Greed is the only vice that women do not forgive men, because it humiliates a woman!!!
Not all girls are so “lucky” if a greedy man appears in our lives, but, unfortunately, it happens often. At first, the guy is attentive, even ready to give you gifts, arrange romantic dates, but over time he becomes more and more greedy, finding a bunch of reasons and excuses. And you begin to wonder if he will always be like this?! Let's look at the most common traits of this type of man.
Why a man is greedy: reasons
Reasons why men are greedy
Men can be greedy for various reasons. Before figuring out whether a man is greedy, you first need to understand the reasons. It’s not just that a person becomes greedy.
So, among the reasons for male greed the following stand out:
- Upbringing . Often people adopt habits and practices from their family. If the father was stingy and greedy, then the child will not be prone to waste.
- Lack of money in the past . When a man grows up in constant need, he will be afraid to find himself in such a situation again. Often he just starts saving money and doesn't spend it.
- Future plans . Perhaps a man begins to save in order to achieve some goals, but then it develops into greed.
- Lack of confidence in a woman . When a man does not spend money on a woman, then he most likely does not know her well and does not consider it necessary to spend money. With such thoughts and behavior, it is unlikely that he will be able to get to know her well, because when a man is a pathological miser, then obviously no one likes him.
- Fear of self-interest . Sometimes men justify their greed by saying that women are selfish. This usually happens when they believe that women only need money from them. They claim that they should be loved for their inner peace, but not for their money.
- Ignoring hints . Often women hint to men about something, but do not achieve what they want. Sometimes the tips are so unobtrusive that the chosen one cannot even understand their needs. It’s better to tell him directly what you need and only then look at his reaction.
- He is selfish . Narcissistic men are common. They are not used to denying themselves anything, but they don’t give gifts to their other half. They don't think it's necessary.
How to deal with a man's greed
There are several psychological techniques on how to overcome this quality in a man.
Sincere conversation
An open, sincere conversation helps to convey the essence of the problem to your loved one. There is no need to be ashamed of your claims and grievances. The man is not a telepath and will not guess about the existing problem. Stingy husbands cannot even understand why his wife is offended. Do not reproach him for stinginess and greed; the conversation should be calm and comfortable. Anyone can load and saw, but it will not bring any results. It will even make the situation even worse.
Money is needed for waste
It’s not easy to convey this idea to a man’s mind if his whole life his parents have been hammering into him: “Mine.” If a guy is saving, you need to find out what he is saving for and when he plans to buy it. Without a clear goal, such accumulation can be called a mental disorder. If the goal is truly worthwhile, you can help your husband by investing a little of your strength in his goal.
Family expenses are a family matter
Often men argue that family finances go into emptiness, unnecessary female expenses. To solve this problem, it is worth making an estimate of the necessary costs on the part of the wife and husband. To plan the overall family budget.
Help from a psychologist
As a last resort, you can contact a family psychologist. There is nothing shameful or shameful about this, you just need to try to solve the existing problem together.
Some psychologists recommend keeping a diary and writing down all your complaints in it. Regarding finances, mark every ruble and expense for yourself. Your husband's expenses may exceed yours.
This means that you have come across a manipulator who only cares about his own comfort and his personal savings. You can't encroach on men's money. But if the husband does not spend it on general coziness and comfort, many psychologists advise getting a divorce; it is very difficult to re-educate such a person.
How to recognize the signs of a greedy man in a relationship with a woman?
Saying by Esther Brown
You can determine whether a man is greedy by certain signs. They are easy to see during normal communication.
So, the signs are as follows:
- When he buys something, he always expects even the smallest change. Yes, and he always counts the money and checks the receipt.
- He will never take you to the cinema or restaurants because he considers them stupid things that are not worth spending money on.
- He doesn’t buy anything for himself, for example, he wears things until the last minute, until there are no holes at all, just so as not to waste anything.
- When visiting a cafe, he will never give a tip, but will take all the change.
- He knows all the prices and will always tell you where to buy cheaper, even if this is not required.
- Psychologists are sure that greed is difficult to treat. Even if a person corrects himself, it is not completely corrected. There is always something left in which it will manifest itself.
How to improve your appetite?
If a mother is interested in improving her baby’s appetite , then the following tips will help her:
- Create a diet. It must be clear and hourly.
- Eliminate snacking.
- Start cooking tasty meals according to your child’s wishes. He also needs to be pampered, as all adults do.
- Rule out various diseases and food intolerances.
- Don't make a cult out of food.
The less you make eating a problem, the easier your child will be about what and how often he eats. Poor appetite is often an imposed condition when a child resists parental pressure. If he doesn't want to eat, don't eat. Children do not yet know how to control their hunger, so if they want to, they will definitely run to the kitchen.
How to correctly determine whether a man is greedy or thrifty?
