Have you been thinking for ten minutes about what you can write to the girl you like on VKontakte?
Well, by visiting this page you have made the right choice!
In this guide, I will give you 100 practical examples of text messages that you can send to the girl of your dreams through VK or any other messaging platform.
First, let me start by saying that you shouldn't feel stupid for not knowing how to talk to a girl.
This is actually a very common problem, especially when you really like her.
It's normal to be afraid of making mistakes.
Unfortunately, in our digital age, knowing what to say to a girl in a chat is very important in the very early stages of dating.
Nowadays, most interactions happen through social media.
I will give practical examples of phrases and messages that will help you understand how to conduct a conversation with a girl on VKontakte.
I'll start with the very first message and then move on to more complex ones, for example, how to ask her out on a date.
I've simplified this guide by breaking it down into more manageable topics:
- First message (start of conversation).
- The best questions to ask.
- Questions to get to know her better.
- Flirting.
- Romantic messages.
- Friendly messages.
- Serious messages.
Ready to get started?
Go!
Feel free to copy and paste phrases from these lists that suit your situation.
First message (start of conversation)
The first message is always the most difficult.
You won't have a second chance to make a first impression, and you'll be afraid of making a mistake, saying something stupid and not getting an answer. serious stress.
I always say: never miss an opportunity, be brave and take action.
In this section, I have collected 15 questions that you can ask a girl in private messages to start a conversation.
I have personally tested these questions and know that they work 100%.
These phrases should be the second sentence in your message.
It is better to start any conversation with a greeting and her name. For example, " Hi Natalie ."
Ready to get started?
Fine.
1. What's the best thing that happened to you today?
This is a very good alternative to the question “ how are you?” ” and immediately sets a positive tone for the conversation.
2. What is the scariest situation you have ever faced?
Each of us has had a situation that scared us to the point of trembling in our knees.
This is a good opportunity to share your experience, hear her story, and start a longer conversation.
3. What oddity do you find attractive in a person?
This question may seem intrusive at first, but it is not.
In fact, many girls find it funny.
4. What was your favorite show growing up?
This is an easy way to move into a positive conversation and find common ground with her.
5. If you could trade lives with any celebrity, who would it be?
This will actually allow you to ask a few follow-up questions that will keep her engaged in the conversation.
Here are some examples: Would you feel comfortable being followed by paparazzi?
What would you do with all the money?
There are many approaches that can be taken on this topic.
6. What would be the first thing you would do if you won the lottery?
This question can lead you into a lengthy conversation, while at the same time revealing many of her interests.
7. What are your favorite songs?
You may find that there are things that you both like.
8. Did you go to any clubs after school?
Participation in extracurricular activities may have common interests.
9. If you could live in any other country in the world, which one would you choose?
This gives you an idea of where she sees herself in the future, her current interests, and allows you to ask some interesting questions such as: Japan and its food?
Italy with its art?
Australia because there are kangaroos there?
10. Do you have a favorite place where you like to have lunch?
Here you really need to pay attention to her answer, because when you ask her out on a date, you will no longer have doubts about choosing a restaurant.
11. What's the most extreme thing you've ever eaten?
This is an intriguing question that can start a longer conversation, especially if you two have something to share.
You'll have the opportunity to ask additional questions, including about the taste, why she had to eat it, and whether she would do it again.
12. How often do you try something new?
Actively seek out any new and exciting experiences that help her grow.
13. What is the maximum distance your paper airplane has flown?
This question is needed to make her laugh first.
If the girl reacted positively to your question, then you are on the right track.
Invite her to a paper airplane race where each participant will receive a tub of ice cream.
The loser gets coffee.
This is a fun game that will give your dating a playful tone and allow you to set up a real meeting with her.
14. What is the best thing in a woman's life?
This allows you to unintentionally introduce sex into your conversation.
15. Do you know any songs by heart?
This will allow you to better understand her musical tastes without being too pushy.
Step-by-step instructions: how to meet a girl on the Internet?
Think about the appearance of your profile
1. Photo (avatar). Girls, like men, first of all pay attention to appearance when meeting someone. You should correct the situation if instead of your photos you have some football player. Your photograph must be of good quality, so it is best to seek the services of a professional photographer who can highlight your strengths.
2. “About myself.” In the “About Me” column you don’t need to describe your entire life from kindergarten to the present day. It is better to indicate information about preferences in music, cinema, etc. Remember that brevity is the sister of talent. You can discuss more detailed details in private messages.
