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Spiritual growth. Basics

Acceptance is complete internal agreement with what is. You allow something to be as it is. You stop the internal struggle with yourself and with other people, you allow yourself to be yourself and others to be different.
Mindfulness - tracking your thoughts, states, emotions. Being in the “Now” moment, without being distracted by thoughts about the future or past. Total experience of the present moment.
Peace of mind - Everyone is looking for it, it's balance. There comes harmony of spirit, soul and body.
Unconditional love is the absence of selfishness. You love everything around you unconditionally, just like that, without wanting anything in return. Unconditional love is enlightenment.
Faith is knowledge of the truth.

Fighting laziness

Alexander Sergeevich Pushkin also remarked: “We are lazy and not curious.” Laziness, inertia, lack of perseverance are the main enemies of any endeavor.

You need to fight your laziness

Yes, it is much easier to lie on the sofa in front of the TV than, for example, to cut wood with a jigsaw or comprehend the basics of quantum mechanics. Remember that you are not doing self-improvement for show, you are doing it for yourself. Come up with your own system of rewards and penalties. For example, missing a yoga class is a punishment, mastering a new ballet step is a prize.

Gradually, you will notice that attacks of laziness and apathy will begin to grip you less and less. Your activities will become your inner need.

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Universal human values and how to develop them

The basis of human essence is formed by such values as Truth (intellectual aspect), Peace (emotional aspect), Love (moral aspect), Righteousness (physical aspect) and Non-violence (spiritual aspect).
They do not depend on race, nationality, religion or environment. There is an undeniable interdependence and interconnection between universal human values. The growth of spirituality depends on the development of its fundamentals. Faith develops as a result of getting rid of beliefs that inhibit, absorb internal energy and motivate those that increase resources.

If beliefs are real and not self-deception, they must be cultivated. For example, a person is deceived if he believes that he is the smartest. The reality may be the belief that he is able to improve his level of self-education.

You can achieve peace of mind thanks to an external source of strength (belief in the help of God, higher powers). What is important is the individual’s confidence that he can overcome any difficulties and trials. This question is closely related to the search for the meaning of life and other questions of existence.

When the processes of awareness are turned on, it becomes important for the subject to know who he is, why he is here and what mission he carries. A person must understand that everything that happens is not in vain and has a purpose.

So he acquires faith, knowledge and realizes the external source of strength and finds this source within himself.

Love shapes personality

Love is a factor in the formation of personality, the development of its spiritual qualities, the breakthrough of everyday life, the experience of the uniqueness of another person, the escape from loneliness, the replacement of revenge and evil with tender affection and sympathy.

Finding true love is not an easy process, but it is worthwhile. First of all, a person learns to perceive others as they are, studies society, learns to understand the nature of human actions and thoughts. As a result, he begins to treat others not with prejudice and wariness, but with sympathy, respect and love.

This process is associated with personal self-development and self-knowledge. The more a person knows himself, the better he understands others

At the second stage, the individual learns to shift attention from himself to others. She reaches a certain level of awareness in order to move away from the ego and consider not only herself, but also the feelings of other people, taking into account their interests

The highest degree of spirituality is the awareness that all people are connected to each other and constitute one living organism, and that by harming another, we harm ourselves and the entire planet. At this stage of spiritual self-development, the subject lives in harmony and love with himself and with the outside world.

To learn to live consciously, you need to determine your desires, pay attention to unresolved problems and internal fears, and understand your purpose. The answers will not appear immediately, but gradually, but if a question arises, then the answer already exists

Therefore, it is important to understand the issues that really concern

Self-development of personality - what distinguishes a person from others and how to prove oneself

If a person wants to succeed in any field, he must develop. Only constant personal growth and self-development will allow you to achieve your goal and make even your wildest dreams come true.

Before moving on to the methods and necessity of personal self-development , several basic concepts should be clearly defined.

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Personality is a set of habits and preferences that emerged as a result of past experience and being in society. In addition, this is a set of psychophysical traits and characteristics of a particular person. Personality determines the daily behavior of an individual, his connection with nature and society.

Personal development is a complex process that consists of self-development and self-knowledge .

Self-knowledge is the study of one’s own personal characteristics, as well as self-understanding. A person engages in self-knowledge starting from infancy throughout his life. We can say that self-knowledge is the search for answers to the questions: who am I? Why am I here? What do I want from the world?

