Ask a high-status, successful man what kind of woman he would like to see as his wife.
What do you think he will answer?
Where is the item on his list of desired criteria: rich, successful, famous?
I, Julia Lanske, No. 1 love coach in the world according to the international iDate Awards 2020, will tell you what qualities are so valuable for high-status men, and what you DO NOT need to do, contrary to popular belief, to attract such a person to you.
Julia Lanske - psychologist, author of the article @lanskejulia
You can pick up complexes
What will a woman look like if next to her is a handsome man who knows how to communicate with other people, he has a car and a clear position in life. Being next to such a man is always a challenge.
A woman will always have to monitor her appearance and any mistakes on her part are unacceptable. Also, a successful man can easily “crush” with his authority or show that he is simply bored in a relationship. A woman will always have to make efforts and fight complexes that will definitely manifest themselves.
Marry a Prince
If not for a prince in the literal sense of the word, then for a man who stands firmly on his own two feet, conscious, responsible and able to always protect his family - this is the dream of every woman. Probably, nature itself is behind this: the one who can provide the family with protection along with feelings will receive more points than just a romantic or handsome.
Yes, and from the point of view of the gender hierarchy, the union in which the man is more successful and has a higher status will be stronger and more reliable. Such a person is characterized by fortitude, a strong inner core, intelligence and perseverance - and this qualitatively characterizes him as an already realized man, which is better suited for starting a family.
But what kind of woman do you have to be to meet such a man? And which one is not necessary?
A successful man wants the ideal woman next to him
In words, every woman is ideal and unique. It is enough to highlight a few habits that many women invent:
- Regular exercise.
- Reading books.
- No bad habits.
- Ability to cook and much more.
But, when the relationship reaches a more serious stage, will the woman be able to meet the parameters that she said in advance? Each verbally makes herself ideal, but over time, all the shortcomings and character traits will become obvious, and a man will certainly not tolerate this.
Live actively!
Are you a big boss managing a serious company? Or a successful manager running a department? Or a private entrepreneur who is passionate about his own business? No matter what position you occupy, we are sure that you spend most of your day sitting: in the office, in transport, at meetings and negotiations. It is not surprising that such a passive lifestyle gradually leads you to despondency, and even the most successfully conducted business meetings no longer inspire the former excitement and do not bring pleasure. Shake it up! Find an activity you enjoy: whether it's morning jogging or lifting heavy weights in the gym. Bring sports and movement back into your life - and you will again feel 100% like a man, and there will be more bright colors in your life.
Success turns every man's head
And here everyone should clearly understand that any successful man has willfulness and stubbornness. He simply cannot impose his opinion or manipulate. Such a man understands a lot in this life and does not fall for simple tricks.
Also, a woman’s opinion is often questioned. A man is used to making decisions himself and he will always consider them correct. Not every woman can withstand such an attitude, and this point must be clearly understood.
Men want women
If you really believe that high-status men are looking for their equal - a woman who earns fabulous sums, a business owner or holds a leadership position, then this may indicate your high values. You realize that nothing just falls from the sky, that happiness must be earned through hard work and investing huge resources. Most likely, you will not agree to sit on someone’s neck and will pave the way to your own success by working and developing.
It would seem that all this is good, but...
Alas, this is the wrong path. If a woman is firmly convinced that what belongs to Caesar is what is Caesar's, and what belongs to what is due to status, she begins to work hard 24/7, bending over backwards to achieve success on the career front. And she has no idea that this is how she gradually cultivates her inner... man!
Our world and its resources mostly belong to men. “This is the man's world” is sung in one song, which you will most likely guess from the first notes. Politics, power, material resources, natural resources (gas, oil), industry - this is a strong, masculine sphere of life. Therefore, achievement is also a masculine approach to life. When a woman becomes an achiever, the masculine core in her is strengthened, masculinity and firmness develop, self-esteem and self-respect grow. But one of the main qualities - femininity - inevitably fades!
