significant plus. So, large and noisy groups are your nightmare, but in some situations there is no escape from them.

Professions for introverts

Since introverts love solitude, internal reflections and experiences, are passionate about creativity and observe the process, they choose professions accordingly. Despite his characteristics, an introvert may well become a boss, a popular blogger or a teacher. Many famous scientists and researchers are introverts.

Thanks to their qualities, introverts can be called indispensable workers. They know how to concentrate entirely on the task at hand, without being distracted by trifles. They do not need prodding from their superiors; they are accustomed to controlling themselves. They do not need a team, they are more comfortable working alone, this is how they fully open up. Introverted individuals are valued by employers for their creative, non-standard approach to a problem.

Although, according to statistics, there are fewer introverts in the world than extroverts, among them there are a lot of people who have achieved success and become famous. This psychotype includes Charles Darwin, Franz Kafka, Bill Gates, Elon Musk.

The following professions are best suited for a person belonging to this type:

Writer. This is literally an introvert's paradise, since writing books represents immersion in the inner world and evaluation of one's experiences. A writer can communicate with people to a minimum. And in our age of modern technology, you don’t have to leave your apartment at all if you don’t want to. You can simply send your work over the Internet.
Translator. Ideal for an introverted personality. After all, representatives of this profession do not need to communicate with people. The main thing is concentration, which an introvert should not lack. In addition, you can set your own convenient mode.
Programmer. Almost all the time, a representative of this profession communicates only with a computer. Even if a programmer works in an office, he is so immersed in the work process that he does not notice anything around him. The perseverance necessary for drawing up programs is present in huge quantities in people of this type. On top of that, this job pays well.
Artist. This profession requires complete detachment from the outside world, the ability to fantasize and see beauty in everyday things. Most artists are introverts by nature.
Economist. Like a programmer, a representative of this profession is completely immersed in his work and must be able to concentrate in order to get results.
Laboratory assistant. There is no need to communicate with people here. Test tubes, beakers and chemical reagents will keep a true introvert company. It’s always interesting to know the results of a study.
Vet. Animals are not afraid of introverts, as they understand and sympathize with them.
Supervisor. It may seem that an extrovert feels most comfortable in a boss’s chair. But often people of this type suppress their subordinates too much due to their active nature. The sensitivity and good manners of introverts allow them to treat employees with care.

Choose what you like

You need to learn to live the way you yourself want, and not the way it is accepted in society. Don't be afraid to turn down meetings if you're not interested. Do you like spending holidays at home more than going to a restaurant with a crowd? So celebrate them at home. You need to be able to live for yourself, and not for the world around you, so that you don’t have to look for how to recover after a noisy company. Choose a job where you don't need to interact with other people often, this will give you more strength to develop.

Introvert in relationships

Despite their need to be alone, introverts are not hermits.
They willingly arrange their personal lives, fall in love, and start families. What is it like living with an introvert? No more difficult than with any person of a different character. In any relationship, we find common ground with our soulmate. Somewhere they are meeting us halfway, and somewhere we are. Interaction in a couple is always based on the postulates of mutual understanding and compromise. It is these moments that will be the key to a long and truly close relationship.

Important

Remember that an introvert sometimes needs to be alone. Learn to respect his personal space!. When paired with different types of character, disputes may arise about how to spend your leisure time.

An extrovert will prefer going to a concert or a noisy party, an introvert will suggest staying at home and watching a movie. To ensure that no one feels left out, you can kill two birds with one stone: invite your friends for a picnic. Being in nature has a beneficial effect on calm and contemplative people, and an extrovert will enjoy company and fiddling with the grill

When paired with different types of character, disputes may arise about how to spend your leisure time. An extrovert will prefer going to a concert or a noisy party, an introvert will suggest staying at home and watching a movie. To ensure that no one feels left out, you can kill two birds with one stone: invite your friends for a picnic. Being in nature has a beneficial effect on calm and contemplative people, and an extrovert will enjoy company and fiddling with the grill.

Happiness in a couple is based not on character types, but on the attitude of people towards each other. If love and mutual understanding reign between them, then no differences will become an obstacle.

Signs of an introvert.

Feels loneliness even among people;
Avoids crowds of people, noisy companies;
Not in a hurry to make new acquaintances;
If he becomes attached to a person, then for a long time;
Knows how to make friends, is distinguished by loyalty;
Inclined to introspection and philosophical reflection;
Prefers to listen rather than talk;
Likes to fantasize;
Carefully plans his actions in advance;
Patient, knows how to control emotions;
He is observant and attentive to details;
“Holds” grievances and unpleasant memories for a long time.

