How to come to terms with a situation that cannot be changed
What you assessed as black ended up being white, and - you see this in your own life - this is exactly what happens most often. Therefore, it is very important to remove the assessment of the situation from the position of your understanding of correctness, and leave only a statement of the situation. Yes, I see that such a situation has occurred. What I feel? I feel uncomfortable in it, it’s difficult, I have to strain, and something else. Next - what can I do to make it different? I do. The situation has not been completely resolved, but I believe that in the end it will be resolved in the best way, so I simply trust the world and switch to solving other problems. I don’t waste energy on resentment towards life, complaining about injustice, etc., I direct it to creation, and then I become the real mistress of my life, and not an eternal victim of circumstances. Everything simply is, and today it is like this, and I accept this situation because I believe that it has come because I need it for something. And I concentrate on understanding why, and not on being dissatisfied.
Tolerance from the word "patience"
I once wrote an article about the need to be more tolerant of others, to allow them to be who they are, without trying to remake them in your own way in accordance with your ideas about what is right and what is wrong. Everyone responded with such good, kind comments, saying that yes, we must love and accept people as they are, because this is how we become better and it is through this that we can change the world for the better.
Then a troll man came and, as usual, said that you don’t understand anything, that if you see some kind of flaw in a person, then you need to tell the truth and only the truth, and all this was expressed in a very categorical tone characteristic of trolls.
All those who had just spoken very good-naturedly about the need to be kinder at heart began to argue with him and try to prove to him how wrong he was, how evil he was, that this was impossible, which, of course, motivated the troll to do everything more provocative statements.
When it comes down to it, we often forget about all the right thoughts and begin to behave as usual - we argue, teach and strive to prove that we are right. Because we do not accept - we are tolerant. And tolerance is also not acceptance - it is still the same indignation, only unspoken. Tolerance is when we agree to tolerate someone with whom we really disagree. And when the opportunity arises, they are still ready to express their disagreement in the most polite form.
