I continue to develop the topic of life balance at all levels. In this article we will talk about the social level.
The social level represents external activities in society, family, friendships, and so on. As I mentioned in the previous article, I rely on the knowledge of Eastern psychology, which is based on ancient Vedic knowledge and is the true source of how to become successful, happy and follow your destiny.
When operating at a social level, we first need to understand the importance of giving rather than consuming. Pay attention to how humanity behaves. Most try to consume, take, enjoy and take. However, only by giving can we be truly happy and harmonious.
But don't go to extremes. Often, when we want to give something, it implies satisfying our ego, as if I will help a person and I will feel good. No, we need to fill ourselves in order to give, and act from a place of sincerity, generosity and lack of attachment to receive something in return.
There are several important components of the social level.
1) Relationships with parents
If there is no harmonious relationship with our parents, then unfortunately our destiny is closed, we do not have support from our family, and as a result we do not achieve success.
Resentments, claims, and unclear relationships on the subtle and external planes spoil relationships. We have a very strong psycho-emotional connection with our parents, since they are our first authorities, and they also lay the foundation in our consciousness, forming most of our worldview.
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By developing relationships with our parents, we gain powerful support and the ability to function successfully in society.
Personal Development Goals
What do you want to achieve in your personal life?
Want to know more?
Would you like to be more focused?
Do you want to be happier and more grateful?
Personal development goals do just that: they make you a better person.
The best way to set these goals is to create a SWOT analysis (SWOT analysis).
SWOT analysis will help you determine
Strengths:
What skills come naturally to you? What are you good at?
You have a high chance of success when you operate in your natural being.
Strengths are internal factors that contribute to our success.
You become a better person and gain a competitive advantage when you practice and use these qualities.
Weak sides:
Where do you fail? Do you have poor time management?
Do you become lazy when you are not welcome?
It is important to remember that weaknesses do not so much prevent us from achieving our goals as they motivate us to do the necessary work, since we are all completely imperfect.
Weaknesses are internal qualities such as fear and procrastination.
Possibilities:
What do you have in front of you that you can make money on?
What resources are available to you that you haven't used yet?
Opportunities are all around us, and setting goals plays a key role in realizing them.
Opportunities are external resources that we can use, such as studying at university or obtaining funding for your business.
Threats:
What stands between you and your goal?
Threats are external factors that will make it more difficult for you to succeed.
Threats may include lack of funding, someone not wanting to see you succeed, and certain economic conditions.
Threats are not there to scare you away, but to make you more creative and help you solve problems.
2) Husband and wife
Unfortunately, due to early sexual relationships and the current degradation of society, where same-sex relationships are encouraged, frequent changes of partners, access to pornography, people have a certain opinion about relationships, and as a result, disappointment occurs. As a result, by the age of 18-20, many do not have the slightest desire to start a family, and, accordingly, the institution of family suffers. Therefore, it is necessary to understand the importance of creating a family, which is a source of fulfillment for both men and women.
The relationship between husband and wife is an important bridge towards fulfilling your destiny. Therefore, reasonable people who are not subject to social attitudes and herd reflexes take responsibility for creating a family and harmonious relationships.
3) Children and grandchildren
Again, due to the degradation of society, even if partners have reached the status of husband and wife, they have no desire to have children. Why?
Some adhere to the position of consumption, enjoying life and do not want to sacrifice their time, health and attention for the sake of their children. Such a society is simply falling into a hole...
Through children we realize ourselves as individuals. And even just thinking about the fact that you shouldn’t give birth to children, human consciousness is destroyed and fate is closed.
Studies were conducted in the UK, where they found that women under 33 who have not given birth to children are prone to schizophrenia.
Children are the continuation of the family, and our task is to contribute to this.
5) Follow the nature of men and women
Now the roles are changing somewhat, because society is going downwards without even knowing it.
The nature of a man is 80 percent in society and 20 percent in the family, and women are the opposite. A man is protection, a rear for a woman, both physically and mentally.
