How do addictions work and can you get rid of them using guided meditation?

How do addictions to alcohol, tobacco, sex, adrenaline and others work? How to get rid of them using guided meditation?

Chapter 91.

Before you treat someone, ask them if they are willing to give up everything that made them sick? Hippocrates.

How do dependencies work and what can you do about them?

Reader question:

How does hypnosis according to your method help (and does it help?) solve the problem of addiction? Alcohol, drug or sex addiction? Is it enough to remove some connections and larvae or is this a more significant process and a person must work a lot?

Answer:

When reading, please remember that the average statistical summary is given, everything is very individual, and at the same time, the described principle applies to ANY TASK, not just dependencies. If you're too lazy to read the details, you can just scroll down to the conclusion)

Let's start with the understanding that, if desired, you can get rid any and without hypnosis. However, the problem is that the will of the majority is suppressed (with or without their knowledge and permission), the focus on the task is scattered, and addictions are used as a direct or indirect control tool that drains a lot of energy. Therefore, of course, energy cleansing is highly recommended, which is what the technique allows you to do: help a person remove those blocks and “amplifiers” that support addiction, return his own will and strength, get rid of energy and mental attachments. The same provisions apply to any other physical or psycho-emotional ailments (diseases, depression, etc.)

Where do obsessive thoughts come from and how to deal with them.

Usually people consider a thought to be something of little importance, therefore they are very little picky when accepting a thought. But from accepted rational thoughts good is born, from accepted false thoughts failures and all evil are born. A thought is like a ship’s rudder: the direction and, for the most part, the fate of the entire huge machine depends on a small rudder, on this insignificant plank trailing behind the ship. (Ignatiy Brianchaninov)

Obsessive thoughts are the form in which false ideas come to us and try to take power over us. Every day, our consciousness is subject to their active attacks. This prevents us from soberly assessing the situation, making plans and believing in their implementation; because of these thoughts, it is difficult for us to concentrate and find reserves to overcome problems; these thoughts are exhausting, and often lead to despair and lead us to fatal decisions.

Here are some thoughts that quietly kill us: - The world is unfriendly, terrible, full of evil and stupid people, there are very few good people; - Nobody loves or understands me; - My situation is hopeless; - Life is scary; - I will not be able to achieve in life what I wanted (what was expected or wanted from me); - I will never be happy; — Losing yourself in a dream is a good break from life; - Nobody needs me, I’m a loser; “It’s too late to start something, too much time has been lost.” And similar thoughts. They permeate our consciousness. They don't let us go for a second. They make us suffer much more than the events themselves that caused the internal crisis.

There are a number of mental illnesses (depression of organic origin, schizophrenia, etc.) in which obsessive thoughts are present in the complex of symptoms. With such diseases, we know of only one possibility of help - medication. In this case, you need to contact a psychiatrist for assistance.

However, most people who suffer from intrusive thoughts when experiencing a mental crisis do not have psychopathological disorders. With the help of these tips, they can successfully get rid of these thoughts and get out of the crisis state.

What is the nature of obsessive thoughts?

From the point of view of science, obsessive thoughts are the incessant repetition of unwanted ideas and drives, doubts, desires, memories, fears, actions, ideas, etc., which cannot be gotten rid of through willpower. The real problem in these thoughts is exaggerated, enlarged, and distorted. As a rule, there are several of these thoughts, they line up in a vicious circle that we cannot break. And we run in circles like squirrels in a wheel.

The more we try to get rid of them, the more they appear. And then a feeling of their violence appears. Very often (but not always), obsessive states are accompanied by depressive emotions, painful thoughts, and also feelings of anxiety.

To overcome this problem, we need to answer the questions:

What is the nature of obsessive thoughts? Where do they come from? How to deal with obsessive thoughts?

Different schools of psychology are still debating this issue, but the majority still associate obsessive thoughts with fears. It is quite difficult to fight an enemy if you cannot see him and it is not even clear who he is.

Meanwhile, answers to questions and successful solutions to problems have been known for thousands of years. There is an effective way to deal with obsessive thoughts in a mentally healthy person.

We all know that the strength of obsessive thoughts is that they can influence our consciousness without our will, and our weakness is that we have almost no influence on obsessive thoughts. That is, behind these thoughts there is an independent will, different from ours. The very name “obsessive thoughts” already suggests that they are “imposed” by someone from the outside.

We are often surprised by the paradoxical content of these thoughts. That is, logically we understand that the content of these thoughts is not entirely justified, not logical, not dictated by a sufficient number of real external circumstances, or even simply absurd and devoid of any common sense, but, nevertheless, we cannot resist these thoughts. Also, often when such thoughts arise, we ask ourselves the question: “How did I come up with this?”, “Where did this thought come from?”, “Did this thought get into my head?” We cannot find an answer to this, but for some reason we still consider it ours. At the same time, an obsessive thought has a huge impact on us. Everyone knows that a person haunted by obsessions retains a critical attitude towards them, understanding all their absurdity and alienness to his mind. When he tries to stop them by force of will, it does not bring results. This means that we are dealing with a phenomenon when our internal observer (the RSD complex: mind, consciousness, spirit) is disoriented for some reason.

Whose force or will is this that is directed against us through our own consciousness?

Simply put, a person in such situations is dealing with an attack (attack) of social attitudes. I want to clarify right away so that no one perceives social attitudes as primitively as those who talk about social patterns, cliches and their nature perceive them. These are not the quotes that the Internet and media are full of. They have no visualization or verbal forms at all, allowing them to exert their influence unnoticed. They can be called differently: energies, information space, memes, spirits, entities, trips. It makes no sense to talk about this, but their main weapon is known - distortion of reality. So, it is social attitudes in the form of memes, archetypes, standards that are the reason for these thoughts that we accept as our own. Habits are hard to break. And we are so accustomed to considering all our thoughts, all our internal dialogues and even internal battles as ours and only ours. But to win these battles, you need to take the side of your own in them. And to do this, you need to understand where yours are and where the strangers are. Determine that these particular thoughts are not ours, they are imposed on us from the outside by a soulless social entity, alien to our personal strength. Social Attitudes (hereinafter referred to as SU) act like banal viruses, while organically fitting into the internal stream of our consciousness and capable of remaining unnoticed and unrecognized indefinitely. All these so-called memes, archetypes and other SUs operate regardless of whether you believe in them or not.

For reference:

"Meme

(English
meme
) - a unit of cultural information. A meme can be considered any idea, symbol, mannerism or course of action that is consciously or unconsciously transmitted from person to person through speech, writing, video, rituals, gestures, etc. The concept of a meme and the term itself were proposed by evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins in 1976 in the book "The Selfish Gene". Dawkins proposed the idea that all cultural information is composed of basic units - memes, just as biological information is composed of genes; and just like genes, memes are subject to natural selection, mutation and artificial selection. From this idea of Dawkins the discipline of memetics emerged.

