How to understand that a man is cheating if outwardly everything looks as usual. Women have a special emotional attunement that works on an intuitive level. An attentive spouse or girlfriend will always sense adultery. However, if a woman completely trusts her man, then it doesn’t even occur to her to check or spy on her loved one.
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How to determine deception and betrayal on the part of your husband?
There are various signs that can help you determine if your spouse is cheating. Many unnoticeable little things will point to a careful look at many facts of our biography. You can find evidence of betrayal if you take a close look at the alleged cheater. It is not at all necessary to catch your husband red-handed to be convinced of his infidelity.
External physiological signs
First you need to take a good look at your spouse. When he returns home from work again, take a closer look at his things, try to smell the smell emanating from him, start a conversation on an abstract topic during dinner. You can understand that your spouse is unfaithful based on physiological signs:
- Sight. During a conversation, a person who feels guilty involuntarily avoids direct gaze. Of course, there is a category of people who can lie to their faces. However, even they will not be able to constantly look directly at the deceived spouse. The cheater will try to quickly escape from conversations and be distracted by someone or something else.
- Smell. You can recognize deception by the foreign smell from the faithful. It won't necessarily be the scent of a woman's perfume. Maybe the man suddenly began to smell like someone else's soap? Or is your hair washed with shampoo that is not in your bathroom?
- Someone else's hair on clothes. One hair that accidentally gets on your shirt is not a reason to start a family showdown. However, if a spouse systematically wears the same hair on his clothes, this is definitely not an accident.
- Scratches on the body. Passionate lovers often leave marks on different parts of the body. It is not necessary for the faithful to have his entire back scratched. A small mark may appear on the buttocks, lower back, or neck.
- Traces of someone else's lipstick. Every man tries to erase his mistress's lipstick. However, he may not always notice small stains on the collar, and not all lipstick can be easily wiped off.
Change in behavior and attitude
After adultery, husbands dramatically change their behavior. You can determine deception by the way your spouse talks on the phone. A man will use privacy when talking, delete incoming calls and SMS, and set his mobile phone to vibrate during non-working hours. Cheaters are looking for a reason to leave the house. They are happy to go to work and do not strive to return home early; they often go on business trips.
A previously silent man becomes talkative, and a talkative person may suddenly withdraw into himself. The attitude towards the spouse also changes. An accommodating husband suddenly begins to criticize his wife’s figure, appearance, and culinary abilities (see also:). If a man feels guilty, he, on the contrary, can become affectionate and courteous.
A spouse's attitude toward personal correspondence on social networks can help catch a spouse cheating. Approach unexpectedly when your husband is sitting at the computer. The cheater will try to quickly hide his messages and close the account. If, when asked why he did this, the husband denies everything, this is the first sign of his infidelity.
Sometimes a man’s irritability is explained by problems at work, and his secrecy is explained by attempts to surprise you. Male psychology is designed in such a way that a sudden desire to find out about his plans can unsettle him. However, a change in behavior for no apparent reason should alert you.
What other changes in behavior can reveal a deceiver? Chat with his friends. Some people don't know how to lie. No matter how cunning they may seem, disagreements can be found in the stories of friends. Some will assure you of their spouse’s devotion, others will avert their eyes. Someone who is aware of the deception will behave differently than usual.
Changes in appearance
What changes in a husband's appearance could indicate infidelity? For a new passion, a man is ready to change his hairstyle, perfume, go to the gym, change his clothing style. Previously, your spouse could go to work without combing his hair, but now he stands in front of the mirror longer than you? New things appeared in his wardrobe, did he carefully choose a shirt to match his trousers, and socks to his shoes? There is reason to be wary.
You can catch your husband cheating by the way he begins to feel about his figure. Often, adult men try to match their young mistress and begin to lose weight, take care of their skin, do manicures, and strengthen muscles. “How can I check my husband for infidelity by his appearance (more details in the article:)?” - deceived wives often ask the question. Below are 10 ways to spot a cheater:
- pay attention to the hairstyle;
- check the availability of new linen;
- look for a gym membership;
- count the number of new shirts;
- look at his nails (he may have had his nails done);
- touch his stubble;
- pay attention to the intimate area;
- compare the new image with the old one;
- look for traces of gray hair coloring;
- hide new socks and see how quickly they have replacements.
