Every person needs approval and praise. But our brave and strong defenders especially need it. It would seem that men do not need compliments; extra praise only confuses and embarrasses them. But in fact, deep down, men are just waiting for our, female, approval and recognition. After all, praising their achievements or personal qualities is a confirmation of our love and respect.
But there is one nuance: men do not like to be praised out of nowhere. If the essence of a compliment given to a woman may not correspond to reality, then praise to a man must necessarily be justified. Otherwise, men will either ignore your words or, worse, take your praise for sarcasm and be offended. They are so vulnerable!
Despite this, there is a list of qualities for which a man can always be praised.
How to praise a man
A well-timed compliment from an intelligent woman is an excellent way to educate a man. After all, even if you don’t have a goal to re-educate him, you still want him to do something better. By encouraging good and “right” things with your words, you can raise the best man for yourself. But don't overdo it! Otherwise, your boasts can only ruin the relationship.
Avoid empty praise
Praise out of the blue, just like generalization, will have no effect. A man needs to be praised in such a way that he feels truly needed and loved. For example, if you tell him that he is handsome, it will be an empty compliment. But if you point out his strength and muscles, the man will immediately feel very significant and needed. A man should be praised not for what he is or has, but for what he has actually done.
Don't overdo it
A representative of the stronger sex should be praised every time he deserves it. But there is no need to praise non-stop and just like that. He will imagine himself as the owner of all the attributed virtues and will behave like a star of the first magnitude. You probably won't like it.
Consider where you are
Every compliment should be appropriate. It is unlikely that in the company of other men your beloved will like the fact that you praise his thriftiness. Every man wants to appear macho among friends and acquaintances, and not feel like a complete idiot. But he will like it if you praise him for his sporting achievements or mention that you are tired of fighting off your loved one from his fans.
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Why do you need to give a man compliments?
But a man wants to hear confirmation of his own importance! By this, his chosen one shows him that she appreciates his actions, distinguishes him as unique and competitive. She inspires a man, inspires him to new exploits and achievements. Gives him an incentive to move on, a kind of positive reinforcement. They say that a kind word pleases a cat, and this is true.
In addition, a compliment works like a green traffic light, making it clear that he is her type and has a chance for a relationship. With these words, a woman shows that the man is pleasant and attractive to her. She appreciated him and is open to communication. All this cannot but leave the interlocutor indifferent. He will appreciate your words and decide that you are pleasant to talk to, and also smart, if you know how to notice and appreciate his actions, and you are worth taking a closer look at. It is precisely because men hear compliments less often that they value them much more highly than women.
But there are also personal reasons that prevent a woman from praising a man:
Excitement . She thinks about how to say it better, worries, trembles inside. She feels awkward, even ashamed; in the end, the moment is lost, and she hasn’t come up with anything worthy.
Diffidence . Will she be understood correctly? Will he be able to convey his thoughts correctly? Will it attract too much attention to itself?
Ignorance of basic rules of communication. Many people say banal things, for example, “You are such an interesting man,” “You are a pleasant conversationalist,” “You are such a great guy.” The woman understands that these compliments will not cause much delight. And all because she does not know how to give subtle, skillful compliments that will raise her in the eyes of a man.
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Many ladies think that compliments will help them woo a man and make him theirs forever. In fact, other words can make a pleasant impression on him and make his heart melt. Check out the words and phrases that are much stronger than the nicest compliment.
Compliments and humiliations
If a woman looks down on her chosen one, then this will be seen in her “compliments”. For example, if a man fixed something, although he couldn’t decide for a long time, a woman might say: “Finally you did it.” In this case, the man will be offended, because this is not a compliment, but real humiliation.
Even if he promised to fix a shelf or buy something for the house within a month, you should not say something like that. It’s better to find the strength within yourself and say: “I’m so glad that I have you.” You can limit yourself to a simple “thank you” - this will be more useful than derogatory comments.
Diminutives
Many women give their men the following compliments: “my bunny, what a good boy you are”, “my baby, you are the best” and so on. This is more often done by those representatives of the fair sex who have a highly developed maternal instinct.
Men will rarely respond to such words with negativity, but deep down they are very annoyed by this, because everyone wants to be cool and brutal, and not “a kid and a bunny.” Under no circumstances should you “adopt” your man: in this case, the relationship will not come to anything good. A strong man may react negatively to such treatment and even leave. Mama's boy will only be happy.
Comparison with others
Men compete with each other in all aspects, at all levels. If you compare a man with someone else in compliments, he may be upset. Here are examples: “you are so romantic, not like my ex”, “you did a great job, almost like my grandfather.”
You shouldn’t cite someone as an example, and especially you shouldn’t say that a man almost reaches someone else’s level. This really infuriates them, which is why they probably hate this type of compliment the most.
Compliment-clarification
It’s even worse if the woman is not sure that the man himself has achieved positive results. Some say: “Cool renovation,” and then add: “Did you do it yourself?” Many women think that a man cannot have enough skills or money for something, so they say so. It's better not to do this.
You only need to celebrate positively what the man himself did. If he bought cool jeans, you should say not “cool jeans”, but “you have cool taste.” If he has a beautiful car, there is no need to ask whose it is or how the man was able to earn money for it. There is no need for any clarification or questions. A man is either great or not. How he did it is no longer anyone's business. If he wants, he will tell himself.
Compliments are lies
Men are not fools - they see themselves in the mirror and are well aware of their shortcomings. If you tell a not particularly attractive man “you’re just gorgeous,” he will immediately think about why he was told this.
