Satisfy your needs, express yourself, or be selfish?
It would be great if you could learn to distinguish between these three concepts, because, unfortunately, very often people get confused about them. Let's take this example: during a training session, one participant gets up and decides to turn off the air conditioning because she thinks the room is too cold. Having heard from me that before turning off the air conditioning, it would be a good idea to ask the other group members if they were cold, the girl became embarrassed. She replied that she just satisfied her need, which she learned from our trainings... Another participant said that such behavior was just a manner of manifesting itself. I had to interrupt the training for a few minutes to clearly explain the difference in these terms to all participants. This is what gave me the idea to share my thoughts on this topic with you. If each of us decided to satisfy our own needs, forgetting that we all live in society, the world would be ruled by anarchy. Indeed, we must know our needs and do everything possible to satisfy them. However, if this means that those around you must also satisfy your needs at the expense of their own, this is called selfishness. This needs to be repeated constantly because our ego does not allow us to remember it.
To be selfish is to want another person to satisfy our needs without listening to our own. This often happens in situations where we want the other person to give us pleasure as proof of their love.
Obviously this can lead to confusion. For example, a woman returns from work and is so tired that she decides not to have dinner, but just to rest. If she tells her husband and children that there will be no dinner that evening, that is selfishness. If she tells them that she doesn't want to eat dinner herself, but that they can eat whatever they want or have whatever they want delivered to their home, she will satisfy her needs without preventing other family members from doing the same.
I know many women who decided to change their eating habits by reading a book about food or by deciding to lose weight. And they began to prepare food for the whole family according to their own preferences, making them believe that everything was done out of love for them. However, such behavior is selfishness, not love for others.
Also, we need to be careful about what exactly we call a need. Is it really a need or rather a desire or a whim? To find out if this is your true need, ask yourself the question: will this allow me to be who or what? Let's return to the participant in our trainings from the first example. She could say that she had a need to feel comfortable in order to better understand the training. And then it would be enough for her to ask someone for a blanket or scarf or ask to move to another place where she would not be cold.
In many cases, people believe that manifesting means saying or doing what they want. At another training, one young man kept interrupting me or other participants to ask a question without raising his hand. He admitted that for him this was a way of expressing himself, and that now he practiced it everywhere: after all, before, with his parents, he was never allowed to do this. To manifest is to clearly express your thought, opinion and intention, according to your own values and needs. Thus, the young man did not express himself, but forced other people to listen to him when it suited him. This behavior is a manifestation of strong egoism, as well as a lack of respect for other people.
When we truly show up, other people feel that we are speaking from the heart, expressing only our needs. Take, for example, a man who feels the need to spend time in nature to help him calm down after a busy week at work. To do this, he decides to sign up for a round of golf. When he sees that his girlfriend and his children do not agree with this, he expresses himself by asserting that it is important for him to satisfy this need. They have the right to disagree with him, but this will not change his decision. He wants to decide for himself whether this is right for him to satisfy his need for peace, and he needs to play golf for a while to find out if it is. In this case, the man does not interfere with his girlfriend and children to satisfy their own needs.
To manifest is also to be able to express your requests to satisfy your needs. However, do you remember that the person you ask for something has the right to answer you “no”? If this is the case, all you have to do is find another person to whom you can express your request. This way you talk about your need without imposing anything on anyone, and therefore do it without egoism or control.
We must all remember that it is impossible for all members of a couple or family to have the same needs at the same time. And this is a great opportunity to learn true love, which is accepting other people's differences, even if we disagree, even if we don't understand.
So, I recommend that you begin to practice expressing your needs, being clear, clear, and making your requests known as quickly as possible. If you wait too long to allow yourself to emerge, your request may become a complaint or a demand. Let's say your work colleague often interrupts you and this annoys you. This confuses you and makes it difficult for you to continue working. If you wait too long to show up and ask him to respect your space, there's a good chance you'll start to get angry and it will no longer be a request, but rather an accusation. Remember that as soon as you become emotional, you stop hearing your true needs and, of course, expressing yourself.
Translation: Iya Zaitseva.
NEEDS.
