It’s difficult to get up in the morning, you’re not in the mood on the way to work... and the day is over, but there’s no feeling of satisfaction from your life. If you are familiar with this state, then you have probably had thoughts with questions like: “Am I doing what I do?” But we’ll tell you in this article how to understand what you really like and what your mission is.
From the material you will learn:
- What is purpose?
- Why is it important to “fall into childhood” in the process of finding your purpose.
- What steps will lead to your destination.
Find your place in this world, realize your potential and benefit other people. Sounds good, but easier said than done. In this video, I explain in detail what purpose is, how it relates to the experience of the soul, and why it is easy for some to give up everything and start over, while for others it is not. To find out, watch the full video.
We can't find ourselves
Everyone will encounter such a situation sooner or later, no matter how successful and self-confident he or she is. If philosophers say that this is a search for oneself in life, then psychologists argue that such states that last too long may indicate depression.
Important: if the search for yourself has ceased to bring pleasure and has turned into an obsession, give it up and just enjoy what you have.
Sometimes such a mood indicates that you are tired and just need to rest; You found yourself a long time ago, but, like everyone else, you need basic rest and reboot. According to psychologists, a person experiences similar states several times throughout his life, and one of the first in grades 1-2.
Traps on the way to your destiny
You may be pulled back the moment you start looking for yourself in life. Opposition will appear, something will slow down and interfere with you.
You don't need to give in to this feeling, it's just a trap.
Below is a list of common pitfalls.
Be aware and don't fall into them.
Endless doubts and objections
You will immediately begin to have thoughts that you won’t succeed, that you don’t have the knowledge, experience or skills, so you shouldn’t even try.
There is no need to give in to this. Your brain will try with all its might to keep you in your “comfort zone” so as not to change anything in life.
Feeling like your seat is already taken
All places are already taken! There are thousands of specialists who do the same thing that you are going to do.
Of course, there are already people who do the same thing and they exist in absolutely all areas of life. But this does not mean that you will not become the number one master of your craft. After all, you came here at the call of your heart, this is your purpose in life.
The main thing is not money , but your purpose. The money will come on its own.
There is no fire in a business you don’t love; interest and optimism will quickly disappear. If there is no love for the business, but only money, it won’t last long.
Therefore, there is no need to pay attention to competition. She's made up. If you do it with your soul, then you will not be in competition!
Dependence on people's opinions
What will my acquaintances and friends think or even say? It's not serious!
Remember! This is your life - live the way you chose, and not imposed by your environment.
Let them think whatever they want!
You made the decision to become happy and found yourself in life, can it really be ruined by some outside opinion?
Shifting the focus not to benefit, but to profit
There may be such a trap that you involuntarily begin to “think”: “This is not profitable, you can’t make money on this!”
Remember! Money starts coming when you are a Master of your craft.
People are happy to go to a highly qualified specialist and spend their money. It's nice to pay for quality and good work. A person does not feel deceived when he sees the quality of your work.
The fame of the Master of his craft quickly spreads.
Important! Money cannot be the goal!
Discover your “I”! Become an expert in your favorite business! The master will always be in demand.
The desire to prove something to someone
Almost every person has a desire to prove something to someone and this is “normal”.
You have a law degree, you work hard and even succeed in your business.
But you don’t like this work; you go to it as if it were hard labor. And all in order to prove that it was not in vain that you studied, built a career as a lawyer, etc.
But in your heart you dream of your own ballroom dancing or piano club. You love THIS, not your JOB as a lawyer.
Quite stupid from the outside, don’t you think?!
Long preparation
Many people constantly put off preparing for years instead of just doing it. Over the years, optimism disappears and the desire to change anything in your life disappears.
It's a pity to waste years of learning something you don't like
You received your diploma, studied and suddenly decided that your purpose is in a completely different field.
You devoted so much time to another specialty. What to do?
There is no escape from this. The main thing is that you finally understand what you like and that’s cool!
There is no need to waste another 10-20 years of your life, do not continue to live an unhappy life.
Seeing only one way
For example, you found yourself in figure skating, but you can’t skate for health reasons, so you decided to look for something else.
Broaden your view.
You can teach children how to skate or record educational videos. And you don't have to ride yourself.
Dependence on other people's opinions, fear of criticism
Close people worry about us and try to help, as they think. I give advice, they criticize, they scare me with problems. These tips and opinions may not always benefit you.
If these conversations are not pleasant for you, your mood drops, then just don’t talk about this topic. You are the master of your life and you decide how to continue to live and what you really want.
Fear that it's too late to start
The first thought that may come is: why didn’t I start earlier?
Get started today!
You will never have so much time and energy again.
There are people who just started, although they are already well over 40 , but from that day they are happy.
If you say that it is too late, then you will never be happy.