Dawkins coined the term “meme” based on the Greek word μίμημα - “likeness.”

According to Dawkins, like genes, memes are replicators

(English
replicators
), that is, objects that copy themselves for reproduction. Memes can reproduce at will or against the will of their carrier. For memes, survival depends on the presence of at least one host, and the success of reproduction depends on the surrounding cultural environment and on the presence of such a host who deliberately tries to spread the meme. The information content of a particular meme also affects the likelihood with which it will be copied. Memes can mutate, combine, and split to form new memes. They compete with each other for resources (the minds of human hosts), and, as a result, are subject to natural selection.

Memes are essentially information, but their functioning has noticeable behavioral manifestations.

It is believed that Dawkins first proposed the concept of a replicator as applied to sociocultural processes, although biologists Edward Osborne Wilson and Charles Lumsden (English) Russian. in the same years, they proposed the concept of the cultural gene, which is also based on an analogy between the mechanisms of transmission of genetic and cultural information.

Meanwhile, back in 1898, V. M. Bekhterev, in his article “The Role of Suggestion in Social Life,” proposed the concept of “Mental microbes,” which “like real physical microbes, act everywhere and are transmitted through the words and gestures of surrounding persons, through books, newspapers, etc.”

Horizontal transfer of ideas occurs between people of the same generation who are not connected by a mentor-student relationship.

Examples of memes given by Dawkins himself are: melodies, stable linguistic expressions.

The idea of memes is discussed in the famous book by Douglas Rushkoff “Media Virus. How culture subtly influences your consciousness." Memes in the book are discussed in connection with their ability to spread through media channels and the Internet, causing socially significant consequences (for example: influencing the elections of politicians, changing public beliefs, influencing children's audiences, etc.). Complex meme (memeplex).

Memes often form groups - complex memes that unite several memes to jointly capture the minds of their carriers and to strengthen them in the fight for them. A complex meme is also called a memeplex

) - this abbreviation is derived from the words "memetic complex".

The best examples of complex memes are religious or political doctrines. The concept and theory of memes is developed within the framework of the science of memetics, whose proponents seek to understand the causes of the emergence of memes and the mechanisms of their spread. Memetics also raises questions about the extent to which people are susceptible to memes and the ability of different people to spread memes. Among other things, memes (the term “media memes” is also sometimes used in this context) can be spread through the media. This aspect of the phenomenon was studied by American media researcher Douglas Rushkoff, who used the term “media virus.” Viruses of the Mind is a key element of Alastair Reynolds' Digital to Analogue, which describes a "memetic epidemic" spreading through culture and media. In the science fiction detective novel In the Land of the Blind,[6] Michael Flynn calls a meme any common phrase or idea that can become meaningful to a person.

- You see, ideas are the key to everything. Ideas—we call them “memes”—guide people's conscious behavior in the same way that genes control their instincts. "Memes." Something clicked in her memory. She remembered the names of the articles in the Index. —You used to call them “ideons,” right? He blinked in surprise and looked at her with respect. - Yes. These are elementary ideas. By analogy with elementary particles. Protons, electrons... and ideons.
- “In the land of the blind.” Chapter 9

In the same place, M. Flynn puts into the mouth of his hero the idea of the role of memes in manipulating mass consciousness:

“They are raising a nation of slaves,” he said in a low, tense voice. - Technoslaves. They support every meme that deprives a person of the ability for independent analysis or, conversely, encourages obedience, lack of will, and uniformity of thoughts.
- “In the land of the blind.” Chapter 10

Destructive social attitudes can become decisive in the process of destroying the fragile human psyche; the thoughts and dreams they introduce seem to be born in the person’s very personality, and not as a result of an imperceptible imposition from the outside. Perceived by a person as his own unique thoughts, acting however against the very personality of this person, gradually destroying the fragile psyche.

The criterion for determining the true source of our thoughts is very simple. If a thought instills in us anxiety, fear, self-doubt, a sense of self-importance, shame, envy, desire for revenge, regret, self-pity, and the like.

True, we are not always able to correctly assess our condition. The lack of constant internal work on self-control, critical thinking and conscious management of one’s thoughts also affects. One can also believe, with a greater or lesser degree of obviousness, that some thoughts, which, by the way, are always almost felt as alien and even forced, violent, actually have a nature alien to a person. A person is often unable to discern the true source of his thoughts, and the psyche is permeable to social attitudes. It is memes that support all our addictions (alcoholism, gambling addiction, painful neurotic dependence on certain people, etc.). Thoughts that we mistakenly mistake for our own push people to suicide, despair, resentment, unforgiveness, envy, emotional distress, and the inability to see and accept their mistakes. They obsessively “dictate” to us, masquerading as our thoughts, to perform very dubious actions in relation to others, depriving us of the opportunity to rethink. These thoughts prevent us from taking the path of development, instill in us a feeling of superiority over others, etc. Such thoughts are these “viruses” of the mind.

It is the social nature of thought viruses that confirms that, for example, publicly admitting our mistakes and wrong steps is often especially difficult for us. We feel internal resistance, we make great efforts to resist seemingly our own thoughts, which find a huge number of excuses for us not to do this. Although it seems like what’s so difficult about getting up in the morning and calling someone you recently rejected or banned? In fact, our whole life consists of a constant choice between what we want and what we don’t want, good and evil. This is the every-minute work that happens in the minds of people who, fortunately, are not influenced by social attitudes. And by analyzing the choices we make, everyone can see the effects of these “viruses” every day.

This is the nature of intrusive thoughts. And the mechanisms for overcoming these thoughts for those who understand what is happening to them work flawlessly.

How to overcome obsessive thoughts?

The first steps are:

1. Recognize the presence of obsessive thoughts and the need to get rid of them.

Understand that not all thoughts that come to us are ours. That often the result of depression is information from the outside. As long as you consider obsessive thoughts to be your own, you will not be able to oppose them with anything and take measures to neutralize them. It is impossible to neutralize yourself!

Make a firm decision to get rid of this condition in order to continue building your life without these viruses.

2. Take responsibility.

If we accept these obsessive thoughts from the outside and perform certain actions under their influence, then it is we who are responsible for these actions and the consequences of these actions. It is impossible to shift responsibility to obsessive thoughts, because we accepted them and acted in accordance with them. It was not thoughts that acted, but ourselves.

3. By repeating negative thoughts to ourselves, we allow them to program us.

Everyone is well aware of the power of self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis can sometimes help in very severe cases. Self-hypnosis can relieve pain, treat psychosomatic disorders, and significantly improve psychological state. Due to its ease of use and pronounced effectiveness, it has been used in psychotherapy for a long time.

Self-hypnosis of negative statements is often observed. A person who finds himself in a crisis situation constantly unconsciously utters statements to himself and out loud that not only do not help to get out of the crisis, but also worsen the condition. For example, a person constantly complains to friends or makes a statement to himself:

- Nobody loves me; – I can’t do anything; – My situation is hopeless. (read above for a more complete list) Thus, the self-programming mechanism is activated, which really leads a person to certain feelings of helplessness, melancholy, despair, illnesses, and mental disorders.

