The relationship between a man and a woman is a constant work that requires improvement. An important stage on the path to happiness is considered to be a declaration of love to a girl, which is often postponed due to the worries, doubts and worries of a man. Some people don’t want to rush, others are afraid of rejection and a negative reaction, but most men simply don’t know how to confess their love to a girl.
An important barrier to recognition is embarrassment, self-doubt, and lack of creative ideas. Some men, against the background of fears and panic, begin to doubt their feelings. Psychologists offer some tips and recommendations that will help you understand yourself and find a lot of interesting and fresh options on how to present such important information to a girl.
Should you confess your love to a girl?
It all starts with simple communication, which flows into regular meetings, romantic dates, bringing people closer together and shared memories. Then the next stage in the relationship develops, requiring awareness of your feelings, desires and plans for future life. If a man sees himself next to his chosen one, he should think carefully about how to beautifully confess his love to a girl for the first time.
Expert opinion
Elena Druzhnikova
Sexologist. Family relations expert. Family psychologist.
Declaration of love is a responsible and important stage in a relationship with a woman. If this is the first experience, failures and ruined plans can leave a serious negative imprint on a man’s perception of women and relationships with them throughout his life. Therefore, this moment needs to be carefully thought through in order to realize it in life according to your desires.
The main obstacle that prevents a man from confessing his feelings to his chosen one is the banal fear of being rejected. Often these fears are embedded in the psyche and subconscious of a man since childhood, and any psychological trauma inflicted forces him to remain silent about his feelings and emotions in the future. In a relationship with a woman, patience, isolation and silence are my best comrades.
Secret - not obvious
It will be good if you and your girlfriend have several common secrets that the whole world will not know about. Something you shared with each other. You will discuss these secrets only with each other, and no one else will understand you. This brings people very close. Come up with some funny, non-offensive nicknames for just the two of you, so that the girl has some intrigue in the relationship. And then there will be a feeling of participation in the life of another person. And in parallel, interest and affection for the opposite sex.
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Preparing for a declaration of love
Despite being emotional and in love, it is better for a man to avoid rash actions and words. First, you need to make sure that the woman also experiences similar feelings, so as not to end up rejected. Then you need to think carefully about the purpose for which a man wants to confess his feelings to a girl. If it is to build joint plans for life, then this goal is justified. If it’s just to win her heart, it’s better to keep your emotions to yourself.
Next, it is important to go through the preparation stage, which consists of several tips from psychologists, namely:
- Practice . First of all, a man needs to practice, for example, in front of a mirror. This will allow you to more clearly formulate thoughts, express feelings and emotions. Having decided on the format of recognition, it will be much easier in the future to say what the man feels.
- Selection of time and place . It is not so important how exactly a man confesses, in his own words or in prose or verse, the main thing is the right place and time. It is important that there are fewer distractions and strangers around. You can invite a girl for a walk, to the park, if you are shy, an ideal place would be a picnic in nature away from strangers.
- There is no need to think that she is experiencing the same feelings . Before declaring his love in an original and correct way, a man must be prepared for any scenario of events. There may be several of them:
- “I love you too” is the ideal outcome of a mutual relationship;
- ignoring and transferring the conversation to another topic - there is no need to ask her for a response, perhaps she just needs time to think about the words she heard;
- lack of reciprocity - in this case, it is important to remain calm; perhaps the girl will appreciate an adequate and dignified attitude towards her refusal.
The main condition for preparing to confess your feelings is self-confidence, despite the girl’s different responses. A man should speak calmly, measuredly, without unnecessary emotions, and also accept both the girl’s positive and negative attitude towards his words with dignity.
Examples of confessions
Last night I dreamed about you. Damn, I dream about you almost daily. It seems like I could spend days with you and it still wouldn't be enough. When I close my eyes I want you near me.
Next to you, I realized what true love is. Now I enjoy this feeling, a life that I never knew before. I will love you until the end of my days.
Many times in life we can find people who win our hearts. We take it for granted. I'm so used to all the wonderful things you do for me, and I don't want you to think that I don't appreciate it all. Every moment I am grateful that you are in my life and in my heart.
I hope you know how much you mean to me. You are an important part of my life. In fact, you are the center of my universe. Everything I do is for us, and especially for you. I always try to do the right things that will make our relationship stronger. You inspire me to be the best version of myself. Without you, I would be a completely different person. Thanks to you, I really know what love is.