Today is the best day to move towards happiness.
Success is a matter of number of attempts, not luck.
A successful person is not one who is lucky in life, but one who solves his problems and tries as many times as necessary to achieve the desired result.
How to find yourself in life
I think that even if we were taught this at school, there would be much more bad students than in mathematics. For those who want to find themselves, not only the result itself is important, but also the process itself and the effort spent. On the one hand, it’s cool that there is no universal recipe for how to make your life better, on the other hand, if there was a general, universal algorithm, everything would be much simpler, but, I am convinced, it would not be so fun and memorable. In fact, there are several ways to find yourself in life and specifically your life:
- Meditation, spiritual practices;
- Trainings, master classes, consultations;
- Motivation.
And some people combine all this under one wing and significantly simplify their lives.
5 exercises to find your purpose
In order to find yourself in life, you can do several exercises from the list below.
Exercise 1. Ideal environment.
Almost always, the environment that produces winners consists of them. But many are unlucky with their surroundings.
Exercise:
Imagine you woke up in the morning and saw that the world had changed in accordance with your preferences and desires. And you are surrounded only by those people whom you want to be around. Who are these people? What qualities do they have?
Your consciousness will draw exactly what you need, as you see it.
Exercise 2. Bring back children's interest.
Children always do only what is really interesting to them during games.
Exercise:
Remember what you loved to do as a child. Write down 3-5 favorite activities on a piece of paper.
Conduct an analysis, estimate how interesting this would be to you now and what field of activity would be suitable for this activity.
Exercise 3. “Bus”
Sit comfortably in a chair or chair. Nothing should distract you. Relax.
Imagine that you are driving a bus that is taking you through your life. And since you are driving, you decide for yourself which road to take and where exactly you are going.
The starting point of your route is your today. And the End Point is the life you want.
When entering your new life, remember what you see from the bus window, what stops you have.
For example , one of the stops is your home, what it is like, what it looks like. Stop the bus at his place and go inside. What is he like, what is the situation there. Maybe there is your workshop there, in which you do what you like. What items are in this workshop?
Where is your bus going?
Remember and write down everything that comes to mind, all your desires and what you saw from the bus window.
Now you have a guideline on where to move and what to strive for.
Exercise 4. “Lottery”
Imagine that you won a huge amount of money in the lottery and you don't have to work for the money.
What will you do in your free time, what will you do? Answer honestly.
Pay special attention to those things and activities that you do not for money, but for pleasure. They are precisely the area of activity that may turn out to be your destiny.
What does it mean to find yourself in life?
Understanding and loving your Self is an absolutely individual concept for everyone, and there is no universal idea of what it means to find yourself, since everything depends on age, skills, capabilities, character and... a good example. For some, finding yourself means becoming exemplary parents, for others it means leaving a mark on history, for others it means visiting 100 countries and leaving no empty space in your passport.
And it’s good that each of us has our own head on our shoulders, our own goals and motivations, and how great it is when some examples or thoughts of people help me, my partners, and those who are just reading the material on GQ Monitor for the first time and thinking about starting investments.
Wisdom of successful people
Steve Jobs constantly reminded that he would never find himself, and only because he did not want to do it. Albert Einstein even believed that the search for oneself can be put into a mathematical formula, and the opera diva Montserrat Caballe says that she found herself only thanks to the fact that her neighbors had strong nerves and poor hearing. For some, wisdom lies on the surface, and sometimes you don’t need to look for it in the deep well of philosophy, but just look at your feet.
It’s not enough to find yourself, it’s important to find your Self and preserve it for a long time, and even better, forever. To summarize, I would like to once again draw your attention to the fact that the search for oneself is a process, like a Present Continuous Tense, which shows the process and its duration. And if you want to have a successful example before your eyes - the most popular rich people in the world, whose stories were included in the material on my blog. And traditionally, I wish you not only to find and save, but also to enjoy the fact that you are searching and enjoy every day of your life.
Author Ganesa K.
A professional investor with 5 years of experience working with various financial instruments, runs his own blog and advises investors. Own effective methods and information support for investments.
5 steps to finding yourself and your purpose in life
Step #1: Listen to Your Soul
Finding your calling means being yourself. Playing and pretending cannot be the true purpose.
The most important thing is the answer to the question “Who am I?” This is the only question that matters.
Listen to yourself, what you like to do, what you want to do.
It is better to listen to yourself in peace and quiet.
You can imagine what kind of life you want to live or write on paper.
You can play your favorite music without words.
It is important that money does not play any role. Imagine having enough money for your entire life.
You don't need to work, because you have money. What would you do in your free time?
It is important to pay attention to what comes easily into consciousness and what causes resistance.
For example , when you imagine traveling around the world, playing golf, singing, dancing, your soul is light and joyful.