Changes in daily routine
You can recognize infidelity by changing your husband's daily routine. After the appearance of another woman, men are constantly “late at work.” If previously the need to stay at work longer than expected caused dissatisfaction in the spouse, now he will begin to treat this calmly.
Some men try to go to bed later and get up earlier than their wife. This is explained by the reluctance to communicate with the spouse again. The husband may stop coming home for dinner because he eats elsewhere.
Some people didn’t like getting up early before the deception, but now they get up at 6 a.m. for a morning run. Perhaps the love for sports manifested itself after a new passion began to appear in the nearby park in the morning. It's worth asking your spouse to take you with him. If he begins to come up with excuses, his morning jogging did not appear out of love for sports.
Change in family financial situation
How to catch your husband cheating due to changes in the family's financial situation? Men often buy expensive gifts for their lovers, so your wealth will change. Perhaps a man is cheating if:
Changes in intimate life
Sex with a cheater takes on a different character. Sometimes after adultery, husbands try to avoid intimacy with their wives. Relationships in bed will be very rare, since the spouse will constantly be “tired at work.” The husband will not take the initiative. His sudden fatigue is explained by the fact that he gave all his passion to another woman.
However, sometimes a man tries to recreate the sensations he experienced with his mistress. The wife will notice that her husband is constantly experimenting in bed. He suggests new poses and reacts too violently. This happens due to the fact that the husband is trying to recreate the sensations received on the side. If he does not experience them, you can notice obvious disappointment.
Traditional methods
Our ancestors knew how to check that a husband is unfaithful. Women at different times wanted to find out that their husband was walking, which provoked the emergence of numerous ways to reveal the betrayal of a husband using folk remedies. A few of them:
- Using potassium permanganate. Testing for infidelity in this way involves soaking the husband's underwear in a basin of water without adding detergents. This is rather a psychological test that allows you to find out the state of mind of your spouse. He is informed in advance that there is a proven way to recognize infidelity - if the water in which the laundry is soaked turns pinkish, it means that the man had outside sexual contact. At night, put the laundry in a basin, leave it in the bathroom in a visible place, then quietly add a little potassium permanganate to it at night. If the water remains pink in the morning, it means that the husband has a clear conscience and he takes the test with humor. If the water becomes clear, it means that the husband changed it in the morning, which means that he would like to hide some moments and events of his life.
- Using wax. Water is poured into a porcelain saucer, a candle is set on fire, the text of the spell is pronounced: “Fire is a natural element, help, tell me if my dear (the husband’s name is called) has another one.” The second version of the plot: “Mellow the candle, melt the candle - show yourself as a homewrecker.” Hold the candle so that the dripping wax hits the water. If the melted wax hardens, forming a female figure, this indicates that the husband has a mistress.
- Fortune telling by ring. They take the ring bought by the spouse and write his name on a white piece of paper. The sheet is set on fire with a candle flame and waited for it to burn to the ground. A red thread is threaded through the ring, held over a pile of ashes, and waited until it begins to swing. If the ring swings in a straight line to the right and left or back and forth, this indicates an affair. If the ring does not swing, there was no betrayal on his part, but he was thinking about a romantic adventure. If the ring rotates in a circle, the man is faithful to his wife. Fortune telling is performed at midnight on a full moon, while in solitude.
Folk methods include all kinds of fortune-telling, and the fortune-teller must perform certain actions that often contradict common sense (rituals in a cemetery or in a birch grove, using unscaled fish or wood ash).
Traditional methods in most cases are cunning tricks. Their results are unreliable. Using them as evidence of a life partner’s infidelity can provoke a serious conflict, harm family well-being, and cause discord in the family.
How to deal with betrayal?
There is no universal advice for every woman. The attitude towards infidelity depends on many factors: upbringing, the desire to keep the family together, the reasons for the affair, the presence of children. Sometimes the woman herself pushes her husband to cheat. Constant scandals, dissatisfaction with appearance, reproaches can provoke a man to search for new, comfortable living conditions.