A man needs to take care of the peace of mind of a woman, this is his responsibility. Even if he is right, he needs to protect the woman from worrying that she was wrong. A man is a strong support for a woman in all aspects. He is the guardian of women's happiness.
A woman takes care of her husband and children and ensures comfort in the house. She is the president of your hearth and the main inspirer of a man. The nature of a woman is like a battery. Coming into this world, a woman already has incredible energy and knowledge, and her task is to maintain this, following her nature. And a man is like an accumulator, that is, he is constantly exploring something, achieving something, gaining experience and knowledge.
Even if a woman prefers to act in society, occupying high positions and positions, then she needs to leave everything outside the home, and in the family she is still the same weak, fragile woman in need of support.
In a man, the mind and mind work separately, but in a woman, they work simultaneously, so it is impossible for a man to experience emotions and turn on the mind at the same time. After realizing this, a man understands female nature and takes even greater responsibility for her, protecting her from worries.
By knowing our nature we achieve harmony in relationships.
Success is self-realization and reaching your full potential.
Success is meaning and fulfillment in life.
Success is doing what you love most, what awakens your passion, and you can do it around the clock.
Success is helping other people, that is, making them happier and the world a better place.
Success is closely related to the state of mind. Our soul arrived in this world to receive joy and pleasure, as well as to realize itself, and we (our consciousness, our body) must support it in this. When our soul realizes itself in creativity, we become happy. When we see and feel that the creation of our soul and the activities in which we engage are of great benefit to other people, we feel incredible bliss. This is the answer to the question - What is success? Success is a meaningful and fulfilling life.
Any realization of yourself, your soul and your talents is possible only with the help of other people. After all, the soul does not create for itself. The soul creates for other people, to help them and make the lives of others meaningful, fulfilling and to convey to them a small piece of its happiness. A cheerful person conveys to others a piece of his joy, a piece of happiness. An unhappy person conveys his misfortune. Beware of unfortunate people!
If you remove all people from our planet, then self-realization will become simply unrealistic. What's the point of writing books now, because no one will read them anyway. What's the point of developing new clothing designs, because no one will wear them. Is there any point in building new houses if no one will live in them?
Obviously this makes no sense.
There is a double essence of success here: the soul realizes itself and creates and helps other people become happier. The most correct definition of success, in my opinion, sounds like this:
7) Ability to maintain and build relationships with people
Everything in this world is related to relationships. When building relationships with people, you must adhere to the rule: I AM OK, AND YOU ARE OK. In this case, the person feels respect from you and opens up to you.
- First you need to try to understand a person , and only then be understood.
- It is necessary to act according to the win-win, win-win principle. Only then can you achieve success in your relationship.
- Know how to forgive. Whatever a person does to you is the plan of the Universe. Inside, forgive him and accept the situation as a lesson. Realize that God speaks to us through people.
- Constantly radiate love to every person , because people are our teachers.
- Very important! Ask yourself the question: “Can I make this person happy?” This way you receive mercy from the Almighty and are able to give happiness to people.
If you can't make a person happy, then that's good. This protects you from losing excess energy and does not hurt the feelings of another.
- Don't get too attached to the relationship. In close relationships, affection is quite natural, but it should not be blind.
- Always give the person freedom of choice. Hear him, understand him and return to the question: “Can I make him happy?”
- Sincerely praise and pay attention to the person’s merits , know how to ask for forgiveness.
- When communicating with your interlocutor, penetrate his feelings, listen with empathy, and then he will understand that you are not only listening to him, but also hearing him.
The social level is one of the most important elements of a balanced and harmonious life. And I wish you success and good luck on this path. THANK YOU!
Professional success as self-determination plus level of aspirations
Saburova
Professional success as self-determination plus level of aspirations
GBPOU KK "Tuapse Social Pedagogical College"
Author – Tamara Evgenievna Saburova , teacher of psychology and special disciplines.