Need is an internal state of psychological or physiological feeling of insufficiency of something. We will return to this issue when explaining motivation, but for now we will only say that basic needs include mainly physiological needs (the need for food, drink, warmth), as well as the psychological needs of belonging, belonging to a society or group of people. Many people seem to have a need for power and influence, but this may not manifest itself for a long time until their basic needs are satisfied. If they are not satisfied, a person will unconsciously strive to satisfy them. [p.100] PRIMARY NEEDS are physiological in nature and, as a rule, innate. Examples include the need for food, water, breathing, sleeping and sexual needs. SECONDARY NEEDS are psychological in nature. For example, the needs for success, respect, affection, power and the need to belong to someone or something. Primary needs are genetically determined, while secondary needs are usually recognized through experience. Because people have different backgrounds, people's secondary needs vary more than their primary needs. [p.363] It is known that before making demands for increasingly higher quality consumer goods, a person must satisfy the primary needs for food, clothing, shoes, and housing. Until the minimum level of satisfaction of these needs is achieved, a person is not concerned with the quality of goods, especially those that are inaccessible to him (“Some have liquid cabbage soup, and some have small diamonds”). Only after reaching the threshold of saturation of the most basic basic needs does a person begin to place increased demands on the quality of the product. This process is clearly related to income level. [p.25]
The highest goal of our state is formulated in the Constitution of the USSR - the construction of a classless communist society. The main tasks of the state are also named there, which must be solved in order to achieve the highest goal: creating the material and technical base of communism, improving socialist social relations and transforming them into communist education of the person of a communist society, increasing the material and cultural standard of living of the working people, ensuring the security of the country, promoting the strengthening of peace and the development of international cooperation. These tasks can be solved provided that more specific problems are solved, which in turn require solving even more specific issues, etc. Thus, in the task of increasing the material level of workers, one can, for example, highlight the following subtasks: meeting the needs for food, clothing and footwear meeting the needs for housing and public services development of health care provision of transport. [p.129]
Physiological needs. This group of needs includes the needs for food, water, air, shelter, etc., i.e. those needs that a person must satisfy in order to survive, in order to maintain the body in a vital state. These needs are largely related to the maintenance of physiological processes and are generated by human physiology. People who work mainly because of the need to satisfy the needs of this group have little interest in the content of the work; they concentrate their attention on pay, as well as working conditions, convenience in the workplace, the ability to avoid fatigue, etc. To manage such people, it is necessary that the minimum wage ensures survival and that the working conditions do not burden existence too much. [p.144]
With an abundance of food, each person's share depended only on his needs. When the product was scarce, the ratio of the shares of herd members was determined by the ratio of their real needs for food. The term division is not suitable to characterize this kind of relationship. Most likely we could talk about analysis. Not a single member of the herd received his share from anyone. He simply took it in order to eat it right away. Distribution was inseparable from consumption. Everything that was not consumed remained the property of the collective. [p.83]
Financial theory is based on the doctrine that the main function of the financial system is to satisfy the needs of people, including all the basic needs of life such as food, clothing and shelter. Economic entities of all kinds (both firms and government at all levels) exist to facilitate this core function. [p.2]
Finance is the science of how people manage the expenditure and receipt of scarce monetary resources over a certain period of time. Financial decisions are characterized by the fact that expenses and income 1) are spread over time and 2) usually cannot be accurately predicted by the decision makers or anyone else. Financial theory is based on the doctrine that the main function of the financial system is to satisfy the needs of people, including all the basic needs of life such as food, clothing and shelter. Economic entities of all kinds (both firms and government at all levels) exist to facilitate this core function. [p.9]
In other words, the same idea can be expressed as follows: the most urgent needs are the least elastic (compressible). And therefore, even in the least wealthy families, they are saturated more fully than others, and the secondary ones are saturated only to the extent that there are resources available for this, beyond the coverage of all the more urgent ones. In this case, the need for food is usually considered the most urgent, and cultural needs are the least urgent. [p.150]
Look at the money flow patterns of a poor person (A), a middle class person (B), and a rich person (C). All the diagrams below are somewhat simplified. Everyone has household expenses, needs for food, housing, clothing. [p.23]
In general, we can say that at any given moment the individuals and institutions that make up society experience many unsatisfied material needs. Some of these needs - food, clothing, shelter - have common biological roots. However, others arise under the influence of customs and traditions established in society. The specific types of food, clothing, and housing that we strive to acquire are often predetermined by the general social and cultural environment of our habitat. Over time, needs change and increase as a result of the introduction of new products and under the influence of extensive advertising and vigorous sales promotion. [p.25]
So, let’s say, satisfying the need for food at the highest level is of full importance for preserving human life. Continued consumption is important for maintaining health. Finally, subsequent eating is done for the sake of pleasure, which usually gradually decreases. It reaches a certain limit when food needs are satisfied so completely that pleasure disappears. And incessant eating turns into torture and can threaten health and even life. A similar picture is observed with regard to the importance of increasing the degree of saturation of the need for housing and needs of other kinds. [p.152]
Such desires are as natural as the need for food, clothing, [p.104]
If we take all human needs in their natural expression (the need for food, clothing, medical care, sports, reading fiction, etc.), then they are qualitatively heterogeneous and therefore quantitatively incomparable. [p.24]