If the test results coincide with most of the listed signs, then we can say that the person is an introvert.

Cons of being an extrovert

Recklessness

People with an extroverted psychotype do not tend to think about their actions for a long time. They do not like to plan and try to do everything at once, they live for today. As a rule, extroverts are decisive and proactive, so they take on any task without thinking about the consequences. This is due to reasons such as:

fear of missing out on a good moment;
fear of appearing useless;
escape from boredom and routine;
the desire to be the best, to achieve success and approval.

Sometimes impulsiveness brings benefits to an extrovert, but more often it pushes him to rash actions with undesirable consequences. Due to his innate gambling, he always takes risks, overestimating his own chances, and can get into a fight and drag his company into it. He also often spends money thoughtlessly, in seconds he uses up resources that he has been accumulating for a long time.

Poor self-control

To understand who an extrovert is, you can imagine a chatty cartoon character from whom emotions are in full swing (the horse Julius from “Three Knights” or Donkey from “Shrek” will do). He rejoices even in small successes and does not hide his anger, fear, jealousy and other emotions. When angry, he can break or break something, without thinking about the consequences and the fact that he will scare others.

In a fit of joy, an extrovert can hug a stranger, which not everyone will like either.

It is important to him that everyone knows how he feels now. Therefore, he will try to make this information publicly available (for example, by playing loud music to suit his mood)

Impermanence

An extrovert strives for change all the time. It’s as if he is constantly in search of an ideal, changing such elements as:

appearance and style
(dyes hair, changes hairstyle, tries new styles of clothing, experiments with tattoos and piercings);
furnishings
(often rearranges furniture, refreshes the design, makes minor repairs, reorganizes the workspace);
favorite activity
(often changes hobbies and jobs, quits halfway through);
people
(continuously expands his social circle, loses interest in old friends, finds new ones).

The fickleness of an extrovert negatively affects his relationships with loved ones. He always has a lot of friends, he often becomes the “soul” of the company, but he usually does not have truly close friends.

Acceptance of child typology

The typology should be taken as the child's appearance. It's not always easy to accept a child for who he is.

It is very important to understand your child's temperament in non-negative terms. Each temperament has both strengths and weaknesses

It cannot be said that one type is better than another, that an introvert is better than an extrovert. These are different people, they perceive the world differently, and they have different driving advantages.

For example, a child gets up early in the morning, excitable - in other words, a lark. A label is attached to him - “fascist”, because... does not allow parents to sleep. Often some inconvenient or poorly understood character quality receives a negative name, while a normal neutral quality receives a specific negative coloring. And the self-awareness and self-esteem of a small child is built from the outside in. “Mom says I’m a fool, so I’m a fool. A smart boy means I’m a smart boy.”

The child thinks about himself the way we talk about him: us, Marya Ivanovna in kindergarten and a couple of friends. And only at a later age can he come to his senses and say: “She’s a fool herself.” The little one will listen to everything, absorb everything, and build his self-esteem.

Temperament can be accepted, and everyone will benefit from it, because you will understand what it is and how you can use it, where your strengths are.

Or you may not accept it. And since it cannot be put anywhere, the child or adult will become neurotic, and the efficiency will be less. It's like spitting against the wind, swimming against the current. The quality of temperament can be used as a driving force. And fighting this is as useless as fighting the wind.

Back to Basics

Now you can find a wide variety of tests that allow you to determine what type of personality you are.

In fact, such psychological concepts as extraversion and introversion in the generally accepted variation have been simplified: the extrovert is sociable and active, the introvert is closed and thoughtful. However, everything is not so simple. In regaining lost meaning, these two personality types predominantly manifest themselves as follows:

Extrovert Introvert In communication: easily finds a common language with others; loves noisy events; tries to take a leading position; is interested in the lives of celebrities; knows a lot of jokes; depends on other people's opinions. selective; shy; silent; prefers quiet places; observes more than attracts attention; may have his own view of things, sometimes going against the generally accepted. In emotions: emotional; impulsive; expressive. restrained; controls emotions; compromise. In the worldview: practitioner; recognizes socially accepted trends; actively promotes what he believes in. philosopher; interested in spiritual issues and practices; does not impose his views on others. In the type of occupation he chooses the following areas: social; practical. scientific; technical;

It should be noted that not all of the listed characteristics are characteristic of every extrovert or introvert, especially since each of them has its own scale of manifestation. Depending on your upbringing, an extrovert can be either pleasant or unbearable.

The same is true for an introvert. However, a single characteristic of these psychotypes can be summarized as follows: a person who wants to communicate and is oriented towards socially accepted norms is an extrovert. A person who carefully chooses his friends and for whom his inner feelings are more important than external values is an introvert.