Before you make a big decision, you need to understand what you want for yourself. Save your family? Break up with a cheater? Sometimes the willingness to change and meet each other halfway allows you to preserve and strengthen family ties. If you cannot forgive the betrayal, expose the cheater and leave yourself. Don't make scandals. Pretend that you don't care about him.
If you want to save your family, try to ignore your husband's infidelity. Find out what he is unhappy about. Try to make him want to come home every day. Maybe after having children you stopped paying attention to your appearance? Get your nails done, send your kids to kindergarten and get a job. Buy a new dress and do your hair. Let him now convict you of treason.
Sometimes friends insistently suggest that they expose their husband. They claim that all men, and yours in particular, are prone to cheating. They offer many ways to catch your husband cheating. However, signs of envy can be seen in their behavior. Maybe it’s not the husband who is deceiving, but his friends?
How to find out if your husband is cheating - Signs that help identify infidelity
An unexpected encounter or a blow from around the corner
“When I found myself in the city center in the middle of a working day, I was surprised when I saw my girlfriend leaving a restaurant with some young man I didn’t know. I didn’t pay much attention to this fact—I wasn’t upset or jealous. You never know who she could have lunch with during the day! With a former classmate or classmate, with a colleague, with a boss, and finally - as part of a business meeting with partners...
So I didn’t hide or follow her, but just went up to say hello. What should she have done? Introduce us to each other. But the unexpected happened: she suddenly turned pale, then blushed and... lost the power of speech. Like a thief caught red-handed. It became not only clear to me, but also very disgusting. Needless to say, after this awkward, unpleasant scene, we broke up with her.” Sergey, 33 years old.
External changes when your spouse cheats
Lingerie.
A man can think as much as he wants that his mistress does not need changes in his wardrobe and he is handsome as is, but he will never go on an intimate date in torn or dirty panties or socks.
If over the past few years your husband has been buying cheap underwear at a nearby market or even dumping this responsibility on you, then a large number of new acquisitions should alert you.
Personal hygiene.
If your husband previously did not have the habit of taking a shower and brushing his teeth several times a day, think about whether he wants to wash away other people’s odors? Frequent shaving and plenty of deodorant also apply here.
Running glance.
If, when explaining and talking to you, his gaze darts and his speech is confused, then he is either preparing a surprise for you, or is trying to hide something much less pleasant.
Missing wedding ring.
If your spouse has stopped wearing a wedding ring, although he previously had such a habit, then even the most plausible excuse like “my hands are itching” or “I’m afraid of losing” ceases to be plausible. Exceptions include skin diseases and other health problems.
The appearance of foreign objects.
Perfume, a tie clip, cufflinks, even a new shirt, tie or shoes in the wardrobe, which were chosen with more care than your husband is used to - this is already a reason to wonder: were they a gift from his mistress?
Signs of a partner’s infidelity: changes in personal space
1) Car.
If your husband has a car, then the next time you decide to take it for a ride, note whether the adjustments of your seat have been changed for another person? Is there any rolled jewelry, buttons, linen, or handkerchiefs left in the glove compartment or between the seats?
2) Attitude to technology.
Does it close your computer windows when it comes into your field of view? Doesn’t he leave his phone in a visible place, carrying it with him, although the whole family used to look for his things around the apartment? If this is not suddenly revealed conscience and accuracy, then, most likely, your husband stood up to protect a space so personal that even you no longer have a place in it.
3) Condoms
, which have not been used for a long time in your common bed, found in the pockets of trousers, a jacket or a bag - something that will give reason to confirm your guesses before finding out your husband’s infidelity in a direct conversation with him.
Signs of a man’s betrayal: changes in family life
1) Outflow of funds.
Having a mistress is not a cheap hobby, so you will find a hole in your home budget very soon.
2) You stopped going out together.
Your husband hangs out with friends, works, goes to corporate events - most of his life suddenly began to go on without you, but this suits him, and he does not offer you leisure time together. A reason to think.
3) Not interested in family life and your affairs in particular
- this is possible if his circle of interests has changed.
4) Stealth.
The husband often avoids telling how he spent his day or, on the contrary, answers smartly, as if with memorized phrases.
5) Stopped making joint plans for the future.
6) Confuses your words, deeds, tastes and preferences with someone else's.
