A big nuance, of course, will be the age of both yours and the new companion. It is better if it is approximately the same, plus or minus 5 years. Then you will be able to communicate on approximately equal terms. This will help you avoid many awkward moments, make it easier to even approach your partner and smooth out age-related errors.
The next nuance indicating how to behave with a partner at the beginning of a relationship can be called a social difference. We are, of course, talking about the position in society that you or your partner occupy.
If they are equal, then there are no barriers to communication, and if there are, then the one with a higher status may have arrogance, pride and other nuances that are not very easy to communicate. If all this does not scare you, then it is worth considering other communication factors.
First mistake: commercialism
All men are sure that girls only need money from them. But this stereotype did not arise out of nowhere - the women themselves created it with their arrogance and short-sightedness. It just so happened historically and evolutionarily that it is normal for a woman to choose a partner not according to some external data, but according to his success and prospects.
That is, even in our century, women choose the healthiest, strongest and most successful “male” so that he can provide them and their children with a reliable future. There is nothing bad or criminal about this, it just needs to be accepted as a fact.
But the girls make a mistake at this point. They do not understand that they can not use a person for their own benefit, but give him support and earn it. Girls openly declare that they need gifts, travel and attention. But for some reason they don’t understand that if they charm a man, they will get the same without asking.
Only in addition they will still be loved and extolled. All they need to do is love and praise the man in return. Girls should not be told that they are only interested in the material side of the relationship. Nobody owes them anything, even though they are sure of the opposite. This is what pushes men away from them.
We will talk about how to behave at the beginning of a relationship in order to preserve it for a long time in the next article.
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For many people, fear is an integral part of relationships. We are afraid that our lover will have an affair on the side, will deceive us, that years of relationship with him will not lead to a happy marriage. Most of these experiences are never spoken out by people, but remain a secret that can haunt people for a long time.
Due to emotionality and sensitivity, fears appear more often in women than in men. They experience them quite painfully, but they do not want to admit their problems, preferring to deal with them on their own. The most common fears of the fair sex are the following.
She won't be able to please his parents.
The opinion of the family plays an important role for us, because these are the people who have the greatest authority in our eyes. The disapproval of a man's parents can greatly affect his attitude towards a woman and become a reason for breaking off a romantic relationship.
In order for relationships with his family to develop successfully, it is necessary to communicate with its members politely and tactfully, and most importantly - to love and respect the man. Usually when parents see that their child is happy, they do not want to interfere with this.
He will decide that she is a bad housewife
Traditionally, the role of a woman in the family was associated with keeping the hearth and creating comfort. Many women consider this role especially important, despite the fact that society is constantly changing and now the division of responsibilities is considered quite normal.
The fear of preparing a tasteless dish for a loved one or simply leaving a mug on the table haunts many to this day. However, in fact, a lot comes with experience and desire, so the inability to manage everyday life should not become such a big stress for a woman.
She will lose her attraction to him
Beautiful and well-groomed appearance plays a very important role in the life of the fair sex. Attractiveness allows them to feel confident and hold the attention of a partner or a handsome man.
Old age, as well as excess weight and wrinkles that begin to appear in women with age, very often frighten them and make them feel insecure. Ladies believe that if their skin no longer shines with freshness and their figure changes, then their partner will love them less and will definitely decide to take a mistress.
Her beloved partner will cheat on her
The most terrible experience for a woman is the thought that her loved one might lie to her and cheat on her. Not a single person wants to be betrayed, especially when it comes to those representatives of the fair sex who, for some reason, cannot leave the family.
Often such fear becomes the reason for the development of unhealthy jealousy that a woman feels towards a man. She begins to suspect him of having affairs on the side and becomes more conflicted.
The man will be ashamed of the relationship
Another sign of an unsuccessful relationship is the reluctance of the chosen one to introduce his woman to friends or parents. This is usually associated with the shame that a man feels from being around a female companion because he feels that she is not acting the right way or does not look right.
If the embarrassment of a representative of the stronger sex is real, this indicates serious problems in your relationship. A loving chosen one will willingly introduce the lady to his entourage, because he is confident in her attractiveness and irresistibility.
If she relaxes, he will leave her
Many ladies build relationships on constant tension - they do not allow themselves to look sloppy next to a man, they try to prepare a three-course meal for him and never show illness or bad mood. Can such women be called happy? Most likely no.
Their desire to be perfect is usually associated with fear - they believe that if they give themselves slack, the man will leave them. This usually indicates a lady’s excessive perfectionism, which often signals problems with self-esteem.