Subject. Professional success is like self-determination plus the level of aspirations .
“ The most important thing is to do at least something to achieve success , and do it right now. This is the most important secret - despite all its simplicity. Everyone has amazing ideas, but rarely does anyone do anything to put them into practice, right now. Not tomorrow. Not in a week. Now"
Nolan Bushnell (American engineer-entrepreneur)
What is professional success - how to achieve it ?
Success is continuous movement forward. The essence of professional success is that not a single person can consciously say: “I have achieved the true pinnacle of my professionalism and I have nowhere else to develop and grow.” There is a famous parable about a wise man who said, “I know that I know nothing.”
is the true characteristic of a master of his craft.
Perfection has no boundaries, and a person striving for success is clearly aware of this.
A person cannot know everything, but he can know a lot. “ success ” is involuntarily implanted in us.
, we all want to become like that.
The word “
success ” is not new at all, because we often say:
success , we wish each other success . Currently, it is considered authoritative when a person is described as “
successful person . ”
Looking into S.I. Ozhegov’s explanatory dictionary, you can find an explanation: “ successful - accompanied by success , successful”
.
Success is a term that has a huge number of interpretations. The vast majority of this term has the following meanings: successful career , material wealth and high social status.
What is professional success ? Professional success is a set of positive results accumulated throughout a career, both psychologically and in terms of objective professional achievements . Professional success includes not just engaging in a profitable business, but activities that bring meaning to our lives, true pleasure and joy, self-realization and the revelation of an individual’s creative abilities.
The success of a specialist’s activities is determined by the qualities of the individual, which are designed to ensure a successful start in work and high professional performance .
Success in a person’s professional activity directly depends on how well a person knows himself . Therefore, start improving from the inside, gradually connecting information from the outside world. You will have to comprehend a lot - society does not stand still, and your goal is worth it! By climbing a step higher, you will not only get rich financially, but also gain confidence and freedom in self-realization . If professional activity brings positive emotions into your life, confidence in the future, and you can choose the direction of developing your potential - what could be better?
Success in professional activity is directly influenced by professional and personal self-determination . Not only for teachers, but also for students.
The initial choice of profession , and if it was correct, then a person has a great opportunity to fully realize himself in professional activities . The right choice allows you to bypass disappointment, have a decent income and be confident in the future by self-determination .
In Russian psychology, self-determination is understood as a conscious act of seeking a balance between awareness of subjective qualities and requirements of society or compliance with the norms and values of the surrounding reality by choosing only those types of activities that the individual perceives as his own.
Professional self-determination is an independent , conscious and voluntary construction, adjustment and implementation of professional prospects , involving the choice of profession , obtaining vocational education and improvement in this professional activity . Professional self-determination is part of human self-determination , in the broad sense of the word. It presupposes a specific activity determined by a specific subject, conditions, means of labor, as well as the specifics of interpersonal production relations and responsibility for this work.
Achieving success in a profession and professional activity is, without a doubt, one of the most effective motives at various stages of professional development . First of all, professional success is interconnected with such personal qualities as determination and self-discipline .
Therefore, at the very beginning of the path to choosing a profession , which must be done consciously, it is necessary:
• set goals that should be positive, specific and realistic;
• adequately assess your capabilities (intellectual, physical, age, financial, etc.)
;
• correlate abilities with your goals;
• undergo testing to determine whether personal qualities match the choice of profession .
It is not enough to simply set a goal for yourself - you need to be able to achieve it in various ways, which will require self-discipline , as the ability to self-restraint , constant self-development and self-improvement in working on oneself . Individuals who lack these qualities, in most cases, do not achieve success , even if they are full of enthusiasm or ambition.