It turns out that the more often a person repeats these negative attitudes, the more negatively they affect the thoughts, feelings, sensations, emotions, and ideas of this person. There is no need to endlessly repeat and scroll through your mind thoughts such as “if only I hadn’t done this”, “it would have been better if I had...”, etc. By doing this, you not only do not help yourself, but also drive yourself deeper into the crisis bottom. What to do?

If you find yourself repeating these spells often, then do the following:

Change the setting to the exact opposite and repeat it many times more often.

It is better to do such training suggestions several times a day. And you will really feel the effect very quickly. When writing positive statements, avoid the prefix “not.” Example: not “I won’t be lonely in the future,” but “I will still meet my person.” This is a very important rule for writing statements. Pay attention to this. It is important. Don't make statements about things that are not achievable. You also shouldn’t give yourself instructions to raise your self-esteem by comparing yourself with someone else. Attitudes should strengthen confidence and self-belief. You only need to compare yourself to the person you were before.

4. Try to find hidden benefits from the state you are in. Skip these benefits!

Paradoxical as it may seem, a person who is constantly attacked by heavy, exhausting obsessive thoughts very often finds imaginary benefits for himself in their presence. Most often, a person cannot and does not want to admit these benefits even to himself, because the very idea that he has a benefit from the source of suffering seems blasphemous to him. In psychology, this concept is called “secondary benefit.” In this case, the secondary “benefit” is a side “gain” in a given situation from the existing torment and suffering, exceeding the gain from solving the problem and further success in the ongoing recovery. It is impossible to list all the possible benefits that a person receives from his own suffering. Here are some of the most common ones.

1. “There will be no joy in the future. Real life is over, and now there will only be survival."

Benefit: you don’t have to think about how to get out of the situation (life is over), you don’t have to think too much, you don’t have to work. Self-pity appears, the severity of the situation (imagined) justifies all mistakes and wrong actions. Pleasant sympathy from others and attention to yourself from friends and relatives appears

2. “It’s better not to live at all than to live like this. I don't see the point in such a life. I don’t see any meaning or hope.”

If there is hope, then it seems like we need to take steps. But I don’t want to do this. Therefore, the easiest way is to come to terms with this thought, but not try anything. Sit and feel sorry for yourself, accepting the role of the victim.

3. “Nobody loves me” or “I only bother others”

Benefit: This is a great reason to feel sorry for yourself and not seek help from people. And again passively go with the flow, without remaking yourself

When looking for “benefits”, everything that is “exposed” looks very unattractive, and a person ceases to be the way he WANTS to see himself. This process is very painful, however, if the secondary “benefit” is found and realized, you will be able to find both other ways to implement it and eradicate this “benefit”, as well as find a successful solution from your own difficult situation.

Here you should pay attention to the fact that all secondary “benefits” are hidden from consciousness. You can't see them now. You can understand and reveal them only by impartial analysis of your actions, thoughts and desires. And this is painful and unpleasant. But this is a necessary stage.

5 . The most powerful weapon against obsessive thoughts is knowledge.

World-famous physician, Nobel Prize winner in physiology or medicine for his work on vascular suture and transplantation of blood vessels and organs, Dr. Alexis Carrel said: “Thinking is the most powerful form of energy emitted by a person. It is as real a force as gravity. As a physician, I have seen patients who did not respond to any therapeutic treatment. They were able to recover from illness and melancholy only through the power of reason and self-confidence... When we strive for knowledge, we connect ourselves with the inexhaustible vital force that sets the entire Universe in motion.”

The explanation for the power of cognition and critical thinking in this problem is very simple. Knowledge is power; if a person is informed, he is armed. If we know and understand the processes occurring within us, overcoming our inner ignorance, then managing our own thoughts becomes a matter of technology. Everyone can verify this, and very quickly. You don't need to be a scientist to do this.

In a difficult moment of life, Is there sadness in my heart: I repeat one wonderful prayer by heart. There is a grace-filled power in the consonance of living words, and an incomprehensible holy charm breathes in them. From the soul, as if a burden has rolled away, Doubt is far away, And one believes and cries, And so easily, easily... (Mikhail Lermontov).

Like any activity, thinking must be done with awareness and effort.

“You shouldn’t try to argue with obsessive thoughts. “A crowd of tempting thoughts becomes more persistent if you allow them to linger in the soul for a while, and even more so if you also enter into negotiations with them. But if you push them away the first time with a confident effort of will, rejection and appeal to reason, then they will immediately withdraw and leave the atmosphere of thoughts pure. Make it a law for yourself, every time trouble happens, and dark thoughts begin to knock in the form of a bad thought or feeling, not to be content with just reflection and disagreement, but to add to this faith in yourself until opposing feelings and thoughts form in the soul” (Theophan the Recluse).

Naturally, we can be overwhelmed by different thoughts at the same time (there is nothing faster than thought), so you should have knowledge in all directions of your thinking.

6. Talk about your experiences to the person you trust most. Call the helpline.

Another way to get rid of negative thoughts is a frank heart-to-heart conversation. First of all, this is, of course, a friend or family member. It is in a frank conversation that we get rid of negative energy, including obsessive thoughts. Observations say clearly: if we feel bad, it means we blame ourselves for something. Because the only torment is loss of self-confidence, despondency, resentment towards a person...

It would seem, what’s wrong with that?

The fact is that even one person at the end of the line is part of society. And social attitudes are effective until we define them and, having voiced them, return them back through another person.

In the so-called heart-to-heart conversation, we do two things that are very useful for our thinking. Firstly, we take responsibility for our condition and tell ourselves and others about our intentions, this already indicates that we are trying to change ourselves. Secondly, we call things by their proper names and thereby reduce the hidden influence of negative thoughts and social attitudes.

Another powerful tool is action.

Dozens of people I know, including my patients, got rid of obsessive thoughts as a result of active movements. It doesn’t matter what you do: clean, run, go for a walk with your beloved dog, do pull-ups on the horizontal bar, or go plant a tree. It is important to bring the entire body, muscles, joints, and blood vessels into an active state.

This is written well and in more detail in this article.

“Exercise has multiple health benefits, including preventing stress-related depression.

Skeletal muscles exhibit a cleansing, detoxifying effect, which by its action can protect the brain from damage and associated mental disorders,” says George Ruas.

Depression is a common mental disorder worldwide, affecting more than 350 million people, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).

The beneficial effects and power of physical activity have been felt by hundreds of millions of people. It is their experience that tells us that we should not ignore such accessible techniques. It should be noted that after physical exercise, many people got rid of obsessive thoughts, although not forever, but for a very long time. This is natural, since this process does not take place in one day.