Psychologists reassure: experiencing fears in relationships is quite normal and natural. It's important not to let them determine your behavior. In other words, you need to keep them under control and not panic.
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21.05.2019 05:06
Mistake two: arrogance2
As already mentioned, many girls are sure that men owe them something. This is how they are raised from childhood by parents who themselves share these views. They encounter this in kindergarten, when teachers say that boys “should” protect girls. They face the same thing during school and college years, when teachers and peers say that boys “should” help girls.
And in the end, this opinion is reinforced by girlfriends who say that a man “should” give gifts, take care and pay attention to the girl. Only here there is not a single thought that no one owes anyone anything. And ladies experience a break in the pattern when men for some reason turn away from them when they “pick up their rights” and do not fall on their knees in front of them. How so?
It's simple - it's called arrogance. It’s hard to blame the women themselves, because their environment brings them up that way. But still some people reach the point that this is the wrong position. That it is necessary to show mutual respect and attention to those people who give her the same. But it’s much more convenient to do nothing and wait for a prince on a white horse who will come from abroad and “pay off his debts” to the girl, isn’t it? This is the path of least resistance that many girls follow, showing extreme disrespect and contempt for their boyfriends and not treating them as equals. This is another mistake in relationships with men.
How to maintain a good relationship with a guy?
In relationships between a guy and a girl, slightly different rules apply. Usually during this period, lovers are euphoric from their own feelings and do not notice anything around them. But after some time, many girls begin to notice that the guy has cooled off and do not understand the reasons for this behavior. To prevent a breakdown in relationships at this stage, it is important to remember some principles.
Don't take everything too seriously
For young girls, any small quarrel seems like the end of the world. There is no need to make mountains out of molehills - try to approach the situation with humor. Most problems at this stage of a relationship arise only if there is no understanding between the couple. Talk to each other and calmly explain the situation.
Don't argue over trifles
Young people are always very serious - they strive with all their might to prove that they are right, even if this sometimes leads to scandals and breakups.
Think about it: is this behavior worth swearing or is it easier to remain silent?
Spend time together
Usually young people like to communicate in groups, but it is also important to communicate in private - to get to know each other. This is the basis for future harmonious relationships.
Don't be too critical
For young men and women, first relationships do not always end well, since everyone expects ideal behavior from their partner. Remember, he is also still learning to position himself and his partner correctly - forgive him some mistakes.
Mistake Three: Availability3
Unfortunately, not all women understand the male nature of gambling hunters. A girl will be interesting to a man only if he constantly tries to “conquer” her. And if she hangs herself around his neck, showers him with attention, and is constantly nearby, then with such “easy prey” the man will simply be bored. Over time, he will stop paying attention to her, because why should he care and look after someone who is ready at any moment to have sex with him or cook dinner for him? He will not respect such a “lady”.
A girl, if she wants to attract men, should appear inaccessible to them. She should never completely reveal all her secrets so that a man has something to court her for. This may seem wild and stupid, but this is the nature of men, and nothing can be done about it. There are many girls who say: “I doted on him, took care of him, had sex whenever he wanted, but he went to that bitch!” Why? Simply because that “bitch” was unapproachable and inaccessible.
There are many other problems and mistakes that men and women face at the beginning of a relationship. And they are quite capable of leading to the fact that the relationship will be destroyed at its very first stage. But the listed mistakes on the part of women are truly rude and serious. Not only can they break a new relationship, but they can even prevent them from starting.
How to maintain a close relationship with your husband?
The question of how to preserve love for many years has many solutions, and they depend on the status of the man and woman. If a woman has been married to her beloved man for a long time, then several key factors can be identified among the methods to maintain a good relationship.
Add intrigue
Many couples break up due to domestic reasons. Routine affairs, problems at work, routine life - these elements can slowly kill even the strongest feelings. That’s why it’s so important not to get caught up in the everyday quagmire and to periodically shake things up.
Make unexpected surprises, arrange romantic evenings. To do this, you don’t have to go to restaurants or stand at the stove all evening, preparing culinary masterpieces. Sometimes it's enough to order pizza, light candles and just forget about all external problems. Such small “islands of happiness” will allow you to refresh your feelings and rekindle your passion.
Humility
Here we are not talking about tolerating the humiliating behavior of a man, just so that he does not leave the family. This concept includes a different, deeper meaning. Men and women have some character traits that can greatly irritate their partner.
If you understand that such behavior or habit cannot be corrected, then simply accept it. Ignore it and try to approach this situation with humor.
The ability to accept a partner as he is is the main rule of strong family relationships.