Self-development is a process of personality development from different sides simultaneously. It is expressed in independent study of individual issues, as well as the application of acquired knowledge in practice. At the same time, self-development does not imply external control. It can be expressed in three forms - self-affirmation, self-improvement, self-actualization.

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Self-affirmation is nothing more than a specific activity carried out within the framework of self-development and aimed at discovering and confirming certain qualities, character traits, and behavioral characteristics in specific situations.
At the same time, self-affirmation can be carried out in almost any field of activity.

Self-improvement is the most adequate form of self-development. The process assumes that a person strives for his own ideal, acquires new character traits that will allow him to become better.

Self-actualization is the ability of a person to become what he should become. It's about fulfilling your mission and purpose in life.

Having analyzed these concepts, we can come to the conclusion that each person develops and improves a set of preferences and habits developed over the years that have appeared as a result of the influence of society. Here, knowledge, acquired experience, and a set of social masks and psychophysical traits are involved.

With the development of personality, personal growth occurs, and with it a change in the surrounding reality.

Personal self-development is an individual path and everyone has their own path.

Psychologists have noticed that many people who have crossed the twenty-five-year mark are no longer satisfied with their existing abilities and try to develop new skills. At this moment they think about self-development.

In childhood and adolescence, development for the most part occurs under the influence of external factors and social norms. Every person must go through the stages when he goes to kindergarten, attends school, and studies at the institute. Other people make a person out of a person who could get a job in the future and carry out someone else's orders.

But few adults come to the realization that something is wrong in this system. Many unnecessary habits have appeared that are not beneficial. Complexes and everyday worries left no room at all for doing something truly interesting. With the understanding that the whole next life will consist of two stages - going to work and retirement, there is a strong desire to change something in life. Everything looks gray, but I really want to dilute the usual everyday life with bright colors, love, joy and happiness.

A person is faced with a choice for his future life : to swim on the waves and be like everyone else - go to work, meet with friends once a week, or challenge fate and break out of the everyday routine. It's sad, but most people of this age prefer the first option because it's "not scary."

Today there are many theories and methods of self-development.

An unprepared person may have questions : what is useful to read? Which way will be most effective? What should you pay more attention to – spiritual or physical development? If a person begins to practice regularly, he understands that self-development is an individual path and it is different for everyone.

Of course, you can take knowledge, analyze it, and choose the most effective system for yourself. However, every person is unique. And what is suitable for one will be completely unsuitable for another. There is no single path of personal self-development that is suitable for everyone. Self-development presupposes, first of all, the ability to understand oneself, and only after that the implementation of any practices.

Stages of Spiritual Development

Freed from the burden of past mistakes and grievances, a person gains lightness and self-confidence. The surrounding world begins to create favorable conditions for a person, fills space with guiding signs, life becomes joyful and transforms right before our eyes. Having felt inner peace and the desire to live, a person in the future will never be able to repeat the mistakes of the past and will not make new ones.

Reading philosophical literature, spiritual practices, and meditation will help speed up evolution. Religious literature contains too many conjectures and falsehoods, so a person ignorant of such matters can easily accept anything on faith. There are a lot of ancient and modern literary artifacts that can acquaint the traveler with the structure of the universe, with cosmic and spiritual laws, with concepts that reveal the very essence of a human being and much more.

Literature:

E.P. Blavatskaya, D.L. Andreev, Roerichs, C. Castaneda, Sri Aurobindo, Osho, ancient Indian epics - “Mahabharata” and “Ramayana”, Bhagavad Gita, Vedas, Philokalia, AllatRa and many other books that are recommended for deep reading study by those who have chosen the path of the spirit.

Spiritual development of personality

A person who has managed to become an individual is not immune from the fact that, thanks to willpower and the ability to “step over the line,” he chooses the path of a destroyer rather than a creator.

Even if a person is an individual, his willpower is very great, allowing him to implement large-scale business projects with fabulous profits, but his egoism pushes his mind into the far corner, clearing the territory for the activity of a strong mind, this person is still fast asleep spiritually

And perhaps he will break more than one someone’s life before the law of retribution and justice knocks on his contaminated window of the soul with the most difficult trials, pushing a strong personality to the beginning of a spiritual search, and it does not matter whether he is a man or a woman

We will try to answer what the spiritual development of the individual consists of.

Why does a person need this?