Look at today's women! They are well-groomed, beautiful, developed and all-knowing. They became much more independent than their predecessors. The female workforce has undergone significant changes, reaching heights and success. In such women, men see colleagues, rivals, friends, their own kind - anyone, but not a Woman.
But this is exactly what a successful man looks for in every well-groomed and elegant lady. Do you think it matters to him who you are - the director or the receptionist? Knowing and taking into account the fact that business women most often live with a man “inside”, wealthy representatives of the stronger sex are more likely to prefer a woman of lower rank and income, but not intelligence. This is because, more often than not, it was she who managed to preserve femininity in herself, rather than the one who rules and commands. It will most likely be difficult for him with the latter: strong women often bring their work atmosphere into the home. And this is completely unnecessary for a man.
Let's imagine that the man is a millionaire. He doesn’t care how thick your wallet is or how high your career is. Compared to his income, this is nothing. So, he will choose a woman with whom he finds it easy, interesting, comfortable in different areas of life, and not one who will measure her achievements and strength with him. But there are fewer and fewer such women today, so there is a demand for femininity, modesty, kindness and gentleness of soul. And also those qualities that I will talk about below.
You should never talk about it directly!
Any man is always a vulnerable creature, no matter how menacing and brutal he may be outwardly. Also, most likely, somewhere deep inside a man already has an understanding and awareness of his greed, but as soon as someone tells him about it, it will be very painful. It hurts so much that deep depression or even an attempt to “calm down” with the help of alcohol are possible.
Even indirect hints can cause moral harm. An incorrectly thrown joke about how great it was when you bought souvenirs for friends together, and he started haggling over 5 rubles, can be perceived as an insult.
It is best to avoid such topics altogether and strive to minimize situations where greed may appear.
Keep testosterone under control
Very often, the cause of dissatisfaction with life, anxiety, and difficulties in both business and intimate spheres of life is a decrease in testosterone levels. It is enough to return it to normal limits and the situation will improve. There are now quite a lot of means to solve this problem. One of them is the natural-based drug Tribestan. It gently restores testosterone levels and increases endurance, including in intimate life and in sports. With the normalization of hormonal levels, bright colors, joy and taste return to life.
Monitor your diet
35 is still not 18. Chips, beer, pizza at night, hamburgers for breakfast - all this will not pass without leaving a mark on your well-being. Heavy food also makes life harder: it’s difficult to enjoy accomplishments and set new goals when the body fails. So it's time to reconsider your eating habits. Healthy food not only improves the quality of life, but also has a beneficial effect on its duration. Yes, and it's delicious! Grilled vegetables are in no way inferior to French fries, and baked veal tenderloin is a hundred times better than hamburgers. Kefir can sometimes outperform soda, and a glass of milk can be a more logical addition to food than beer. And all this together will allow you to move through life with ease.
Rule #5. Don't put money first
Why then strive to enter into an alliance with a successful person if I cannot freely dispose of his capital? This question plagues many brides. Now think about it. Is it worth imposing conditions on your loved one, demanding money?
By revealing your direct interest in his money, you automatically show your dependence on him and give reason to fear you (you must admit, it’s unpleasant to realize that it’s not you who are loved, but your money). That is why we suggest choosing a different tactic of behavior.
When planning a joint budget, agree on how much money will be allocated by the man for housekeeping. Pretend that the rest doesn't interest you. Believe me, such a maneuver will endear you to your loved one. Let him think that you are absolutely selfless.
Live more interestingly
Remember what you strived for in your youth, what you dreamed of? How many of these aspirations have come true? How much space do your interests take up in your day? Do you know what exactly you are interested in? Or is life locked into a “work – home” ring? If so, take immediate action. Allow yourself to have a hobby that interests you, find time for it. Believe me, engaging in an activity that interests you will bring so much inspiration into your life that everyone will benefit from it: work, family, and yourself.