Perhaps he is communicating too actively with another woman?
7) Shows new techniques in bed that are not new to him.
If this is not a sudden attempt to diversify married life, then where would such habits come from?
There are too many similarities - even little words!
“If people communicate often and closely, they involuntarily begin to imitate each other: they develop common gestures, intonations, even some words or speech patterns. Communication with a stranger can be easily determined by new, previously unusual words and turns of speech that she did not have before.
I have an old friend who is free with his spoken language. Maybe, for example, say: “I’m leaving now” instead of “I’m leaving now.” Or instead of “Call me on my cell phone” - “Call me in my pocket.”
I’ve already gotten used to his speech and I know that no one except him speaks like that. But when I began to hear his usual turns of phrase and recognizable words from my wife, I became interested in how closely they communicate with my friend. And I asked her directly about it. It turned out that it was very close—closer than ordinary friendship suggests.” Arkady, 38 years old.
What factors are the main evidence of male infidelity?
- Close communication with another woman. If your husband has a work colleague, an old college friend or a school friend with whom he regularly spends time, this is already a reason to start worrying. Especially if in this communication he begins to move a little away from you. This is quite unpleasant and leads to numerous quarrels. The husband can answer with some phrases that will not leave you any visible reasons for jealousy: for example, “she is like a sister to me.”
- Regularly being late home after work. If the husband is very often late at work, or starts going fishing with friends very often or going to the bathhouse, this can serve as another alarming signal for his wife. It is quite possible that under most of these delays and trips to the bathhouse lies an ordinary visit to his mistress.
- Cooling your husband's relationship with you. Has intimacy become much less regular under the pretext of fatigue? In his free time, does your spouse prefer to be alone, at the computer, newspaper or TV, preferably without you as a distraction? It may very well be that his thirst for communication has already been quenched by another woman.
- Clear signs of betrayal. SMS messages from women’s numbers, regular calls, to which in front of you your husband responds crumpled and indistinctly. The smell of perfume, women's hair on clothes, a scratched back can also serve as a reason for jealousy.
Cheating is difficult to hide for a long time, both for men and women. This always leads to painful problems, sometimes to divorce, or life together becomes formal. Intuition will help you find out whether your husband is cheating on you or not. But it is also based on various signs and changes in the behavior of the spouse.
Vehicle inspection
An examination of the inside of a car, which is often used as a place for intimate meetings, will help you check a guy for treason. Often lovers leave eloquent evidence of their stay - underwear or contraception. Distrustful girls will be wary of women's hair found on the upholstery.
If hair of the same color and the same length appears regularly, it is time to ask your husband the appropriate questions. The following signs partially indicate the infidelity of a spouse: the mysterious disappearance from the car of a supply of diapers, a child's car seat and other things indicating the man's marital status.
How to find out if your husband is cheating - women's secrets
First, let's try to figure out why men cheat:
As many say, love has passed; - Middle age crisis; — Undiversified sex life with my wife; — Men are polygamous creatures and cannot stay with one woman; — Just a chance and a super interesting woman turned up; — Holiday novels without continuation; — Online novels leading to a meeting in real life.
Now let's talk about how to find out if your husband is cheating by his behavior
Dear ladies, take a closer look at your husband’s behavior and if you notice changes, then just start observing him without throwing a tantrum. Has your husband started paying more attention to his appearance and is always trying to look good?
If earlier he was in a hurry to go home after work, now you notice that, in addition to work, he has a bunch of urgent matters that you were not aware of before. He began to stay late and when he came home he simply said that he was late on business;
It’s easy to find out whether your husband has cheated or not by his use of the phone. The husband begins to constantly “rush” with his phone, trying not to miss a single call or SMS. Tries to talk on the phone so that you do not hear the content of the conversation;
All sorts of dissatisfaction with you as a woman or wife should also make you think that there is the influence of another woman here. After all, if a man begins to compare you with others, it means that he begins to lose interest in you;
He changed the access codes on his phone, on social pages - he became interested in another woman;
To find out if your husband is cheating, monitor his mood. Most likely, it is always upbeat, he approaches everything with a smile and some kind of absent-mindedness, saying that this is nonsense. If he is at home, he tries to be alone with himself, telling you what he needs to think;
He is not interested in everyday problems, the success of his children, or your condition. He doesn’t seem to notice the changes in you and your relationship;
Avoids intimacy with you, explaining that he is tired or not feeling well;
Your husband develops other hobbies that were previously unknown to you, new culinary preferences, new favorite songs, etc. In this case, it is very easy to find out whether your husband has cheated or not.