7. Take care of yourself!

Idleness, self-pity, apathy, despair, depression are the most nutritious substrates for the cultivation and multiplication of obsessive thoughts. That is why try to constantly stay busy, be physically active, communicate, monitor your physical condition, get enough sleep, don’t focus on the negative, don’t maintain these states in yourself, don’t look for benefits in them.

How addictions work using smoking as an example

Let's look at the details using the most common example - smoking.

1. As with all other tasks, whether psychological or health-related, any “addict” must firmly decide that they have been a hostage enough and the time has come to free themselves. If this priority intention is clearly formed in the consciousness, then all that remains is to remove those blocks on the subtle plane (entities, larvae, implants, egregor channels) that strengthen the addiction, which is what we do in sessions. It is these blocks that are the MAIN (but not the only) obstacle for those who have firmly decided to quit (get well, free themselves, etc.), but constantly break down or cannot understand the reasons for the insurmountable resistance.

If healers usually work with human energies (but not with beliefs), and psychologists with beliefs (but not with energies), then hypnologists, using my method, work with both, which increases the effectiveness significantly. For example, with those who have long decided to quit smoking, but still reach for cigarettes “a couple of times a day” or have to use chewing gum/plaster, sessions show 100% results the first time.

However, for most, it is at the stage of forming an intention that a problem arises: “Am I ready to quit?” In 80% of cases, clients who wrote in requests for a session “I want to try to quit smoking with your method” do not actually want anything like that. They just want to play around (new experience and all that), but when asked “Are you really ready to quit?” answer vaguely or negatively.

Why not ready?

There are a lot of possible answers: reluctance to change and change routine, psychological protection, a kind of meditation, the opportunity to be alone with yourself, grounding, blocker of excessive empathy, attention concentrate, anti-stress, antidepressant, social lubricant, happiness hormone, ... Everyone has their own reasons and attachments.

How to get order in your head

Stephen Hayes offers 5 exercises that will help you get rid of obsessive thoughts. The first two are general exercises to directly create this “disconnection”, while the others are aimed at abstracting from specific problematic thoughts. For the first few weeks, repeat each of them at least once a day. And if you do not feel progress, then do the exercises more often.

Within minutes of doing the exercises, you may experience emotional freedom and lightness. However, you should not trust these feelings: your mind may try to deceive you in this way, convincing you that you have already solved all your problems. But this thought, like all other unnecessary ones, needs to be gotten rid of. Therefore, it is important not to relax and remember your goal.

Of course, your mind will continue to generate more and more annoying thoughts. And this is regardless of how well you are able to perform these exercises. But in any business, practice is important, it all depends on you.

“Sometimes it’s enough for me just not to think about something that bothers me. But if suddenly I feel like I'm losing my grip, I do these exercises over and over again. Your goal is progress, not perfection,” says Hayes.

One last warning: some of these exercises may seem strange, even stupid. Perhaps because of this you will be disappointed in the Hayes technique and call it controversial. But in war all means are good, and yet I advise you to take the risk of changing your life for the better.

So, here are the same 5 exercises that I got excited about doing when I gave up. They look a little absurd, but at the time I didn't really care. The main thing is that I started doing something to regain my productivity, and this fact alone prompted me to act.

To combat the flow of obsessive thoughts you need:

Disobey the goal

Take an object, such as a phone or a book, and slowly walk around the room with it. While walking, read the following sentence out loud several times:

"I can't walk in this room."

Keep walking. Repeat this sentence slowly and clearly at least 5-6 times while you walk. Then you can sit down again.

Even the smallest evidence that the mind's superiority over you is an illusion can give you significantly more freedom in doing difficult things. You can easily use this in life as a regular practice (for example, now I think: “I can’t type this sentence!” while I’m already typing).

Give your mind a name and be polite to it

When we listen to another person, we choose for ourselves whether to approve of his point of view or not. Usually this choice of whether to agree or disagree is unconscious. All this happens as if by itself: we simply accept the interlocutor’s position, or not. But in this exercise it is important to feel that quick moment of doubt and reflection. To do this, researchers suggest calling your mind by name. For what? Because, for example, your friend has a different name and is different from you. Imagine that your mind is a separate, but at the same time close to you substance.

Call your mind whatever you like. Now say hello to the mind by calling it by name, as if you were being introduced to it at a party. Only if you are in a crowded place, it is better to do this exercise to yourself. We humans are strange creatures!

Appreciate what your mind is trying to do

When you listen to your thoughts and notice your mind starting to chatter to itself, respond with something like, “Thank you for that thought. Actually, thank you."

Your mind will probably push you away with thoughts like, “This is stupid—it won’t help!” Then respond again: “Thank you for that thought. Thank you – I really understand how you are trying to be helpful.” You can also ask, “Is there anything else you want to say?” If yes, then hear yourself and continue the internal dialogue.

Sing

This exercise will help you get rid of overly annoying thoughts. Turn the annoying judgment in your head into a song. Now sing it, no matter out loud or to yourself. Any tune, any genre will do, the main thing is to sing. Experiment with different melodies, change the tempo of performance. Don't think about rhyme - you won't get a Golden Gramophone for it.

How do you know when to finish? Then, when you feel that this thought has become the most common and simple. She will no longer bother you, and you yourself will understand how devalued she is. There is no guarantee that the obsessive thought will definitely leave you, but at least you will enjoy the process. Practice!

Carry with you

Write down a recurring annoying thought on a small piece of paper. For best results, be honest with yourself. Even if it’s hard for you to admit something yourself. Maybe it’s “I’m stupid” or “nobody needs me” or “I’m a loser.” After you finish writing, pick up the paper and look at it as if it were a very valuable ancient manuscript. These words are like echoes of your story.

Even if the thought is painful, ask yourself if you would like to “honor” this story by carrying this piece of paper with you temporarily. If you can say yes, then you are ready to continue with the exercise.

Put the note in your pocket, wallet or bag and take it with you to school or work. Remind yourself of this piece of paper from time to time. Know that this is part of your journey. As soon as you feel uncomfortable that you are carrying it around with you and that someone else might know what you are really thinking to yourself, get rid of it.

By performing such exercises, we can abstract ourselves from useless thoughts that have been bothering us for a long time. If we learn to think of our inner voice as that of an advisor rather than a dictator, it can be very helpful to us. Then we will come to the conclusion that our mind is not bad or harmful. He does not dictate our behavior at all. It's just a tool to help us. And when we learn to control it, we will be able to use the mind for good purposes.

How addictions and habits work. What is this anyway?

2. What exactly is an addiction or a habit? This is not just a certain set of routinely repeated actions or used chemicals, it is a whole ritual, often brought to the point of automatism, and sometimes even fanaticism. The central nervous system creates neural connections with each such action, and when it is brought to autopilot, the neural network is quite difficult to rebuild.