What is shyness?

This is a condition that is inherent in people who lack self-confidence. This feeling manifests itself as inertia, excessive silence, and stiffness in movements.

At first glance, shy people don’t have many problems. In fact, there are much more of them. The first reason is related to the problem of socialization. Today, the main criterion for a person to be noticed is self-presentation. But not all people can overcome the feeling of shyness and self-doubt. This problem is especially acute for introverts who cannot fully demonstrate their true abilities.

Different psychologists have their own explanations for the causes of shyness. Of course, each of them offers its own solution to this problem. The tips below will help shy people figure out the reason for this feeling.

Hobbies

Since extroverts vitally need social interaction, their hobbies are social and sociable: going to a cafe, team sports, going to a bowling alley or club, etc. The more people there are, the better the extrovert feels. Another feature regarding hobbies and hobbies is that an extrovert often changes them and is superficially interested in something.

For an introvert, the best time to relax alone is reading a book, drawing, walking, playing a musical instrument. Introverts are deeply interested in something, try to get to the bottom of it, and study the issue comprehensively. They are not fans of noisy parties and companies.

Is it difficult to be an introvert?

In medicine and psychiatry, the diagnosis “introvert” does not exist. This is not a disease or a deviation. These are individual character traits that can become the key to the world of success.

By correctly using their characteristics, an introvert can achieve a lot. While fussy extroverted colleagues are busy drinking tea, an introvert clearly formulates his goal and confidently moves towards it.

Failures will cause an extrovert a whole emotional storm, powerlessness and a desire to retreat. An introvert in such a situation will retreat, analyze the reasons for failure, adjust tactics and persistently make the next attempt.

The secret of any success is a detailed study of your strengths and weaknesses and the ability to use them. Choose a job that suits your liking, using knowledge about the characteristics of your character type. Spend your leisure time in such a way that it helps you to switch over after work as much as possible and fills you with energy.

Know how to come to an agreement with yourself

Once you have set a goal, set certain rules for yourself. For example, if you are planning to organize a personal business, once a week or two, attend various seminars or other events where you make useful contacts. This will not only help you achieve your goal faster, but will also completely remove the feeling of guilt that may arise when you stay at home. The main thing is not to violate your own conditions and strictly follow your plans.

How to make friends with an introvert: communication features

As stated above, introverts do not like inattentive and at the same time overly curious interlocutors. Therefore, before you start communicating with them, you need to get to know their character better.

Beginning Friendships with Introverts: Find Out Who He Is

Introverted people are divided into four groups:

Thinking type. The phrases “I think” or “It seems to me” are often used in conversation. Answer questions after careful consideration. They can conduct a conversation on absolutely any topic. But they prefer something deep and intellectual. An introvert is not interested in discussing who came to work and in what clothes today. They find such conversations boring.
Feeling type. In a conversation, they often mention feelings and sensations, thereby connecting their words and emotions. Such people are able to show compassion, worry and sympathize. They can talk about their experiences, but they will do this only after they see that the interlocutor is not callous.
Sensing introverts. They are also called human detectors. Introverts with this type of personality notice everything around them, including smells, colors, light breezes, touch and much more. Bad taste, lack of style, bright colors and unpleasant odors are alien to them. Therefore, a person of this type is unlikely to meet untidy people halfway.
Intuitive introvert. Loves mysticism and everything connected with it. What is happening around connects with fate and predestination. For such people, spiritual needs often come before physical ones. Therefore, they forget to eat or do not sleep for a long time. The main requirement of intuitive introverts for their interlocutor is not to deceive. This is especially true for those who do not accept their views.

Interestingly, psychologists have now identified another type of people - ambiverts. They combine the qualities of introverts and extroverts. To communicate with them, you need to find out which character type comes first.

Advantages and disadvantages

Introverts and extroverts have their own shortcomings, which sometimes complicate their lives.

Advantages and disadvantages of an introvert

Pros:

Such a person is independent from others, he is comfortable in his own company.
Spending a lot of time alone, he educates himself. Therefore, introverts are very smart and well-read.

But the coin also has a downside:

It is difficult for an introvert to make new acquaintances or make friends. Useful acquaintances are an important part of life.
It’s hard to change jobs, go to courses, clubs and sections.
He prefers communication via messenger to a phone call. If you need to consult or make an appointment, it is better for an introvert to do this on the website.

Advantages and disadvantages of an extrovert

It would seem, what are the disadvantages of cheerful and sociable people?