First of all, in order to evolve and move on. Even if a person has extraordinary strong-willed qualities, has managed to make a dizzying career, but does not really take into account the world around him, often contributing to the destruction of life not only within himself, but also outside himself, it is possible that he is not even standing at the doors of his inner temple . To tell the truth, there is no temple yet; perhaps even the foundation is missing. And even if he donates to some parish, but in his head there is self-interest with the intention of getting solid dividends from the investment - such a “believer” is difficult to rank even among the spiritually oriented.

The path of creation and deep awareness begins with the first step. Inner teachers can first allow a person to go down the road of passions and temptations, allowing him to commit crooked actions, perhaps even large-scale mistakes, and sometimes even crimes. After all, sometimes a person, in order to realize the level of his spiritual fall, needs to repent very deeply.

And sometimes it is with repentance that a gradual spiritual ascent begins for someone who has managed to become a person, but has not yet mastered even the basics of spiritual life.

In our materially oriented world, there are certain patterns for achieving personal growth that are not at all oriented towards spiritual values. And it is all the more valuable for the spiritual development of a person to follow true, enduring guidelines. For only thanks to them, a person will be able to get rid of the ballast that pulls him to the bottom with vicious attachments, destructive habits, obsessions and other burdens of excess materiality.

Where to start

You need to start by rethinking your life, accepting that we are not only the body.

You must not be afraid to take a step forward - towards the unknown and the far shore that has not yet been discovered by you. When the winds of change begin to blow in your life, be prepared for the beginning of trials, because this is where your real development will begin.

BASIC PRINCIPLES OF SELF-DEVELOPMENT

By following the basic principles of self-development, you can achieve effective results in a short period of time.

Study, study and study again

The very definition of self-development involves the study of various knowledge with the purpose of its subsequent application in practice. It should be understood that there is a lot of knowledge, and in order for it to be real, it should be tested through one’s own experience.

Of course, you can read various literature on self-development, take courses, training seminars, personal growth training, and take private lessons. But knowledge will become true only if it is passed through oneself, one’s experience and worldview.

Knowledge without practice is zero. Practice is accompanied by constant mistakes, made by oneself.

Even a guru can make mistakes sometimes. The best guru for every person is himself. Acquired knowledge is secondary. They are practically useless until a person finds practical use for them.

There is an interesting observation. Social networks are full of motivational quotes, pictures and sayings. It would seem that all conditions have been created to change life for the better. However, this program does not work. We read quotes, but they don't help us get what we want. Because knowledge that will be transformed through personal experience is useful.

It is important to always remember that the truth lies within the person himself. It is impossible to get enough of someone else's experience. If you want to achieve the main goals of self-development, it is important to use your experience and mistakes. In the end, they will bring much more than knowledge from books and seminars.

Man is the creator of his own reality

Self-development is a constant process of changing one's personality. This system is based on the understanding that nothing is static in life. Everything is constantly changing. Including a person and his perception of reality.

If the fate of every person was predetermined in advance, the meaning of life would not exist . The universe would lose its purpose.

The basis of the universal mechanism of the Universe is self-understanding, self-development and awareness of significance.

Without understanding the principles of managing the internal and external world, there is no point in looking for suitable ways of self-development. Many people don't understand this. As a result, they remain in the same place they started from.

While one person spends his life playing computer games, another is trying to discover new qualities in himself. Everyone is the creator of their own reality.

Be better today than yesterday

Only daily work on yourself will allow you to achieve your goal. It is important to become at least a little better every day than yesterday. Various analytical measurements of subgoals that make up the main goal can help in tracking results and provide additional motivation.

Remove all restrictions

Modern society is structured in such a way that by the age of twenty a person has many false attitudes that hinder the process of self-development.

We may recall that most philosophical teachings begin with the purification of consciousness and mind from outsiders. You cannot fill a vessel that already contains liquid . When developing yourself and learning something new, it is important to forget about old knowledge.

Maybe it is this knowledge that will speed up the process of self-development, and using other attitudes, a person moves away from what he is ready to perceive and consider correct for himself with his whole soul and body.

It is important to constantly step out of your own comfort zone in order to understand what changes this has led to.

Personal self-development is a complex process that cannot be started in one day and achieve results in a short period of time. Only by consciously approaching this issue, getting rid of distractions and drawing up a clear program of action, can you achieve results.

Any journey begins with the first step. It is important to take the first step correctly on the path to personal self-development and everything will definitely work out!