"Never give up. There are always tough times, no matter what you do in life. It is important to survive this time and maintain your ultimate goal.” Nathan Chen
“Take an idea. Make it your life - think about it, dream about it, live it. Let your mind, muscles, nerves, every part of your body be filled with this one idea. This is the path to success " Swami Vivekananda
The success of your professional choice is ensured if:
• the presence of a set of necessary professionally significant qualities for professional activity (intellectual, personal, physical)
;
• the chosen field of activity is in demand on the labor market;
• work brings pleasure and satisfaction, and is not burdensome.
Once you receive your diploma, don’t stop there! Time does not stand still. Every day new information spreads, which leads to updated approaches, information, tasks, etc., so the knowledge you gain is unlikely to be enough to achieve the highest result. Feel free to attend lectures, trainings, seminars, and additional education courses offered by the organization’s management.
“Every dream is given to you along with the strength necessary to realize it. However, you may have to work for it.” Richard Bach
A. A. Derkach and N. V. Kuzmina define professionally significant qualities leading to success as manifestations of the psychological characteristics of an individual necessary for the acquisition of special knowledge, abilities and skills, as well as for achieving socially acceptable efficiency in professional work . The success of a specialist’s activities is determined by the qualities of the individual, which are designed to ensure a successful start to work and high performance indicators.
In this case, it is necessary to take into account the psychological characteristics of the individual:
A person’s ability to be active in a particular area. Through activity, a person resolves the issue of coordinating and measuring objective and subjective factors of activity; mobilizes its activity in the necessary forms.
The degree of development of the motivational sphere, which includes passion for the meaning of the profession for the benefit of other people, the desire to develop oneself as a professional and the harmonious passage of all stages of professionalization - from adaptation to mastery.
Development of “I-concept”
and its components.
Success in professional activity is not a consequence of external, but rather internal reasons. This means that achieving success is entirely in the hands of the individual himself .
Personal self-determination is considered as finding an original image of “I”
, the constant development of this image and its approval among the people around him;
as the highest type of self-determination , when a person manages to become the master of the situation and his entire life.
Trying to be yourself is the only way to succeed . (Stendhal)
Within the scope of professional , psychological characteristics are considered as criteria for success
• High communication skills are an integral condition for human interaction, part of a communicative culture, and are necessary for all people, and in a number of professions they become a professional characteristic of an individual.
• Self-discipline and self-control . They imply awareness in the nature of your behavior and allow you to prioritize your to-do list. Self-control allows you not to interfere in unpleasant situations, and self-discipline makes it possible to focus on solving the most pressing problems.
• Ability to plan and manage time. Precise sequence of actions reduces the likelihood of performing useless work.
And also take into account the cognitive abilities that are most significant for achieving professional success :
• planning is the most important cognitive indicator, which is expressed in a person’s ability to predict consequences, choose a rational path to achieve a certain goal;
• monitoring is the cognitive skills of controlling one’s behavior, thanks to which a person confirms the correctness of the chosen steps to achieve the goal;
• inhibition is the control of impulsive reactions and the ability to maintain common sense in any situation;
• decision making - determining ways to achieve a goal;
• cognitive flexibility allows an individual to quickly adapt to new conditions and adjust their behavior to them;
• working memory allows you to keep in your head the necessary set of information to solve current problems.
Practical tips for success :
Become a true fan of your profession ! Be passionate about your professional activity , perceive it not just as going to work, but as an exciting mission in which you, being a wizard, embody all your ideas and ideas. It is pointless to strive for success in something that does not arouse your interest and is a simple duty.
Enthusiasm can serve as a qualitative impetus on the path to successful activity . An adequate manager will highly appreciate a positive attitude and the manifestation of creative potential in work activity and will not leave this moment without encouragement.
Another way of development is independently enrich your knowledge and skills. Allocate some of your personal time and budget to find and attend an event that is closely related to your professional activities . The only thing, remember that you shouldn’t abuse this either.
Pay attention to related professions , mastering which you will replenish not only your knowledge, but also, possibly, your wallet. For example, you can learn a foreign language in various ways: attending courses, private lessons with a tutor, online classes or distance learning.