Thus, in a traditional society, the majority of its members need primarily essential products. These are needs mainly for food, clothing, housing, and basic services. However, back in the 19th century. Prussian statistician Ernest Engel proved that there is a direct connection between the type of goods and services purchased and the income level of consumers. According to his statements, confirmed by practice, with an increase in the absolute amount of income, the share spent on essential goods and services decreases, and the share of expenses on less necessary products increases. The very first need, and a daily one at that, is the need for food. Therefore, Engel’s law finds expression in the fact that as income increases, the share of income spent on food purchases decreases, and the portion of income spent on the purchase of other goods (especially services) that are not essential products increases. [p.53]
Living beings have certain needs. Needs for food, water, continuation of the species, sexual partner, territory for hunting. .. [p.435]
A person has a need for food, but there is no need for shrimp with mayonnaise, except for some rare case of medical indication. Satisfying the interests of the subject ensures the satisfaction of one or another of his needs [p.436]
Although some consistency in satisfying needs undoubtedly exists, it is not. cannot be considered the same for all people. There are known facts when the need for creativity and spiritual improvement became dominant not after satisfying all other needs (physiological, involvement, recognition, etc.), but, essentially, on the verge of survival, when the basic needs for food were not yet satisfied, housing and security. [p.57]
This group usually includes the needs for food, clothing and safety. There is reason to believe that the needs of existence should also include the needs of belonging (inclusion in a certain social group). This is determined by the fact that a person cannot exist for any long time outside of any group, in particular the family. [p.59]
Physiological needs. This group includes the needs for food, water, air, shelter, etc., i.e. needs that a person must satisfy in order to survive and maintain the vital functions of the body. These needs are largely related to the maintenance of physiological processes and are generated by human physiology. [p.113]
To better understand this contradiction, let us first answer the question of what economic needs are. At all times and in different societies, people have had less or more variety of needs. Some of them, for example love, affection, helping loved ones, by their nature cannot be characterized as economic. Others, such as the need for food, clothing, shelter, education, health care, entertainment, and even free time, are directly and directly related to the economy. It is these needs that are called economic. [p.18]
Primary needs are innate in nature, they are genetically determined. These are the needs for food, water, the need to breathe, sleep, the need for communication. [p.211]
Management based on needs and interests is based on stimulating human activity through his needs and interests. We are talking about basic needs - food, shelter, rest, health, etc. social needs - creative work, family, order and stability, etc., as well as interests - material, social, aesthetic. This U.t. recommended for organizations in small regions (small cities, towns, etc.), where the organization’s activities directly affect the municipal infrastructure. [p.341]
The second group includes circumstances that prevent a person from satisfying his basic biological and social needs for food, housing, safety, health, etc. [p.161]
Absolute needs (first level) are abstract in relation to specific use values and express the potential consumer power of society. The needs for food, housing, and spiritual development have existed throughout human history and are the stimulus for production. [p.189]
Physiological needs (food, drink, oxygen) [p.71]
Different things can satisfy different human needs. For example, bread, meat, butter and other food products satisfy the need for food. Suits, dresses, coats, etc. satisfy the need for clothing, tools and machines - the need for tools of production. [p.176]
HIERARCHY OF NEEDS ACCORDING TO MASLOW, a classification of needs according to which they form five levels, each of which can serve as motivation only after satisfying the need located at a lower level 1) physiological needs. Needs for food, water, sleep - everything that is necessary for sub- [p.65]
Needs don't stay the same, and neither do priorities. So, for example, if the purpose of the purchase is to replace a worn-out machine, then it is not at all necessary that one order for a new machine will be immediately followed by another. But if expansion of production is a priority, many more machines may be required. In addition, needs vary significantly in degree of urgency. Some of them must be satisfied unconditionally and necessarily (for example, the need for food); the satisfaction of others is desirable, but without extreme urgency, others can be satisfied, but you can do without it. Product sales opportunities vary accordingly. [p.226]
A distinctive feature of the system of personal needs is that the types of needs included in it are not interchangeable. For example, full satisfaction of the need for food cannot replace the need to satisfy the need for housing, clothing or spiritual needs. Substitutability occurs only in relation to specific goods that serve to satisfy certain types of needs. [p.23]
Physical needs are related to maintaining the physical life of a person. These include the needs for food, clothing, housing, as well as such as the need for physical activity, sleep, etc. [p.23]
Material needs are different from physical needs. The first is part of the physical needs that are satisfied with the help of material goods and services (for example, the need for food, housing, clothing, etc.). In addition to them, physical needs also include purely physiological ones, for example, the need for physical activity, sleep, etc. They can be satisfied without the participation of material goods and services. [p.24]
General needs are needs arising from any type of human activity. These include, for example, the needs for food, clothing, housing, education, [p.24]
The need for food is one of the primary needs, the satisfaction of which forms the basis of a person’s physical life and ensures his reproduction as a biological being. [p.29]
The need for food is a natural, physical need. At the same time, it is formed under the influence of social factors and in this sense is of a social nature. The need for food depends on the type of work activity, [p.29]
The completeness and degree of satisfaction of the need for food depend on the production relations prevailing in society, the level of development of social production in general, and agricultural production in particular. [p.30]
We will call material (or bodily according to Aristotle) needs for food, clothing, housing, transport, safety, as well as entertainment1 social - for communication and joint activity intellectual - for knowledge, scientific and technical creativity aesthetic - for beauty, harmony, artistic creativity spiritual - in moral improvement, honesty, trust, helping other people, love of God. [p.11]
P. according to the level of their development, they distinguish between absolute (rational, ideal) P. - represent the theoretically desired level of needs for food, clothing, housing, spiritual development, determined on the basis of scientific research; actual (achieved, actually developed) P. - reflect <. >a certain level of development of production and society; satisfied (real) P. is that part of the actually developed P. that can be satisfied with the optimal use of the achieved production capabilities. [p.172]