Be attentive to your beloved man
Many problems arise in family life - household chores, children, personal work. You need to think about everything - pay the bills, walk the dog, think about and cook dinner, do homework with the child - and this is after a full day of work.
It’s not surprising that after something like this, you simply don’t have the strength to talk to your loved one and find out how his day went. But this is the wrong approach - it will invariably lead to distance. Set aside time that you will devote only to your husband. Let some work around the house not be done, but feelings will grow stronger and develop.
Respect
This seems to be a simple word, but a simple action is actually very difficult for many married couples. For some reason, men believe that a wife should obey unquestioningly, and many wives decide that a man’s role is only to earn money, everything else is none of his business. This is obviously a false path. You need to value your partner, respect his opinion and always seek advice.
Keep your personal space
This rule applies to both. It is difficult to maintain oneself in a family, especially with the birth of a child. But the opportunity to sometimes be alone with oneself is an important need that every person needs to receive. Agree on how much time each person will have just for themselves - this simple rule will help strengthen relationships and reduce the negative environment.
Calm conversations
Calm conversations are the key to healthy relationships. Every family is familiar with the situation when problems ripen, accumulate like a snowball - and at one moment they burst into a huge scandal.
In order not to bring the situation to such a state, it is enough to calmly and rationally discuss everything that you do not like about your partner or relationship. This way you can come to a compromise, avoid quarrels and strengthen your feelings.
Starting a new relationship after a breakup
If you have learned to live in harmony with yourself, it means that you have become an integral person and you need an equal, worthy partner, and not someone who takes up space next to you without contributing absolutely anything to your life together.
The fact that you like to live alone does not mean that you do not want a close, trusting relationship and a dizzying romance with a real Prince. Are you ready to start a new relationship after a breakup?
You may be unsure about this, but your fears should be dispelled. Now you know that it is better to wait for your one and only, and not rush into the arms of the first person you meet.
You are cheerful, sociable, lead an active life - in short, you prosper and can start a love relationship. And this makes you desirable and attractive to the type of men who are most suitable for building healthy relationships.
Now you know how to understand guys and draw conclusions, for example: if the Theoretically Ideal Man is also Unavailable, then you should stay away from him. And if the Bad Boy only offers to periodically warm the bed, then it is better to prefer a warm blanket to him.
As for the Worthless One - why is he needed? If you start a relationship after breaking up, then not with him. After all, there are a dozen good friends who you can always rely on. You finally realized that living alone is much more pleasant than with a loser, although you used to think: “If only you weren’t alone.”
The good news: you didn’t just break up with a loser; this experience taught you a lot, and you will no longer want to start an obviously unpromising relationship.
Accumulate and harbor dissatisfaction
If you have any complaints about your partner, you are alarmed by some aspects of his behavior, then you should not keep it to yourself for fear of losing your man. Remember the main rule: if you don’t understand something, ask! Of course, if you are too jealous and suspicious, daily interrogations are not the best option; in this case, these are purely your psychological problems, for which it is better to contact a specialist. In other cases, learn to have a frank conversation with your partner, this will only bring you closer.
How to maintain romance in a relationship after marriage?
After the wedding, newlyweds face many problems - living together, solving everyday issues. Gradually, the romance fades away, and the young family is immersed in solving everyday issues.
Although it is quite simple to ensure that romance lasts for many years.
Don't stop looking after yourself
Bright makeup, hairstyle, home clothes - these are little things, but they add up to the image of a woman.
A man will be pleased if a beautiful girl continues to stay with him, and not a tired lady in a robe.
Talk more often
The problem with relationships is precisely the lack of conversations between spouses. Remember, at the very beginning you could discuss interesting topics for hours, and this was not enough for you.
Start an interesting business
Playing sports together, reading or putting together puzzles - common activities always bring people together.
Don't forget about the pleasures
Hearts with words of love, a candlelight dinner, a bath for two - these moments preserve tenderness, passion and romance for many years.
Premature intimacy
Many articles have been written on this topic and many videos have been filmed; opinions on this matter are divided. Life values change and intimacy will not surprise anyone. But, if you are planning a long-term relationship with the prospect of marriage, you should not rush to enter into an intimate relationship with your partner. The man was and remains a “conqueror”; quick gains do not bring euphoria. Of course, you shouldn’t delay this process - this is not the best way of manipulation, a man can simply “burn out.” Intimate intimacy should ideally occur at a moment when not only the passion between you is at its peak, but also spiritual intimacy, when you feel that you can completely trust this person and he trusts you.
