The essence of male nature is to achieve, conquer, prove one’s reliability and love. Literally a few thousand years ago, it was enough to hit her on the head with a club, drag her to your cave and say: live. Now men have to be more creative. The girl needs a dear and loving person nearby. What to do if you can’t find convincing words?
There are many situations in which a girl needs to prove her sincere love. This could be the passionate beginning of a new romance, when the guy has to prove that he needs to be trusted. Or maybe this girl already lives with him and is sad about the lost romance, the days have become similar to one another.
It also happens that a couple has made mistakes, there are still grievances, a separation is threatening or has already occurred. Your loved one needs to be returned before it is too late.
And sometimes you should understand that the girl you love doesn’t need to prove anything.
In what cases will you have to fight the dragon and when to leave the unfortunate animal alone?
The nature of women's doubts: why prove anything?
So, you are beautiful and confident and, it seems, you always knew what the fair sex needed. Joint walks and romantic meetings, heart-to-heart conversations and gatherings in cafes, bouquets and sweets and even sweet surprises - all this was and is, but...
But, nevertheless, doubts remain in the woman’s eyes. At the same time, young ladies in most cases are divided into two categories: some doubt you as if by chance, timidly, while others shamelessly expect something great and extraordinary, only passionate hugs and truly cinematic declarations of love.
Of course, it’s a little easier to “melt” the first category of women than the second, but in both cases you can’t do without beautiful: a) actions; b) speeches. At the same time, it is important for a man to understand what love means specifically for him - perhaps the root of the problem is that you and the woman dear to you have different understandings of love.
How to prove your love to a girl
It has long been true that girls love with their ears. And that's a fact. They often even demand that they be told about it every day.
Of course, the male half of humanity tries to tell them that they love them, but often this is done so that the girl will simply calm down and, as they say, fall behind. These words just don’t always sound sincere.
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First, let's look at gestures. There is one simple truth in psychology: never prove your feelings with crossed arms or legs. This indicates that you are a private person and have something to hide. Your palms should be open. This is how you can show the sincerity of your feelings. Also, girls have long noticed that if you are straightening your clothes or your fingers are tucked into your belt, this is also a sign that you are telling the truth;
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Tactile touch. To prove your love to a girl, try to touch the girl more often during such an important conversation, but carefully and tenderly. The girl loves it. Just don't do it vulgarly. Hug her, take her hand, look into her eyes and talk about your feelings;
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When talking about your feelings, you shouldn’t be too original. Of course, each case of recognition is original in itself - after all, we are also not the same by nature. When making declarations of love in words, try to tell in your own words why this is so. Maybe this will be a recognition that before her you simply existed and did not live. Or maybe you have become for him that ray of happiness that shines every day and makes him happy. After all, girls really like such words and will touch her to the core. At the same time, hint at all her advantages, and exaggerate them a little. Remember the truth mentioned above. The main thing is not to be afraid and speak clearly without embarrassment.
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Pay attention to gestures - they often tell the girl much more than the words you say. The gesture of open palms is ideal for love conversations. It symbolizes your honesty and sincerity. You cannot cross your arms or legs when talking - this will only push the girl away from you and seem closed to her. You can straighten your clothes - such a non-verbal sign will almost certainly attract a girl.
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Body language means a lot, so touch her when communicating. With this you will satisfy the tactile hunger inherent in any modern person. But don't overdo it—touching shouldn't be too sexual in front of others. You can hug her, take her hands, look at her eyes. To prove your love to a girl, hug her, hold hands, looking into her eyes.
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Don't overdo it with originality when speaking. Everything that is possible has already been said by someone a long time ago. However, each case is still unique. To begin with, come up with an elegant compliment about what you like most about this girl, and present it beautifully to her.
A slight exaggeration of personal qualities and advantages will also not be superfluous, especially if the girl knows about them. For example, tell us about how your whole life has changed since the meeting, what facets of your perception of things have opened up. Just in case, think about this question more specifically, the opinion about global warming may be quite suitable - girls like to feel authoritative. Let her know that without her your life is just a gray and dull existence to stroke her pride. Time spent with her is invaluable to you - this is exactly what she probably wants to hear from you.
Perhaps this article for you is a collection of platitudes and has no value. In this case, we are sincerely happy for you, and dedicate it to those who have not yet managed to step on the rake of unrequited love.
Chivalry: basic methods
To understand how to prove to a girl that you love her, learn:
- Speak
. No matter how trite it may sound, women love with their ears, so more often give the girl tenderness in words. Moreover, these can be not only some original phrases, but also time-tested ones - poems by classics and contemporaries, funny affectionate nicknames, love notes. - Enter
. Beautiful words are, of course, good, but you can only prove something by deeds. Do some beautiful deed - one that your companion least expects. Have you ever cooked breakfast for your loved one? So it's time to do it. Sometimes just washing the dishes after dinner is enough to make an impression. - Make romantic surprises
. This could be either a cute inscription on the asphalt with a declaration of your feelings, or a candlelight dinner and a picnic on the seashore. Even buying something that a girl has long dreamed of. At the same time, do not forget about everyday signs of attention that are considered small things: your favorite candies and a bouquet for no reason, an open car door and a soft toy for a personal event. - Extremes and originality
. Do you think climbing onto the balcony with a bouquet is a relic of the past? Then arrange a parachute jump - such an act will definitely make an impression. This category may include a public declaration of love, for example, on radio or television, riding a yacht, or a banner in the city center with a photo of you together.
Who is to blame and what to do about it?
Sometimes it's the guy's fault. The friend is offended, offended, thinking about breaking up or divorce. Perhaps she no longer answers calls and has disappeared from the access zone.