How to determine whether a man is greedy or frugal?
It happens that when women think about whether a man is greedy, they can confuse this quality with economy. However, these two qualities have significant differences.
It is believed that the richer a man is, the greedier he is. In fact, this is not always the case. For the most part, such people are practical and will not spend money left and right simply because a woman is capricious. Men also become greedy, according to women, when they start their own business. They see that there is income, but it does not give anything. In this case, it is also a matter of practicality and foresight. He simply invests in the business so that he will have more income in the future. And you will have to be patient for some time.
Again, not every woman will endure and wait for a bright future to come there. After all, a man can leave for another. Here you need to think not about your husband, but about the men who come into your life. For example, if a man constantly asks to wait so that he can get married someday, then there is a certain risk in this situation. Decide for yourself what to do.
A greedy man will deliberately delay the wedding so as not to spend money on you. Well, there are also those who really want to first develop a business and then have a luxurious wedding.
The man doesn't give money
There are also men who have money, but do not want to invest in a woman. Here we need to find out the reasons. Maybe he's just frugal, or he's become disillusioned with women. Where does he spend his money? Does he not want to invest at all or is he not confident in you?
What about you? Would you date him if he were an ordinary worker with an average income? Maybe you're just being selfish?
Here you need to think about everything very carefully. Do not rush to label a man as a greedy person, because he does not give you money and does not spend money.
If a man has average income, then there is no point in talking about greed if, instead of a restaurant, he buys you ice cream and fruit. It’s just that his budget is not that big and he has to give up some things.
Remember that what matters to a man is not even how much he pays, but the amount of money he gives was significant.
Are you ready to fight for your happiness? Then go ahead!
If a greedy husband is used to saving on you, you need to take small but confident steps. But first you should objectively assess the situation and your own strengths. Are your claims really justified? Perhaps the guy is saving money for a big purchase and your financial difficulties are temporary. Perhaps problems have arisen in business, debts that the betrothed is in no hurry to tell you about, so as not to burden you with his problems.
If a guy from childhood was instilled with the idea of the need to live frugally, to maintain strict control over his frivolous other half, because ladies tend to throw money down the drain, changing this psychological attitude is difficult, but possible. All in your hands. Contribute your share to the family budget. Prove in practice that you are a reliable partner who can be trusted with even a large amount of money. Over time, the imposed stereotype about female spendthrifts will be destroyed, and you will get rid of the constant control and unfounded claims of your significant other.
Should you start a relationship with a greedy man?
Depending on what exactly caused the man’s greed, one can draw conclusions about the relationship with him. You must understand that when deciding whether a man is greedy, it is not always possible to resolve the situation. To understand whether it’s even worth starting a relationship with such a man, pay attention to the advantages and disadvantages.
Among the advantages are:
Is it worth dating a greedy person?
- Possibility of finding a compromise . Often, simply talking and planning a budget is enough to reach a mutual agreement.
- It may open up in the future . It happens that when there is a bad experience in the past, men first test girls for commercialism. Only when they are sure that money is not important to a woman can they become generous and caring in the future.
- A business man . What seems to be stinginess and greed may in fact turn out to be simple economics. If a man has recently started earning a lot of money, then he is unlikely to spend money on all sorts of trinkets. He'd rather buy something useful. In this case, it all depends on the woman. If she is economical, then this arrangement will suit her quite well.
- Successful and promising . Such men also seem greedy. In fact, they simply prefer to develop their business in order to receive a large income in the future, while saving on life for now. If a woman endures temporary inconvenience, it will return to her in the future.
- There may be a misunderstanding in your relationship . If a woman wants something and talks about it, but the man is in no hurry to buy, then she’s probably just giving bad hints. It is better to speak directly about your desires.
- There will be no unexpected expenses in the family . Stingy men seem to know the value of money. In such a union, you can be sure that the man will not spend money anywhere.
- You can influence a man if you have cunning. It's important to communicate purchases to him in a way that makes him feel like it's his decision. He must see for himself all the benefits and benefits. Then he will easily part with the money.
There are also quite significant disadvantages in such a relationship:
Disadvantages of a greedy man
- No romance . A greedy man does not consider it necessary to buy gifts, go to the cinema or cafe. For him, the best thing is to relax at home in front of the TV for free.
- It will get worse over time . Even when a man is deeply in love, he will not spend money on his woman, and it will only get worse.
- In a relationship, the man controls the budget . When your relationship becomes serious, he will not only save his own, but will also scold his wife for spending a lot, even if it is her money.
- You will have to hide your income . In an alliance with a greedy man, the wife has to hide how much she earns in order to buy something for herself. You also have to lie about the appearance of many things in the house.
- Greedy men don’t look very good, to put it mildly , because they save even on themselves. A woman will have to get used to not only the sight of her man, but also the fact that she will have to behave the same way.