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3. Communities. You will not be in the best light if a girl clicks on your profile, interested in a photo, and in groups she sees some kind of bacchanalia in the form of porn and stupid humor.
4. Albums. It is no longer relevant to create ten albums with the names: “My friend”, “I’m in Turkey”, “Zhenya’s Wedding”, etc. It is better if there are few photographs, but they will all be of high quality and interesting.
5. Wall. The times when people communicated not in private messages, but on the “wall” are gone, so I advise you to clean it of old posts, irrelevant competitions and similar unnecessary information.
So, after the profile is prepared, you can proceed to the next step.
The best questions to ask the girl you like
These are questions that can make a girl think for a long time.
Don't be afraid if she doesn't answer you right away.
16. What is the most pleasant thing you remember from your life?
Did she really eat a container of ice cream herself?
Or when she ran through the wheat field?
Let her tell you in vivid colors how it happened.
17. Do you have a secret passion that no one knows about?
This could be a good discovery that will help her pursue some of her hobbies.
18. Do you prefer to have lunch with friends or with a guy?
As soon as you get an answer to your question, immediately invite her to dinner with friends or alone with you.
19. What is the strangest situation you have found yourself in?
I hope she didn't see her parents having sex.
I'm kidding, of course, but it's a good question to start a long conversation with.
20. Do you have a place where you usually go for inspiration? Why exactly there?
If the girl you like likes to travel, hike, or just take long walks, this question will give you a topic for a long conversation.
21. What's your favorite seasoning?
So you’ll quickly find out if she’s pouring ketchup and mayonnaise on everything.
22. Do you have a story you like to tell the most?
We all have a story or two that has left a very positive imprint on our minds, or perhaps a funny anecdote to share.
Let her tell you one of these stories, and then you can share yours.
23. What did she not manage to do that she now regrets?
There are many things that could end up on this list, including not seeing the eclipse, not seeing the Northern Lights, or not going to Paris.
Try to take part in her answers and convince her that everything is still possible.
24. What was the last book you really liked?
This is a very good way to find out if you have similar literary tastes.
Even if you don't like to read, audiobooks are a great alternative to printed publications.
I myself always listen to audiobooks when I'm driving in the car.
25. If you had to choose, which one of the five senses would you give up?
You can discuss each of the five senses separately, which will lead to a longer conversation.
26. What do you consider your greatest achievement to date? What would you like to be the biggest achievement of your life?
You can also take a moment to ask her what she is most proud of.
One of the keys to keeping a girl interested and building a good relationship is to support her interests and goals.
By helping her and motivating her to achieve her goals, you become a valuable part of her life.
27. What's in your purse now?
I am a supporter of the fact that a man should not reach into a woman’s purse.
But such a question can take her by surprise, surprise her and lift her spirits.
And you can learn some secrets of her daily life.
28. Where and when did you see the most beautiful sunset?
Watching the sunset or sunrise. This is a unique experience that can be remembered for a lifetime.
Besides, it's very romantic, girls like it.
29. What's the worst place you've ever been?
For example, an airport when your flight is delayed or cancelled.
Ask her what situations can drive her crazy.
What to ask to get to know her better
Have you gone through the dating stage and realized that you are ready to get to know her a little better?
Are you interested in learning about her hobbies and interests?
If you managed to break the ice, then it is now important to maintain an interesting conversation.
I have compiled a list of targeted questions that will help you with this.
30. What profession or job is closest to your spirit?
If she volunteers or dedicates her time to something she feels is important, maybe you can do it together.
The good thing about this strategy is that you can help someone, meet new people, and appear caring and compassionate at the same time.
31. Are there any circumstances in which you feel very shy?
If you remember this information, then during personal meetings you will try to make sure that she feels comfortable with you and does not have to be shy.
The girl will appreciate it.
32. What special talent or skill would you like to have?
Learning something new can be both challenging and overwhelming, but everything becomes much easier if someone helps you persevere.
Show that you are ready to help her with this.
33. Which member of your family do you most admire and why?
This is a good question to get to know better, both about her family life and childhood.
34. What is your talent?
We can assume that there is at least one thing that she is proud of.
Give her the opportunity to demonstrate this.
35. What made you choose this university (which she attends)?
This conversation can go in several directions, but can give you an idea of her general interests.