Let's go with the flow

Life is not always fair: every now and then it presents us with surprises, sometimes pleasant, and sometimes not so pleasant. No matter how hard we try, it is impossible to keep absolutely everything under control. We inevitably encounter losses, disappointments, powerlessness and misunderstanding, we experience events, the meaning of which remains a mystery to us. You shouldn’t take everything so harshly - sometimes you should accept the situation and go with the flow. There is nothing wrong with this, it happens to everyone from time to time. If you stumble, do not scold or reproach yourself; learn from your mistake to avoid it in the future

If something doesn't go as planned, don't panic or get upset: refocus your attention on new opportunities that are probably already in front of you. Rest assured, every event in our life has its own specific prerequisite, cause-and-effect relationship

If something happens in our life, it means that it is necessary for something. Do not give in to despondency and despair, because if one door is closed in front of you, then there is nothing left to do but find and open another.

A positive outlook on the future is half the success

No battle can be won if you have already mentally lost it. The simplest answer to the question of where to start self-improvement and self-development is to start with yourself, with your outlook on life.

Positive outlook for the future

If the future is portrayed to you exclusively in black colors, if you think that nothing awaits you there except darkness, horror, loneliness and hopelessness - consider that you have already given up without even starting the fight. With this attitude, you will not move and you will not be able to do anything.

Start looking at life positively. Repeat to yourself: “life is beautiful!” Yes, you have problems, but who doesn’t? The main thing is that you can overcome them.

It’s not in vain that psychologists advise: never plan negative things in advance. Eliminate the phrases from your vocabulary: “nothing will work out,” “I won’t succeed,” “I can’t do it,” etc.

Follow the advice of the ancient Chinese: start every day with a smile and learn to love life. Believe me, these methods, proven over thousands of years, always work. Do not lose hope, do not become despondent, for despondency is a sin. Never give up, look into the future with optimism and love - and the future will reciprocate you.

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Religious education

When a person hears the concept of “spiritual development,” the first thing he thinks about is religion. This is natural, since from childhood a person is instilled with the dogma that the spirit is God’s creation. And religious education is completely based on the scriptures. Despite differences in history, forms of worship, traditions and customs, all three monotheistic religions preach the same thing - the principle of monotheism and following God's word.

Religious spiritual development begins with the personal example of parents - if adults follow religious dogmas, then the child will follow their example. But sometimes this is not enough for a child, and he demands an explanation. Then you can tell him that this or that action is permitted or prohibited by God, and He rewards for good deeds pleasing to Him, and He punishes for bad deeds. In addition to explanations, the following means of religious education will help:

joint reading and discussion of religious literature;
visiting places of worship;
observing fasting and holy days;
celebration of religious holidays.

If a child goes to school, then regular and religious schools come to the aid of parents. In the regular school they teach the subject “Fundamentals of Religious Cultures and Secular Ethics,” which is divided into 6 areas:

foundations of world religions;
secular ethics;
Orthodoxy;
Judaism;
Islam;
Buddhism.

The main feature of religious education is that parents can choose for themselves in which direction to raise their child, since the course was developed by a group of scientists of different faiths.

In religious studies, in addition to the basics, you can study the Holy Scriptures and get to know your religion better.

Self-determination

First of all, you need to understand what exactly your

spirituality. To do this, explore your inner world, study your personality. Take time to ask yourself questions such as: where do you get your inner strength? What do you find beautiful? What is comfort for you? what do you admire? What gives you peace of mind? What is the most important thing for you in life and in people? What do you see as the meaning of your existence? What can make you sad and what can make you happy? who is the most important person in your life? What connects you to this world and the people in it? Only by understanding your internal characteristics can you move on. Based on them, you will independently form those methods of spiritual development that will be most suitable for you personally.

Think right

Modern psychologists and sociologists consider self-improvement and self-development as acmeological methods for improving the existence of not only an individual person, but also humanity as a whole.

You need to get rid of unnecessary thoughts from your head

The main postulate of acmeology states that every person in his life must achieve “acme”, that is, the highest stage of individual development. Only this guarantees him complete self-realization and a feeling of happiness, and not money or high social status. Reorganize your thinking in accordance with this statement, and you will be surprised how things will change!

Science has long been seriously considering the theory that thought is material. Our thoughts, our desires and moods can influence reality and transform it.

Think of your personal victory not as a possibility, but as an accomplished fact. Wake up confident that your dream is already within your grasp. Positive thoughts attract good luck into your life.

