Characteristic signs
Rare meetings, reluctance to help with problems may indicate that the guy does not want a serious relationship.
The fact that a young man does not strive for a serious relationship can be understood by certain manifestations.
- Refuses to introduce you to friends. A guy who is proud of his partner will definitely introduce her to his close circle. At the same time, it is important that he does not show her to his friends, but is glad that she is nearby. If he hides a girl from his friends, he is either embarrassed or doesn’t see the point in it, because he doesn’t take her seriously.
- Refuses to introduce him to his parents and other relatives. As a rule, such acquaintance occurs already at the initial stage of the relationship.
- Meetings are extremely rare, the man calls only occasionally - most likely, his intentions are not serious. After all, a guy who is interested in a relationship will definitely find time to meet or at least call. And if he claims that he is constantly busy, then these are just excuses.
- When there are problems, he refuses to help. Such a guy is not responsible for his actions, does not bear responsibility for them. He does not see a future in a relationship with a girl, and therefore does not want to burden himself with her problems and difficulties.
- He never talks about the near future, does not talk about his plans regarding his family and children. However, in this situation there may be a desire not to think ahead, so as not to jinx it. But if, after talking about the future, a man becomes irritable, most likely he does not see him with you.
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Romance between a boss and a subordinate is a bad idea. Even if the boss is incredibly handsome and charming, you should keep your feelings to yourself. Firstly, it is impossible to fully predict how the boss will react to such statements. In case of refusal, tension will arise between employees, which will not allow them to tune in to the business atmosphere. If the relationship turns out to be mutual, who knows how long it will last. Separation may result in dismissal. Before entering into a risky relationship, consider whether you need problems.
Possible reasons
A guy is not ready for a serious relationship, if his mother overprotects him, she is an authority for him
- External factor. Sometimes close friends or relatives of the gentleman hinder the building of serious relationships. It is possible that someone is turning a man against you or is simply telling him that it is too early to think about a serious relationship. In such a situation, it is important to find out who exactly is the instigator of all these thoughts, and turn all the young man’s attention to himself. It is important that he sees authority in your image and listens only to you.
- Subconscious blocks. A man can feel danger on a subconscious level and hinder the development of relationships. In such a situation, it is important for the young man to understand that he has a friend next to him. The girl should become softer, kinder, and eliminate aggressive behavior. You need to become a reliable comrade, from whom, in principle, there can be no danger.
- Hard experience of the past. It is possible that the guy previously had a difficult relationship with a girl; perhaps she broke his heart when he opened up greatly and was ready for a serious relationship. In such a situation, it is necessary to behave in such a way that the man feels the relationship being born between you. Moreover, when you are together, he should receive exclusively positive emotions. This way a logical relationship will be formed in your head: when he is with you, he feels good. Over time, the understanding will come that the past should remain in the past, and it has nothing to do with the present.
- Fear of love and the emergence of new feelings. In such a situation, the young man does not yet have any experience in a serious relationship; he is afraid of what he is experiencing at the moment. In such a situation, we are talking about the fact that the man really fell in love with you and it is better not to rush him, so as not to scare him away. Let the relationship develop as usual, over time he will mature and understand that it is time to move to a serious level.
- Cowardice. If a guy says he doesn't want a relationship, maybe he's just a coward and can't decide to have one. Moreover, such behavior does not always describe an outwardly modest person; a man can be quite brutal, courageous, but cowardly at heart. To change him, you need to behave in such a way that he begins to show his courage. Convince him that by getting you, he has already conquered an unattainable goal.
- Strong dependence on mother. It is possible that for your partner, your mother is the most authoritative person; he does not see himself with any woman in terms of a serious relationship. In such a situation, you need to be wiser, get to know your partner’s entire family, and try to please his mother.
- Fear of vulnerability. A man does not want, when he is next to a woman, to depend on her, her behavior, her whims, or to be vulnerable. In such a situation, it is necessary to show the young man that he can trust you.
- Heightened self-esteem. A man loves himself too much, is overly self-confident, does not want to share his life with anyone. He's used to what he has. In fact, this is a kind of manifestation of selfishness. It is important when communicating with such a young man to constantly use the pronoun “we” so that he gets used to the fact that you are now together as a single whole and there is nothing wrong with that, it is natural and normal.