A constantly repeated action affects not only the central nervous system itself (the formation or destruction of neural chains), but also attracts accompanying energy blocks, fine-material structures (larvae and connections to egregors, chakras, subtle bodies, physical organs, etc. are affected), and each person can have their own characteristics in terms of their localization. According to researchers, our brain can retain the memory of neural traces for an indefinitely long time, their restoration is possible at any time under any triggers, for example, with a specific and addictive smell, image or sound (hence the flashbacks of psychonauts), not to mention “sentences, which are difficult to refuse."

In addition, entire chains of events and rituals are created that influence the space of options and even social status. For example, a daily smoke break with colleagues can not only provide psychological relief, but also create stronger, trusting relationships within the company, which can contribute to career advancement. In some companies, not only smoking is encouraged, but also regular libations with all that it entails, so the factor of social pressure also needs to be taken into account (and this does not depend on the hypnologist at all).

The very removal of a habitual ritual from everyday life will create excess potential in the form of withdrawal of one type or another, so even doctors during major operations usually recommend NOT quitting smoking in order to avoid additional stress on the body. In addition, any addiction or its withdrawal also affects the choice of our branch through an increase or decrease in vibrations. In other words, the neural network actually extends to events, if not to say karma and “fate” itself.

How dependencies work. The importance of personal effort

3. Of course, a person must make his own efforts, and not delegate responsibility for his own life and hope for “coding for happiness,” as has now become fashionable, otherwise the lesson will not be completed and will “work” in a different capacity, because the redistribution of the load on the nervous system, subtle bodies and events must be balanced, and everyone must .

In drug addicts, withdrawal of the dose is expressed in withdrawal symptoms; For fashionistas, this withdrawal can be compared to a long and painful abstinence, followed by a breakdown - a series of waste on new clothes; among those with a sweet tooth and other servants of the night watch - on midnight trips to the refrigerator, etc. All these habits are a kind of mental viruses - the seeds of their thought forms in one concentration or another are scattered in space and intensified in every possible way with the aim of downloading free energy. The more such thought forms around a person (at work, in the family, even among neighbors), the greater the temptation. Thus, the quality of cleaning and its frequency also largely depends on the habitat and susceptibility.

“I’ll sleep after death” – or about addiction to work

Today, very often the media covers another case of karoshi. "Karoshi" is a Japanese word that means death from overwork. It is no coincidence that the phenomenon of karoshi was first recorded in Japan, where work “from dawn to dusk” is very popular, and workaholism is considered the most important trait of a successful person.

For a workaholic, the most important purpose of his existence is work, and all his energy is spent on it. Rest, instead of being something pleasant, becomes an unpleasant and painful obligation.

A workaholic or workaholic is a slave to his illness. For a workaholic, work is by no means one of the components of his life: it completely replaces affection, love, entertainment, and other types of activity. In society, workaholism is much more common among men, although feminization processes lead to the fact that today there are a lot of women among workaholics. A significant number of so-called businesswomen can be classified as workaholics.

Definition of workaholism (workaholism)

Workaholism is an escape from reality by changing one’s mental state, in this case achieved by fixation on work. Moreover, work is not what it is under normal conditions: a workaholic does not strive to work due to economic necessity.[1]

Workaholism (workaholism) is an individual’s excessive passion for his work and production activities, when he devotes himself entirely to it, neglecting other aspects of his life. Type of addiction.

“No one exhausts himself with work as much as I do,” he writes. “I don’t think about anything else other than working day and night.” The thirst for activity turned into a kind of mania: he took on one job after another, accepted more orders than he could fulfill (R. Rolland, Life of Michelangelo).[2]

Workaholism itself can be a sign of psychological ill-being: a person “hides into work” due to the inability to communicate with others, in order to escape from his problems.

Workaholics, with their immoderate desire to work as much as possible, harm themselves and others. “Overworking” can be harmful in a purely medical sense: its consequences are chronic overwork, stress, and therefore mental and somatic illnesses.

For a workaholic, work is a kind of buffer from fear, anxiety, self-doubt and other problems. Through work, a workaholic actually runs away from his problems and difficulties.

A work addict strives for pleasure, for a state of euphoria from success after a job well done, his sense of self-worth goes off scale. In the case when success is not achieved, or rest interferes with the performance of “work,” the person begins to feel discomfort without achieving a state of euphoria. He begins to subconsciously seek this state, spending more and more of his time day after day at work.

Psychological portrait of a workaholic

Workaholism is a psychological, emotional addiction. A dependent person places work (and passion for it) at the center of his life. Such a person loses control over his own behavior, unable to stop working or thinking about work. For a workaholic, work is behavior, an unconscious process.

A workaholic spends almost all of his time at work. A powerful sense of responsibility leads to the fact that a person dependent on work can never rest or engage in other activities not related to professional life. A workaholic always has something to complete, write, correct...

A workaholic is unable to cope with his addictive behavior. Such a person does not notice his involvement in work, does not see the painful imbalance in his own life. In response to the comments of others, the workaholic presents more and more new arguments that justify the needs and importance of such an extra-standard working day.

The main problem of a person dependent on work is the question: “Why are there only 24 hours in a day? I would have had another 2-3 hours and everything would have been completed!” Workaholics very often vow that everything will change for the better when the next project is completed 100 percent. However, these promises are empty, and the workaholic never fulfills them. Soon after the next completed project, a new topic for execution appears, which once again occupies a central and priority role in the life of a workaholic.

The first step out of the “trap of workaholism”

Work (from Old Church Slavonic) - hard, forced work, slavery. The work is exhausting, painstaking, hard, hellish, Egyptian, field, assiduous, menial. The worker performs “labor”, which means “difficult”, “suffer”. In a slave society, the responsibility to work fell mainly on the shoulders of the forced part of the population.[3]

If a career is built on “work,” then we find ourselves in a certain zone of paradoxes! Before you can learn to speak in sentences, you must learn to speak in words. Just knowing how words sound is not enough. The words must be understood. As sad as it may be, the words “work” and “slave” have the same root. Today there is an unsuccessful attempt by linguists to change the true negative meaning of the word “work” by giving it the root “works”. But someone's desire to rewrite the historical meaning of words is not enough.

Therefore, you should speak correctly and call things by their proper names. Without replacing concepts and on legal grounds, the word “work” should be replaced with “activity”.

Activity is a process (processes) of active interaction between a subject and an object, during which the subject satisfies his needs and achieves his goal.[4] An activity can be called any activity of a person to which he himself attaches some meaning. Activity characterizes the conscious side of a person’s personality (as opposed to behavior). Activity is a person’s meaningful and purposeful actions, through which he creates something significant for the person himself or other people.

So, the first step to get out of the “trap of workaholism” is to consciously understand the fact that what is “work” and what is “activity”? If a “slave” works, then a “creator”, “creator” acts.

24 hours for success or “Balance, balance, balance”

Balance in life is extremely necessary for proper functioning and productive life. Balance is not only the division of time between professional activities and household chores, but also balance in all aspects of a person’s life: caring for appearance and one’s own beauty; communication with your spouse and children; development of abilities and creativity...