And when you imagine that you are devoting all your time to your family, you don’t feel comfortable. You immediately see the negative aspects: cooking, cleaning, etc.
You will feel what is closer to you, which direction is yours.
Step #2: Connect your mind
After determining the direction, you need to connect the mind.
You need to think and pave the way to achieve your goal.
To pave the way, you must first determine what type of person you are:
Salesman
These are sociable people who easily find a common language and know how to negotiate with other people. They get to know each other easily and get close. They quickly adapt to a new company and sell easily.
They attract maximum attention.
There are many such people in network marketing. They can also be successful businessmen.
Man-system
This is a person who has everything strictly according to plan. Everything is painted and laid out on shelves.
Such people can quickly bring order to any chaos.
Excellent accountants, lawyers, etc.
Man-product
Typical self-employed person. Custom cakes, photographer services, children's animator, etc.
Leadership Man
A person who loves and knows how to manage staff. He has a developed sense of responsibility.
Usually, each person has a combination of several different types.
For example , in one person there can be a “management person” and a “sales person”. Or “person-system” and “person-product”.
We choose the type to which you belong and, based on it, choose an activity.
Look for what you love and you will find it.
You are free in this regard. You can become anyone!
Step #3: What do you love?
The big mistake most people make is to look for themselves in life based on possible earnings.
It is important to understand that if you are a master of your favorite craft, then earnings will come by themselves.
To determine your favorite activity, you need to write down on a piece of paper all the activities that come to your mind during the week.
After the list has been collected, put a rating on a 10-point scale on how much you like this activity. Where 1 means I don’t like it, and 10 means I really like it and I’m ready to do it for free.
Important! Write everything that comes to mind into your list, even if you can’t make money from it.
After giving your ratings, you will clearly see that you are interested in what your soul is about.
If you 10 points in any item, it means you didn’t include all your classes in it. Think again and add to the list.
If you get several points with the maximum score, that’s great! You have choice and stock!
The main thing is to understand that your purpose is what you love to do and nothing else!
Step #4: Create State
When searching for purpose, it is important to put aside all stereotypes and fears. There is no need to think whether it will work or not. Imagine that you are omnipotent and there will be no bad consequences for you for your actions.
Important! Don't think about what problems might arise. Problems are stages of achieving a goal, and not some kind of catastrophe.
Get used to thinking in solutions, not problems. And solve issues (problems) as they arise, and not in advance, when they do not yet exist.
Another big mistake is to think everything through in advance. And when you see the whole picture in full, then you don’t get down to business out of fear of future problems (issues).
Many happy and successful people would not be happy and successful now if they had calculated everything in advance. They would simply be afraid to go into such a mess!
Many people, when they see a problem, immediately give up without even trying to solve it. Learn to solve problems and you will succeed.
Set a problem and solve it. Many people consider the task to be a problem, but this is far from the case. Direct your activity towards solving a problem.
There is no need to go against yourself. There is no need to think: I like to sing, but I won’t be able to make money from this, so I will become a manager. Although you are truly happy only when you sing.
It’s better to find a way to make money from your favorite activity or talent and direct your activity towards solving this problem.
Step #5: Take Action
Self-development
Engage in self-development. Study any information that relates to your topic. Become the best specialist in your field.
There is information on any topic on the Internet: free master classes, videos on YouTube, informational articles, etc. Take it and use it.
Learn from people who have already done a lot in your topic.
Go towards your strengths
Develop your strengths, pump them up. Stop wasting time working on your weaknesses.
Invest your time and resources in what you truly do best.
Create in the area in which you have talent.
Forget about perfectionism
To achieve success, you need to take action. Forget about perfectionism, otherwise you will not get further than the first point of your plan or you will lose a lot of time while you “lick” it.
Success loves the fast!
It’s worth doing the tweaking to the ideal when everything has already been tested and everything is ready. This is called analysis and adjustment.
Your task is to become a master of your craft, which means that sooner or later you will gain experience, and then perfectionism will appear in you by itself. And at the start he will be like a stick in the wheel.
Looking for inspiration
The next step in finding your personal style is to look for sources of inspiration. They can be anything: celebrities and style icons you like, movie heroines, fashion shows, Pinterest boards, street style photos. You can find fashion bloggers on Instagram and follow them or make selections from fashion magazines. Create a separate folder on your computer and save all the photos you like there.
The free Vogue Runway app can be a source of inspiration. Photos from shows and the best photos in street style format are published here. Various images can be found on Pinterest. Create an account there and create a board of your style there. Save photos of clothes you like. You can search for photos using the queries “street style”, “fashion”, “style”.
After the work has been done, look through your selections and determine what colors, styles, materials and combinations are found there most often? They are a reflection of your tastes and preferences. Include these items on your shopping list.