Conversely, negativity and the expectation of failure only increase the likelihood of failure. It was not for nothing that our ancestors said: “Whoever is afraid of something will happen to him.”

Help your thoughts materialize

Thought is material, but it does not materialize into tangible results unless you help it with specific actions and deeds.

Yes, you will become a brilliant painter, and it’s great that you are sure of this, but first, buy yourself normal brushes and paints.

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How to start spiritual development

First, as I said above, is the development of awareness. Life exists only here and now. (Be sure to read this book). Find time, at least sometimes, for silence. A time when you can listen to yourself. Hear the breath, feel what is happening inside the body, dissolve in the present moment.

The best solution would be to start practicing meditation. In the article “Why meditate or what is the meaning of meditation?” and “What are the benefits of meditation and simple breathing meditation” I talk in detail and clearly about why it is needed, what its meaning and benefits are. You will learn everything you need about this wonderful spiritual practice, about the technique of getting to know yourself.

And if you are completely tired and don’t want anything, then before going to bed, when you are already in bed, listen to yourself. Don't fall asleep right away, go inside yourself for a few minutes.

Secondly, to hear the voice of the soul, you need to give up your body. This is, of course, an exaggeration. But succumbing to temptations, lust, gluttony, you will not be able to discover your own soul, and this will close the opportunity for you to live a happy life in peace with yourself and the surrounding space.

Again, this is a moment of control.

Pay attention to when you are really just indulging your body and its endless desires, and when this is a real need

Remember, we are the eternal soul. The body is there, then it’s gone. No matter how much you care for it, it will grow old and die. Take care of your soul. And the most interesting thing is that then your body will thank you.

The spiritual development of a person is a very extensive and comprehensive process. This is the development of love, compassion, kindness. This is a fight against indifference and indifference, against anger, aggression, greed and hatred. This is cultivating in oneself the idea of the unity of all people. There is one God in all of us.

We are all very different, but at the same time we are very similar. And if our differences are most obviously expressed in appearance and character, what unites us remains somewhere deep. And if you don’t think about it, then in principle you can not notice anything and not have the slightest idea about it. Our life, as it seems to us at first glance, will not change from the awareness of this unity

This is where human spiritual development is very important.

Clean up your own head.

Know yourself
Remember the words of Socrates: “Know yourself.” Ask yourself questions: who am I, why do I live, what is wrong in my life? What do I want to change about myself? What are the strengths and weaknesses of my personality? What would I like to achieve excellence in?

Divide your whole life into several areas and start to deal with it.

Are you satisfied with your job, career growth, position in business?
What to change and what to strive for?
What would you really like to do?
Are you satisfied with your financial situation?
How much would you ideally like to earn?
Do you have the right friends around you?
What does this friendship give you?
Perhaps you should change your social circle?
Is everything okay in your relationship with the opposite sex, is there true love in your life?
How was your family life, are you happy in your marriage?
Are you happy with your body, and if not, what sport will you choose to perfect your figure?
Do you consider your life to be rich and bright, or is it a dull routine and gray everyday life, and you are sorely lacking in emotions and impressions?
What ability is stagnant in you that you could improve on?

When you answer these questions absolutely honestly, a lot will become clearer for you. However, one should not think that this is enough. This speculative knowledge without your concrete steps is meaningless. Take action!

A long journey consists of small steps

Remember that a long journey consists of small steps. Set realistic goals for yourself. The decision to go to fitness and immediately get rid of fifty kilograms in a month will not lead to anything good. Break the main goal into several intermediate ones, for example: “I will lose five kilos in two weeks.” Once that goal is achieved, move on!

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Components of personal and spiritual development.

Self-knowledge, self-development and self-improvement are the three pillars of a person’s spiritual development, the source of his personal, creative achievements and the support of spirituality. And spirituality is the evolution of human will, consciousness and love. This is the desire to make your own life and the lives of your fellow humans better, happier and more harmonious. Today, spirituality is not monastic or yogic asceticism, but tireless joyful work in the thick of events and people, allowing one to discover in familiar strangers the spirit of kinship, co-creation, mutual assistance and creation. Self-knowledge is the knowledge of one’s true essence, its changeable nature and limitless possibilities.

Self-knowledge is the search for life purpose and the meaning of existence, correlation with the outside world and the internal motivating need to know.