Life is like an Olivier salad, it can be prepared according to a recipe, but if the technology is not followed, and there is too much of some product in it, it is no longer Olivier, but just porridge.

This is exactly how things are over time, so the ideal formula for a healthy and fulfilling life of an individual would be the formula: 24h=3x8h.

Expanding this formula, we have the following golden rule, which states that: “Every day of a healthy person should consist of three equal blocks of 8 hours each.” 8 hours for work, 8 hours for rest and 8 hours for sleep.

It is clear that this rule should not be understood categorically, because everything in our life has its own errors and differences. However, in the depths of your consciousness, a control yellow light should light up if over the past month this triple balance has been seriously disturbed in the direction of “work” and the lion’s share of time is devoted to it.

Sooner or later, such an imbalance will make itself known, and will make itself known very loudly and painfully: a person, through the “work” that has absorbed him, can lose himself, health, marriage, communication, hobbies and interests. You can, of course, cut off your sleep, but in this case the person will be like a sleep-deprived “squeezed lemon.” A sleep-deprived person is always more likely to get tired, he is less effective, and the work is not entirely successful and enjoyable. One way or another - a complete regression.

In relation to work, it is very important to remember the wonderful and useful Pareto law, or the 20/80 principle. This principle is formulated as follows: “20 percent of efforts give 80 percent of results, and the remaining 80 percent of efforts give only 20 percent of results.” Therefore, it is easier to concentrate on a smaller, but high-quality investment in a professional. activity of one’s time, intellect and talent, rather than spending the day and night at one’s “working” place.

The following sources were used when writing this article:

1.Guide to addictionology, ed. V.D. Mendelevich, M., 2006, p. 744

2. Filippov A.V., Romanova N.N., Letyagova T.V. A thousand states of soul. Brief Psychological and Philological Dictionary, Flint, 2011

3. Shansky N.M. School etymological dictionary of the Russian language. Origin of words / N.M. Shansky, T.A. Bobrova. — 7th ed., stereotype. - M.: Bustard, 2004, p. 398

4.https://ru.wikipedia.org/wiki/Activities

How addictions work on the energy plane

4. On a subtle level, addiction works something like this:

-the etheric body contains energy for the full functioning of the physical organism. If the body is sick or weakened (due to stress, medications, depression, etc.), then this energy is spent on its maintenance, which means it may not be enough to form and maintain a clear intention to give up addiction.

-the astral body is regularly pumped up with emotions (during the release of happiness hormones, which are so difficult to refuse), and these hormones themselves are thrown into the system when habitual behavioral patterns are repeated. Many people make their decisions based purely on emotions, almost bypassing reason. If a person is, in principle, emotionally unbalanced, and even suppresses his emotions associated with the habit (guilt, contempt for oneself or the one with whom the habit began, etc.), then one also needs to work with this.

Due to suppression, the release of emotions may be unconscious, which leads to a failure in the exchange of information between bodies and irrational reactions (including breakdowns), because in this case, thoughts and the actions resulting from them will be chaotic, and sometimes completely inadequate.

-the mental body is pumped up with various beliefs, incl. and about the nature of the habit, invested by parents and society (“it’s wrong, harmful, dangerous, irresponsible”, etc.). These beliefs give rise to guilt (shame, disgust, etc.), which can consume huge amounts of energy from the etheric and astral bodies.

It turns out a vicious circle - Ouroboros, i.e. a normal evolutionary process that will occur until the tasks weighing on a person are worked out and balanced (they cease to control him, and he ceases to be their hostage).

At the same time, the mental body of a mature person (educated, intellectually and spiritually developed) is much brighter, cleaner and easier to work with than that of weak, short-sighted, naive, evil, who have lost interest in life, not yet formed, lazy, ignorant or simply stupid individuals, therefore, here the difference in work will be significant. It is the latter category that usually hopes for that very “coding”. Speaking of coding: yes, it works, but no one really thinks about where the energy to implement it comes from and how it affects life lessons. I'll leave that to your logic.

- the causal body is pumped up with information about the internal and external world of a person, his actions and decisions in certain situations, the reassessment of values and life guidelines. If a person has witnessed a serious illness or suffered it himself, and the cause of this illness was a bad habit, it will be much easier for him to change his guidelines (reformat the neural network and energy exchange in the subtle bodies) and quit, which will ultimately open the circle of Ouroboros.

Depending on the degree of penetration into the subtle bodies and the demonstrated will to liberate, healing may take more than one series of sessions.

What are perceptual filters?

Perception filters, as I wrote above, are negative assessments that our mind reads on an unconscious level and obeys them.

Each person has his own set of filters, and the more of them are activated, the more psychological problems he has.

Detection and elimination of filters leads to the fact that a person becomes more aware, gets rid of unpleasant response patterns and, as a result, from the psychological problem itself.

The discovery of perception filters belongs to the author of TFV - Ivan Pirog.

He is the first person who was able to discover the root cause of our psychological problems, and also develop a technique for finding filters in everyone.

Today there are 4 main approaches in TFV:

Working with negative emotions.
Dealing with negative thoughts.
Working with images.
Working with sensations in the body.

All these approaches make it possible to help a person solve any psychological problem.

You, of course, are interested in the question: is this really true? It cannot be that any assessments keep a person depressed or give rise to phobias.

Dear reader! Give me a little more time and you will find out everything!

And the first thing I want to tell you is...

How addictions and reincarnation work

5. Information in subtle bodies is transferred from life to life (not all and not always), and the purity and density of the bodies themselves are developed by constant work on oneself (or lack thereof), therefore the experience of the soul, ancestral karma, and lessons brought to incarnation also matter , degree of natural protection. Also, the way of thinking plays an important role, because thoughts directly affect molecular changes in DNA, just like words.

If the subtle bodies are well pumped and balanced (a person is calm and harmonious, does not suppress his emotions, but also does not allow them to interfere with the processes of his own mind, he is rational, etc.), then there will be an order of magnitude fewer problems with removing addiction. And of course, a lot depends on the level of the reality pie on which a person operates in his everyday life. If he banally considers himself a servant of God (“I don’t decide anything, everything is decided for me from above”) or the echoes of such a psychology are clearly manifested in him, then the result will be appropriate.

How approval addiction develops

Dependence on other people's opinions is one of the manifestations of self-doubt that is formed in childhood. Insecurity can be described as a lack of support within. A person without support seems to blur, is constantly in limbo - where does confidence come from?

Hearing approval from parents at an early age is very important because it shows the child that he is loved, that all his endeavors will be supported, and that the world is welcoming and safe. If

Also, a painful attachment to praise is formed in people who grew up in strict families, where success (for example, in school) was taken for granted, but any mistakes were met with serious punishment. In a family with an authoritarian regime, a child does not receive the feeling of love he needs, which is felt through warmth, tenderness, emotional closeness, even if his parents really love him very much and consider their strictness to be caring - unfortunately, the child does not understand this, he is not yet capable of such a deep analysis.