But really, try to take everything calmly. Just take a moment and ask your husband what is happening to him and why there have been such changes in his behavior. And, of course, try to make your husband pay attention to you again as a woman. After all, love does not just pass away, it can be returned and a marriage can be saved.
How to find out if your husband is cheating by following him
Frankly, a woman who wants to save her marriage should not do things like spy on her own husband. Even if you have every reason to believe that your husband has an outside interest, the thought of how to track down your husband should not enter your charming head.
The point is that if you don't find evidence of cheating, it won't bring you peace. Well, if you find it, you will need to do something with this evidence. In general, your marriage, one way or another, may come to an unhappy end.
It’s another matter if this is exactly what you are trying to achieve and finding out whether your husband is cheating is beneficial for you. In this case, you can use the tips below.
First of all, you need to decide what signs you can use to determine that your husband is cheating on you. There are usually several of them and they are all quite talkative.
· The husband begins to take touching care of his cell phone - he does not leave it for a minute even in the toilet, turns on the “silent” mode and can even set a password for access to SMS.
· He becomes very interested in his own appearance. He buys new shirts or perfume. Spends a lot of time in front of the mirror.
· His behavior towards you also changes. He can either shower you with gifts for no reason, or, on the contrary, begin to find fault with every trifle, sometimes maliciously ridiculing your habits.
· Changes in his work schedule will help you find out whether your husband has had an affair or not. Suddenly, your husband is often sent on business trips. As the most irreplaceable specialist. There may also be calls from friends who urgently need help, and there is also a series of after-hour shifts.
· Your family budget begins to slowly but inexorably shrink. Either my husband was deprived of his bonus, or my friend urgently needed a large sum of money.
· If you have access to his mobile phone, you can order a detailed report on his calls. This will not take much time, the main thing is that there are enough funds in the account to pay for this service. This way you can find out the subscriber number to which the most calls are made and where the most messages go.
· If you have access to his computer, then you can study his browsing history in the browser. You can also view your husband's contacts on various social networks.
· A reliable and error-free source of information is mutual friends. Surely there will be several people who, purely with the best intentions, of course, will want to open your eyes and you can find out if your husband is cheating. However, you need to be extremely careful with this information, especially if it comes from your best but single friends. They have a very rich imagination, you know.
“We have been married for three years, the child is one and a half years old. It so happened that I am the only one working, and my husband stays at home with the child. And when I return home in the evening, I increasingly see him walking in the yard with his son... and with his lonely neighbor on the playground. To all my reproaches, he calmly replies that the neighbor simply loves children. Is my jealousy really unfounded? How do I know if my husband is cheating on me? Ulyana Shirvel."
How to find out if your husband is cheating, says psychologist Elena Poryvaeva:
Jealousy is the fear of losing power over an object. In your case, this “object” for you is your own husband. In fact, you can say that you dominate him in a certain way. After all, you are the main breadwinner in the house. And the husband plays the role of a housewife. Thus, your husband is socially maladjusted, or, simply put, he has ceased to feel like a man. And walks in the company of a neighbor may well take place on his initiative and mainly for two reasons.
First reason. Do not forget that in our not entirely civilized society, not the most flattering opinions are expressed about a male nanny (and your husband only lacked this, coupled with the fact that he no longer feels like a full-fledged member of society). Therefore, as a certain protection from the condemnation of others, he invites a woman for walks, so that it seems that the child is still in a woman’s hands.
The second reason. Your spouse still needs to feel his masculinity in some way. And even if the neighbor flirts with him, in this way she only compensates for his social devaluation in the eyes of your spouse. Moreover, regardless of whether he himself has any views on his neighbor or not. But if the situation is left to chance, things can go very far.
How to tell if your husband is cheating? What should you do? First of all, understand your own goals. Namely: how beneficial is it for you that your husband is unemployed and busy with housework? Maybe it’s this feeling of power over a man who has lost his importance that you value?