- The man is a pessimist. It is possible that he does not see any future in your relationship, believes that everything will end badly, you will leave him, he will be left alone, then why change something now and move to a new level. In such a situation, you can insist on contacting a psychologist who, after a few sessions, will be able to convey to the young man that pessimistic views on life only interfere with normal life activities, and you need to get rid of them.
There may also be other answers to the question why a guy doesn’t want to move on to a serious relationship:
- the young man is sure that the girl will always be there, she won’t go anywhere, why do anything, move on somewhere else, he feels good as it is;
- the guy is comfortable with the conditions that exist at the moment, he does not want to complicate or change anything in his life;
- refuses a new level of relationship due to the fact that the girl puts too much pressure, constantly talks about the need to move to a new level, the young man simply resists this;
- eternal bachelor - a guy who is completely convinced that he should have his own freedom, he does not need any marital relations;
- the young man is afraid of excessive guardianship from the girl if their relationship goes to a new level.
There are cases when a man does not want a relationship, but does not let his partner leave him even one step. In such a situation, the following reasons are possible:
- a man rejoices that there is someone who admires him, is ready to do anything for him, he takes advantage of it;
- the young man has a relationship with another girl, a new young lady has appeared as a backup or simply to diversify everyday life;
- he has two women for whom he seems to have the same feelings, and one of them may be his legal wife;
- the young man feels satisfaction from such relationships, considers himself to be the main one in them, and does not want anything to change;
- the man is afraid of loneliness, so he holds the girl, but does not dare to take any more serious actions.
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Starting an affair with a friend's ex-partner is a stab in the back. Of course, there are mitigating circumstances that make such a relationship acceptable, but if his former love means a lot to a friend or he still has loving feelings for her, such a relationship is out of the question. Respect friendship - move on to other people.
The choice is always yours
The final choice of a girl always remains with the man, since only he knows for sure his needs and priorities in life. Some people want to meet a modest and flexible girl who will help reveal leadership inclinations and potential in a man. Others like the way bitch girls and strong-willed women behave, as they ignite passion and fire.
Some men are ideally suited to girls who completely share their views on life and have a similar character. There are some men who are drawn to the complete opposite of themselves with the goal that their partners complement each other. Therefore, all of the above recommendations are not always appropriate, they can only be a guideline in some situation, but you need to rely on your own instincts and goals.
How quickly do you realize that a girl is not right for you?
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Way out
When you understand the reason, it will be very easy for you to decide what to do next and how to get out of this situation. Family relationships are the work of two spouses. And both are to blame for the problems that occur. Therefore, do not make yourself a poor, unhappy woman. You will always have time for this. Try to approach the issue with common sense.
If he really has problems at work, then be more patient. Help as much as you can and do not pester your dear husband. Perhaps he will decide to quit, be prepared for such a turn of events. You must be his support and support.
When a man has problems with his mother or father, and because of this, complications begin in his own family, it is doubly difficult for him. Perhaps the mother wants her son to spend more time with her, but she doesn’t love you. And then your husband has to see his mother more often without you. Don't rush to scold him for this. Think about what it would be like for you to be in his place.
If your spouse has a crisis, then he will need understanding, patience and support from you. Yes, in such a period you will have a hard time. But with common efforts, together you can get through this period and become even more friendly and close.
Mood swings
One moment he may look happy, and the next he may pout and simply not talk or even become almost uncontrollable.
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His attitude may constantly change and this indicates the internal struggle he experiences along with his changing feelings. In any case, this does not bode well for the relationship. My boyfriend also became more irritable, aggressive, and began avoiding conversations about important topics.
Lack of plans
Men are quite passionate creatures, and when they are truly interested, they will actively continue to meet their girlfriend for coffee, a movie, or even to plan a romantic dinner.
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However, when he constantly changes his plans and becomes more evasive regarding meetings and conversations, then this is a clear sign that he is gradually moving away. We also stopped going out together and no longer had romantic dates.