- Men are greedy not only for money . This even includes compliments, affection and kind words. This is a cracker who is not used to giving anything, but only taking. Of course, this will manifest itself in all areas of life.
It’s up to you to decide whether it’s worth living with such a man, but be sure to think for yourself whether you want to fight for happiness all your life, dodge and resort to tricks so that only the man gives at least something.
A man is a miser: signs and characteristics
If you begin to suspect your lover of greed, then getting confirmation of this will not be so difficult. You just need to pay attention to signs such as:
- He is not eager to visit places of entertainment, cafes and restaurants; you cannot drag him to the premiere of a new film at the cinema. He doesn't think spending money on vacation is worth it.
- If he does have dinner at a restaurant, he does not tip the waiter and does not allow either himself or his companion to order expensive dishes.
- He is aware of prices in stores and is always aware of where a necessary or not so necessary product can be bought at a discount.
- A miser does not spend money on himself unless there is an urgent need for it. He can walk around in worn and mended things, just so as not to buy something new. Such a man will not throw away anything unnecessary and all his “old stuff” is smoothly sent for storage in the garage or on the far shelves of closets.
Greedy man psychology - how to behave, what to do?
When you have already realized whether your man is greedy, and have just become convinced of your assumptions, then you should immediately say that living with such a person is very difficult and there is no guarantee that he will change.
How to deal with a greedy man?
If you have already tried to re-educate him, but nothing worked out and you are about to give up, then is it even worth continuing such a relationship? Maybe it's better to find a more generous man? Or come to terms with the situation?
If you love your man more than gifts, then the advice of psychologists will help you correct the situation:
- Remember women's cunning and wisdom . Usually in couples the man manages the budget. If he is greedy, then carefully learn to manage him. Don't insist, just manipulate the mood. Start small and don't push too hard, you'll succeed.
- Learn to justify spending . Greedy men agree to buy this or that thing when they realize that it is really needed.
- Find your own source of income . When you are dealing with a greedy man, sitting at home and waiting for him to feed you is a very bad decision. Such men do not like it when people sit on their necks. At first they are just a little indignant, and then they express their irritation openly.
- Don't be too modest . At the beginning of a relationship, women often refuse expensive gifts or restaurants. In this way they are trying to show that they are not mercantile. Men don’t understand this and think that a woman simply doesn’t need such signs of attention. Therefore, if you still want to be given at least some surprises, don’t go too far.
- Don't be afraid to ask for help . If you need help, then hint about this man. In rare cases, men understand veiled hints, so don’t be afraid to talk about your difficulties. If he offers help, then you should not refuse it.
- Praise your man . Men love to hear compliments, so always tell him how generous he is and how lucky you are to have him.
- Don't expect quick results . If you decide to continue a relationship with a greedy man, then you should not expect him to immediately begin to change. The main thing is persistence and patience.
- Don't dream about the impossible. Make plans with your loved one. He must understand how you see your life and what you expect. Not every dream can be clear or achievable. That is, don’t dream of a villa abroad, but rather think about a dacha outside the city.
- Be generous . If you want your partner to be generous, but you don’t have such qualities yourself, then nothing will work out for you. You cannot demand generosity from a man when you cannot give it yourself.
Living with a greedy man is difficult, but possible. If you love him very much and make efforts to develop the relationship, then you will quickly rid your man of greed and make him generous.
Is greed subject to re-education?
How to get rid of greed on the part of your husband? And anyway, is this game worth the candle? Girls, I am sure that it is not worth breaking up without allowing the person to understand and rethink his own behavior. Here are some tips to help your man become less stingy.
- If your loved one gave you even a small gift without reminding, then thank him with a delicious dinner or passionate sex. A man will remember how you responded to his generosity, and next time he will be more willing to show it.
- Praise your husband if he managed to overcome his own greed and buy something expensive, or without a discount. Praise is one of the best motivators for any person, regardless of gender.
- Apply the PDA technique that I often talk about in my trainings and webinars! First, compliment the man, then indicate your own position and reinforce it with a second compliment.
I want to remind you, girls, that any problem is easier to prevent than to solve. You can find out that a man is a greedy and miser at the first meeting. Read about The Nine Best Questions to Ask on a First Date to know how to spot a greedy man (little hint: he's obsessed with getting his own needs met).
The “Ideal Love Relationships” section contains even more articles that will help you resolve difficult issues that arise within a couple. And at the training “The Price of Women's Happiness,” every girl will learn what she needs to feel happy while in a relationship.
Tell us how to live with a greedy man in the family? Maybe it’s not worth it at all?
Greedy man - signs: forum
Each woman deals with the issue of a man's greed in her own way. On forums, women discuss this problem and everyone advises different things - some say that it is better to leave, and others claim that you can re-educate your loved one. In any case, a lot depends on you.
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