Flattery can be useful, but only if it is skillfully disguised. When a woman says something that a man can easily identify as a lie, it will not make a positive impression on him.
Banal compliments
For example, a man is very rich and has a cool car. Everyone around him tells him: “Cool car,” so he is already tired of these words, and they will not make any impression on him.
You can draw an analogy with a very beautiful girl who is told a hundred times every day: “You are so beautiful.” If you want to give a compliment, then you need to first think about what to note that others do not notice. This can be very difficult to do, so try to be more careful.
We have previously told you how to give compliments and how to properly praise a man. Learning to do this is not that difficult. It is enough to follow these simple recommendations and remember that the best compliment is sincere.
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30 August 01:07
When to praise
The most important rule: a man needs to be praised for specific actions. It is important to always take this into account, because by praising your loved one just like that, you can spoil him. You should always know when to stop.
What masculine actions should be celebrated? First of all, those that he does to make his woman happy. It's worth celebrating the little things. For example, flowers or sweets that he brought for no reason. Many girls eventually stop noticing that guys try to please them from time to time. It is important for any person to know that their actions are valued. If the husband does not feel the return, then he will simply stop doing pleasant little things for his wife, because for him they will lose all meaning. Why waste time and money on something that no one needs?
Success in work is also worthy of praise. It is important for a guy to know that a girl is proud of him. A kind word is especially valuable for those who have just begun to build a career. Praise will be a great incentive to continue trying and reach new heights. However, even a serious businessman will be glad to hear praise from the woman he loves.
A person who actively works on himself also deserves to be praised. The desire to develop is a wonderful trait. If a guy decides to go in for sports, goes on a diet, begins to take an active interest in cinema and literature, or finds a new hobby, then it’s worth supporting him, because self-development is commendable.
Compliments to a young man
At the dating stage, people take a closer look at each other. Correct behavior helps love to appear. The girl’s task is to maintain interest in herself.
A woman can tell what beautiful eyes her chosen one has
Sometimes there is a problem with how to tell a man that he is the best. For example, you can remember repairing a car and admire how quickly he completed the task.
There are unusual options: “I feel comfortable only next to you”, “you are strong and I am protected”, “you are unique”, etc. Don't be afraid to experiment. Words spoken from the heart are always felt.
A woman should understand which compliments can be given to a man and which cannot. You cannot point out his weaknesses, shortcomings, swear, or laugh at his mistakes. You should not show vulgarity, black humor, etc.
You need to be more careful with funny compliments. They may sound offensive. For example, if you say, “Oh, I’d rather be your fitness trainer,” the guy will think that he is unattractive.
The list of acceptable and dangerous compliments can be continued for a long time. It is advisable to have several preparations in mind in advance. They will help you navigate.
Prohibited tricks
It is important to know when and how to praise your loved one, but you should also pay attention to some prohibited techniques:
- “You praise him, and he becomes arrogant.” This does not mean that you cannot compliment your beloved man. But you shouldn’t go too far either. If you constantly tell a guy that he is wonderful and the best, he can really become arrogant. Then the man will stop doing courageous things and doing pleasant little things, because he will know: if a girl praised him just like that, then she will continue to do it. It is necessary to mark specific actions.
- “He won’t die unless I praise him.” For a man, a woman’s reaction is very important, so it is necessary to praise him even when he has already given the same flowers 10 times in a row. These bouquets are his way of caring, showing attention, and making him feel nice. You need to appreciate such gestures, otherwise he will simply stop trying to please the woman. She can hint to him what flowers she would like to receive next time, but at the same time she should also praise the bouquet that he gave. You also need to tell your man that he is very attentive and romantic.
- You cannot manipulate your loved one with praise. This trick is used by many women. For example, they start telling a guy about their friend’s man who saves money on her, while adding: “But you’re not like that.” You can use this technique without comparing with another person, but it doesn’t make it any better. Such praise is not sincere admiration for a man, but an attempt to beg him for a fur coat or a trip abroad. A girl who respects her boyfriend will not do this.
- “Praise the earner so he gets even more.” Don't touch the issue of money. Instead, you can admire the fact that the man has perfectly realized himself in the profession. If he loves his work and is proud of it, then such praise will definitely cheer him up. When we are talking about a young man who has only recently graduated from college, talking about earnings can confuse him.
- To learn to communicate with men, you need to stop comparing. Here we are talking about male pride. Sometimes a guy is flattered when a girl says that he is better than her ex-boyfriend or her best friend's husband. But there are also situations when a man is offended by the fact that a woman compares him. If you are not sure that he likes such compliments, you should avoid them. This is especially true for comparisons with an ex-boyfriend.
Praise shows that a woman appreciates the actions and is proud of her loved one. Even if he is a successful businessman, outside of work it is important for him to feel like a caring and attentive husband. A guy, when he is praised, is ready to move mountains to gain even more respect and admiration. You can say this: “When you praise your man, he becomes a hero not only in your eyes, but also in his own.” This is very important for his self-esteem. Pleasant words spoken by a girl or wife inspire you to conquer new heights and give you self-confidence.
Do not overdo it
Even the most pleasant praise can set your teeth on edge. For example, he screwed in a light bulb in the kitchen, praise him, but you shouldn’t remember this for several days in a row. Next time, praise another achievement or action. You should always remember the golden mean.
To properly praise a man, you need to constantly monitor him. He dressed nicely, praise him for his good taste, cut his hair - note that the hairstyle suits him. You should not praise him for his high salary or social status; a man may think that you are with him for the sake of money. They are extremely scrupulous in this matter.