If a guy is guilty of cheating, neglecting, if he insulted a girl, especially in front of other people, or hit her, this is a serious guilt. Let down, break a promise - all these things affect not only self-esteem, but also security.
How to get a girl back?
Only by proving to her that she is loved.
The first thing you need to understand is whether she is really loved, or whether the guy is driven by a desire to insist on his own. Perhaps the subconscious has long since committed sabotage, manifesting itself in forgetfulness and blunt behavior towards her. Sometimes it is more honest to break up, because loving women waste years while they are held for the sake of convenience or as a backup option.
But if you really need a girl, you will have to do things.
And for the third time: you can’t get away with bouquets alone. Actions must more than compensate for guilt. The girl should see that the man has realized the mistake and is ready to correct it. She doesn’t want to spend her whole life in the mode of betrayal-bouquet or black eye-pendant. And a man would prefer to respect her. When compensating for guilt, you will have to try.
- got jealous without reason, broke your phone? You'll have to buy a more expensive model;
- interested in her friend? You will have to let your friend know how much your wife is loved;
- lost the money saved for vacation that the two of you saved? We will have to look for a way to return them without compromising other matters;
Yes, it's much more difficult than drooling while kneeling with a flower broom. And it’s even more difficult than behaving decently. A good lesson for the future, right?
Useful tips
In order for a girl to be confident in you and your feelings, try:
- do not neglect female attention
. If you show indifference in even the slightest way, it will work against you. Therefore, try to look into the girl’s eyes more often, showing how significant everything that happens is. Do not forget to demonstrate that her opinion on this or that issue is important to you, show that her advice, help and support are really important to you. - remember common dates
. The first meeting and the first kiss, and even more so, a birthday or engagement - all this is a reason to show your love in deeds, not words. - get rid of what
the girl doesn’t like about you. Perhaps you have connections with dubious companies, smoke too much, or spend the lion's share of your free time playing mindless computer games. Attempts made to sincerely change oneself for the sake of another person will not go unnoticed. - Be careful
. Sometimes an extra minute, sincerely dedicated to a girl, can be the best gift for her. To do this, you don’t need much: call during the day, worry about how you are doing, don’t forget about the requests that you promised to fulfill, and always wish you a good day and good night. - make joint plans
. Your sincere participation in building a common life instills hope in a woman’s heart, stability and confidence in a man’s shoulder nearby. But at the same time, there should be no empty promises and formulations like “we will live happily ever after.” We need specifics, i.e. short-term plans that really matter - for example, within the current month or the next couple of weeks. This could be anything: from buying groceries at the store to visiting friends. - do not remake
feminine nature and do not “tweak” it to suit yourself. Accept your chosen one for who she is. - not just love and care, but admire the girl
. In fact, this is very important for every representative of the fair sex - just to know that she is “the best.” Compliment her on the delicacies she cooks, how gorgeous she looks, how smart and charming she is when communicating. But admire and be proud of your beloved only sincerely and without flattery.
We only leave those who truly respect you
Be yourself. It is not suggested here to be lazy if you want to do nothing in life, or to become dirty if you have no desire to wash yourself. Being yourself means allowing yourself to have strengths and weaknesses. Other people may be dissatisfied with your qualities. But if you personally are satisfied with everything, then allow yourself to remain yourself, despite the indignation of others.
By and large, people begin to wear masks, deceive and smile strainedly in order to please others. If you like someone, you want to make them reciprocate. There is a fear of not being liked if you show your nature, rather than smile and pleasantly communicate about something.
To be interested, you need to evoke positive emotions. How long can you smile? How much are you enough to always please people? You may have noticed that men and women, when they meet, show only their best side. They try, try to always be on top, look after each other, etc. Time passes, the partners get tired of pretending, and then they become themselves. The true attitude that they feel towards each other comes out, as well as the state that is familiar to them. Finally, people can allow themselves to be themselves after a long time of pretending to attract and fall in love with themselves. Partners begin to wonder how much they were mistaken and did not see the true faces of their loved ones.
People pretend, that's why they don't know each other. They fall in love with deception. This is why feelings fade when the lie passes. It turns out that trying to be good in order to please someone is a temporary phenomenon. As long as you pretend, you attract. As soon as you get tired, you immediately disappoint your followers.
Be yourself and let people choose. You have shortcomings, you may be in a bad mood, have views that do not agree with others, etc. What's wrong with that? You are who you are. You allow yourself to be yourself. At the same time, allow people to decide for themselves whether they like you or not. Those who accept you will remain next to you. You don’t hold anyone, you don’t persuade anyone, you don’t run after anyone. You are simply showing your true self by allowing people to decide whether or not to continue communicating with you.
If someone leaves, let them go. If someone stays close, many opportunities open up:
- The partner himself decided to stay nearby. This is his responsibility.
- You don't have to pretend. You were loved for who you are.
- If a person is interesting, you reciprocate. You also liked those who left. But you give love and attention to those who want to stay.
- You have a chance to build a long-lasting relationship, because if you like each other for who you are, then you will no longer be disappointed by the deception that arises from wanting to show only your best side. You get to know each other with all the strengths and weaknesses. If you like, then the union becomes stronger than a relationship that would begin with deception.
Let people decide for themselves whether to be with you or not. Appreciate those who stuck around and who you like. There are a lot of people, you shouldn’t cling to everyone you meet. Let you meet new people often, but there will remain two people nearby who really respect you, rather than start being friends with everyone, not even knowing whether you can trust them or not. Let there be a couple of people who know you in the true light, rather than a dozen friends who are hiding themselves. Choose for yourself and let others be themselves.