How to avoid the formation of such a syndrome in your child if you are a parent? First of all, don't compare him to other babies. Remember that comparison, if it awakens a sense of competition in him, will only be for your love and attention, and certainly will not make him happy. Learn to listen and hear about his needs, interests, fears and aspirations. Properly celebrate his successes and encourage them. Tell your child about your love, praise him and don’t try to change his innate characteristics - you don’t need to make a mathematician out of an artist, or the life of the party out of a quiet person. Remember that a child’s healthy psyche and stable self-esteem are a much more reliable guarantee of a happy life than meeting someone else’s expectations.

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Why is this dangerous?

A person whose main motivation is the approval of others is very helpless in the face of manipulation. He can be played around with as much as he likes, because for the sake of praise and recognition he is often ready to crumble into pieces and neglect his own interests, even if there is a danger to his health, or even life, at stake.

An obsession with universal recognition does not allow you to hear your true desires or build your goals, because people with such dependence choose a socially approved path, because This is the shortest way to please others. In fact, the intrinsic motivation is to become “good” to your parents. A person who lives a life that is not his own ultimately cannot be happy and experiences difficulties in finding a purpose, choosing a field of activity and building sincere, trusting relationships. Such people are more prone to depression and midlife crisis than others.

How addictions work and how they are removed

6. Many people assume that you can create an addiction for years, and then just take it and throw it away. Of course, in some cases this is also possible if a person is mature, but not always, because this habit (any one) has sometimes created its own energy structures for more than one life and it is not so easy to simply remove it from everyday life and consciousness. To what extent it could influence the qualities of the Soul itself, its channels of communication with the genus, higher aspects, etc., is individual in each case, but these layers often need to be touched for complete healing.

A proverb that must always be remembered in such cases:

“If you sow a thought, you will reap an action; if you sow an action, you will reap a habit; if you sow a habit, you will reap a character; if you sow a character, you will reap a destiny.”

Therefore, natural questions arise:

-Is a person ready to change his “destiny” HIMSELF or does he want it done FOR him? Most choose the second option - simple and easy, as mentioned above. This is an extremely unecological approach from the point of view of soul lessons. In this case, who should change his course of thoughts and actions for him, if not he himself?

-if a habit has become “fate”, to what extent it is actually written in this fate (zero code) from the very beginning, doesn’t the trail of ancestral and personal karma stretch from other lives and dimensions? Of course, it goes on, any regressologist will tell you this and he will be partially right. For example, shamans develop a craving for smoking, alcohol, and interaction with power plants from life to life. EVERYTHING is somehow drawn to karma and other lives according to the principle of communicating vessels or quantum entanglement, but is it worth hiding behind the “past” to justify the present?

By creating excess potential and dumping tons of energy and time there, you should not hope that in a couple of hours this potential can be reset and balanced with the wave of a magic wand; there is a lot of work to be done on yourself.

“We are not slaves”: how to stop depending on clients, bosses and subordinates

Arrange your business so that no loss in it is a tragedy, says Basecamp co-founder and co-author of the best-selling ReWork David Heinemeier Hensson.

When people can't afford to lose, they do crazy things. When you are dealt the wrong card - which inevitably happens at some point - it becomes an existential threat, the brain shutting down the ability to rationally analyze and instead kicking into primal survival mode. It is at such moments that people go against their morals and break their backs.

Let's say your business depends on several large clients . Then any one of them has power over you, the ability to throw you into a sweat or, even worse, threaten to turn off your tap. And if this client is extremely important to you, you will do whatever he says, even if it is wrong or it does not correspond to your main mission. When your business is too focused on these types of customers, it hinders your ability to target new customers (and profits).

This is why fulfilling customers' requests (instead of acting in their best interests) is usually the wrong idea. Clients know what is right for each of them individually. Your job is to listen to them, but act on the average idea of what most customers want in most cases. And it's very difficult if you can't afford to say no to just one client.

The same applies to suppliers . If you rely so heavily on someone else's services that those companies can dictate how you live, they will dictate how you live! This is a constant threat that arises when you work on someone else's platform rather than your own. Or you rely on a specific Google search algorithm. These companies make their choices based on what's right for them, not what's right for you.

And the most difficult thing is when the same situation arises with employees . If your sales wizard or computer genius is a total jerk, but only that person knows how to keep your business running, what should you do? You have to put up with whatever they throw at you, that's what. And all this abomination will spread throughout the organization until it poisons everything.

The easiest way to get rid of such situations is to simply avoid them. It's easy to say - but it can be done if you maintain reasonable skepticism at the sight of new Big Opportunities. For example, when a big potential client waves a huge check that could increase your revenue by 20%, but you read the list of their requests and alarm bells immediately ring in your head. Is such a sudden 20% increase worth the risk of ending up on the edge?

Or when a supplier offers you a deal so lucrative that it’s simply hard to believe - with the condition that you surrender to his mercy and cut off your escape route. Maybe we should think again?

Or when an impressive candidate is ready to come to you at a salary below the market, but he already exudes contempt for everyone who is weaker than him in some way? If the price of one superhero on a team is a toxic environment for everyone, is it worth paying that price?

You cannot depend on anyone so much that this dependence puts you on the brink of failure. Whatever advantage this may give you in the short term, it will inevitably bring you pain and suffering in the future, when you can no longer say no.

We built Basecamp from the very beginning so that the company could cope with any single loss. Most of our clients only pay us $50 per month. We have built an audience and technology base that is independent of any existing enterprise platform or vendor. And that partly explains why 12 years later we're still in the game.

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How dependencies and locks work

7. Blockages in smokers occur not only in the central nervous system, circulatory and vegetative-vascular systems, and subtle bodies, but also in energy centers. With pure tobacco we are talking about the throat, heart and 6th chakra (3rd eye), as well as the sex chakra. Tobacco with impurities affects almost all energy centers, which is why it was invented. The now so popular vape has an even more severe influence: each liquid introduces entire systems of blockages into the chakra system, targeting it precisely and more harshly. The purpose of vaping is to early block the natural forces and capabilities of the younger generation, adapted taking into account the specifics of their subtle bodies, which are significantly different from their parents (even their DNA is different, not to mention their abilities).

How sexual addictions work

8. Sexual addiction is created in two main ways: connections with a mass of partners and entities that feed on this connection (constantly or selectively). Sexual energy is generally considered the most powerful in a person, so there will always be a lot of people who want it, who will provoke a person to new adventures. And, as we found out earlier, the more energy is drained, the more difficult it is to quit.

As one colleague recently said, “Women's relationships with men create chains of connections. The more connections, the more chains. So what can a woman who has had relationships with dozens of men complain about when she lacks energy? When, on a subtle level, she has, excuse me, a whole skirt feeding an entire regiment?” By the way, if a woman breaks off a relationship (but not a subtle relationship) with abuse and insults, this can block the possibility of her pregnancy until the karmic knots are thoroughly worked out. In men, the influence works a little differently, but there is no less cleaning.