I feel lonely to tears when you are not around. Even when I go out under a cloudless sky, everything seems to be hazy. Clearly, you are the brightest light in my life. That might explain why I feel so good around you. You give me strength and charge me with energy in difficult moments. I love you very much.
When people said that “behind every great man there is a great woman,” I felt uneasy. They seemed to be saying that I couldn't succeed unless a woman helped me. But now that I’ve met you, I understand it perfectly. Now I feel like I can do something because I know that I have such a wonderful person like you next to me. You inspire me to be a better, more successful person. I hope I can do the same for you. We are better together than we ever were individually. Love you.
Baby, I'm truly madly in love with you. I want to shout this out loud from the top of the highest mountain. We've been through so much and we still have strong feelings for each other. I just want you to always be by my side. I found you and it's forever.
You are more beautiful than a summer sunset on the ocean horizon. You are more breathtaking than the stunning view from a high mountain. You are brighter than the stars in the country sky. You are more seductive than any love song that has ever been sung. I didn't understand what the true meaning of beauty was until I found you.
Before you came into my life, I was just an ordinary person. There was longing in my heart. I felt like I was missing something. Today I realized exactly what is missing. You. Now that you are with me, I feel that my life is harmonious.
How to confess your love to a girl in an original way?
In order for a girl to remember her feelings for a long time, a man needs to make it creative, original, but at the same time romantic and sensual. Only if there are no doubts about whether to confess, and the preparation stage has been successfully completed, can you proceed to practice. Recognition can be in several scenarios and options, for example:
- Letter . If a man does not have oratory skills and cannot express himself clearly and clearly, a banal letter in virtual or real form can help him. But psychologists are not entirely sure whether it is worth telling a girl about your feelings through a letter, since the reverse reaction cannot be observed in person and the question will remain open.
- Romantic dinner in a restaurant . If a man has the financial means, you can rent the entire hall, decorate it in a romantic style, order live music and flowers. There are many films where similar scenes were demonstrated down to the smallest detail. This option will not save money, but it will definitely tell you how best to confess to a girl.
- Unexpected confession . Sometimes you don’t need to think through a plan for when to confess and how, but you can simply confess on impulse in an unexpected place and time. It is only important to know for sure that these feelings are mutual, so as not to experience feelings of disappointment.
Do you know how to make beautiful declarations of love?
Not really
There are actually many more dating scenarios and options for how unusual it is to confess your love to a woman. This could be an evening walk along the embankment, a visit to the park, rides on attractions, a picnic in nature, a hike in the mountains and a secluded setting, or maybe a romantic dinner at home or in a restaurant. Much depends on her personal interests and preferences.
Original examples
You are already tired of the monotonous standard themes, and you want something new! Being special and the best guy is sometimes not as easy as it seems!
For unique recognition, your chosen one herself can help; her tastes and interests should take shape and be reflected in you. It's time to show your creativity, since there may not be a second such opportunity.
Examples:
- Write a love play and act it out with friends.
- Write a poem or record a song.
- Draw a picture, even if you don’t succeed very well, the symbolism is important here!
- Go to one of your desired places.
- A paper note in one of the chocolates.
I saw the most successful example of an original declaration of feelings in the film “Love Actually”
What exactly should I say?
You can present information to a girl that she likes you in all sorts of ways. But the most important indicator will be the man’s words. Psychologists name a number of correct and incorrect phrases to narrow down the search for options on how to present information about sympathy and love.
You cannot say the following phrases:
- I love you more than life itself (self-humiliation);
- I can’t live without you (causing self-pity);
- I want to spend my whole life only with you (a needy phrase that frightens many);
- I’m crazy about you, I love you madly (green light for manipulating a man);
- I love you, and you me? (imposition of oneself and feelings).
You can win the heart of your beloved girl with such win-win phrases as:
- “I fell in love with you, what are you going to do about it now?”;
- “Stop coming to me in my dreams, I’m ready to confess my feelings for you!”;
- “Look at me and don’t blink, because I’m in love with your eyes”;
- “Either you slipped a love potion into my tea, or I really love you”;
- “I like you so much that I invite you to become even closer to each other”;
- “During our communication, you have long become more than a friend to me”;
- “I suggest you be my girlfriend, since I have serious feelings for you.”
It is clear that these are the most common phrases used by men to win the hearts of women. It is only important for a man to decide whether he needs to confess his love to a girl, and if this is really important to him, to choose an interesting option for confession.