Self-development is an evolutionary procession through the stages of knowledge that brings a person closer to the solution to existence and the determination of his main place in life.

Self-improvement is personal improvement in the direction of improving the quality of life, conscious control and management of its processes with an understanding of one’s role and purpose.

By filling your every action, even the most trivial, with love, and responsibly performing your daily duties with a sense of joy and excitement for life, you will certainly contribute to your development, regardless of age, religion and social status.

Each person has his own path of self-knowledge and spiritual self-improvement. For some it is a slow climb up the steps to the Portal of Knowledge. Some people have an “easier”, in terms of understanding, movement on the road, without long stops. And for someone, an illuminated, enlightened state of mind occurs almost instantly, when the person’s personality begins to listen to his Soul, comprehending and listening to the mysteries of the Spirit.

In any case, if a person is committed to self-development and self-improvement, he will one day be able to connect the world of the soul with the spirit in an evolutionary journey of self-knowledge.

Sergei Kolesha, with the creative participation of Elizaveta Babanova.

The essence of Spiritual improvement

The most important thing on the path of Spiritual development is to find the integrity of your views and aspirations with the desires of your soul, and then it is possible to become like God not only in image, but also in content. Love is the key to unlocking limitless possibilities within yourself.

Love is the language of God. Learning to truly love is not easy and many have no idea what it is. Their understanding does not extend beyond carnal friction against each other and a possessive attitude towards their lovers.

We must learn to give love to the entire world around us, without expecting anything in return, because God has already rewarded a person with everything he could have dreamed of even at birth. However, for some this is not enough and they rush from one extreme to another. Hence wars, rivalry, and fornication... This is the path of suffering and dissatisfaction, which destroys the body and destroys the soul.

But how, by what means and methods do you come to an agreement with yourself? Perhaps prayer will be a consolation for someone, but it is not capable of providing an impetus for evolutionary growth. Religion is an unnecessary intermediary between man and God. Nowadays, it increasingly serves as a tool for manipulating people, a means of profit and dirty machinations on the part of the church or higher authorities.

Only evolution matters now. Therefore, by choosing a voluntary, firm and conscious intention to know and change yourself, you can achieve the desired result. As they say, there are many who seek the Creator, but not many find Him. The Creator lives in each of us, but without awakening him, we turn away from ourselves. He does not hear the voice of our desires, requests or laudatory odes - he responds only to manifestations of the spirit expressed in actions.

Doubts in one’s abilities and fear of an unknown future and, most importantly, an unconscious choice of the Spiritual path will very quickly return an immature person to a familiar and comfortable way of life. To remain faithful to your choice, especially at the initial stage, you need to be vigilant, listen to yourself and stop whenever the ego begins to dictate its terms - complete control of thoughts and actions.

You need to accept yourself, having understood your delusions, mistakes, grievances, albeit not immediately, but over time. First of all, you should learn to always remain honest and be yourself under any circumstances. There is no need to blame anyone for the current situation, or even yourself - after all, this is a school where we all undergo training and grow our souls with each class.

Start studying your favorite field of activity

It’s great when a person has clearly decided on his choice of life path from the very beginning and works at a job he loves. But this is not always the case, and not everyone goes to work as if it were a holiday.

Go to work like it's a holiday

After you have broken into yourself and built your own hierarchy of values, the time comes to take the next step on the path of self-improvement and personal development - start doing what you really love.

Let's say you work as a plumbing sales manager, and in childhood and adolescence you were an excellent drawer. They painted and then abandoned it - their parents insisted, or it was a lack of faith in their own abilities, or they considered this field of activity unprofitable - it doesn’t matter.

This unrealized potential of yours, this talent buried in the ground, remains with you, lives in your soul, giving rise to a feeling of dissatisfaction and melancholy. Cast aside fears and doubts, do not think that others may consider you crazy. Get back to what actually brings you satisfaction.

Don't be afraid to learn. Our time provides ample opportunities for this: educational literature, online courses, seminars, trainings, classes with coaches.

Sexy spiritual healer

Recently, at an informal meeting with friends in a cafe, I met a girl. Just my type - a slender blonde with soft features. Thin hands, long hair, charming smile. Chest, butt - everything is in place! We were introduced to each other. Me as a psychologist, her as a spiritual healer.