36. What's the most unexpected or traumatic thing that happened to you on a date?
Surely she, like you, has her own dating history.
And it's always nice to look back and laugh at what happened.
37. Do your family honor traditions?
This is a question that will help you touch her home life without feeling like an aggressor.
38. Did someone predict your future for you? If so, what did they tell you? Do you believe in psychics?
Regardless of what you think about fortune tellers or tarot cards, they can be very interesting if you don't take them too seriously.
This could also be a chance to ask her out.
39. What event as a teenager embarrassed you?
It's better to tell some stories from these formative years of your life.
Surely there were many “ shameful ” stories that you can now laugh at.
40. What is the best gift you have ever received?
This is a casual way to find out what she likes best as gifts. impressions or material goods.
41. If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?
Improving yourself. the key to becoming a better person.
If she's always looking for ways to improve herself, stick with her.
42. Who was your best friend in elementary school?
We change as we grow, and it's interesting to see the different paths we've taken.
Ask her to tell you not only who her best friend was, but some of the misdeeds they committed.
43. Do you listen to the advice of your friends?
Some people genuinely learn from their mistakes, while others prefer to follow the advice they receive.
Using this question, try to find out what type she belongs to.
44. Why do your friends value you? What is your role in the company?
This question is to understand how she fits into the company.
Is she lonely?
Is she the leader of the group?
Is she funny?
Ask her these questions.
45. Did you follow any particular fashion trends when you were younger?
Bringing some nostalgia into the conversation. A great way to connect and bond.
46. What do you think is hiding in the dark?
This is a burning question because darkness hides our deepest fears.
Find out what monsters haunt her at night.
Sometimes monsters aren't really monsters at all.
47. What is your worst habit?
Be sure to share yours too, be a little self-critical.
This is fine.
48. What would surprise your parents if they learned something about you?
Another great question to make the conversation more sexy and hot.
49. What do you think is the strangest problem?
Asking her about her own problems is an ironic way that helps her open up and talk more openly with you about herself.
50. Do you talk about me to other people? What exactly?
Women tell their friends everything, especially about the guys they chat with on VKontakte.
51. Do you have nightmares? What happened in them?
This is a great opportunity to turn a serious topic into a joke.
If you can make her laugh at such moments, then you are on the path to success.
Flirt in messages
No matter how nervous you may be, it's time to start flirting with the girl you like.
Pay special attention to the topics you choose.
If you play this situation well now, the conversation may take a more heated turn.
Here are some great topics for flirting with a girl on VKontakte.
52. What is your guilty pleasure?
This is one of my favorite questions.
He makes the girl think about how to answer.
In fact, if she can't answer you right away, don't rush it.
Give her time to think, don't pressure her by asking additional questions.
53. When was the last time you stayed up all night?
Each of us has been up all night at some point in our lives.
Let her tell you about this experience, and if you're not at a loss, you can steer the conversation toward something more intimate.
54. If I asked you to dress sexy, what would it be?
Most girls are so vain that they want to talk about themselves all the time.
Talking about your outfits and clothes will make her feel more comfortable.
55. What do you look for first when meeting a guy?
This will help you understand what attracts her both physically and intellectually.
56. How would you define a good sexual relationship?
My definition:
a relationship with regular communication, a mutual desire to please the other person, and openness.
If this is not the case, problems will definitely arise.
If you tell her this, she will fall in love with you.
57. Would you stay with me if you found out that I have a criminal record?
Many girls love bad boys.
They are excited by the thought of danger.
58. Can you describe your idea of a perfect night together?
Take notes here.
In the future, you will be able to organize this evening exactly as she described it.
59. When did you lose your virginity? How did it happen?
Your first time. this is something special.
It's okay to look back on it with some fondness and talk about it with other people.
There is nothing wrong with this conversation, even if the experience was not the best.
60. What do you dream about?
Do you have a special fantasy that you want to bring to life?
61. What would you do first if you found yourself in a man's body for the whole day?
Most likely, her answer will be something like: “I’ll draw a helicopter with my penis. Isn’t that what all guys wish for every morning in front of the mirror?”
62. If you became a ghost for just one day, what would be the first thing you would do?
Essentially, this question has more to do with the gift of invisibility.
Ask her to tell you what she would do if she were invisible during the day.
How to start a correspondence or procedure
It’s even easier to choose phrases for meeting a girl on VKontakte or another social network.