Pros of being an extrovert:

It's easy to meet someone. This makes both personal and business life easier.
Easily fits into a new team.
Fearlessly speaks in public.

Minuses:

Can't stand loneliness, needs constant contact.
In pursuit of communication, he gets involved in adventures and is frivolous.

Types of introverts

Introverts are different too. Modern psychology divides them into two types:

Sensory. The main thing for such an introvert is achieving results. Values accuracy and order, is neat, collected, operates with numbers and facts, and strictly follows the rules. Despite his introversion, he is not a dreamer. He copes with problems on his own, without anyone’s help.
Intuitive. The main thing for a person of this type is events, dreams about the future. He is inquisitive, can regularly change areas of activity, and is torn by contradictions. This introvert is easy to talk to. He's bored of fiddling around with little things, he'd rather take on something global.

Each type, in turn, can be divided into subtypes:

Logical-sensory. Such a person is used to thinking logically and looks at things soberly. Prefers professions where discipline is required, for example in law enforcement agencies. A careerist and a fan of order.
Logical-intuitive. This introvert has the ability to analyze and systematize knowledge. I am used to defending my opinion to the end. He is friendly, responsive and trusting. At first he appears unemotional and withdrawn, but he is simply conserving energy. Will not do work if he is not interested. Such a person is not recommended to work under an authoritarian boss.
Ethical-sensory. An introvert of this type is very emotional, accustomed to experiencing the world through beauty. He is a contemplator, a dreamer and an idealist. Appreciates beauty in art, music, loves beautiful clothes, delicious food. Such a person is sociable and loves to be in the thick of things, capable of becoming the life of the party. He easily senses the mood of his interlocutor, reacts sharply to hostility, suspicion and mistrust. Regularly improves his skills and knowledge.
Ethical-intuitive. Such a person is prone to emotional outbursts and tries to make the world a better place. Has a habit of acting impulsively, guided only by feelings. This person attracts you with his charm. He is drawn to art, is not deprived of a sense of beauty, and understands jokes. But after any activity, he needs long-term solitude to replenish the expended energy and mental strength.

How to recognize an extrovert

The first thing that catches your eye is that an extrovert always strives to attract maximum attention to himself. He is active and mobile, constantly gestures, speaks confidently, laughs often, and communicates with unfamiliar people as if he has known them for many years. He is also quite hasty, but from the outside he looks energetic and cheerful. Despite the desire to please everyone, an extrovert can appear careless because he often gets ready in a hurry.

You can recognize an extrovert by such characteristic features as:

active facial expressions and gestures;
loud and emotional speech;
the desire to joke and flirt with unfamiliar people;
constant need for communication;
ambition, activity, initiative;
the need to feel indispensable;
straightforwardness, sincerity, naivety;
emotionality, expressiveness;
love of improvisation, inability to plan time.

Dynamics is important for an extrovert, so he constantly strives for change. He constantly generates innovative ideas, which he immediately tries to bring to life, despite the frequent lack of logic and meaning in them. The ability to go ahead usually bears fruit, and the lives of extroverts are almost always successful in all areas.

How to communicate with an introvert

Due to their special type of thinking, it is necessary to find your own approach to introverts. First of all, it should be remembered that an introvert is extremely jealous of his personal space. He is not ready to let everyone in there. Earning the trust of an introvert is a long and thorny path. But the result of such efforts will exceed all expectations, because introverts are faithful and reliable life partners.

Secondly, it is advisable to choose words and respect the inner world of an introvert. They remember grievances for a long time, and if they are “touched to the quick,” then the matter will not end with just “I’m sorry.”

Thirdly, introverts do not like turmoil and crowds of people; it makes no sense to drag them to noisy parties, rallies and mass celebrations. If you are planning a meeting with an introvert, it is better to invite him to nature, to a visit or a quiet secluded place, somewhere in a cozy establishment.

These are tips for communicating with introverts. What to do if you yourself are prone to introversion?

How to tell if you're an introvert

The definition of introversion is simple, listen to yourself. Some signs clearly indicate that you have this particular, calm and passive personality type.

You prefer to spend time at home, surrounded by familiar furnishings.
Having to talk to a stranger or ask someone for help makes you feel stunned and almost have a panic attack.
You are extremely reluctant to respond to invitations to visit even very old friends. If possible, find things to do that prevent you from accepting such invitations.
You like to think and fantasize a lot. You can easily not say a word all day. At the same time you feel great.

In addition, you can do a deep DNA analysis. It will help reveal your tendency towards self-knowledge and your ability to generate energy internally. Any sign will indicate your introversion. By the way, personality type is not inherited, and two extroverted parents may well have an introverted child, as well as vice versa.