At the words “spiritual healer,” I noticed how her spine slightly stretched upward, giving its owner 5 mm of height. I smiled at this nuance. She thought I smiled at her. The chin of this young and graceful doe leaned forward, simultaneously raising her nose above the horizon line. She sat down opposite me. The podium position for admiring was taken and now it was possible to start talking.

However, I have difficulty communicating. The fact is that if a woman in a conversation categorically ignores the fact that she is a woman, I get upset and am forced to start communicating with her in the context of the image that she herself brings to the fore. In this case, this was her “spiritual healing.” By and large, I wasn’t interested in what all this crap meant. Because I feel when a person in front of me is experienced, and when he is an imitator of experience. Therefore, it was more pleasant for me to imagine her naked to the waist, think about the silkiness of her skin and the smell of shiny hair, see how she arches her back...

But alas...

She did not react to my attitude towards her as a woman. For a woman this is very bad! This means that her connection with her femininity is broken. And so that she wouldn’t flirt too much with spirituality, I had to turn on the psychologist and put her under my microscope, starting to ask uncomfortable logical questions. By the end of the conversation, the “healer” had a dry throat, his posture had collapsed, his hands reflexively calmed himself, and his smile was no longer so charming. Well, you know, a forced smile is not charming...

Spiritual development of man. Rules of growth

Don't expect anything from spirituality.

Because your expectation leads to the fact that you start looking for something specific and are distracted from the practice of growth. It is better to look for specific things in personal development, and even better in social achievements (read about the differences between spiritual growth and personal growth in the article “Spiritual growth or personal development, what to choose?”). Here, most often, we step on the path of thorns and hardships. This is where the following paradox awaits you: the result always lives up to expectations, but as soon as you start expecting, you don’t get any results.

The misconception that the more you practice, the more you will develop something, does not lead to anything. Because any practice should lead to personal changes, and therefore to internal maturation. Therefore, the usual contemplation of a candle makes someone spiritually advanced, and someone just a statue.

Growth is a continuous search for what goes beyond the conscious. And any person who accepts this simple truth - “I don’t know what I will find out, I don’t know what I will find, but I am ready to look”, as a rule, gets better results than a person who expects something and practices .

Losing the meaning of life and your actions is normal.

We periodically lose not only the meaning of life, but the meaning of our search, the meaning of our actions, the meaning of our studies, etc. As a rule, this just means that all the schemes that have been used so far have either died out or have been exhausted, and completely new points of support must be sought. Only after this is a breakthrough and spiritual growth possible.

But, alas, many people remain at this point of emptiness, and if they do not deal with this issue, their entire life eventually turns into a feeling of worthlessness and disappointment. Because what happened before is no longer interesting, and they don’t believe that something awaits them ahead.

All rules, rituals, practices first help, and then hinder.

They become crutches for a completely healthy person and make movement difficult. The result of spiritual growth should be constant contact with mystery and mysticism.

And the mystery of life, it turns out, is quite simple - this is the ability to see the mystery in everything. And come into contact with this mystery. Alas, no practice, no ritual, no meditative things can lead to this. And sometimes the most ordinary janitor or pensioner is more advanced in contemplation and understanding of life than people who practice, practice, and practice again.

This is the path of loss. When you take this path, you don't know what you will gain, but you always know what you will lose. Many people stop at this stage, because everything acquired through back-breaking labor needs to be thrown away, and what will be acquired in the future is a kind of “pig in a poke.”

It often happens that we have to give up our social status, our merits, our talents - everything that prevents us from moving forward. And we can say that the spiritual development of a person is

This is constant work without fatigue and without restrictions.

The spiritual development of a person is always a path beyond the possible and beyond the usual. Therefore, anyone who has taken this path is simply obliged to work constantly spiritually and mentally. There are very few opportunities to rest here, because stopping means going back. And those people who stop to enjoy and be in what attracts them are like a child who stared at a flower at the station, and the train left.

Pleasures and satisfactions get in the way.

For the desire to enjoy is the desire to stay, or stop. And this desire is always less than comprehending something new. The comprehension of the mystery of existence and, especially, of God. Therefore, pleasures and satisfactions of any kind interfere with the path.

But the great mystery of comprehending the world and God within oneself remains.

Problems of personal self-development

It is important to understand that the path of self-development has no end point. The goal is the journey, not the need to get to the finish line.

At the same time, self-development encounters many difficulties along the way. How a person copes with difficulties determines his perception of reality and his future path.