Here, in addition to photographs, you can see various details from the girl’s life: where she studies (studied), where she works, how many friends she has, what kind of music she likes, what she posts on her wall.
Let's briefly describe your procedure:
- Study her profile.
- Change your profile a little (set your status to her favorite music; subscribe to groups in which she takes part; clean out the archive of your photos).
- Comment on your favorite photos of her.
- Send her a private message.
- Invite her to add you as a friend.
A personal message should be personal. A template is the last thing you should count on.
What to write to a girl on VK? Get her interested, ask her for something small. For example, a girl is interested in English - you ask her to help translate some phrase.
She is interested in fitness - ask which gym is best to go to.
If you’re really too lazy to come up with something, use the blanks.
For example:
- “I noticed that you, like me, spend a lot of time on VKontakte. Maybe we’d better go for a walk somewhere”
- “You're a cool girl! I'm a guy too! If you want, I’ll prove it”
Romantic questions
Here's a secret everyone knows: girls like romantic guys.
But there is a fine line with sentimentality that should not be crossed.
To avoid this mistake, I have prepared a few questions that will help you navigate this conversation with the girl you like.
63. How important is marriage to you?
As soon as she answers, you can immediately ask related questions, for example, about children, husband, pets, home.
64. What do you like most about me?
If she keeps up a conversation with you, it means there is something about you that she likes.
There's nothing wrong with asking her about it.
65. What can I do to make you believe that I really like you?
Pay close attention to her response and remember to sincerely praise her for her honesty.
66. Is there anything you want to tell me, but you don’t dare?
You can ease some of the awkwardness by being the first to share your thoughts.
67. Do you think you still have feelings for someone from your past?
Honestly, you will never forget your first love.
Don't be jealous if she says yes.
Discuss this with her.
This is actually a great start to a deep conversation.
68. What do you like about me?
At first she will think that you are a little naive, but gradually this will develop into deeper feelings.
69. If you could change anything about me, what would it be?
You must remember not to take the answer personally.
If she shows honesty, you should be grateful for it because you can become a better person.
70. How do you understand the word “love”?
Be in love. means to live.
This is a little advice so you can answer if you can't think of anything else.
71. Is there something you don’t know about me, but would like to know?
Most likely, she wanted to ask you something, but was very nervous to do it.
Open up to her now and answer the questions honestly.
72. If you are sad or angry, how would you like to be treated? More specifically, what makes you feel like you care about yourself?
This is where you can impress her by really focusing on her emotions.
73. What are the most romantic dates? Which ones are sexy?
Everyone has their own idea of romance.
For some, it's going to a sex shop and looking for new toys.
Plus, I heard that a strip club can get you in the mood for the whole night. Do you like this kind of stuff?
74. What gourmet dish have you always wanted to try? What homemade food do you love?
Surprise her with a fancy candlelit dinner.
75. Do you believe in marriage? Or do you prefer to just stay in a serious relationship?
How to meet people in real life
For many guys, dating offline is a little more difficult, but in the process of live communication you can see a real girl, and not her processed photo from 10 years ago. To be successful with the person you like, when meeting on the street, follow these recommendations:
- act and speak boldly, but not intrusively;
- be sure to give appropriate compliments;
- always take care of your appearance: clean clothes and a well-groomed appearance will help not only make a good impression, but also feel more confident.
You can treat the girl you like to ice cream or a milkshake in a cafe
Funny questions
If I've learned anything in my life, it's that the way to a woman's heart is through her laughter.
You don't have to be handsome like Brad Pitt.
You can be ugly like Chewbacca, you just need to make her laugh.
This is great advice, but how to do it?
Just start sending her sweet messages that can cheer her up, like some of these:
76. What is your favorite video or GIF that always makes you laugh?
She may have already shown you some of her favorites.
77. What's your favorite joke?
It may look stupid, but she will still smile.
78. What is the cutest/shocking/weirdest message you've ever received?
If she took a screenshot, ask to show it to you.
79. What is the best photo of yourself in which you like yourself?
This is a reason to compliment her once again.
80. What's the worst message you've sent by mistake?
Each of us once made a mistake and sent something completely wrong.
Don't miss the opportunity to tease her tastefully.
81. What would you really like to buy right now?
Start this discussion as a playful hypothesis, but try to remember her wishes so that in the future, when you start dating, you know what to get her.
82. What's the coolest thing you want to buy online?
For example, there is an inflatable Donald Trump doll.