Therefore, first you need to deal with each of the partners, remove those same chains (etheric chains), forgive, let go, take energy, etc. Depending on the depth of connections and the necessary work, as well as the natural magical power of the partners and the personal strength/efforts of the ward, this may take more than one series of sessions for complete healing. If a person has had a magical effect (eg love spells), the addiction can take root even more.

Often, sexual addiction is also reinforced by the parallel use of drugs (alcohol, drugs, Viagra, etc.), so you need to work with them, and this layer can be many times larger than the sexual one.

In addition, in many cases there is a restructuring of the hormonal system, incl. through the drugs taken “for and against”, this is also important to take into account.

reasons for workaholism

First let's decide

that any addiction

this is the response of the body and psyche to strong emotional stress, which occurs most often

as a result of dissatisfaction

some need

For example, a man throws himself into work as a result of a series of unsuccessful relationships with women.

In this case, dependence on work is an attempt to cope with painful experiences of loneliness and unsettled personal life.

Constant quarrels and scandals in the family can lead to the same results.

Then both spouses will disappear at work, just so as not to see each other.

By the way, very often child suicide is nothing more than a reaction to such parental behavior.

And in general, a disobedient child is an indicator of certain problems in family relationships.

But these are topics for another conversation.

So, the reasons for addiction to work...

Low self-esteem

Like all addictions and codependencies, workaholism is almost always based on self-doubt.

By going to work, a person escapes from the anxiety that accompanies feelings of insolvency and inferiority.

In addition, achievements at work, for example, career growth and a high salary, allow you to compensate for low self-esteem and believe that “at least I am worth something and at least I can do something.”

Emptiness and colorlessness of life

In our crazy age, this is perhaps the most common reason for workaholism.

The idea that work can get rid of the vacuum of life is a false thought, a belief that interferes with life.

Endless work distracts and allows you to think about nothing but it.

It fills every part of a person’s life, leaving not a drop of doubt or feelings of meaninglessness.

It’s like alcohol or a drug that deafens and numbs the anxiety that arises as a result of the loss of the meaning of life.

Preoccupation with work makes daily existence more or less bearable.

In addition, this method of escaping reality is actively encouraged by modern society, thereby masking the symptoms of addiction

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Life crises

Relationship failures and loneliness

This is also one of the most common reasons for escaping life into never-ending work.

In this case, the mechanism of dependence formation is quite simple.

For example, failures in relationships led a person to disappointment in himself, in people, in love; he lost faith in the opportunity to meet someone with whom he would feel warmth and tenderness.

He develops a fear of failure - he is very afraid to start a new relationship, fearing a repetition of painful trauma and new disappointments.

This is how he faces loneliness.

To make it more or less bearable, a person escapes from the world and himself into work and devotes all his time to it: days, weeks, months, years... and so life goes by...

Negative life scenario

A negative life scenario can also cause pathological dedication to work.

This is always based on the desire to correspond to the parental (and more broadly social) ideal.

In this case, a person, through his achievements at work, unconsciously strives to win approval and high marks from other people.

This type of workaholic is extremely dependent on the approval of others, on their assessments and attitude towards him.

He directly connects his personal value with his existing social and economic successes, which emphasize his usefulness.

Recognition of his achievements by other people is his main goal.

Everything else from this position is nonsense and nonsense.

A person becomes an appendage of his achievements, his value is determined only by the value and success of what he has done and is doing.

The deeper a person plunges into such a state, the closer he is to self-destruction.

A workaholic gets used to living a life that is not his own.

Neurosis and neurotic personality

In this case, the reason for preoccupation with work may be the sharpness, excessive development of certain character traits, such as, for example:

vanity
thirst for power and achievement
perfectionism
tendency to control and control everything
obsessive desire for success and social recognition
increased anxiety
obsessing over results
excessive feelings of guilt and responsibility, etc.

more about this in the article :

What is neurosis and who is a neurotic?

Psychological trauma

In this case, trauma is harm that occurs to a person’s mental health as a result of exposure to unfavorable, extreme, stressful circumstances.

As a rule, after a traumatic shock, a person is accompanied by depressing traumatic experiences and memories for a very long time or even for the rest of his life.

In other cases, they are suppressed, and the person may not remember anything about the traumatic events, but will live in constant tension, overcoming pain and despair.

In this case, immersion in work becomes a kind of outlet and a way to avoid pain.

For example, this often happens in the case of unexperienced grief from the loss of a loved one.

To finish talking about the causes of pathological dependence on work, I note that an additional factor in its formation can be personal disorganization.

It is based on:

poor time management and resource allocation
inability to delegate
disorganization
inability to set goals, manage oneself, determine priorities, plan, etc.

All this creates chaos at work and in your personal life.

And in order to somehow compensate for the destructive consequences of personal disorganization, a person is forced to work a lot.

Next we will consider the main

Methods

How drug addictions work

9. Drug addiction is divided into two main categories, although they often work together, the line is blurred (eg the withdrawal effects of severe alcoholism may be accompanied by hallucinations): 1. physical (eg heroin) 2.. psychological (eg cocaine).

In the first case, when the dose is withdrawn, the body aches, the pain is so strong that the person can go wild (+ settlers and the introduction of egregor push him to a breakdown). In the second case, depression usually sets in, as the release of dopamine (happiness hormones) decreases sharply, the person becomes depressed and usually begins to compensate with alcohol, i.e. exchanges an awl for soap.

Severe drug addiction requires not only energetic cleansing, but also physical cleansing first; chemicals must be removed from organs and systems, a strict diet, drinking herbal infusions, etc. For very advanced cases, there are quite effective shamanic practices (“choose the lesser of two evils”) , which help to quickly (and extremely painfully) carry out physical exercises. cleansing the body, after which it is easier to work with energy information.

At this stage, serious complications can arise, as drug addicts are usually stuffed with entities, often infernal reptilian, demonic + souls of the same disembodied drug addicts who have lost their physical bodies (no longer have organs for catching a high) and move in with the living to experience sensations through their body. The same provision applies to sharing with sexaholics, gluttons, alcoholics, murderers, and fanatics.

The main problem with drug addicts and alcoholics is that their central nervous system, energy centers and subtle bodies are so burned out by drugs and larvae that it is almost impossible to plunge into a meditative state. Even a “harmless” herb, as many believe, although it does not cause severe addiction, can block the channels of perception so much that just the basic adjustment to enter meditation can take 3-5 sessions, after which the same number will be needed for basic cleansing.

You also need to take into account the influence of an egregor, corporation or service with which a person may be associated. Some stuff their adherents with implants to suppress the will and structure thought processes within the framework of the internal politics of the organization. Others deliberately block the possibility of entering meditative states. For example, with military personnel and civil service employees, sessions are usually extremely difficult, if they are able to enter the working mode at all, and egregors such as reiki and thetahealing can significantly resist both the working process of immersion itself and aggressively influence attempts at liberation between sessions.