IGNORANCE

Ignorance is encouraged by the highest ranks. This allows the cause of their suffering to be hidden from the people.

Ignorance is nothing more than the rejection of information or its denial without the slightest study of the issue . Many people who consider themselves too smart often say the phrase “I already know everything.”

The famous thinker Socrates never tired of repeating “I know that I know nothing.” This opinion is radically different from the beliefs of those people who consider themselves smart now.

The first people can be classified as ignorant. They strive to fill themselves with any information, regardless of its value. At the same time, they feel important and try to prove it to others. The tragedy of these people is that they do not try to save room for something new, programming themselves to be full of knowledge. As a result, a person stops developing, because he does not need it.

It is important to understand that the self-development of an individual, like the Universe, cannot stop. Otherwise it would contradict the laws of the universe. As a result, the know-it-all person is not ahead of others, but lags behind people who are open to everything new.

Such a problem makes it impossible to realize that it is impossible to achieve the standard. You can only approach it at a certain distance. And for this you need to constantly seek new knowledge, absorb it and apply it in practice. This is exactly what Socrates was talking about.

LAZINESS

As Vladimir Dovgan stated, “ Laziness and depression are a signaling system that says that you are not living your life .”

Laziness itself, in our usual understanding, does not exist. This is a derivative of desires limited by the subconscious. When a person does not have a goal to strive for, his internal energy stagnates. And she had to go to fulfill her life’s mission.

If a person does not have deepest desires and clearly defined goals, he may become lazy. If a person even occasionally thinks that he is lazy to do something, he is not doing what he is meant to do.

It's not far from laziness to degradation . Unfortunately, many realize this already too late. Laziness gradually turns into alcoholism and drug addiction. People end up at the bottom of the social ladder.

What to do if you are lazy?

The first option is to let everything take its course. Very soon a life situation will arise when you will have to pull yourself together and take some action.

The second way is to try to understand yourself at the subconscious level. You can attract loved ones to help, change your environment and find people who can set ambitious goals.

Laziness is quickly overcome with the help of real aspirations.

HABITS

Habits are nothing more than constantly repeated actions . There are good and bad habits. The latter have a negative impact emotionally, physically and mentally.

If a person lives unconsciously, bad and destructive habits will certainly appear in his life. The most intrusive of them are alcohol and smoking. Very often they appear when a person has no goals, aspirations, or desires to move forward.

At a certain point, a person realizes that he wants to change something in his life. To do this, you should get acquainted with the goals of self-development , and then you can little by little get rid of unnecessary habits, replacing them with those that will lead to success. The first steps will be very difficult to take. But, having felt the changes from giving up the first habit, you can recharge yourself with new forces that will give meaning to life.

By changing your habits one by one, you can ultimately change your life dramatically.

DOUBTS

It is human nature to question all new knowledge. He often encounters something unknown on his way. As a result, a bad habit may appear - constantly doubting something.

Such a problem forces a person to stop in his self-development. If desire says that it knows the formula for success, then doubt can force you to ask yourself a question about its effectiveness.

If a person has been engaged in self-development for a long time, he understands that doubt only steals time and does not bring any benefit. You can't let doubts win over desires.

If you focus on the negative, this will eventually happen.

Doubt is nothing more than a lack of information. If this gap is eliminated, you can begin to take active action.

About finding the meaning of life

The spirituality of a person is always determined by the extent to which he thinks about the meaning of life. Austrian psychiatrist Viktor Frankl argued that such reflections are the spiritual core that distinguishes normal people from those who suffer from any pathologies.

A person discovers the problematic nature of his existence and experiences the ambiguity of his life. During certain periods of life, these issues become the most “acute”, which speaks of spiritual quests.

A deep mental shock can lead to a search for the meaning of life. Regardless of the reasons and the chosen path of spiritual development of the individual, such quests are an indicator of the meaningfulness of life and personal development. The existence of a person is not meaningless, and until consciousness leaves him, he must realize his values and bear responsibility.

A person’s “justification” of his true destiny occurs through experience, through trial and error. The conditioning of mental programs is eliminated when certain experiences and emotions and feelings associated with them arise. Until a person curbs his mind and learns to be aware of the games of the mind, unity with the spirit will be incomplete.

It is equally important to establish a connection with your own body, learn to hear it, develop feeling and purposefully use the mind. These skills will help you get rid of dissonance in feelings and self-perception, and will help you achieve complete spiritual harmony.