Imagine how you would use it.
83. What stupid flirting phrases do you know?
Give phrases from your bad experiences with girls.
You will probably laugh at them.
Mission Complete.
84. What weird/useless talent do you have?
We all have talents, some very useful and others completely useless.
Basic rules of online dating
Let's start, perhaps, with what, without which all your further actions will be meaningless - with the rules and fundamentals of behavior on the Internet.
You can use these rules on social networks, on dating sites and on any other resources where you plan to make acquaintances.
Be well mannered
You simply do not have the right to be vulgar and rude. Forget it will not give you points in the eyes of the lady. At best, she will simply think that she is dealing with a gopnik, at worst, with an unbalanced pervert.
Serious questions
Besides being funny and cute, show her that you can be a very deep and serious person.
This will interest the girl.
I can help you with some interesting topics that you can use during longer conversations.
85. What unreal thing do you really want?
Some examples may be the most unexpected.
86. What smell brings back good memories for you?
Perfumes and other scents can take us back to the past.
What are your favorite scents from the past?
87. What do you do best?
Chances are she will have some special skills and will appreciate your interest in them.
88. What excites you?
For some it's crowds or absolute silence, but we all have something that makes us uncomfortable.
Ask her what you can do to help her feel more comfortable when she's feeling nervous.
89. Are there needs in your life that have not been met? Is there anything I can help you with?
Each of us has different needs.
Help her with something she really needs.
If she likes you, she will want to reciprocate your feelings.
Just don't be intrusive.
So far I've shown you questions to ask a girl you just like.
But what if you're already dating?
I've been thinking about this a lot too, so I decided to pick out a few questions you can ask to keep the conversation going with your girlfriend.
Well, as usual, you can copy and paste them into personal messages on VKontakte.
90. If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?
If she can change something about herself, offer your help in drawing up a plan and putting it into action.
91. When you were growing up, with whom did you have a closer relationship? with mom or dad?
Our parents always have a favorite child, so we can also have a favorite parent.
92. Who do you trust the most?
This could reveal who her best friend is.
93. Have you ever left a guy you still love?
In many cases, we have to leave a relationship because it is unhealthy.
Be as friendly as possible and hope she doesn't do the same to you.
94. When was the last time you were truly disappointed by something?
Have you been in a bad mood lately? Has the moment passed or is there anything else I can do to help?
95. When was the last time you couldn’t cope with something?
Be understanding and work hard to find the positive aspect of the story.
96. What always makes you smile?
Something constant that always brightens up your day.
97. If you could change jobs right now without worrying about money, what would you like to do?
It doesn't have to be some crazy change.
You can always stay at your job and devote some of your free time to your hobbies.
For example, I do this with my blog.
98. Which of your past relationships made you happiest? Why did they end?
Many argue that talking about exes. bad idea.
I disagree.
You can learn a lot from these guys that will help you avoid mistakes in the future.
99. Have you ever forgiven yourself for bad things you did?
Each of us has done something we regret.
We must forgive ourselves if we want to move on and lead a happier life.
100. What is your ideal intimate relationship? How often do you want to have sex?
Let her know your needs and you'll find a middle ground that you can both agree on.
Bonus: Starting a conversation with the girl you like on VKontakte
Over several years of practice, I discovered that there are common fears for all guys who are trying to start communication with the girl they like.
You feel scared because of the unknown, you don't know how to manage the situation, you're afraid of being abandoned, or you don't know what to say.
That's why I decided to give you these 4 tips as a bonus:
Tip #1: Relax
If she answers you, it means she likes you.
Negative thoughts will easily push away good luck.
Instead, allow everything to happen naturally.
Tip #2: Listen
Pay attention and don't forget what she says.
Girls love to talk about their feelings, how they spent their day, and so on.
If you really like her, then she deserves your full attention.
Tip #3: Ask the right questions
I may have already given you a virtually endless list of questions, but you need to dig a little deeper.
Show her that you are really listening to her and that you are interested in what she writes.
What to do next after meeting
We do not recommend delaying virtual communication for a long time, since the longer it lasts, the less likely it is that it will develop into real communication. A girl can meet ten more guys, which means the competition will intensify. And you yourself may get tired of communication, and what to do next will no longer matter.
After 2-3 days, provided that you like the girl, make an appointment: invite her to a cafe or just take a walk and eat an ice cream or two if the weather is good outside.