“One of the best ways to learn something is to study the experiences of people who have achieved some success in their chosen activity.”
Winston Churchill
The easiest way to enrich your knowledge is to read books. Bookshelves in stores are periodically replenished with new high-quality publications related specifically to your profession . To find the literature you need, you don’t have to go to a bookstore; you just need to open a browser on your computer or smartphone, and then order the book you need for home delivery or buy it from an online library.
“Only willpower is the condition for our success in our chosen field” N. Dobrolyubov
Efficiency of success is one of the most important characteristics of activity in any industry and especially in education.
Modern research focuses our attention on the following psychological prerequisites for achieving success :
• think in terms of success - restart your “thought processor”
and set yourself up exclusively for
success ;
• be self-confident - believe in your own “I”
, accept and defend your own opinions and desires;
• the ability to activate strong achievement motivation - “program”
take action that will lead to
success ;
• know exactly what you want to achieve;
• the ability to arm yourself with a clear plan of action and have a positive attitude towards the upcoming task; (draw up an action plan for the day of the week - sum up what happened, what was useful that day, etc.)
• turn every obstacle into a springboard to get closer to your goal;
• notice and rejoice at even the slightest successful steps and achievements ;
• have a high level of aspirations –
This is the only way to achieve professionalism and professional success .
the success factors :
What are the success ? These are criteria for organizing effective activities, which in the future will ensure positive dynamics and success .
factors of professional activity include the following:
• Motivation is one of the most significant factors ensuring success in professional activity . A highly motivated employee does his job better, better and more efficiently. As the level of employee interest drops, there is a decrease in labor efficiency.
• Stress tolerance allows a person to withstand a stressful situation without experiencing negative consequences. Stressful situations can be associated both with the performance of work activities and with the conditions in which it takes place, therefore a modern specialist must be able to make responsible decisions when there is a lack of information and time.
• Professional excellence implies the highest level of professional development of the individual , which allows you to fully implement professional functions and solve professional problems .
Professional skills cannot be purchased together with a document/certificate confirming education. This is a path of continuous development and personal improvement that has no end point.
Key indicators of professional excellence :
• strong professional knowledge ;
• a complex of developed professional skills ;
• system of values and beliefs of professional activity ;
• presence of professionally important qualities (they differ in different fields of activity, but there are common ones)
: responsibility, punctuality, friendliness, tolerance, decency, etc., which the employee constantly improves in the process of
professional development ;
• optimal style of communication or team management;
• creative orientation of the specialist.
as criteria for the success of an already established professional activity:
• the person’s compliance with the requirements of this profession , whether the employee makes a tangible contribution to social practice;
• compliance of the profession with the requirements of the individual: his motives, inclinations, satisfaction with the field of activity;
• a person’s use of socially acceptable methods, techniques and technologies to achieve high-quality results in work;
• the desire of the individual to individualize his work, to self-realize his personal needs in it;
• competent knowledge in the profession ;
• achievement by a person of a high level of professionalism ;
• availability of growth prospects professional
• readiness to accept other people's experiences and demonstrate one's own professional openness ;
• a person’s desire to enrich the profession with his personal creative contribution;
• the ability to interest society in the results of their work;
• a person’s ability to respect the honor and dignity of the profession , to see in it a unique contribution to society.
• Successful people believe that you need to rely only on yourself, you need to believe in yourself in spite of everyone and everything, don’t look at anyone! Create your own destiny!
• Seven enemies of success :
1. The habit of not finishing things.
2. The mistaken belief that life should be easy.
3. The erroneous belief that success is predetermined from above .
4. The habit of thinking negatively.
5. Fear of obstacles that others have.
6. Panic fear of failure.
7. Shortsightedness.
"Do not give up. There are too many naysayers out there who will try to stop you. Do not listen to them. The only one who can make you give up is yourself." Sydney Sheldon
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