If so, then the situation is quite dangerous for you. After all, if you leave your husband in a state of maladjustment, someone else, or rather, someone else, may try to take advantage of this. If he is valuable to you as a person, urgently take care of his social status together with your spouse.
Let him feel his own importance! Then he will not look for this significance on the side. And he won’t refuse to take a walk alone with his child. And you will have no reason to be jealous at all.
Finding out about your husband's infidelity is impossible and tragic for any woman. But if there are still prerequisites for this, the time has come to find out whether this is true or not. The longer you delay the moment of establishing the truth, the worse it will be for you when you find out that your spouse was dishonest with you.
In search of the truth, you must behave like a real spy, noticing every little thing and finding changes in the habits of your loved one.
Now that the time has come, here are the steps you need to take to achieve your goal.
1. Pay attention to your man's sex drive. Perhaps he has recently begun to move away from you in bed? Of course, this is typical for every couple when passion subsides, but a sudden change and detached sex should alert you.
The second option is also possible, when the husband, on the contrary, becomes too active in bed. This is due to new sexual hobbies and increased libido.
Look how he turned out in bed. Has he started looking for new adventures with you? Is it really possible that the husband preaching calm missionary sex is trying to spice up your sex life, or did he learn all this from another woman?
It has been noticed that many men who cheat on their wives begin to feel embarrassed about their body: he doesn’t want you to see him without a shirt, and starts having sex in pitch darkness. Sometimes this behavior can be explained by his loyalty to another.
2. Previously, your husband was uncommunicative and distant, but now he began to call you darling and kisses your feet? Such sudden changes in a man's behavior may indicate his infidelity, which he is trying to compensate for with kindness towards you.
Started bringing flowers, sweets and gifts? Think about it. The main thing is not to make rash conclusions. Perhaps your husband decided to return the former feeling of love or decided to support you in some difficult situation for you.
3. Often after cheating you can notice a change in your husband’s mood. He used to be capricious, but now he has become the most good-natured? Was you stable in your mood, but now you have an unstable emotional state? Or maybe he’s always looking so thoughtfully into the distance...
4. A telephone is an ideal modern spy device that will help you find out in a timely manner that your husband is cheating. And now it is important that it is not in your hands, but in his. It all starts with changing habits. If previously your husband constantly left his phone in sight and forgot it after leaving for work, now he doesn’t let it out of his hands and begins to panic if he can’t find it quickly.
Suspicions of treason can also be confirmed by:
- Suddenly the password came from somewhere on the phone;
- Sudden disappearances of the husband along with the phone when incoming calls are received and the abrupt end of the conversation when you approach;
- Frequent phone disconnections so you can't reach him for several hours
5. Watch your husband in front of the computer. Signs of betrayal may include:
- Frequent forays into the Internet, if this was not typical for him before;
- Night sitting in front of the monitor;
- Sudden curling of the monitor screen when you enter the room.
6. Men find excuses for everything just as well as women. Out of the blue, he started staying up late at friends' houses, going to the gym, or missing work. Of course, this may not always indicate betrayal. Evaluate for yourself the degree of authenticity of his new hobbies.
How to check?
How to understand that a guy is cheating on you and deceiving you? You can check your suspicions in the following ways:
- Talk. The easiest and most open way to clarify the situation is to talk to the guy. You need to tell him about your experiences and ask him to tell the truth. Of course, even if there is betrayal, the young man is unlikely to sincerely admit it. But during a conversation, with good observation, everything will become clear to the girl.
If the guy starts to get nervous, avoid the conversation, choose an attacking position, and make excuses, then with a high probability we can talk about his guilt.During a conversation, you should watch your facial expressions - defensive postures, averting your eyes, and convulsive movements are signs of the behavior of a liar.
- Actions and words. You need to be extremely careful about what he says and how he behaves. Constant rudeness, lies, lack of excuses, broken promises and reluctance to spend time together indicate problems in the relationship.
- Ask your friends . Of course, this method is not the best, since the guy’s friends will not only not want to reveal his secrets, but will also tell him about the questions the girl asks. But in a situation where you have common friends and they are honest, you can count on success.