There will always be a solution
Fortunately, there is such a great invention as the Internet. Thanks to him, many world problems are solved, so admitting your feelings and talking about how beautiful your beloved is seems like a piece of cake. But here you need to try and find non-standard solutions.
So, the guy decided to confess his love to the girl. And the further development of the relationship will depend on the words that the girl reads. The most important rule is to send messages at the moment when the guy feels a special surge of love and tender feelings fill his heart.
All that is needed for this is sincerity, so that the girl feels all the words. We must remember that written words cannot be cut out with an ax and, by rereading them several times, a girl can perceive these words in her own way, with her own meaning and context.
There shouldn’t be too many kind and gentle expressions, even if they are very pleasant to read. You can describe the appearance of your beloved: her beautiful eyes, scarlet lips, silky hair, how her new dress suits her.
In addition to compliments, it’s good to reminisce, describing your feelings from the way she sweetly said hello and smiled as she passed by. She will be pleased if a guy takes an interest in her problems and concerns, finding out why, for example, yesterday she was sad and unsmiling. To attract a girl you need to delve into her inner world and you need to share your impressions, opinions, views on this or that thing.
Simply put, a guy and a girl must find their common ground, it can be different: stargazing, cycling, cinema, Sunday trips out of town, boating, etc. By the way, you can find a reason to meet this girl and have a great time, together, and even doing your favorite activity.
If she has any hobby like collecting some things, for example, postcards, then she needs to be lazy and look for unique and beautiful postcards, the same situation is with other collectibles, you can sit on various forums and learn more about this hobby. This is also again a wonderful excuse to meet, saying “I have a little surprise for you that I want to give you with love” and give her something that she has long dreamed of.
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In messages to a girl, you can tell about your day, projects for work or study, about problems, so that over time she becomes closer and knows about many things that are happening in her life. But when talking about yourself, you shouldn’t forget about this girl, because she is also a living person who has her own tastes, habits and, in general, her own life.
Any person likes attention to himself, so a girl will really like it if a guy writes “good morning” to her every day. It will take some time before she gets used to it and she will turn on her phone or computer every morning to look at the message again and, accordingly, respond to it. And when she herself begins to react to this, then you can safely confess your love, because she will get so used to all the daily messages that she will get used to the guy himself. You can, of course, get by with all sorts of funny emoticons and stickers that are now on every communication site, but, you see, it’s much more pleasant to see words that are written from the heart.
After writing a message, it is better to re-read it and weigh everything to see if there is a hint of vulgarity in them. In no case should you write “I want to kiss you tenderly on the neck”, “bite your lips”. If this is the case, then it is better to use transparent half-hints, because it is much more interesting. Also, understatements and dots in the right places will be more attractive for a girl - this is all very intriguing.
It would be good if the guy’s messages arrived regularly at the same time every day, so that the girl would be near the computer at the appointed time and wait for tender words, stories about how he lived without her all day and waited until he could finally write another message for her. Find out how her day went, whether anyone offended her and, if necessary, he will always, at any moment, come to her aid.
You need to try to be as emotionally open as possible, and then the girl will subconsciously strive to share her feelings with her, for now, virtual fan. This will build trust in each other.
What to do when you're afraid to admit it?
A declaration of love is actually considered a balanced and serious act, since a man must always give an account of his words and actions. Because of frankness and a sense of responsibility, many men feel fear. In addition, childhood traumas and failures leave a negative imprint on self-confidence. To get rid of fear, you need to think about how sincere and deep a man’s feelings are, and whether they are worth such efforts.
If your goals for a girl are serious, before declaring your love, you need to prepare yourself for complete self-confidence. To achieve results, a man needs to use his voice, think through his speech, and watch his posture and gestures. During confession, you don’t need to think about how the girl will respond to her feelings, setting yourself up for a negative outcome . Making yourself as comfortable as possible can help. The situation with a refusal also needs to be thought through in advance in order to react adequately.
Trivial situations:
— the computer is broken, and she can’t log in from her phone; — I’m sick and don’t have time to go online because of school or work. Or maybe she’s hiding, whether the admirer will stand it, whether he will worry about her and whether he will look for some way to declare his love to her. And if all the guy’s messages were permeated with love, tenderness and attention, then this could be a common trick on the girl’s part. This means that silence does not mean that your communication has stopped. Maybe she's waiting, just like she's waiting, for the guy to confess his love to her.