Rule #4. Don't try to control him
Once the engagement ring is on your finger, many women begin real terror towards their chosen one. He must constantly call them and be within reach. Meetings with work colleagues or friends are perceived with resentment.
It’s as if the wives are trying to protect their significant other from the outside world. Perhaps a certain type of man will accept such tactics of behavior and submit meekly, but not the darlings of fate. A successful person values his personal freedom first. Such pressure from his beloved will push him away, and he will prefer to step aside rather than continue to communicate in this manner.
Know how to rest
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You may object: “I rest every evening, and even on weekends.” But is this really true? Do you always leave work problems at work? Or do you think about them at home, sitting in front of the TV screen? What do you do when you're on vacation? Do you often go outdoors? Meeting friends? Are you on active holiday? Does your holiday bring you joy? Do you feel rested the next morning? Do you have new energy before starting your work day? Answer these questions honestly and think about what would actually allow you to fully rest. Perhaps this is an evening with an interesting book. Or a picnic in nature. Or board games with friends. Go beyond the evening in front of the TV with food and a laptop, rest so that in the morning you have enough strength for a new working day.
Don't neglect the tips listed above. No one has yet been able to prove that we have more than one life. And to neglect your only life is too great a luxury.
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Rule #2. Show off your talents
Every person has hidden talents. Think about what you can do best? It doesn’t matter at all in what area you decide to improve yourself. Imagine that you are in a talent competition and you have to show what you are capable of. Your chosen one should also see your success. Like attracts like.
In vain many people believe that bright personalities prefer gray mice. Not at all. Let the person you care about feel your importance in the eyes of others. It doesn't matter at all how you do it. A professionally prepared cake and a unique business plan for the development of the enterprise where you work will have the same effect.
How to build a relationship with a rich man
However, modern princes are far from being so naive and gullible, so building a relationship with a rich man today requires considerable effort on the part of the female sex.
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Gentlemen prefer simpletons
Oddly enough for the modern world, many moneybags consider ordinary women to be pure and sincere - in contrast to spoiled glamorous predators seeking material gain and entertainment. At the same time, girls from families with modest incomes often receive a good upbringing, which assumes that they will become faithful, selfless and loving wives who will put their husbands and not themselves first.
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And for pulling her “from rags to riches,” according to rich men, such a girl will be grateful for the rest of her life. Therefore, when meeting a wealthy gentleman, it is very important to make just such an impression on him - a modest, honest and proud woman who, nevertheless, highly values her honor (and not at all in monetary terms).
Since men with high social status choose their lady of the heart, it will be very difficult to win such a specimen, spoiled by female attention. It is important to understand that a modest girl with modest appearance may be preferred mainly by a serious businessman who does not lead a public lifestyle and is not interested in high society.
More famous middle-aged oligarchs, of course, are more likely to be attracted to a bright woman with a sufficient degree of independence and charisma. However, in any case, you should start building relationships with both types of men by demonstrating your moderation and intelligence.
Rules for building relationships
1. Equality. Initially, a relationship with a rich man should be built on equality - after all, he will be the main breadwinner in the future, which will give him the moral right to feel superior to you. In addition, such people are accustomed to controlling everything themselves, commanding everything and generally playing the first violin in the orchestra.
Be sure to defend your point of view in an argument - but do it unobtrusively and gently, so that the man does not lose basic respect for you over time. The same applies to your personality/appearance - always try to improve in both directions, so that your partner opens up more and more new horizons in you, without looking for them on the side.
2. Independence. In addition, to conquer such a man, it is advisable to have your own job - at least at first, so that he can see that you are not trying to sit on his neck. If you're offered dinner on a date, show modesty by ordering mid-priced food and drinks rather than vintage 1950 wine and lobsters in edible gold.
When receiving a gift, be sincerely grateful and never show your disappointment, even if the gift was unsuccessful. And remember - rich men are also looking for love, because they have enough everything else in their lives.