- Digging through things. This method is not distinguished by decency, but, as you know, in war and in love all means are fair.
Perhaps searching your bag, drawers and, if possible, examining your lover's phone can bear fruit. - Follow . You can carry out surveillance yourself, ask your friends to do it, or hire a specialist. Perhaps observing the young man will lead to the discovery of betrayal.
How to recognize that a guy has someone else? Find out in this video:
Pay attention to your spouse's appearance
Remember that men turn into peacocks in front of a new woman.
1. Suddenly you begin to notice that previously always casually dressed and with a two-day stubble, your husband began to carefully take care of himself: he dresses only in clean and ironed clothes, shaves every day (or even twice a day), looks in the mirror in front of exit. There is something to think about...
It often happens that men begin to differ sharply in cleanliness: every day they go to the shower immediately after coming home. Perhaps he is trying to wash away someone else's smell?
2. Sudden changes in hobbies, such as going to the gym, may indicate his desire to please someone else. After all, he didn’t do this for you. However, sometimes sudden new hobbies can indicate a midlife crisis, which forces a man to strive for youth and health.
3. Sometimes you need to be a bloodhound with your husband. Smell it after you arrive. A sharp trail of unfamiliar odors, especially women's ones, will definitely tell you that for some time he was in close contact with the opposite sex.
4. Pay attention to body language. Even if he behaves correctly, speaks so that you can’t find fault, his own body can give him away:
- Is there still eye contact between you? Perhaps you used to always look straight into the eyes when talking, but now he looks away. This may indicate his feelings of guilt.
- Maybe your husband began to hug you and kiss you less (even on the cheek). Touching is intimacy, its absence is a gap between people.
- Some men still show their wives attentions at home, but in public places everything changes. Perhaps he is afraid that his mistress will notice you.
Looking for evidence
Feel like Sherlock Holmes!
What woman doesn't like detective stories? And what a confusing story to do without a detective. You can find out whether your husband is cheating or not. The main thing to remember is that the threat of betrayal must be real, otherwise if your loved one finds out about your tricks, this can seriously undermine his trust in you.
1. Inspection of things
If your significant other is a sensible person, then you are unlikely to find evidence in his phone. If not, look through his phone book for contacts with unknown names. There are no names, maybe unknown abbreviations or just signs? You can encrypt names in any way you like.
On your computer, you should first look at your email and social media accounts. Unexpectedly empty mail can also raise suspicions. Sometimes it is useful to view your browser's browsing history to identify the pages that you have visited.
In his bag, desk, wallet, and even in his trouser pockets, look for keys unknown to you.
If you have access to his bank account (plastic card), check the transaction history. Single large expenses, and of course payments in public catering establishments, may cause suspicion.
2. We work in the field
If you doubt or are afraid to talk to him about your guesses, you need surveillance. Here are some tips:
- Don't follow him in your car. Borrow a friend's car or call a taxi.
- Keep a safe distance. Men are often cautious, so whether you're on foot or in a car, stay behind him through several people or cars.
- Find the right moment. If he calls you and says that he is working overtime, or is staying with a friend, this is the time for you. The main thing is to find a compelling argument for your visit when you find it there.
If you suspect that your husband is cheating and even become convinced of this, do not delay the conversation. By keeping pain to yourself, you only suffer yourself. But it’s not your fault! Show him that he really hurt you. Let him feel guilty, not you, for not trusting him.
Are all young people capable of treason?
It is generally accepted in society that all representatives of the stronger half of humanity cheat.
But that's not true. There are certain categories of guys in psychology who are able to remain faithful to their chosen one:
- monogamous _ He loves only his girlfriend and does not even allow the thought of cheating, because he does not see the point in it;
- decent . The young man consciously approaches relationships and understands that cheating is a betrayal of his chosen one;
- cowardly _ Such guys may well admit thoughts of cheating, but their fear of the possible consequences of such an act turns out to be stronger than the desire to cheat;
- unconfident. Complex young men value those girls who are next to them, because they are not confident in their ability to seduce someone else;
- impotent . Guys with this problem do not cheat because they are physically unable to do so.
Why do women cheat on men? You can learn about the reasons from our article.
